Dating: Rejection and big egos
Have you ever been out somewhere, minding your own business, and you get approached – when you really don’t want to be? Things can get kind of awkward but it only gets worse when someone’s massive ego gets bruised and they can’t handle it.
In the last few days, I have heard disturbing stories of people completely losing their cool when they get turned down. It’s like they go from sweet talk to rage speak in sixty seconds! Whatever happened to bowing out gracefully or going away quietly?
Of course, letting someone down should be done in a gentle manner, but why do you think some people don’t just move on? What do you do if things escalate?
What is the best way to say you are not interested in someone?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea
September 11th, 2012
12:36 pm
disco – Now you KNOW that’s gonna be too much work. I can muster up the energy probably to do the steak and potatoes but squash and turnips? Nuh uh. Shole was good though… I think that was probably my first time eating squash an adult. I’ve been swearing it off since I was a kid and the only other time I tasted. I must say it was pretty good.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 11th, 2012
12:36 pm
Tuesdays are my long days and a long night awaits~ but this month is moving at a faster pace~
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
12:37 pm
Lady – lol…I can only do a small slice of that. That a bit too much sweet for me. I like sweets but anything with a “rich” taste, I can only do so much of. Even to Piece of Cake. I can do a slice but imma have to pull back if it’s too much.
Comon Cents
September 11th, 2012
12:37 pm
S/H~ If you flew Delta, they were made by the Christie Cookie Company. (They also make the Doubletree cookie) Some of the best cookies around. I made italian pie this weekend on Saturday and then I made hot wings and fries on Sunday with a side of ground beef/salsa queso and chips. (Game time food) LOL!
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 11th, 2012
12:38 pm
C sunday was a home tailgate bbq and we enjoyed the festivities….I am not a ribs lover but the ribs sunday were great! can’t lie the glory greens were good too lol
Bluzgirl
September 11th, 2012
12:38 pm
Why am I now craving Waffle House steak and eggs?
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
12:40 pm
Lady – I hollered at Glory Greens. I used to do those some years ago. I would rinse the water off in the can and put fresh water and let them bad boys simmer over smoked turkey necks….lol If I do greens, I’m going fresh. Nothing wrong with Glory Greens though…lololol
Ribs? I’m not even saying nothing. Grilled to perfection? Oh I can eat for days.
Willie Dynamite
September 11th, 2012
12:40 pm
Lady – Sup, waving back. How was your weekend.
disco
September 11th, 2012
12:41 pm
re homecooked meals. anyone know anyone that can’t cook and you wonder about their poor children? lol. I have a friend who is always inviting me to dinner. she always cooks spaghetti. I like spaghetti but she makes the driest, plainest spaghetti I’ve ever had. another time I was hanging out at her house and she was making French fries. I hadn’t had a peel/cut the potato fry in a minute and said I’d have some. some were done and some were hot, raw potatoes. go figure. just this past weekend I sat there and watched her serve her son some runny eggs. don’t know if she meant to cook them that way or not. lol.
C – don’t hate on squash. I went to aldi the other day and bought some squash and zucchini so will be cooking it one day this week. I made barbecued chicken, rice, fried corn, sweet potatoes and tomato/cucumber salad. I was getting my grub on and still working on leftovers.
Leggs
September 11th, 2012
12:42 pm
I’m eating a turkey rueben someone in the cafe ordered. I was like hmmmm, that might be good. I am devouring this sandwich.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 11th, 2012
12:43 pm
it was good WD!!!!! thx for asking!
C folks still pop that can lol the ribs were GREAT! yum!
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
12:44 pm
disco – Plainly, she can’t cook. You can throw down on spaghetti if you know how to do right. I prefer fries fries from a potato cut and dropped in the oil. I’m digging squash now. Shoot, I hate I waited this long to revisit…lol
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 11th, 2012
12:45 pm
C glad you like my dry humor! chuckle okay back to my work for a moment! lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 11th, 2012
12:45 pm
thanks Comon, doesn’t look like they just sell them by themselves, have to buy and assorted tin
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
12:45 pm
Lady – I forgot all about them. Don’t have me looking for Glory Greens in Publix Saturday…lol
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
12:46 pm
Lasagna is something I’ve never done or attempted to do.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 11th, 2012
12:46 pm
Disco, you don’t know your momma can’t cook until you eat someone else’s cooking (LOL)
disco
September 11th, 2012
12:49 pm
S/H – that’s sho nuff the truth. lol. that’s why I said poor kids. that’s also why I don’t get hyped up when folks say “home made” or “like grandma used to make”. that depends a lot on whose homemade and whose grandma.
i’ve heard about and seen glory greens but have never tried them.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 11th, 2012
12:54 pm
a hit dog will holler~
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 11th, 2012
12:54 pm
Disco, when I first saw fries, and mashed potatoes with the skin still on them and they were saying like grandma used to make, I was thinking who’s grandma, my grandma would have said you were to lazy to peel the potatoes (LOL)
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
12:55 pm
Single and Happy – Can your mama cook?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 11th, 2012
12:57 pm
Yes she can, I’m not the hit dog (LOL)
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
12:59 pm
Single and Happy – I wasn’t saying that. I just never thought of that (not knowing what’s bad until you’ve had good), in the arena of cooking until you said it. lol
Leggs
September 11th, 2012
1:04 pm
Celisea ~ I attempted lasagna once for my ex. It was laborious work, but it turned out delicious. Haven’t made it since then.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 11th, 2012
1:04 pm
I was just adding to the everyone thinks there mom/grandma can cook, until they’ve had someone else’s food. My could cook, but my dad was the best cook in the house (LOL)
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
1:06 pm
Leggs – My gf makes lasagna a lot but she claims buying the ingredients is expensive. Hers is so so though. Don’t tell her I said that…lol
Single and Happy – I got it. Just didn’t think about it…in cooking
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
1:07 pm
My mom cooked on the side for a Jewish doctor for years. She stopped teaching and went back to school. During that time she cooked and helped raise his son (he was divorced). Man o man o man…can my mama cook.
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
1:08 pm
He liked his food near perfection…
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 11th, 2012
1:10 pm
lol S&H~
Comon Cents
September 11th, 2012
1:14 pm
doesn’t look like they just sell them by themselves, have to buy and assorted tin
Find the Doubletree cookie tin. I think thoes are the same one’s they have on Delta. (White choclate, macadamia nuts and ghiradelli choclate chips) Yummy…
S/H~ Lol at the don’t know til you eat someone else’s! Ain’t that the trut! Even worse to go to someone’s house and your momma CAN cook and their momma can’t and then they think you are finicky because you don’t like their food.
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
1:22 pm
Or finiky cause they ain’t clean, their house ain’t clean, they didn’t wash their hands, they have animals walking around, so forth and so on. A REAALLY bad habit I have? I watch EVERYTHING you do when it comes to me eating out of your hands.
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
1:23 pm
My neighbor’s house is nearly spotless, but I saw her run water over her hands sans soap. Haven’t had a thing from her since….unless she’s sending over something “packaged.”
Comon Cents
September 11th, 2012
1:31 pm
C~
Ain’t that the truth! I remember being HS and my parents got new neighbors across the street. They invited us over for dinner & drinks and when we got there they had 5 (yep,5!) Himalayan cats. The cats were all over the counters, she was petting them while cooking, etc. My mom was like “I’m so sorry! We didn’t realize it was a dinner invite and we already ate!” LMAO! We never ate anything that came from their house either (unless it was pre-packaged) 
You took me back with that!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 11th, 2012
1:40 pm
No Cely can’t get enough of the little green man.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 11th, 2012
1:45 pm
I hate when folks try to make me eat their food, I’m finicky about what I eat. I go to a friends house and his momma wants me to join them with supper I decline and they still put a plate in my face and most of the stuff I don’t even like.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 11th, 2012
1:52 pm
its southern hospitality to eat something at folks house…..lol this past weekend I ate the cake anna mae happily lol it was good though but I am sure if I would have rejected it it would have been hmmmp who does she think she is too good for our food…lol serving food is an ice breaker
i do feel its a cultural thing too~
Comon Cents
September 11th, 2012
1:56 pm
Lady~ While I agree wholeheartedly, 5 big azz hairy cats?!? And you let them walk on the counter?
Where dey do that at? I wasn’t eating NOTHING out of that house. Do they not realize that the cat has been walking in the litter box?!? If you want southern hospitality, you have to show southern hospitality. It is southern hospitality to keep pets outside the kitchen and to wash your hands before touching food (or anything else in the kitchen)… IJS
Leggs
September 11th, 2012
1:58 pm
Comon ~ I have a cat and I’ll be damned if I’ll allow it on my kitchen counters (esp. while cooking). UUGGH!! I have no idea where he jumps when I’m not around, but he knows better when I am around. I trained that cat like I trained my ex and my child.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 11th, 2012
2:01 pm
I agree to that Lady @1:52, but I don’t eat bell peppers, okra, pickles, jalapeno’s and people like to cook with them. I tell them that and they still slide a plate in my face, I can’t eat it what do I do?
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
2:02 pm
Blackfoote – Make them wrap your plate to go or put in a styrofoam container….lol
Bluzgirl
September 11th, 2012
2:03 pm
Ugh…I’m so not in the mood to be in the office today. Too much to do at home!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 11th, 2012
2:03 pm
Leggs that’s funny you trained your ex.
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
2:04 pm
Why do people lie? I mean seriously why? Or why do people go out of their way to lie? Won’t it take more energy to lie than to say nothing? And lying is not limited to words coming out of your mouth but actions as well.
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
2:05 pm
Or isn’t it easier to tell the truth?
Leggs
September 11th, 2012
2:08 pm
It’s too much like right, Celisea. Lying is more fun to a lot of people. Ask my sister, she has her Doctorate in lying!
disco
September 11th, 2012
2:08 pm
celisea – re you talking about folks and cleanliness. I have a friend who cleans houses on the side and her house is always a mess. always. I’ve never seen it not needed to be cleaned up. after my last visit I was wondering if housekeepers just didn’t want to keep their own house after keeping someone else’s. I don’t know. (btw, this is the friend whose 5 year old just blurted out that they had roaches. it was all I could do to hold my laugh in).
CC – re cats. I was visiting another friend and she sat her kids at the table to eat. meanwhile the cat was prancing it’s little behind back and forth across the table. the whole pet thing is a big part of why I don’t do office potlucks.
Comon Cents
September 11th, 2012
2:08 pm
C~ That’s a good answer on the styrofoam plate… I may have to use that soon.
Off Topic~ Y’all just made my mom LOL too. She called me and I told her about the conversation we’re having and reminded her of the people across the street. She said they got divorced. My immediate response was “Maybe they couldn’t agree about where the cats were allowed?”
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 11th, 2012
2:08 pm
Cely I did that before I went to a Japanese couples dinner and they served sushi and other native foods. Then they brought octopus legs and I almost regurgitated in my plate. I can hear them now try it good for you, uhn uhn not doing it.
Celisea
September 11th, 2012
2:14 pm
Leggs – I’m just sitting here pondering a few things and I feel really really sorry for people that live their lives lying or just seem to be delusional about stuff. I mean isn’t it just easier to speak your peace? Hiding, scheming, lying, unnecessary actions. Suxs to be them I guess…lol Po thangs
CC – When in doubt, carry out…lol
Blackfoote – Please my man, do NOT toss the cookies over the food…lol I feel you though. I can get to gagging reeeeal quick and real easily.
I’m still hung up on folks that are habitual, pathological liars. Well, not really. Just wonder what makes them tick….that’s all. No biggie. I don’t want to look too far into, might rub off on me…lololol
disco – That’s just plain nasty. And having bugs? You can sign a contract with Sears or Orkin. If you can’t do that, you can go to the hardware store
Leggs
September 11th, 2012
2:14 pm
I thank you much for spelling it with one “g” BF!