Dating: It’s complicated Live! Atlanta
I had the honor of hosting a really fun event this weekend at the Woodruff Arts Center’s Rich Theater. Yours truly was hostess for the It’s Complicated Live! Tour with matchmaker and TV host, Paul Brunson. Paul has guest blogged on Misadventures in Atlanta and it was great to finally meet him in person.
It was such a fun night! First off, there were a lot of sexy people there, including me (at least I felt sexy!). It was wonderful to see people networking without the pressure of meeting a date. Paul even challenged us with the task of exchanging contact information with at least 3 people before we left. Not necessarily of the opposite sex, either. I accomplished that task…all three were men.
Paul Brunson’s presentation was engaging, informative, entertaining, and I even managed to crack a few laughs with the audience! In a separate part of the evening, I went up for a “demo” on how I approached men. I sort of failed miserably at impressing my target but I was happy to see where I go wrong! (You will be shocked to learn, I overtalked)
One of the things that I took away from the evening (there was loads of good information!) was the importance of attraction. I think we all want to have someone that is attractive. However, when it comes to choosing your MATE, your attraction TO them should be FIRE. Like, without that? It’s probably not going to work.
That point really made me think. Do you agree? Some folks believe that attraction can build over time. I suppose you can argue it from both sides, but I wonder – which notion do you subscribe to? Attraction on fire or build up with a slow burn?
Paul Brunson will release his book soon (October 11!) but for now you can catch him co-hosting every Monday night on LoveTown USA airing on the Oprah Winfrey Network (10:00 pm ET) The show was filmed in Kingsland, GA and the entire town made “love” a top priority for 30 days.
Happy Monday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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361 comments Add your comment
Bluzgirl
September 10th, 2012
4:12 pm
I did MD 20/20 one time and that was all it took. NEVER AGAIN!!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 10th, 2012
4:13 pm
One of the guys was saying how money made Fantasia look good, I was like, fine as she is I would hit that if she was broke (LOL)
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:13 pm
LOL@Swiss and the “Yankee”…… ’nuff said.
Not all yankees, of course….blog love you, Leggs!!!
@PG: Mad Dog???? Man, please! That is turn the couch upside down, pull out the floormats drinking right there!!! Shoot, even the Beast or Natty Light is a step up from that.
SlimUno
September 10th, 2012
4:15 pm
Wow, I see I missed all the fisting convo…I’m amazed by the thought of how in the world do you work you butt up to be able to take a whole arm
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:16 pm
@Jake: Zima. Zima. ZIMA! ZIMA! ZIMA!
i'm swiss
September 10th, 2012
4:16 pm
On topic: Some folks make it a lot more complicated than it has to be:
http://blogs.ajc.com/news-to-me/2012/08/23/florida-orgy-ends-in-violence-arrests/
See now, this is what happens when you don’t do a thorough pre-orgy discussion of the ground-rules… ;lol:
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 10th, 2012
4:17 pm
Quit hating on 20/20, its your starter kit to the “lush Life”, when you you are just getting started a 5th of MD all you need to pass wit a buddy.
i'm swiss
September 10th, 2012
4:18 pm
‘I’m amazed by the thought of how in the world do you work you butt up to be able to take a whole arm”
Slim — Oh, snap! He fisted her in the butt, too?
Poppa Grande
September 10th, 2012
4:19 pm
I did absolutely nothing this weekend but sit around and scratch… TMI, I guess
Watched football, napped, and hung out with my buddy, Mr Stripe, aka Red Stripe. When I got in Friday night, I didn’t leave the crib until this morning.
I was a bedside baptist yesterday watching a service on TV.
The wife attended a wedding for one of her line sisters. The invite did not include a +1, so I did not have to go.
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:20 pm
its your starter kit
……right! Or the “I’m so broke, I found $2.20 in the couch cushions and the bottom of the hamper. If I eat Ramen noodles for breakfast next week, I can afford some Mad Dog!”
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 10th, 2012
4:22 pm
ITL- stop it, the Agony…..I can’t believe I drunk so much of the stuff, but when you are underaging it in the 1st place, you don’t care.
Poppa Grande
September 10th, 2012
4:26 pm
When you are underaging, Boone’s Farm is the isht
Leggs
September 10th, 2012
4:26 pm
I drank Mad Dog 20/20. Nasty, nasty, nasty. Never did Thunderbird, tho.
Comon Cents
September 10th, 2012
4:27 pm
Off Topic (sort of) My anus clinched reactionally when I heard “she took a whole fist up the butt”.
Rot gut drinks? I thinkk Steel Reserve might be some of the nastiest isht I’ve ever had.
BTW, Hey, ITL. Did you like our Daws this weekend?
Leggs
September 10th, 2012
4:28 pm
Catch you in the morning.
Ok, who has the Boone’s Farm. Right up there nasty with Ripple
PEACE!
Bluzgirl
September 10th, 2012
4:28 pm
When I had the 20/20, I was just 17. My brother and his friend came over to pick me and my friend up to take us to get something to eat. When they got there, I was laying halfway in and halfway out the front door. Next thing I know, I remember my friend and I doing somersaults and cartwheels in the living room. Needless to say…my brother wasn’t taking us out in public. Then…I got sick!
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 10th, 2012
4:28 pm
PG, it wasn’t TMI, not that I really was waiting to hear such, but I laughed because occassionally, the Mrs. will comment on it, I just turn and say, “Its Nutt Scratching Time, you may not see me, but this has to be done daily”….lol
SlimUno
September 10th, 2012
4:29 pm
swiss – I never saw the tape but I thought that’s what the term ‘fisting’ meant…booty wise not puddy wise. But I could be wrong because fisting either part is unchartered territory for me.
Comon Cents
September 10th, 2012
4:30 pm
When you are underaging, Boone’s Farm is the isht
Boone’s Farm was never the isht. It was just all we could get. If it was the isht, it would be like Now & Laters and you would go back and have it every once and a while as an adult. Things you never overhear: “Hey, I just had some Boone’s Farm the other night!”
Poppa Grande
September 10th, 2012
4:30 pm
Jake -
Poppa Grande
September 10th, 2012
4:32 pm
Well, compared to MD is it the stuff.
When you know better….
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:35 pm
@PG: I’ve downed a Strawberry Hill or Country Quencher in my day. (How do I remember that?!?!)
@Comon: I don’t know any daws, but I certainly enjoyed watching the DAWGS welcome Mizzou to the SEC.
Sorry, couldn’t resist, especially after your admission that you are also a Jackets fan. WTH?? Where dey do dat at? 
C’mon, Jake….tell the rest of the story….
i'm swiss
September 10th, 2012
4:35 pm
Slim — I mean I know we always joke about your CT and all, but I’m pretty sure if you had a whole forearm up in there, you’d agree that the puddy should count, too.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 10th, 2012
4:37 pm
PG..IJS, that’s some good ole man shid there, they will never understand.
Hey Comon, you say it “clinched reactionally” huh, I don’t know where to wink now….lol
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:37 pm
@Bluz: Mine was R and R. Nasty, vile stuff…. but the cutest boy with the hottest Camaro brought it with him to the party, and ITL wanted to look cool, soooooo…… (fast forward several hours to the party hostess’s mom calling my parents to come get me…..oh the shame….:oops:)
disco
September 10th, 2012
4:39 pm
hey y’all. call me slow but i’m only on page 3.
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:40 pm
Hey
discoSlow!Poppa Grande
September 10th, 2012
4:42 pm
Jake-
I just tell the Mrs. that it is like when they get an itch on their scalp and the keep banging the mess out of this head with their own hand to make it stop. I don’t think that technique works because I’ve seen females beat the crap out of their own heads because the scalp itches and they don’t want to mess up their hair.
I can’t bang my hand down there and still be conscious, so i scratch.
i'm swiss
September 10th, 2012
4:42 pm
On the fisting topic…
Um, yeah, so there was this one chick back in my man-ho days — one of those last call, ah, what the hell kind of chicks. We started messing around and I reached down below to give a little finger check and see how the juices were flowing and my whole hand slipped in like it was nothing.
I realized at that point there probably wasn’t a whole lot I was gonna be able to do for her… 
Bluzgirl
September 10th, 2012
4:46 pm
Thanks for that visual swiss. Ewww!!!
I’m out ya’ll. Have a good evening!
SlimUno
September 10th, 2012
4:46 pm
swiss – And that’s exactly why I was obviously confused but good point though.
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:47 pm
SlimUno
September 10th, 2012
4:48 pm
swiss OMG HOLLERS!!!!!!!!!!
Comon Cents
September 10th, 2012
4:48 pm
Comon: I don’t know any daws, but I certainly enjoyed watching the DAWGS welcome Mizzou to the SEC. Sorry, couldn’t resist, especially after your admission that you are also a Jackets fan. WTH?? Where dey do dat at?
See earlier comment about my crappy keyboard that needs replacing.
I am a Jackets fan and they SWARMED Presbyterian this weekend.
Where dey do dat at? Right here in Jawja, baby. And please nte that is Jawja with a J…
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:50 pm
(Swiss next to Canyon Girl, looking confused)
Swiss: Whoa…oh…oh….oh…oh
CG: Is there a problem??
Swiss: No..o..o…o….I just remembered something I need to do..oooo….oooo…oooo BTW, have you seen my keys? Or my car?!?!?!??
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 10th, 2012
4:52 pm
Its late so here is the abbreviated story…there is a lot in between, but we do not have time!!
FREAKNIC…..I’m out with my older brother and crew, I am like 14-15, its like 4 cars, 10-12 cats, coolers full to the brim in each car, mostly beer, but I am in the car with the “ZIMA Cooler”, we are Freaknicking fo sho…Getting super wasted, I decide to keep drinking “ZIma”, I always looked mature, so clubbing was easy. We go to Club X’S Moreland plaza….so we get in, I always went first since I am underage, I’m in, go straight to the dance floor and shake it up, go to bathroom like 5 minutes later, Call my friend Earl, and Security walks in at that moment, and begins to escort me out…I am saying, dude let me find somebody, (or at least that’s what I tried to say)….when they opened that door, I was scared to cross the street, looked like 285 to a drunk azz like me, finally did, made it to the cars, nobody knows I got kicked out…I slept in the parking lot, leaning on the back tire of my patnah Corsica for about 4hours…out fugging cold,During Freaknic…and nobody fugged wit me….UNBELIEVABLE!!
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:52 pm
@Comon: If you say so. (ITL now mumbling things about bandwagons and fair-weather fans under her breath)
Poppa Grande
September 10th, 2012
4:53 pm
I would be able to tolerate the North Avenue Trade School if they weren’t coached by ol’ fish fry johnson.
He shouldn’t restrict kids from taking all of their visits. This is serious decision. Things change also. It is why he tends to go for kids that don’t have many options.
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:54 pm
@Jake: That you know of.
i'm swiss
September 10th, 2012
4:55 pm
ITL — Yeah, I was pretty taken aback, I have to say. You know those haunted houses when you were a kid where they put you in a pitch black room and put your hand in some warm, gooey, wet substance to freak you out. That, plus pubes is pretty much what it was…
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 10th, 2012
4:55 pm
maybe 16
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:55 pm
@PG: Why did I hear, “Ol’ Fish Fry Johnson….wrote a song bout him. Like to hear it, here it goes…..” in my head when I read your post????
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
4:56 pm
Aaaaaaaannnnnnd scene. I got nothing, Swiss. Just
Comon Cents
September 10th, 2012
4:58 pm
Comon: If you say so. (ITL now mumbling things about bandwagons and fair-weather fans under her breath)
It’s not fair weather/bandwagon if you root for them both whether they are winning or losing… IJS.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 10th, 2012
4:59 pm
ITL….yeah, you right, I have the slightest clue, but back then, there was none of that “shim and shim going on” so I am confident none of that occurred, my pockets were in tact, so I assume I was protected from high above…never toched another ZIMA.
Comon Cents
September 10th, 2012
5:00 pm
swiss~ I am wit slim. I think I just threw up in my mouth a little. Worst thing I have ever seen? A chick with beef curtains. Not that I am a connisseur (like swiss and the fellas) but I thought puddy was supposed to be pretty. This one was not pretty. Looked like ground beef. Blech!
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
5:00 pm
Hey….more power to you, Comon. I can’t do it. I’m Bulldog born and Bulldog bred…..and when I die, I’ll be Bulldog dead.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 10th, 2012
5:02 pm
Aight Folks, have a good one!!
i'm swiss
September 10th, 2012
5:02 pm
I’m still trying to top Me.lo for most vivid/repulsive blog metaphor. That “hot and stinking mangrove swamp” is tough to top…
Into the Light
September 10th, 2012
5:04 pm
@Jake: Man, you are lucky.
But really, though, (I’m guessing this was ~20 years ago) it was a different world back then, too. We might have gotten into some mischief, but not anything that would scar somebody for life.