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Dating: It’s complicated Live! Atlanta

I had the honor of hosting a really fun event this weekend at the Woodruff Arts Center’s Rich Theater. Yours truly was hostess for the It’s Complicated Live! Tour with matchmaker and TV host, Paul Brunson. Paul has guest blogged on Misadventures in Atlanta and it was great to finally meet him in person.

It was such a fun night! First off, there were a lot of sexy people there, including me (at least I felt sexy!). It was wonderful to see people networking without the pressure of meeting a date. Paul even challenged us with the task of exchanging contact information with at least 3 people before we left. Not necessarily of the opposite sex, either. I accomplished that task…all three were men.

Paul Brunson’s presentation was engaging, informative, entertaining, and I even managed to crack a few laughs with the audience! In a separate part of the evening, I went up for a “demo” on how I approached men. I sort of failed miserably at impressing my target but I was happy to see where I go wrong! (You will be shocked to learn, I overtalked)

One of the things that I took away from the evening (there was loads of good information!) was the importance of attraction. I think we all want to have someone that is attractive. However, when it comes to choosing your MATE, your attraction TO them should be FIRE. Like, without that? It’s probably not going to work.

That point really made me think. Do you agree? Some folks believe that attraction can build over time. I suppose you can argue it from both sides, but I wonder – which notion do you subscribe to? Attraction on fire or build up with a slow burn?


Paul Brunson will release his book soon (October 11!) but for now you can catch him co-hosting every Monday night on LoveTown USA airing on the Oprah Winfrey Network (10:00 pm ET) The show was filmed in Kingsland, GA and the entire town made “love” a top priority for 30 days.

Happy Monday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

361 comments Add your comment

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
1:43 pm

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 10th, 2012
1:43 pm

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 10th, 2012
1:43 pm

ITL, I jinxed you (LOL) yea I know stay home and rest was some really bad advice (LOL)

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
1:44 pm

kimmie

September 10th, 2012
1:44 pm

Slim – How did he get your number?

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 10th, 2012
1:45 pm

C, she essentially said kick rock to him today. (LOL)

Slim, now I know you’ve heard of pocket dial (rotflmao)

Leggs

September 10th, 2012
1:45 pm

SlimUno ~ went to a pizza joint W’Ptree Street (really excellent pizza…you would love it), then out for some drinks at The W. Saturday was invited to an elegant celebration of a friend’s 25th year living in Georgia. The tables was beautifully decorated and the food spectacular. She hosted her soiree at a historical home in Smyrna…hats off to all she did!!! On Sunday, I fellowshipped with some friends celebrating life, love and appreciation. This is small, but I think I had the best lemonade I had in a very long time. Then my neighbor’s fridge went out so I cooked dinner for her and her son. She was going to Pizza Hut at 6:30 that evening. I told I would thaw out some wings and fry them up with some sides for her and her son. She’s struggling now that she left her bf of 11 years.

After all that I had to sleep “prett” so I wouldn’t mess up my hairstyle (lol).

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 10th, 2012
1:46 pm

Leggs

September 10th, 2012
1:47 pm

8. He’s going to “accidentally” call you This dude is too old for that mess lolol

Please trust me, they’re never too old for that mess!

Robert

September 10th, 2012
1:48 pm

@SlimUno – Text….Text…Real Men don’t text. Since our elected State of GA GOP/tea party representitives will all be out of office in Nov.2012 I am writing my GA Dem. Congressmen/women and asking for their help in amending current State of GA law regarding Textings for Men. I am asking the GA legislative branch to inact a law that will make it a crime for Real Men found “texting”. Hopefully this will be outlawed for all men in all 50 states because of the following reasons;

1. The 10 commandments

2. The Constitution

3. The Bill of Rights

4. ADHD – Nosey Women Constantly “texting”

Into the Light

September 10th, 2012
1:48 pm

@Stamps: Darn right. :) :lol: :lol: I was going with the “ignore it until you feel better” method.

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
1:48 pm

Legg – I figured it was a “do” thing when you said you didn’t have to do your hair…lol

Single and Happy – Thanks, I guess

SlimUno

September 10th, 2012
1:49 pm

kimmie – He had it from back when I got my stepdad to sing at the bar since they usually do live music on the weekends. My parents live in AL so my mom needed me to go pick up the check from him so she gave him my number for that instance to setup a meeting time. He said he’s had my number from way back when and that was probably over a year ago. I ended up going there for my birthday in June and he happened to be there. He came to speak and got me a bday drink…nothing more nothing less. I figured he was just being nice since there was a business relationship there…But apparently that re-ignited his stalker attraction to me.

Leggs

September 10th, 2012
1:49 pm

sleep “pretty” is what I meant.

SlimUno ~ they would say accidentally because with these new fangled cellphones, it’s easy to hang up a call only to mistakenly hit the call bottom (especially while reading texts).

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
1:50 pm

I am asking the GA legislative branch to inact a law that will make it a crime for Real Men found “texting”.

I am caracking up…stooooop

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
1:51 pm

Ut oh Robert…is all Imma say…lol

Into the Light

September 10th, 2012
1:52 pm

@Leggs: Sooooo, what’s the name of this pizza joint?

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
1:53 pm

@SlimUno – Text….Text…Real Men don’t text

Too, Robert…buddy ain’t a real man. He’s a pig.

kimmie

September 10th, 2012
1:54 pm

Slim – Gotcha. Now imagine in reverse, if a woman kept a dude’s number that she got thru business and started calling him? He would be calling her crazy!!

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 10th, 2012
1:54 pm

oh my Robert~ Interesting piece~ ;)

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
1:55 pm

Lady – I figured Robert will get a pass on his post since we’re talking about a scrub (and he referred to him), tryna holla that’s got a wife and she’s got a boo and he’s trying to make a third couple.

Leggs

September 10th, 2012
1:55 pm

I will have to be an advocate against the enactment of that law, Robert. Too many men are already in jail for misdemeanors, we don’t need the rest of the population because whether you’d like to admit it or not, real men do text. Unfortunately, real, lazy men are the ones abusing the right to text.

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
1:56 pm

Now imagine in reverse, if a woman kept a dude’s number that she got thru business and started calling him? He would be calling her crazy!!

For lesser things men call women crazy….lolololol

SlimUno

September 10th, 2012
1:57 pm

SH – I call that booty dialing lol

Leggs – I did that back in high school…But back then I’d call a person who I really want to talk to, but ask for someone else when they answered acting dumb founded that I dialed them by mistake. Next thing you know we start a convo lol

Into the Light

September 10th, 2012
1:58 pm

LOL@Slim. I “may” have used that one before. :oops:

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
1:59 pm

BBL folks… :mrgreen:

kimmie

September 10th, 2012
2:00 pm

Slick move Slim!LOL!!!

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 10th, 2012
2:01 pm

peace out~ yeah C~ his pass is approved! LOL ready y’all tomorrow!

Leggs

September 10th, 2012
2:02 pm

DaVinci off W P’tree. 1270 W. P’tree. I little shop with excellent pizza.

SlimUno

September 10th, 2012
2:02 pm

Leggs – Dang that was an eventful weekend…I see the neighbors are still swinging by for that Sunday Grub lol But that’s cool because it’s good to give than to receive all the time.

For lesser things men call women crazy

Cel – You ain’t neva lied. The beau told me that i’m crazy but when I asked why he says that, he says he doesn’t know. He said it’s just a feeling and many of yall (us) are crazy regardless :roll:

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 10th, 2012
2:04 pm

READ that is! wow okay bye!

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
2:04 pm

Lady – YUP

Slim – Girl, I think calling women crazy par for the course now and an addenda to some MLB existing law…lololol

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
2:05 pm

Lady – Bye

Robert

September 10th, 2012
2:06 pm

@Leggs – You forgot #11 – He knocks on your front door wearing his “birthday suit” (butt naked) lol. That’s what I would do if you ignored me.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 10th, 2012
2:08 pm

Real men don’t text wow! (LOL)

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 10th, 2012
2:09 pm

So Slim booty dialing and booty calls aren’t the same thing (LOL)

Leggs

September 10th, 2012
2:09 pm

SlimUno ~ she said she would take me out to dinner when she gets paid as a “thank you.”

Robert ~ naw, man, no #11. Perhaps a 10(a) – have cops on alert. :wink:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 10th, 2012
2:10 pm

C he’d have to get a good look at her before he called her crazy (LOL)

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
2:11 pm

Single and Happy – I’ll bite…and why is that?

kimmie

September 10th, 2012
2:12 pm

Okay, which act is MORE CRAZY in ya’lls book:

#1 – Okay, I admitted on here to phone stalking a guy I dated back in the day. This dude would get ghost on me all the time and I was not used to that. The first time he did it, I was hunting him down and called him seven times in one day and left messages. He told me he told one of his sisters about it and said “who does that”? She told him maybe Kimmie just likes you!LOL!!

#2 – How about this SAME dude came banging on my BEDROOM WINDOW when I got hip to his game and started igging him!!! He rang the doorbell and banged on the door and when I didn’t answer, went around to the side of my house to my window! A little more and I was going to call the police. In fact, I’m surprised none of my nosey neighbors didn’t! I told him he had lost his mind!! :shock:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 10th, 2012
2:14 pm

Show up at the door butt nekid, WOW! REALLY! SERIOUSLY! WOW! (LOL)

SlimUno

September 10th, 2012
2:15 pm

Cel – Yeah that must be in their by-laws lol

Robert – So real men just whip it out on your doorstep? Real mean flash that wang!!! It don’t mean a thing unless you flash that wang!!!!

Into the Light

September 10th, 2012
2:15 pm

LOL@kimmie.

See, that’s where “Hollywood” does us all a disservice. We see your example #2 and think “Hmmm, dude is a bit stalker-ish” but give that man a boombox with some Peter Gabriel playing while he’s banging on your window and it’s classic movie romance!

Okay, I’m kidding (sort of)… but there’s a grain of truth in every joke. What I call stalking, others just call persistent. ;)

Leggs

September 10th, 2012
2:16 pm

#2 is crazier to me. Phone stalking is quite different than someone showing up at my place uninvited constantly ringing my doorbell and banging on the door then window like a wounded player of the game.

Robert

September 10th, 2012
2:16 pm

@Celisea – Is “DNA” the same as “DNR” which means “Do Not Resisitate” and is used when patients do not want a doctor to treat them.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 10th, 2012
2:17 pm

C if there’s no “fire” then she crazy, if there is “fire” imma hit that (LOL)

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
2:17 pm

Slim – Yep, it was added and no one told us women…lol

Slim So real men just whip it out on your doorstep? Real mean flash that wang!!! It don’t mean a thing unless you flash that wang!!!!

Okay….I LOL’d on this one!

SlimUno

September 10th, 2012
2:18 pm

kimmie – Of course doing a pop-up is more crazy and peeking in windows is more crazy. Been there done that :lol:

Bluzgirl

September 10th, 2012
2:18 pm

What a beautiful day! I went and got a salad and sat outside to eat. I love this weather!!!

ITL – So glad to “see” you on here. Hate that you’re still sick! I was just thinking about you and was about to shoot you a text to see how you were feeling.

C – You mentioned an invite to Savannah for Thanksgiving…one of my close friends just invited me to go there for Veteran’s Day weekend to celebrate our birthdays! I’m so excited about it. I’ve been wanting to get back to Tybee, but couldn’t afford a hotel. Her dad has about a million hotel points and will get us a room! Yay!

Celisea

September 10th, 2012
2:19 pm

my bold is not working