How many dates does it take?
My friend Justin recently asked me, “How many dates does it take for you to figure out if you want to know more about someone?” – which sort of made me pause. I hadn’t thought of an arbitrary number before because I guess I always knew on date one whether or not there was a connection. Is one date enough, though?
Chemistry is such a weird and unpredictable thing. A lot of times, there are no sparks on the first date, or second date! Heck, you may not feel the boom until date four! The problem is – we usually don’t wait that long for it to show up!
First dates are not everything. Perhaps we all should give our potentials a little time to “cook” to see how hot things could get. Do you think three dates is enough to know if you want to continue seeing someone?
How many dates does it take before you decide the chemistry is there or not there?
What do you like to see, think, or feel about someone to decide whether or not you two are compatible?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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274 comments Add your comment
Comon Cents
September 7th, 2012
5:07 pm
S/H What part doesn’t make sense?
Willie Dynamite
September 7th, 2012
5:09 pm
Hahaha. Ok folks goodday, hitting the beach.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:10 pm
That the child getting killed wasn’t her fault. It’s something you see around here all time, people not wanting to take the extra steps to get to the cross walk, it’s one thing to put your self in danger, it’s another put your child in danger. To me it’s the same as if I rob a bank and someone has a heart attack, I get charged with that to, but I didn’t shoot them.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:14 pm
Yes he was drunk, maybe speeding, but she was in the wrong also. Yes it may have happen in a crosswalk, but we can’t go by ifs
Comon Cents
September 7th, 2012
5:15 pm
Have you ever been on Franklin Road? Interestingly enough, they put a crosswalk in afer this happened for exactly that reason. Struggling after a long day with 2 cildren (and God knows what else) in tow and you’re going to walk another 3/4 of a mile each way at 6-7 PM at night? I’m a mom and I can tell you, in her position, I would have probably made the same decision that she did. The ultimate responsibility should be on the speeding hit & run driver. My suspicion (and, of course, this can’t be proven but there are other cases that bear it out) is even if she had been in the crosswalk, that driver would have still hit her kid. Sad, but true.
Comon Cents
September 7th, 2012
5:18 pm
Also, don’t you think that this young, single mother has been through enough without further adding to her guilt by making her responsible for the death of her child?
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
5:19 pm
Y’all still here?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:19 pm
Comon it should be on both of the, yes it may have happened in a crosswalk, but since we’re going by ifs, had he not been drunk and stopped, she still would have been to blame.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
5:20 pm
Single and Happy – I have a question for you
Comon Cents
September 7th, 2012
5:22 pm
She was not convicted of jaywalking. She was convicted of vehicular homicide. If they were charging her with jaywalking, I would be the first person lined up to say “guilty!” But since that’s not what they are charging her with I have to say, no go!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:26 pm
Comon, I’m sorry for her, but no can’t say she’s been through enough because if we look at the facts of what happened, had she walked that 3/4 mile her child would still be alive because the drunk man would have passed by them in that time. And you say they put the crosswalks in after, how many complaints had they had before that, or did people just take as the norm and cross the streets? I asked about this because I’ve noticed in my travels that in other cities people tend to use the cross walks and hit the buttons to cross the street. and here especially in Atl, you almost never see that happen but they will cross anyway, even with police standing there. If you have a few hit and runs then they crack down on it for a little while, but then it’s back to the norm.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:27 pm
Comon she was convicted of crossing outside a crosswalk also
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:28 pm
C oh Willie D let you up for air (LOL) ask away
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
5:30 pm
Single – You stoopid…lololol Can I shoot you an email?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:30 pm
Of course you can C, do you still have my addy?
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
5:31 pm
Yep….one sec
Comon Cents
September 7th, 2012
5:32 pm
And you say they put the crosswalks in after, how many complaints had they had before that, or did people just take as the norm and cross the streets
People cross all the time without the crosswalk on Franklin. Not saying that doesn’t happen. But, according to the statute, she CANNOT be guilty of vehicular homicide because she had NO CONTROL OVER THE CAR. Now, they are squabbling over appeals, but the original jury conviction is for the same reason you and I are having this conversation. If therw was even one parent on that jury, they felt like her child would be alive today had she walked another mile and a half and they convicted her.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:32 pm
Comon I can only say this for me, but If I did something like that and caused someone that I cared about to be killed, I would take whatever punishment was handed down to me for my part.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:36 pm
Comon I would’t think it was that bad, but you see people here that won’t even walk a few feet to the cross walk, won’t hit the button or wait for the walk signal, that will not stop when people are in the cross walk, it’s just the norm. For me it was the norm also until I was in other busy cities and people were actually using them because cops were actually enforcing those rules.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:37 pm
As you can see I love to debate (LOL)
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
5:37 pm
Single – One sec…I’m looking for it
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:38 pm
Enter your comments here
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
5:40 pm
Plus comon, had they not charged here, you know Ken Nugent would have been on the phone trying to get her to sue the driver (LOL)
Comon Cents
September 7th, 2012
6:20 pm
I understand your positron S/H and I love to debate too. However, I believe in charging the correct person with the correct crime. She is guilty of jaywalking. He is guilty of vehicular homicide.