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How many dates does it take?

My friend Justin recently asked me, “How many dates does it take for you to figure out if you want to know more about someone?” – which sort of made me pause. I hadn’t thought of an arbitrary number before because I guess I always knew on date one whether or not there was a connection. Is one date enough, though?

Chemistry is such a weird and unpredictable thing. A lot of times, there are no sparks on the first date, or second date! Heck, you may not feel the boom until date four! The problem is – we usually don’t wait that long for it to show up!

First dates are not everything. Perhaps we all should give our potentials a little time to “cook” to see how hot things could get. Do you think three dates is enough to know if you want to continue seeing someone?

How many dates does it take before you decide the chemistry is there or not there?

What do you like to see, think, or feel about someone to decide whether or not you two are compatible?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 7th, 2012
3:00 pm

C you sound like me yesterday when the dentist was working in my mouth, she was talking to her assistant and asking me was she right. (like I was going to say no) :-)

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:04 pm

Single and Happy – I’m learning more and more everyday, take the path of least resistance. If you like it, I love it. You said it, you’re right and I agree. You want it, be my guest have at it. That way the world keeps turning, the planets are aligned all is well and everybody is happy :mrgreen:

Willie Dynamite

September 7th, 2012
3:04 pm

Cel – does sound good, maybe just do the prep tonight then grill tomorrow. Ugh again, now back to figuring out what’s for dinner tonight.

Robert

September 7th, 2012
3:06 pm

“How many dates does it take before you decide the chemistry is there or not there?”

I can look a woman in her eyes, see how well she is dressed (hair, shoes, dress, etc.) and tell within the first 5 minutes whether or not I am interested. I look for quality not quantity.

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:06 pm

WillieD – Grab something on the way and kick back and chill tonight. Meat marinating, flick playing, so forth and so on…. Tomorrow will be easy breezy, toss everything on there, all a go.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 7th, 2012
3:06 pm

C life is so much better then :-) And this blog is all about having fun, (for me at least)

Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!

September 7th, 2012
3:06 pm

I am doing chicken stuffed enchiladas for dinner tonight. And the hubs and I are childless tonight! I don’t even know how to act. LOL!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 7th, 2012
3:07 pm

So Robert you just look for the wrapping, not what’s inside the package??

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:07 pm

Alright now Robert…lol

I cannot lie, this morning when I read the post and saw that how many dates does it take question, I thought about the tootsie pop commercial…how many licks does it take to get to the center of a tootsie pop :)

Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!

September 7th, 2012
3:08 pm

Ok, chick from the article is a nut. This is why it can’t be all about chemistry. These days, chemistry will get you arrested or even killed!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 7th, 2012
3:09 pm

I can see comon and hubby now (playing nekid twister) LOL

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:09 pm

Single and Happy – Come Monday, Imma have to put easy breezy in my tagline :mrgreen: That’s how easy it’s getting for me.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 7th, 2012
3:10 pm

Lets see said mr owl a one a two (crunch) a two (LOL)

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:11 pm

S/H – LOLOLOL…yep

cba

September 7th, 2012
3:11 pm

:lol: :lol: @Celisea 3:04

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 7th, 2012
3:12 pm

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:13 pm

cba – I’m so dead serious about my 3:04…it’s just so much easier and less draining. Let it be

Willie Dynamite

September 7th, 2012
3:14 pm

As for the topic I thought about the Tootsie pops commercial as well. But I am a wolf so what else do you expect. Hahaha
Seriously though, most folks don’t date to find a life partner. I know it may sound shocking but most folks date to have fun. During the course of dating if/when a long term is found then all the better. Chemistry dictates how good a time you have in the interim. IMO

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:16 pm

WillieD – I agree that most don’t date looking for a life partner but that’s should be the premise of dating…IMO

That’s why I said I might have a scenario for y’all reeeeallll soon. I don’t do stuff just to be doing it. If I do, then I feel guilty and I feel like it’s misleading. But, we shall see how things turn.

Willie Dynamite

September 7th, 2012
3:20 pm

Cel – ut oh did some dude do wrong by you? Don’t tease us, its Friday we aint got isht else to talk about. That is unless yall wanna get back into the Thay-yow convo. IJS

cba

September 7th, 2012
3:21 pm

Celisea~ I agree with you 100%…..who left finger prints on the fridge door, me!, why are there shoe marks on the floor, guilty, why you looking at me that way, double guilty :lol:
What was that song?? float, float on….

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:26 pm

WillieD – LOLOL…ain’t nobody “done me wrong”, but….

I’m at a crossroads and you know me, I like taking it slow. Well, I like where things are, sort of “noncommitted”, if you understand where I’m coming from. Contrary to what’s believed and the way of the masses, I’m not right now looking to move “from this spot.” Well, it’s causing a bit of angst because, naturally things should progress…IF you know what I mean. I have to be honest, I don’t mind progressing but at the same time, I don’t want what comes with it. I don’t want to be all heavy and stuff. Not being heavy though, I cannot expect exclusivity even though that’s what I want, sooooo what to do what to do.

I’ve only been hanging out “a minute” and it’s not been heavy stuff. Just sort of stuff that’s come up in the convo here of late. Looks like Imma have to make a decision real soon

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:26 pm

cba – Igg zackly…lol

cba

September 7th, 2012
3:27 pm

Celisea~ I can’t read minds but I believe you have a smile on your face……but you gonna keep us waiting :-)

i'm swiss

September 7th, 2012
3:29 pm

Willie D — I’m right there w/ you on the Tootsie Pop angle on this topic. Dirty minds think alike, I guess. ;-) Personally, it takes me just 1 lick to determine chemistry. :lol:

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:30 pm

cba – I posted it. Too with my kid not being fully grown and own her own, this is sort of how I’ve lived and I don’t want to disrupt that flow. If I go deep, I want the “freedom” to do that. You know?

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:31 pm

cba – I am smiling. It’s like a turn of events that brought on that ephiphany for me and VWALLA! Let stuff go, let it ride, don’t get uptight…lololol

cba

September 7th, 2012
3:36 pm

I respect you concerning your daughter. Maybe soon you’ll be “house free” like Leggs LOL

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:38 pm

cba – Thanks! Yes, yes it makes a world of difference. There are “ways around” doing certain things and activitie, but I’ve sort of committed to being and living this way since she was a baby and I don’t want to change it up now. I’ll have some life left once she’s gone…at least I hope. But, it’s haaaard getting folks on that page.

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:40 pm

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve found outlets for getting time away and stuff but a relationship causes a shift in a way of life. Outings and dates and stuff, not so much

Willie Dynamite

September 7th, 2012
3:54 pm

Swiss – we are on the same page. Haha, although your mind is waaaaay dirtier than mine.

Cel – timing is a mofo. Fast forward a few yrs and it would prolly not be an issue. I do understand.

i'm swiss

September 7th, 2012
3:58 pm

Willie D — Hope both of our teams are up to the task of welcoming the newcomers to the SEC this weekend. I’m a little concerned for my Dogs, though…

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
3:59 pm

Yep Willie, definitely different time different place

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
4:00 pm

I’m getting work done :)

Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!

September 7th, 2012
4:04 pm

C~ When it comes to things moving forward, is your daughter the only thing keeping you from progressing or is it some other issue?

Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!

September 7th, 2012
4:05 pm

S/H~ IDK about nekkid twister, but it will definitely be nekkid something. :lol: I got to remind myself not to fry the chicken for the enchiladas nekkid…

Willie Dynamite

September 7th, 2012
4:06 pm

Swiss – nothing against the puppies but I think yall will be ok. Yall get a few felons I mean players back. I think we are still 1-2 yrs away. Unfortunately I say yall win the East.

Cel – finish the job first.

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
4:07 pm

In this case, that’s the weighing factor. Naturally if I’m knocked over or blown away I’m working it out…lol

i'm swiss

September 7th, 2012
4:08 pm

Willie D — Actually, I don’t think we will get those players back yet. My money is on Ogletree & Rambo being out still. And Commings (starting CB) is definitely out.

Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!

September 7th, 2012
4:09 pm

C~ Then, as you say, go with your gut. If buddy can’t respect the job your doing and your reasoning for doing it, then KIM. He’s not worth you anyway.

Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!

September 7th, 2012
4:09 pm

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
4:09 pm

WillieD – That’s my stance. I’ve come this far and been able to get “me” time and maintain my stance. Like I said, unless I’m knocked over, I’m okay where I am. :)

Willie Dynamite

September 7th, 2012
4:10 pm

Swiss – white girls and weed, white girls and weed. Hahaha

Celisea

September 7th, 2012
4:11 pm

CC – There’s a certain caliber for me, so anything less than won’t even register. So character and quality is a must out of the gate.

i'm swiss

September 7th, 2012
4:12 pm

Willie D — You can keep the white girls, but pass that chronic, please. :lol:

Poppa Grande

September 7th, 2012
4:13 pm

Suisse…

If your “pups” don’t get cute, y’all should win. The difference in the team’s lines is UGA’ advantage. Both teams have similiar “skill” players, but if the pups take adavantage of the trenches they should win.

However, I know lately Aaron Murray hasn’t really shown up in big games away from Athens, except beating the inept Gators last year. Other than that: Boise State (Loss), LSU -SEC championship (Loss), Michigan State (loss).

If you guys win tomorrow, then you may be able to plan a return trip to the SEC Championship.

BTW, I predict that Gaytors beat Texas A&M. They haven’t gotten to knock the rust off by having a game. Florida did have first game. They played bad, but the biggest improvement tends to be between game 1 and game 2. So, the Gaytor fans should be some happy jean short wearing people.

Poppa Grande

September 7th, 2012
4:15 pm

Suisse-

I heard through the grapevine that Malcolm Mitchell may play and may play both sides of the ball.

cba

September 7th, 2012
4:16 pm

For all the Saints fans, all the suspended players have been reinstated for Sunday’s game.

Willie Dynamite

September 7th, 2012
4:17 pm

Cel – quit bs’n these folks. If buddy made it to this point I know he been vetted like a supreme court nominee. Let’s be real here. Time for you to isht or get off the pot.

Swiss – we really really need to hang out more.

i'm swiss

September 7th, 2012
4:18 pm

PG — Yeah, from what I’ve read it sounds like MM will play. Don’t know if he’ll be 100%, but he should play. Same for Theus.