How many dates does it take?
My friend Justin recently asked me, “How many dates does it take for you to figure out if you want to know more about someone?” – which sort of made me pause. I hadn’t thought of an arbitrary number before because I guess I always knew on date one whether or not there was a connection. Is one date enough, though?
Chemistry is such a weird and unpredictable thing. A lot of times, there are no sparks on the first date, or second date! Heck, you may not feel the boom until date four! The problem is – we usually don’t wait that long for it to show up!
First dates are not everything. Perhaps we all should give our potentials a little time to “cook” to see how hot things could get. Do you think three dates is enough to know if you want to continue seeing someone?
How many dates does it take before you decide the chemistry is there or not there?
What do you like to see, think, or feel about someone to decide whether or not you two are compatible?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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SlimUno
September 7th, 2012
12:48 pm
Molasses lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
12:49 pm
Catching up
CELISEA HAS WAAAAAAY TOO MUCH TIME ON HER HANDS TODAY
were you reading my mind.
Comon, since you have in those camps, the scouts will see him there and evaluate how he plays during a game, by his individual efforts, not by the teams effort. Cam Newton wasn’t even on Auburn’s radar when they saw him play, but they had to have him.
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
12:56 pm
Good Afternoon, WD. Same ol isht just a different day, but at least it’s Friday! (Yay, Friday! in my best ITL voice)
What’s good in your world?
Leggs
September 7th, 2012
1:04 pm
I’m out….enjoy the weekend!
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
1:07 pm
Must be nice, Leggs. Did you get your package, BTW?
Willie Dynamite
September 7th, 2012
1:08 pm
Chilling hard on this end. Its a good Friday so far.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 7th, 2012
1:18 pm
What up folks… Happy Friday to you!!
CC-Academics First, however, the world is not private, if your has been given a strong academic foundation there, he may not have any issue navigating a Public environment. There is also something to be said for the his natural socialization with other to round him off. I have a recommedation, only because I used to work with Adolescents, not because I want to run your bidness.
I would suggest keeping him in a private setting through 9th grade, allowing him to Play Football, go to camps, nurture his game and mind. Then turn him loose 10th Grade to your Public System. He will likely be academically ahead of his peers, and ready to enter the Competitive Environment of a large Public System from a Sportsmanship perspective…He will also have possibly matured enough to maintain focus or build his own parameters to take ownership of his illness….Which he will have to do at some point.
Slim-see what that mini-spread got you, STALKED….lol
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 7th, 2012
1:19 pm
your son
SlimUno
September 7th, 2012
1:22 pm
Jake – Very funny…I had to cut him off when he went into his overly complimentary mode. I was like, I’m average so no need to overdo it. lol Then he has the nerve to say that although he doesn’t really really know me, that I seem like I would make a great wife. I wondered if he told his current wife this same spill when they first met. lol
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 7th, 2012
1:28 pm
Slim…we’ll be the judge of whether you are “average”…Slim frame is good, medium frame is good, thick frame is good, Fat frame, well not so much, but there are Chubby Chasers too…Sounds like he was diggin you, but I saw the name callin, he didn’t say “fugg me”, he sent a shower of compliments, he was likely fishing, but until propositioned he is Innocent…..Right Fellas…lol
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 7th, 2012
1:55 pm
60 minutes Sweet Baby Jesus!
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
1:56 pm
Jake~ Thanks for the advice. My concern with “turning him loose” as you say in public school is that even if he is ahead of his peers, the reason I pulled him out of public school was an absolutely disastrous 6th grade year. I’m alking conferences at the school every month, no answers from teachers, fighting about homework/projects, etc. I feel that he is developing and learning the skills he needs to succeed (academically) but I fear that because the focus is NOT on academics in public school (i.e.~ the peer pressure in private school is to make the dean’s list or headmaster’s honor roll) that he may begin lose focus again.
SlimUno
September 7th, 2012
1:56 pm
Jake – You sound like you know this guy…He had said something about he never had the intention of trying to hurt anyone. And if he felt like something got out of hand then he’d have to get out of the situation. To me that was code for, if we mess around and turn out to be crazy then all bets are off lol
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:00 pm
To me that was code for, if we mess around and turn out to be crazy then all bets are off lol
That’s usually how it goes….lololol
Single and Happy – If you’re still here, yes I’m a mind reader. Want me to tell you what you’re thinking right now?
I might have a scenario to toss out before y’all in a week or so. I’m a little hesitant. I don’t like my “stuff” dragged through the dirt…lololol
SlimUno
September 7th, 2012
2:02 pm
Cel – He would make a great politician with all that talking AROUND it but not really coming right out and saying it.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:03 pm
yes C what am I thinking?
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:06 pm
Single and Happy – “I wonder…hmmmm”
Slim – You should have asked him “ever been in politics or considering”…lol Yeah, he sounds like he’s cut out for that field
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:07 pm
C I’m a big boy, and you know i can take it (LOL)
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:10 pm
Single and Happy – That’s what I think you’re thinking. You didn’t catch it?
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:10 pm
Wait….you’re a big boy and I’ll toss in pretty smart, then I’ll ask, you didn’t catch it?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:11 pm
C then I guess you can’t read minds (LOL)
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:12 pm
Single and Happy – Maybe you were drawing a blank…lololol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:14 pm
Well C since I have AADD I probably so what’s for dinner
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:18 pm
Single and Happy – I thought you told me before you’d been cured of that. No? For dinner you’re having lamb and grilled veggies
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:19 pm
no C I haven’t been wow there goes a bird (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:20 pm
Lamb and grilled vegetables, I’ll stop by McDonald’s on the way home (LOL)
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:23 pm
I thought submliminally I could get you to take on better eating habits. I tried
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:24 pm
I was mindreading when I tossed that out. I knew MickieDs wasn’t good
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
2:24 pm
S/H~ Squirrel! LMAO! I always say that to my son when his attention wanders.
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
2:25 pm
C~ You might as well give up on that girl. It’s a lost cause!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:27 pm
Comon where where, I do eat healthy, but I prefer fruit and steamed veggies
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:31 pm
2 hours and 30 minutes before I shut it down
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
2:32 pm
What kinds of meat do you eat tough? Hmmm? Lamb is one of the healthiest meats you can eat if you are eating meat.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:35 pm
comon I like beef, chicken sometimes, and of course pork
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:35 pm
C you mean you’re going to finally do some work (LOL)
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
2:37 pm
Beef and pork are terrible for you and chicken is not much better. You should give lamb a try…. (CC cautiously slides the plate C has prepared across the table) C’mon little guy. You’ll feel better if you do.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:38 pm
Comon I’m good, I’d rather have this artery clogging steak, don’t like lamb
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:39 pm
Single and Happy – I am working. Matter of fact I’m thinking how ardous it is toggling between applications on my laptop. It’s much easier when I’m at work as my laptop is on the dock but I’m using a bigger screen and desktop keyboard.
What’s wrong Single and Happy? You don’t seem bright today.
Take that! lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:41 pm
C, I told you I was snicker chocolate, that’s not very bright (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:42 pm
comon, wth you mean little guy, was that some sort of short joke :-X
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:43 pm
Single and Happy – we’re not gonna go back down that path…lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:43 pm
What C, (doing my innocent whistle)
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
2:46 pm
S/H~ Is that a Napolean complex? Now every time I say something you gonna think I’m talking about your height! Sheese! You really are starting to sound like you need someone to look up to…
Willie Dynamite
September 7th, 2012
2:48 pm
Grilled Lamb n veggies (kebab) sounds real good right about now. Mental pantry check maybe out of garam marsala tho. Ugh
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:49 pm
oh comon I do like looking up to tall amazonian women (drooling) (LOL)
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:49 pm
Single and Happy – Play nice
WillieD – It does sound good for later tonight…yum
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:51 pm
C, I am nice, I don’t have to play like it (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:53 pm
Comon, I’m so at ease with my height that when you said napoleon complex, I was thinking why is she talking about Ice cream (LOL)
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
2:55 pm
Bye Lady (if you’re not gone), have a safe trip
Single and Happy – Okay, I’m just going to agree with everything you say…lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 7th, 2012
2:56 pm
WTH
http://news.yahoo.com/police-angry-ex-girlfriend-triggered-us-airways-bomb-135336211–abc-news-topstories.html