How many dates does it take?
My friend Justin recently asked me, “How many dates does it take for you to figure out if you want to know more about someone?” – which sort of made me pause. I hadn’t thought of an arbitrary number before because I guess I always knew on date one whether or not there was a connection. Is one date enough, though?
Chemistry is such a weird and unpredictable thing. A lot of times, there are no sparks on the first date, or second date! Heck, you may not feel the boom until date four! The problem is – we usually don’t wait that long for it to show up!
First dates are not everything. Perhaps we all should give our potentials a little time to “cook” to see how hot things could get. Do you think three dates is enough to know if you want to continue seeing someone?
How many dates does it take before you decide the chemistry is there or not there?
What do you like to see, think, or feel about someone to decide whether or not you two are compatible?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
September 7th, 2012
10:18 am
Celisea ~ you do know the slap-a-hoe tribe also turns into bounty hunters and will find those trying to leave the fold. You are liked here, stay!
Exiled!
September 7th, 2012
10:21 am
Cel u know the blog is addictive.
Common,I wil say this: I have never been one to believe that these schools that are good sports,(football in particular( are good at academics as well. They fudge their kids records and that’s a fact. The authorities at those schos give tacit approval to cheating actually.
So I think while there are good public schools that try to excel at both,and you happen to find one,there are forces(evil) that may pull ur kid in the other direction.
Always think Penn state and Joe Pate_pedophile!!
That’s what u need to plant in ur head as u look for an optimum solution!
Ok I’m gone!
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:22 am
Leggs – LMBO…slap-a-hoe tribe? That’s too funny. So we’re in deep and for life huh? Once we’re in we in!!! That was sweet.
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
10:23 am
Thanks, Ex. I will keep those things in mind as well.
Leggs
September 7th, 2012
10:25 am
Through sick and sin (lol).
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:25 am
I wouldn’t move my kid either if academically and for a condition, the environment worked well. Kids can’t make rational decisions and moving because of an extracirrumculum, for me, would take a back seat.
A very good friend of my have two sons, one of which is 7 and plays for a church team. Knowing my friend, he ain’t a member of the church. But, I believe the program is open to anyone that registers before the roster is full. My point is, there should be organizations where a kid can play without necessarily having an affiliation. So, the school team may not work but there should other avenues you can take.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:26 am
Yep…sick and sin, thick and thin
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:29 am
Where is Lady today???
Poppa Grande
September 7th, 2012
10:32 am
Good Morning, all.
CC-
Academic first. One thing that I am most grateful about in my life is that I had choices. I was offered full undergrad academic scholarships to UGA, Auburn, Florida State, and partial scholarships to some Ivy League Not saying this to brag, but to express having how having options. I chose to attend South Carolina because I wanted to explore the football path. Not because it was my only avenue for college. Looking back, having a choice was so great for me. I had many teammates that looked at me like I have three eyes because I chose to do the early morning runs and drills. Many teammates had no other choice than play football to earn a college degree.
As for honing in skills, there are plenty of summer camps by various coaches that can help your child . Many D-1 college coaches themselves conduct them or host them. Mark Richt has done one for years. DJ Shockley (former UGA QB and Falcons backup) developed a relationship with Mark Richt down in Tallahassee while Richt was offensive coordinator of FSU. When Richt accepted UGA job over the Missouri job (he was offered the job by both school-ironically they play each other tomorrow), DJ followed Richt to UGA.
Also, many professional players have summer camps as well. Andrew Luck got instruction in high school by attending Peyton Manning camp.
My point is there are other ways to skin a cat. (lobbed that one right up there for, Exiled!..
) You just have to do the research and may have to come out of pocket more, but it is an investment.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 7th, 2012
10:33 am
right here C~ ready to go to Charleston and Orangeburg for the weekend!!!!! what’s poppin’ sis?!? its been a busy azz morning!!!!
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:37 am
Heeeeey there Lady. I don’t have to ask today what’s crackalackin, you’re amped (it reads)…lol Not a whole lot popping, just yet on my end. Of course we’re coming off the top of the morning. Much later, I have a few coals in the fire. Right now, work is slow. I’m about to start putting together a few letters I need to send to clients. That’s something to do so I’m not just sitting on the clock doing nothing. Need to earn my pay.
Have a fun filled weekend!
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:39 am
And I’m still left to wonder whether or not Wendy Williams is a tranny. I have ALWAYS wondered.
abc
September 7th, 2012
10:39 am
Regarding GA vs. Mizzou, folks should realize that Missouri is a lot more than they may think, what with the SEC is king mindset. Mizzou is tough. That should be a good game.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:44 am
…..annddd Paula Abdul just presented WW with a pair of “red bottoms” A gift for her 500th show as well as it being Paula’s first appearance on the show. Yeah, I’ll definitely take that.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:44 am
They’re probably a size (men) 14s…lololololol
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 7th, 2012
10:46 am
Thanks sis!!! I will be in touch!
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:49 am
Okay…you have my cell
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
10:52 am
PG~ We have already begun paying the price of summer and spring break camps. (Ladies, I probably could HAVE some red bottoms if I didn’t have these expensive kids! I kid, I kid) We are doing the Offense-Defense camps and now that he is getting ready for high school, I have started researching the AAU programs and travel teams. I appreciate the perspective.
C~ I will definitely check into some of the other teams in the area. Good advice. I hadn’t thought about that route.
And I’m still left to wonder whether or not Wendy Williams is a tranny. I have ALWAYS wondered
She is not a tranny. I (like you) swore up and down she was a tranny, but she has documentation that she was born a female (just an Amazonian one, apparently) She also showed pics of herself selling girl scout cookies as a child and either it is her in the pics or she has a twin sister.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:56 am
CC – LOLOL…apparently I’m not the only one to have wondered if she flashed documents to prove otherwise.
The group that sang Disco Inferno is on her show. Somehow “burn that mother down” just don’t sound the same coming out of a what, 65 or 70 year old mouth. That match has been struck and the flames gone. Ain’t even no simmering going on…lololol
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:58 am
Her mom is speaking/cameo!! She looks like a tranny too! Recon a tranny can birth a tranny?? I’m kidding.
CELISEA HAS WAAAAAAY TOO MUCH TIME ON HER HANDS TODAY. Getting busy now.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
10:59 am
reckon
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
11:01 am
C~ LOLOLOL! I was thinking the same thing when she started breaking out childhood photos!
I told the hubs, “Someone done told her she got man hands and she trying to prove that she AIN’T a tranny!” LOL!
She got the Trammps on there this morning? Guuurrll… I thought they were dead. LMAO!
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
11:03 am
Nope, they are alive and
kickingand barely moving. I thought the lead singer was gonna need oxygen after that high note…lolLeggs
September 7th, 2012
11:08 am
Oh snap, IT people are here to give me a new phone! I asked to keep my old one in storage just in case this phone isn’t as quick when I play my contests. I had the IT people cracking up.
SlimUno
September 7th, 2012
11:09 am
So I finally spoke to Mr. Club Mgr and yup, it was exactly what I suspected it to be. He said he has had my number from when my stepdad was performing at his spot. My mom had given it to him so he could get in contact with me to pick up a check. Anyway, he says he’s had my number since then and constantly struggled with whether to call me or not. He told me how it was from the first time he saw me, he would watch me from afar and try to keep from staring my way. He just wanted me to know how beautiful, sexy, classy blah blah blah and more blah I was. Said he didn’t mean to cause any harm, offend me but he had to let me know.
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
11:11 am
Slim~ Did you tell him to pucker and and kiss your lovely azz?
C~ You wrong for that!
Did WW offer to give him mouf to mouf?
cba
September 7th, 2012
11:12 am
Celisea~everytime I see WW, I think, is s/he the updated version on RuPaul?
PG, you’re not bragging when you have put in the hard work to have options….good for you.
I bet the TO’s of the world are probably rethinking some of the decisions in the past.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
11:14 am
Slim – Why am I not surprised. SMDernH
No MtoM from WW. He might have gotten the wrong impression…lol
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
11:15 am
cba – LOLOLOL…I’m cracking up at that. She and RuPaul I bet are related…
SlimUno
September 7th, 2012
11:17 am
CC – I was like this is awkward and if I’m not mistaken aren’t you married? (I already knew the answer) But he was like, yeah I have an ole lady, been married 10 years. He said he didn’t want to get me in trouble with my boyfriend and I was like, well shouldn’t YOU be worried about getting in trouble with your WIFE? He laughed and said he definitely was not worried about that. Homeboy was just fishing to see if i’d sign up for his side piece and all efforts were shut down. He was like, so you didn’t notice me always looking at you or trying not to stare. I said, well in order for me to notice that then i’d have to be checking you out and apparently that was not the case. I don’t go into a place looking to see who is checking me out. lol WEIRD…now I’m not going to want to go to that place again especially if he’s going to be there. I told the beau about it last night too
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
11:18 am
You better WERK! LOLOL @ cba!
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
11:22 am
Slim~ Definitely the thumbs up on telling the beau. Better to have all atemps to
flirtstalk you out in the open. Don’t let ol’ crack eye drive you out if you like the spot. Take the beau up in there with you and OWN the joint!Leggs
September 7th, 2012
11:29 am
SlimUno ~ But of course! It wasn’t going to go any other way.
SlimUno
September 7th, 2012
11:37 am
Well I hope he got it out of his system as far as telling me that and can move on.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
11:37 am
Slim – And what’s so nasty about it is that he’s cool swapping juices with his wife, you with the beau and then you and him. That’s why diseases are rampant.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
11:40 am
Why did it just occur to me the dude one the People’s Court (commentating I guess), is the same dude on TMZ???
Leggs
September 7th, 2012
11:45 am
Glad you spoke to the beau about it. Had to smirk about him not being worried about the wife, because he probably has done this many times before.
Leggs
September 7th, 2012
11:46 am
Celisea ~ Now, that’s funny. “I’m a lawyer” makes me laugh.
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
11:48 am
Harvey Levin is his name. You know, he is actually an EXCELLENT lawyer.
cba
September 7th, 2012
11:49 am
Celisea~speaking of diseases, my wife was telling me about this young lady in the hospital dying of aids. Said she was only in her thirties and that her eyes had dried out….blind. I said, what a price for having sex with the wrong person or doing drugs.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
11:51 am
Leggs – LOL
cba – Wow, that’s so sad. That’s why, no matter the good time, you better look before you leap. Consequences always outweigh the deed. That’s sad.
My childhood bff died of AIDS at 30. Grant it, she moved away in her early twenties and we didn’t have much contact after that. Next thing I know, I’m getting the news that she’d passed. At the young age of 30.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
11:53 am
I’m such a nincompoop..lol I stopped by TMZ the other night and caught a bit of that but it went over my head because I didn’t know. Looking at him today, I had an “aha” moment.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
11:55 am
Okaaaay folks, I’m meeting a friend for lunch on the EWC…be back in a couple of hours
cba
September 7th, 2012
11:58 am
OK, it’s almost noon: When Obama said, ” I’m the president”, I gave him a standing O. That was for all the tea party crowd, right wing tv and talk show hosts. Then I thought, did he just say I’m the HNIC??
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
11:58 am
So, what’s everyone’s big plans for the weekend?
SlimUno
September 7th, 2012
11:59 am
Cel – He was not going to be cool swapping juices with all of us because he ain’t getting none of these juices.
Leggs – The beau just thought it was funny, he didn’t say much. But then he came back and was like, damn we could’ve had a baller! lol
Comon Cents~ It's Friday, Y'all!
September 7th, 2012
11:59 am
Then I thought, did he just say I’m the HNIC??
That’s EXACTLY what he said.
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
12:00 pm
did he just say I’m the HNIC??
Yeah, he did…lolololol
Okay, don’t want to be late or keep anyone waiting, gotta run
Celisea
September 7th, 2012
12:01 pm
Slim – Go ‘head then girl
Willie Dynamite
September 7th, 2012
12:34 pm
Afternoon Folks,
How is everyone today? What’s good?