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We are never getting back together

Leave it to Taylor Swift to write a perfectly titled break up song. The thought of getting back together really does not work for everyone. When we consider the dating experiences that were “character building” as my Dad says, we have to know when it is really over.

It is important to remember that no matter how many right things some of our exes say, reuniting with them is a bad idea. I always say that you can love someone but not have to be with them. It is possible to be bad for each other!

Do you have an ex that you are absolutely sure about why you are no longer together? There was no need for closure or continued friendship. Things are so over, you can never go back. Do you think they feel the same way about you?

Have you ever told someone that you could never be with them again? If that is how you feel, do you think it is good to tell someone that to their face? How much honesty should we have in a break up?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

173 comments Add your comment

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
8:57 am

Closure, love that word! It’s something that if you need you only get when you hear what you want to hear. You only get real closure from anything when you move on with your life and let it go!
What ever reason you get for breaking up, let it go and move on with your life.

LeeH1

September 5th, 2012
9:06 am

My wife and I divorced over 30 years. She is schizophrenic, and while I still love her, I have not communicated with her in any since then, and I’m grateful I’ve had no contact with her at all. The marriage is over. Sometimes you need to walk away and never look back.

Guilt is a terrible thing, but she was so hateful in the separation and divorce that anger effectively killed any guilt I had left. She got every penny I had, and she destroyed a lot of my possessions. As a friend once said, it was cheap whatever it cost to be shut or her.

He was right.

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
9:17 am

Morning.

My ex and I divorced 6 years ago. He still cares deeply for me, but I know we will never be together again. One character I cannot abide with is “spite.” I cannot be with a spiteful, selfish individual ever again. “Spite” is a very debilitating character to posses that can only lead to lots of heartache.

Mike P

September 5th, 2012
9:24 am

There’s something to be said about the statement, “When its over, its over.”

There’s way too many women out here who haven’t screwed things up with me to be wasting my time messing around with you on a “do over.” Sorry, no can do. Back “that thing” up, out my house and keep that ish moving.

No guilt, no fuss, no mess, no hate, and no more please. Just me and my sense of peace. :)

Comon Cents

September 5th, 2012
9:25 am

Good Morning!
Quick in and out before I run out of the door. (I think I might be addicted to y’all)

I agree with both S/H & Lee~ Done is done. If you realize there is zero opportunity of the relationship ever working, move on and be happy. Just because I can’t be happy with you doesn’t mean that someone else can’t be happy with you.

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
9:28 am

There was a time when I would have taken my recent ex back, but now that there has been some time since the break up, I KNOW 100% that it would NEVER happen!!! It’s been hard to look back and really see everything that he did to me…even harder to look back and realize that I stayed through things I never should have…

MsAtl

September 5th, 2012
9:29 am

My ex and I separated almost two years ago & ultimately divorced. When we first separated, he tried to come back using guilt, the kids, empty promises, etc. I made it perfectly clear that I would never take him back. After 29 years of dealing with him, I was completely done and I let him know that! Unlike LeeH1, there is no love left on my part.

Thirdwheel

September 5th, 2012
9:32 am

I still live with my ex and I have been done for a longgggggggg time. I think he just realized there is no hope for us. It takes all my might not to cut his brake line when he is sleeping….

MsAtl

September 5th, 2012
9:34 am

Bluz, I know exactly what you mean. I too, stayed through things I should not have and accepted many things that should have been clear dea lbreakers. Although I knew better (on some level), there were always reasons, excuses, and rationalizations. However, when I made up my mind that I was done, I was done! I have had to make peace with the fact that I chose to stay, right or wrong,and did what I thought I should do at the time. You should make peace with that also and let your looking back be a learning experience.

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
9:37 am

Hey 3rdWheel, how you be?

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
9:40 am

MsAtl…I figure that I’ll make the peace with myself soon…it’s been 7 months. It is amazing what you will put up with when you are so in love. I’m just glad that I found the strength to break up with him and ask him to move out. It definitely was a true learning experience!!!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
9:44 am

Thirdwheel, WTH (LOL)

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
9:46 am

Bluz, get some closure, move on, let it go.

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
9:46 am

Single ~ nice to see you’re happier!!!

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
9:46 am

Morning,

I have to be honest. I’ve never parted ways over stuff like cheating. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not silly enough to believe a dude never cheated on me. I’ve questioned one in particular but he wouldn’t answer straight. To boot, he tossed it back on me and said I think too much like a dude. (This was way before Steve Harvey’s epiphany…lol) Yeah, that’s funny? Okay, let me show you then. I walked. I doubted myself a long time after that, whether or not it was the right move. One thing that’s for sure about me, I’m NEVER going against my instincts and gut feeling. Never. I could be off the mark and maybe not quite have it pegged, but I can bet I’m in the ballpark. Mostly, I’ve parted ways over not meshing or being on the same page or wanting more of a bang out of life and wanting it together and he just didn’t get it or “different time, different place.” Would I ever go back to any of them? Not likely. My motto is never go back.

One thing about me is, I have a temper. Not an “Evelyn” temper but I can get hot real quick. I don’t just go “snapping” and breaking stuff and getting myself locked up. If I feel a person is not coming straight, I tend to cut it quick. An issue of mine more so along the lines of not possessing a lot of patience coupled with my gut…lol Yep, sometimes I feel I need more patience when it comes to relationships. I said that to say, I’ve gotten REALLY angry and walked but I’m not one that habors ill feelings and I’m not spiteful. Yeah, I dished a bit of crazy but that was only with my kid’s dad way back when and as I’ve said before, that was a learner (can I say that) for me. As quick as I’m angry, I’m quicker to forgive. I’m not spiteful but I don’t games either and neither will I deal with that. So more than likely outside of blatant disrespect (i.e. cheating, name calling and that kind of stuff), I can get over it. I’m cool being decent towards one another “after the fact” even so and still, I won’t go back. Unless we both make changes, I don’t want to go back. The same thing will likely recur time and time again. Only for the nasties will I say bump all that forgiveness stuff, you can kick rocks eternally. Ask my coworkers….lol You burn me and I’m done. Spiteful, mean and hateful? Nope, I don’t have to tolerate. Like I said…kick rocks, bite me, kiss my grits….and any other saying that might apply…lol

Thirdwheel

September 5th, 2012
9:46 am

Hey Leggs!!! I’m hanging in there! Three more months to go… How are you doing?

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
9:48 am

Hey legs, yes I am, happier every day :-)

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
9:49 am

And even if we’re cool “after the fact”, we’re not going to hang out and stuff. At that point, it’s a matter of being decent and civil.

Into the Light

September 5th, 2012
9:55 am

Morning, all!

There is one ex that I think of every now and then. The breakup was amicable….we were just in different places at the time. Fast forward 15 years….I wonder what it would be like if we ran into each other today. He is the only man, that from the first day I met him until the last day I saw him, who gave me “butterflies”….

Off topic: I wish I was home in my jammies. This summer cold/sinus infection/whatever it is is not fun. :(

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
9:55 am

I can see your smile way over here, Single! I’m happy for you!

3rdWheel ~ I’m good on this end. I’m more relaxed than I’ve been in a very long time.

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
9:59 am

ITL – Hate that you’re still feeling sick! You need some major relaxation…

Another off topic – I used to have my tongue pierced and took it out almost three years ago due to psycho in Seattle not approving. I’ve always regretted taking it out because I liked it. I’ll be 33 in Nov…am I too old to get it re-pierced?

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
10:22 am

Where did everyone go?

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
10:30 am

Perhaps a 33 yr old wanting a tongue piercing scared everyone away…I kid, I kid.

M. (pronouced M dot)

September 5th, 2012
10:36 am

Good day everyone

“Do you have an ex that you are absolutely sure about why you are no longer together? There was no need for closure or continued friendship. Things are so over, you can never go back. Do you think they feel the same way about you?”

I think everyone has an ex like this and we have to be honest about the person and the situation. I think my situation was with someone who wanted to be in a relationship which really means with anyone that came along. Maybe they were lonely, bored, mad because their friends were in relationships or all of the above.

Once its over, you have to just move on and hope they are ok but it’s really not your job to worry about them anymore especially if they dumped you. The best thing to do is move on, cut off ALL communication (calls, text, gchat, skype, fb, etc) and focus on yourself!

I think everyone has an ex like this and we have to be honest about the person and the situation.

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
10:38 am

I was starting to wonder Leggs! LOL

Mike P

September 5th, 2012
10:42 am

WD- Have you ever told someone that you could never be with them again?
Yes I have, in fact, I don’t associate with them anymore on any level.

WD-If that is how you feel, do you think it is good to tell someone that to their face?
I’d tell her face to face, unless the reason I’m breaking up is she’s way too crazy for me.

WD- How much honesty should we have in a break up?
Complete honesty is best, that way, the woman getting dumped can have closure. Dumping someone without being honest as to why you’re dumping them is juvenile in my opinion or worse cruel and cold hearted.

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
10:49 am

Mike – I agree with you that you really should be totally honest and talk face to face when you are ready to end things. It’s very cowardly to send a text or an email…

Speaking of…any of you hear the Bert Show this morning with the closure call? The girl called last week about coming clean with her boyfriend of 3 months and telling him that she has a daughter. She chose to tell him via text!!! Obviously, he was angry that she lied to him for 3 months and then texted the truth…

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
10:54 am

Mike P and MDot, I like both your posts. I will say MikeP, sometimes you read a bit hard (on women…lol) but sometimes tough love is needed. I agree though with that last line of your 10:42. No it’s not required, but IMO it’s taking the high road.

cba

September 5th, 2012
11:00 am

O/T: Much, Much LOVE to my country’s mom-in-chief

kimmie

September 5th, 2012
11:02 am

Morning Gang!

Bluz, I heard that mess on the Bert Show, I’ve been keeping up with that story. That chick is crazy. She’s still putting the blame on HIM!! You know what, while I would be disappointed I could handle it better if someone just didn’t tell me they had a child for awhile. But to LIE and say the child is your NIECE, and then take the cowardly way out via TEXT to tell me is absolutely disgusting!! Her whole thing about men not wanting to date women with children is not the issue, because some absolutely will. What they don’t want though, is a psycho-lier!!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
11:04 am

Why do people lie about things that you they know you will eventually find out about?

Mike P

September 5th, 2012
11:04 am

@Celisea: I have to be tough (with love) on women in general; too many spineless simps, not enough men out there; natural order is out of whack, so I am forced to compensate.

@Bluzgirl: yes, that would be very cowardly. And who can respect a coward?? or deal with them?

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
11:08 am

Mike P – Yep, natural order of things is definitely out of whack…lol

I got home after 10 and missed some of Michelle’s speech, but the part I did hear…she was awesome :mrgreen: Goooooo Michelle

Flawed N. Tryin

September 5th, 2012
11:09 am

Morning yall,
This is my truth I’m dealing with right now. I’ve never really broken up with someone and I’m married. Though I love her I don’t think I could ever get back to where we once were. I want the very best for her but she wants to keep trying to work on it. Thanks for listening.

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
11:10 am

Bluz ~ reading MikeP’s post re: clousure I was going to mention the Bert Show this morning. That woman doesn’t get where she went wrong. She’s too dense for any logic to filter through.

kimmie ~ the guy was so disgusted with them calling him he answered the important question then hung up. Before I got out the car, they asked her if she would do the same going forward (hide the fact she had a kid) and she said yes, especially since the way things turned out….WTH!

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
11:12 am

kimmie – I had to laugh that she seemed so shocked that no one had her back in regards to texting him the truth. I wish he would have just answered the question this morning about whether or not he would date a woman with children. That would have finally shut her up, I think. If I had a child, that would be one of the first things I would put out there. If you don’t like it, then we don’t need to be together. Simples as that…

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
11:12 am

I guess I’m a coward, because where ever that, I’m tired of this isht feeling hits me that’s where I’m going to tell you, Whether it’s on the phone, texting back and forth, emailing back and forth, or in person. No since in waiting for the right time.

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
11:12 am

kimmie ~ what I don’t understand with that woman is why she doesn’t see that her lying for 3 months cost her the relationship. Apparently, she has no concept of what “good character” means.

cba ~ GO FIRST LADY!

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
11:15 am

And, news like that shouldn’t be reviewed in a text. Bet he looked at that text 5x before deleting it.

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
11:15 am

Leggs – I was getting so frustrated with that girl. She kept talking about how he wouldn’t tell the truth anyway. She couldn’t see what she did wrong. I feel for the guy since they still have to work together…

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
11:17 am

Bluz they work together and he didn’t know she had a child?

kimmie

September 5th, 2012
11:17 am

I just couldn’t get past a mother putting her child off as her NEICE!! Like saying “hey, she ain’t mine, I can send her home anytime I want”!! And to have this charade going for 3 months!

Leggs, you are right it was no getting thru to her!!!

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
11:19 am

I don’t understand why some people choose to use text and/or email to say certain things. When you’ve established a relationship, certain things should be said face to face…no matter how hard it is.

kimmie

September 5th, 2012
11:19 am

Single – The show cast asked about that, how can you work somewhere and no one know you have a child. She said she had just started working there and met dude the first day.

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
11:20 am

S/H – Apparently, she just started the job 3 months ago and since she got into this lie, she didn’t tell any of her new co-workers that she had a child…

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
11:20 am

Kimmie okay, that makes more since, she scooped him up before anyone else had a chance (LOL)

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
11:22 am

That woman really believed that once he started having real feelings for her he would accept her and her child. Why don’t some women understand that starting from the get go with deceit will never help land you that man!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
11:23 am

Started having real feelings, accept her and her child that he knew nothing about (LOL)

kimmie

September 5th, 2012
11:24 am

She just kept going on about “if he were a REAL man”……..! How about if she was a REAL woman……?!!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
11:26 am

Kimmie, most of the time people don’t see the part they played in anything that’s not going their way. That’s part of the unconditional love thing, (love me with all my flaws no matter what they are)

kimmie

September 5th, 2012
11:31 am

Single – I know he says to himself “I really dodged a bullet there!!” And you know, we all can be a little in denial when we really want something, but she really sounded crazy!

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
11:31 am

She kept calling him a jerk because if he had feelings for her he wouldn’t be acting like he is now. She didn’t step into psycho, she was dipped in it!!!

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
11:35 am

I just wanted to smack her…

You know…it can be hard to be honest in the beginning about some things, but if a relationship is meant to be, then the other person will accept whatever it is you need to tell them…

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
12:20 pm

Too quiet on here today…

For some reason, I am full of major anxiety today! I hate this feeling. I just have so much going on personally and professionally. I’m feeling very ADD and jittery today. Ugh!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
12:36 pm

Bluz, slow down! also it’s not hard to be honest, if you don’t feel like sharing it, just say you don’t, but don’t lie about it.

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
12:40 pm

S/H – This anxiety just hits some days. I’m working on a big show the end of this month and realizing how much I have to do!!! I always take on a little too much.

Sometimes, you have to share things from the beginning to be fair to the other person. I have to say that it really hurt me when my ex told me that he fell in love with the person he thought I was. He didn’t know about my “issues” until a few months in. He even said this in the end and I told him that once he found out who I really was, then he should have left if he didn’t like it. I’m pretty open now about the mental things I have to deal with. It can hurt me or help me. I just never want to hear the words again that my ex said to me. I’d rather be up front and even give you some tips on what to do when I get certain ways. :-)

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
12:43 pm

Not only do I share it to prevent that from happening again, but I’m involved in an organization that is trying to reduce the stigma of mental illness. I used to be ashamed and hide it, but now, I’m an open book about it and have had several people come to me and thank me for being open and it encouraged them to be open…

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
12:43 pm

Many don’t get the fact that they should let the other person make an informed decision going forward from the facts presented to them. Omission isn’t good when one is assessing whether to nuture the relationship or walk away from it.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
12:44 pm

Bluz , the person he thought you were, I’ve found that if you keep your mouth shut, and your eyes open, and your ears muffled, you’ll learn everything you need to know about a person without ever asking a question. I’f you’ve got to give tips, is this really the type of person you want to deal with?

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
12:45 pm

Howdy MIA

Today’s headliner says it all~

O/T: NFC EAST BATTLE 2NITE!! G-MEN PLEASE CRUSH ROMO & DEM COWGIRLS!!! #LOL HAPPY NFL SEASON FOR REAL! preseason lasted forever lol~

sigh with today and getting over the hump……lol

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
12:47 pm

That’s true…I would tell my ex certain things that would help me when I was having a panic attack or in a really deep depression and he never made use of them. He would tell me that I had to figure out how to handle it. I look back and ask myself “why did I stay so long?”

Leggs – you are right about that! It can be hard to sit back and wait for the other person to process the information and make a decision…

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
12:55 pm

“It can be hard to sit back and wait for the other person to process the information and make a decision…”

Hard? Really? What’s too long in your book for them to come to a decision?

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
1:02 pm

I guess it’s hard to sit and wonder if you’re being judged when being judged is very difficult to deal with. I’d rather a decision be made quickly on whether or not a relationship should be pursued than to be strung along. It just stinks when you’re rejected when you’ve been honest.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
1:07 pm

Bluz when you’re in a relationship, you’re always being judged, and most of the time you’re not being strung along, it’s a learning process, and it takes time to learn who a person is, not just off one instance.

Into the Light

September 5th, 2012
1:39 pm

Marco…….. :)

LOL@Bluz and the irony of her being the one wanting to shake someone (i.e. the “radio” girl)….. Did you want to call and ask, “Are you hearing us????” :lol: :lol:

OAN: Stamps, I am leaving early today. My body has had it. It’s like, “Nope. You either gonna go home and rest or I’m gonna take you out.” That’s what I’m imagining it saying after I nearly passed out a few moments ago. #%^)% on being sick!

shlomo

September 5th, 2012
1:40 pm

why would you want to get your tongue pierced?

Sassy Me...Feeling a wild hair... :-)

September 5th, 2012
1:43 pm

O/T: NFC EAST BATTLE 2NITE!! G-MEN PLEASE CRUSH ROMO & DEM COWGIRLS!!! #LOL HAPPY NFL SEASON FOR REAL!

Pardon me Ms. Lady?! That is how it’s NOT going down tonight…I hope :lol:

My brother would be crushed….he’s been a Dallas fan since he was a young ‘un…

SlimUno

September 5th, 2012
1:46 pm

Wooooow just two pages folks!…oh well, Howdy Doody peeps. Are we talking football again now?

And hellerrrr

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
1:48 pm

Sassy I am beating you 1-0 about to be 2-0 sis! may the Giants stomp on~ lol

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
1:49 pm

Sassy my boo is harassing me now about these effin cowgirls LOL he needs to give Eli his props as he beats Romo down ALL the time! lol smh! a house divided tonight over wings and beer! ha

Into the Light

September 5th, 2012
1:50 pm

@Slim: You got a poem or a skit or sumthin’ to liven it up???? (fingers crossed)

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
1:53 pm

Sassy ~ those wild hairs seem to sprout about every 3 mos (lolol).

Robert

September 5th, 2012
1:55 pm

“We are never getting back together”

Men never have that option. I have known women who will get mad at you one minute and make passionate love to you the next day (make-up sex). I had relationships with women and after the affair ended we are still good friends. There is no need for aynomosity. In fact most older women (40-50) would prefer to date a man who was a lover and friend in the past and knows her likes and dis-likes rather than take a chance on someone new. Because they have a history together things just might work out well the 2nd time around..

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
1:56 pm

I know you’re thankful you have someone to help you pull them out. I’m cracking up…

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
1:59 pm

ITL keep your contagious self at home!!

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:03 pm

Why am I caracking up at Robert’s post?? We all have options….lol

In fact most older women (40-50) would prefer to date a man who was a lover and friend in the past and knows her likes and dis-likes rather than take a chance on someone new.

Hmmmm, I don’t know about this. But, okay.

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:04 pm

For the sake of avoidance and running from deja vu, imma have to disagree, Robert.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
2:05 pm

C I know this lady who married someone recently she dated 25 years ago and boy is there a story of familiarity with them! 0_o #options lol

Robert

September 5th, 2012
2:06 pm

@Celisea – “wanting more of a bang out of life ”

Whenever you are ready the “BIG” Bang is here and ready for you. lol

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
2:06 pm

meant limited options per se~ lol

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
2:06 pm

C, he was right about one thing, it’s usually not over until the woman says it’s over, cause you know we always thinking with the wrong head (LOL)

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:07 pm

Lady – Girl, unless we’ve both changed and evolved over the years/time, that’s just hitting the repeat button….IMO…lol Almost like saying “oooooo, you know me so well”, mmm hmm, I sure do. PASS!

In all seriousness, I wouldn’t say people can’t reignite, I’d be lying if I said there was a hardline there and dead set against it, but if both parties didn’t learn something and change, then yeah, history is gonna repeat itself….lol

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
2:08 pm

I’m sitting here thinking the same thing, Celisea. Not so sure about that.

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:09 pm

Robert – Whenever you are ready the “BIG” Bang is here and ready for you. lol

LOLOLOLOL…..I am ca-racking up. Thanks Robert, that was the laugh of the day for me :mrgreen:

Single and Happy – You/y’all have options, y’all opt to give it one more go, per that other head…lol

Into the Light

September 5th, 2012
2:09 pm

Dang, Stamps. I’m leaving soon….. why you gotta be mean to the sick girl? :(

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:10 pm

Leggs – Everything gets dumped on the women over 40 category. Just all loose and willy nilly and anything goes…lol

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
2:10 pm

digressing C~ lol you see my point! lol

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
2:10 pm

I recently meet back up with a ex or 23 years, after 2 weeks of conversation, she was saying she should have married me, and i was thinking now I remember why I left you then. Talk about familiarity (LOL)

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:11 pm

Lady – Yes ma’am….clearly…lol

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
2:12 pm

ITL get well soon, have to put some of that tough love on ya

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
2:14 pm

C the other option is to go somewhere and hope I get some, that’s the top head talking, the bottom head is saying fool why you going to do that when you know you can get some there.

When you leave the top head is said, why the hell did I do that, but the bottom head is sing Lalalalal :-D

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
2:15 pm

I know Celisea. It’s like women over 45 are more willing to settle just to have someone to nestle up with. instead of being alone. No so. I bet demographically, a lot more older women don’t mind being alone. Having peace may not get them “sexed” up, but having peace may help them live longer and for some even happily.

Does that make sense?

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:16 pm

Single and Happy – I’m agreeing. I’m so glad God gave us women one head. That way we don’t struggle as much (I think) with being rational…lol Maybe HE just knew a woman with two heads would surely be double the trouble we already are…lol

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:17 pm

Leggs – Heck yeah. Peace of mind hands down.

Into the Light

September 5th, 2012
2:21 pm

@Stamps: Tough love….tequila….either way. :lol:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
2:22 pm

Peace of mind trumps peice of a$$ anytime :-D

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:23 pm

Single and Happy – Agreeing again. Of course, you’re telling your age by saying that…lol

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
2:23 pm

ITL you need some gin and honey :-)

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
2:23 pm

who is Stamps?!? I missed that lol

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
2:24 pm

ITL – go getcha a hot toddie (sp?) – I promise it will help you feel better!!!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
2:24 pm

C, you know I’m not ashamed of my age, :-) but I’ve always been like that, I can honestly say I’ve had one crazy ex, and when she finally let me out her house I never looked back, I don’t care what she offered :-)

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
2:25 pm

I’m Stamps, S&H green stamps , nice to meet you lady

SlimUno

September 5th, 2012
2:25 pm

ITL – Sorry chica, no poem or skit at the moment…still peeking in periodically in between work. But i’ll see what I can do if time permits.

Ok, last night I get a text from some unknown number asking how i’m doing. I of course, do the normal thing, “I apologize but i’m uncertain of who this is”. Anyway, it turns out to be the manager of this sports bar I went to a few times. My stepdad sings or whatever and this place does a live band or some sort of musician on the weekends. I thought it would be a nice gig for my stepdad so I spoke to one of the other managers about seeing if he’d be interested in having him sing there. This was probably last year and my pops did do a few shows there, not to mention have another group he knew to perform a few times…So when I went to this same spot for my birthday, the mgr was in there and bought me a drink since it was my bday and all (back in June). So now i’m wondering what in the hell does he want with me. He said he had not seen me since my bday and needed to talk to me. I naturally assumed it was to maybe get back in contact with my stepdad for future shows or something but the dude was like, nothing is wrong, I just want to talk to you. This whole things sounds fishy to me because ole dude is married and why in the world would he be reaching out to me after all this time? I’m not into dealing with married men on any level other than platonic.

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
2:26 pm

We are double the trouble, Celisea with 2 cup sizes (roflmao).

Robert

September 5th, 2012
2:27 pm

@leggs – “Omission isn’t good when one is assessing whether to nuture the relationship or walk away from it.”

Sometimes it is good to be “Bold” and make a decision about the “Man” and the direction you want the relationship to go. Ask yourself these questions – Do I treat him like I love him? or Does he treat me like he loves me? This is a good situation. My advice, love the man who loves you. He will not cheat on you or hurt your feelings. He will marry you regardless of how many kids you have, how much money you make or where you live. He will love regardless of your questionable past.

Into the Light

September 5th, 2012
2:28 pm

That does sound good, Bluz. I was feeling a bit better on Saturday (or maybe that was just the Captain talking) but then miserable again that night. :( I see some whisky in my future. :lol:

@Stamps: gin and honey??? Never heard of that combo. Usually do honey, lemon, and whiskey.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
2:29 pm

oh ok! nice to meet you too! ;)

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
2:29 pm

A woman with 2 head, double the nagging, naw don’t need that.

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:30 pm

Slim – Run, girl run….stalker. Anyone that gets any personal info on you without coming through you…STALKER! And if you got to sneak to get it, that’s nothing but ill intentions behind it.

Single and Happy – We all have or has been the “crazy” in someone life and probably that one good lesson…lol

Leggs – My double is a heaping…”D”

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
2:31 pm

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:32 pm

have had crazy or been someone’s “crazy”…is what I meant

My advice, love the man who loves you. He will not cheat on you or hurt your feelings I agree here.

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:33 pm

Lady – I know what I’m speaking = STALKER lol

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
2:33 pm

My advice, love the man who loves you. He will not cheat on you or hurt your feelings I agree here.<<<<<<<<<<<That says so much~ LOVE IT~ :-)

Robert

September 5th, 2012
2:34 pm

@Celisea – “Maybe HE just knew a woman with two heads would surely be double the trouble we already are”

Once upon a time I knew a woman who had “two heads” . Did she move to ATL? If you know her please tell her to give me a call.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
2:35 pm

stop C~ you have officially got me over the hump! well somewhat lol I am still waiting patiently waiting on other info though~ life and its twist and turns but I am still standing~

SlimUno

September 5th, 2012
2:35 pm

Cel – I think the thing that make me feel more creeped out is it’s now September, so you’ve been wanting to call me since June?!! Not to mention that i’ve even met your wife before when she came to one of the shows! :roll:

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:36 pm

Robert – I can attest that I know of no two-headed women and probably thankfully so…lol Why do you want to reconnect?

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:38 pm

Lady – :) and what other info?

Slim – Creepy is understated for sure. I tell you, men that are never up to no go, never sleep. Buddy is texting you from months ago. You gave him your number? And even so, to misuse. Run girl!!!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
2:40 pm

it’s alot of 2 headed women walking around ATL (LOL) problem is you don’t find this out until later (ROTFLMAO)

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
2:42 pm

stuff C~ I just know this too shall pass~ I am good~ lol

Alrighty then MIA crew and the daily funnies read yall tomorrow! Enjoy the NFL tonight! Cuffing season has started! LMBAO! #peace!

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:43 pm

Lady – Keep your head up. It’s all good :)

SlimUno

September 5th, 2012
2:43 pm

Cel – Yeah, only reason he had my number from LAST YEAR was strictly for business and my stepdad. Nothing more, nothing less.

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:45 pm

Slim – I hope you handed him a few choice words…lol Too bad you couldn’t forward the text to his wife…lololol

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 5th, 2012
2:47 pm

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
2:48 pm

Peace of mind trumps peice of a$$ anytime.

Yes Indeed!

“He said he had not seen me since my bday and needed to talk to me.” = Translation: He’s been thinking about you and would like to know if he can dive in or are there parameters???

He’s jonesing for you, girly!

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
2:51 pm

“I can attest that I know of no two-headed women and probably thankfully” – Celisea, I gather you won’t be watching that new reality show of the Abby and ?? Sisters with two heads and one body. From the promos, it seems that they are living their life and could give a rat’s behind what others think. I heard one of them is engaged….how?

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:52 pm

Leggs – Actually, I heard about that but no, I won’t be watching. I don’t have much for reality tv….lol

SlimUno

September 5th, 2012
2:53 pm

OMG, I just left out of the bathroom and heard the loudest longest airiest fart in a public bathroom ever! :lol: :lol: I cannot stop laughing!!!!!!! :lol:

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
2:56 pm

Slim…maybe he really does want to talk business if you got your dad and a couple other bands in there. Maybe he needs some help getting more bands in?

Robert

September 5th, 2012
2:57 pm

@Single and Happier “Life Happens!” –

I hope and pray I don’t get fooled by one of ATL’s finest (drag queens, etc.). I will “catch a case” if that ever happens.

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
2:59 pm

I hope and pray I don’t get fooled by one of ATL’s finest (drag queens, etc.). I will “catch a case” if that ever happens

Ohhhhh, lolololol I was truly missing the two headed woman thingy. Oookie dokie now. Yeah, I would run like never before.

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
2:59 pm

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
2:59 pm

Slim, at least they took it to it’s proper place.

Bluz: Seriously, really, seriously!!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
3:00 pm

Robert, just run, aint nothing worth catching no case over.

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
3:00 pm

Bluz: Seriously, really, seriously!!

I didn’t even say anything. I just wanted to post this…. :roll:

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
3:02 pm

NAIVETE should automatically default to the 25 and under age group..doh If you are over twenty and it’s hanging on you, you ought to catch a rash or something…lol

SlimUno

September 5th, 2012
3:06 pm

Bluz – My intuition tells me otherwise. I was busy when he hit me up last night so I got a follow–up text from him a little while ago. I asked what he needed to discuss with me and he said “Nothing wrong, I just would like to talk”…That does not sound like a business call.

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
3:07 pm

over 25, as in 26 or older…is what I meant

SlimUno

September 5th, 2012
3:09 pm

SH – That’s what I know too but damn if it wasn’t funny. I tried my hardest not to bust out laughing…didn’t want them to feel embarrassed.

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
3:10 pm

Just trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. I’ve worked in the music industry and have gotten calls or texts 6-12 months later about working together…

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
3:11 pm

Slim – by all means…go with your guy feeling! If it was about business, I would hope that he would have said so in today’s text…

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
3:11 pm

gut…not guy feeling!

Sassy Me...Feeling a wild hair... :-)

September 5th, 2012
3:11 pm

those wild hairs seem to sprout about every 3 mos

I’ve got a “condition”.. :oops:

I am beating you 1-0 about to be 2-0 sis

I know…GSU messed up last week but oh well…

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
3:13 pm

It’s not a business call. Don’t give him any leverage. He thinks he’s coming in like Hercules. Cut off his hair (air time w/you) thereby stomping on his perceived power. That man is straight up tricking.

Robert

September 5th, 2012
3:14 pm

@Leggs – “It’s like women over 45 are more willing to settle just to have someone to nestle up with. instead of being alone. ”

From my experience most women over 40 have already experienced life (marriage, kids, house, etc.) Maturity has taught them never to say never. They are smarter, wiser and better than before and are not quick to judge. If you have ever been in a long term relationship that ended regardless of the what, how and who you appreciate your freedom of choice. Some women over 40 choose to date younger men because they yearn for tight bodies and stamina to go all night long. Other women choose older men because of the security they offer (retirement, etc.). Either way women over 40 have lots of choices when it comes to dating the 2nd time around.

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
3:15 pm

Bluz ~ the difference here is he has not said once about working together. If it’s business it’s stated upfront. Anything else is a guise for extracurriculum activities. He’s snaking around her ankles trying to look up her skirt….

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
3:15 pm

If it was about business, he would have picked up the phone and walked through the front door with it. “Hey, I have something your stepdad may be interested in” NOT “nothing wrong, just wanna talk…..”

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
3:17 pm

Robert ~ you twisted my post to favor your earlier post. That’s not what I was saying.

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
3:17 pm

Robert – Either way women over 40 have lots of choices when it comes to dating the 2nd time around

Imma agree here as well. Mmeello probably wouldn’t agree (lol), but just being about to say what you think and want, what you’re gonna do versus not, what you’re gonna tolerate versus not, is a heck of a range. More than folks would know.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
3:19 pm

If it was business, as she stated, her step dad, and other bands he know have played there several times! so he’s knows how to get in touch with them if he needs to, and it’s not through her, she’s not their manager.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
3:20 pm

Can I become an option :-) Oh wait, i’m happier (LOL)

Comon Cents

September 5th, 2012
3:24 pm

Good Afternoon, all! I’m doing some reading to catch up, but you guys are going slow today! Only 3 pages! We are dragging through this week. :lol:

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
3:31 pm

This day will just not end!!!! Ugh! I just wanna go home and curl up on the couch and do nothing…

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
3:32 pm

SlimUno ~ don’t forget to ask about your finder’s fee.

Comon Cents

September 5th, 2012
3:34 pm

Slim~ 1 word. RUN!!! Leggs is right. Dude is trying to snake his way in by being all sociable like y’all are long lost friends. Cut that isht off.

Robert~ No matter what the age most women have lots of options if they choose to exercise them.

SlimUno

September 5th, 2012
3:45 pm

Leggs – I got the finders fee for when I initially got my stepdad on there. But you’re right, he’s looking for a sucka aka sidepiece and that is NOT going to be me.

Bluzgirl

September 5th, 2012
3:59 pm

Slim…you can’t help it that you’re too darn cute! :-)

SlimUno

September 5th, 2012
4:01 pm

Bluz – I may be ‘cute’ but cute has nothing on h0rny married toads ;-)

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
4:07 pm

Just shameful. That’s the funny part, some men really think we can’t see through the smoke screen. Greedy arse married men seeing if they can still “catch.”

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
4:07 pm

Or is it REALLY naivete???

Random – I wonder what make people tick? I wonder why people do the things they do? I wonder why people promote something on one end but do totally different? Such is life. I wonder, I wonder. No matter…be who (or not) you are and don’t worry, beeeee happy!

Back to working…sigh, deep breath and shrugs

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
4:08 pm

Greedy arse married men seeing if they can still “catch.”

Some more greedy than others. You can smell it!!!

Comon Cents

September 5th, 2012
4:09 pm

Slim~ You mean you’re NOT down with OPP? :lol:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 5th, 2012
4:10 pm

C, you will get a migraine trying to figure that out

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
4:12 pm

Single and Happy – Those were all rhetorical. Trust me, most people ask questions they already know the answers to. Nothing for me to sweat. I think living and being who you aren’t is more of a migraine. But, then again that’s a way of life for many.

Again, those were just lil ole randoms

SlimUno

September 5th, 2012
4:13 pm

CC – That’s a good way of putting it…I wouldn’t want some thirsty chick trying to sniff out my dude so I try to ensure I give that same respect. I’m not a person of drama and I do not need that kind of excitement in my life…i.e having some chick calling me wanting to know what me and (insert toad here) have going on, how often we talk, where we met, how often we see each other, what do we do when we do see each other, if i’ve been to their house, what all he told me about her, their 5 kids split up between 3 other baby mama’s etc. Just typing that made me tired. lol

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
4:15 pm

You can smell it and you can see it in there beady eyes. You almost can see the drool….

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
4:15 pm

Actually some things become funny at some point…lololol

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
4:19 pm

Slim’s post put this in my head…I’m sure it’s gonna be on the brain the rest of the day…lol

You can like the life you’re living
You can live the life your like
You can even marry Harry
But mess around with Ike

Comon Cents

September 5th, 2012
4:21 pm

C~ Isn’t that from a Bette Midler movie?

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
4:22 pm

Comon Cents

September 5th, 2012
4:23 pm

No, It’s Chicago!

Celisea

September 5th, 2012
4:24 pm

I’m sounding like Lady, going all random and deep :) :)

Waving at Lady if you’re reading.

Night folks!

Leggs

September 5th, 2012
4:27 pm