Dating: Trivial pursuit?
I was surprised to learn that a couple of my guy friends were still pursuing women who had not shown any real interest in them. I know some men like the challenge of chasing some women. Women they believe are worth the effort. How persistent did they plan to be, though?
I wonder how men decide that a woman is going to be worth all that work. Would they need to see some effort on her part to reciprocate?
I know a lot of women who treat men badly, simply because they know that the guy will stick around and endure it.
Do men like a challenge? Is it always about the chase and the pursuit that makes it exciting?
Ladies, do you know think playing hard to get is a good approach when men are pursuing you?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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SlimUno
August 31st, 2012
3:01 pm
PG – Women love a reason to dress up…just you wait, Halloween is right around the corner lol
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
3:07 pm
Slim…
She dresses up on a regular basis. So, I know that you are right. She has nurses uniform, she has pilots uniform, she has teachers uniform (which is just her regular suits that she wears to work), catsuits, all kinds of boots.
We actually have put pole and such downstairs. So, I know that she likes to perform.
Comon Cents
August 31st, 2012
3:09 pm
It is one reason that I am hesitant of becoming a Falcons season ticket holder.
It only takes getting thrown out of one game to calm that down. We are season ticket holders and I got us shown the door last year after arguing with some Aint’s who were sitting in our section.
Trust, the hubs has never let me live it down. Will never happen again.
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
3:10 pm
If it wasn’t for the boom boom room, I wouldn’t know much Wocka Flocka…. Round of Applause.
Comon Cents
August 31st, 2012
3:10 pm
I got a friend with a pole in the basement.
What? I’m just kiddin like jason…
Unless you’re gon do it
SlimUno
August 31st, 2012
3:12 pm
PG – Daaaaang! Sounds like you struck gold!…but after being together for so long, does it ever get old? (even with the diff outfits and stuff?)
Leggs
August 31st, 2012
3:13 pm
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
3:13 pm
CC-
I know that the tickets aren’t cheap and I would be straight ticked if I lost money over some stupid mess. I may change my mind, she is the one that keeps bringing it up.
Leggs
August 31st, 2012
3:18 pm
O/T: Now, this is a laughing shame:
‘Here Comes Honey Boo Boo’ ratings top RNC, Paul Ryan veep speech on Fox News
The latest episode of TLC’s ‘Here Comes Honey Boo Boo’ drew more television viewers than cable coverage of Paul Ryan’s highly anticipated speech to the GOP convention Wednesday night, says Nielsen.
Comon Cents
August 31st, 2012
3:18 pm
Slim~ I will chime in for PG on that one; the answer would be a resounding NO!
I love the role play. Even a little rape fantasy every once in a while… 
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
3:19 pm
Slim..
Nope. That is how you keep it fresh. I have even done like Kevin James did in one episode of King of Queens and showed her some moves on the pole. Ones that I’ve seen done in my Gentlemen’s club, Club Nikki, and Blue Flame Lounge days. I’ve joke on here that i probably really put some chick through college or at least helped her get her corvette.
She wanted to go to a club once. I took her to the Cheetah. Must more tame than the black strip clubs. It is actually cleaner, too.
SlimUno
August 31st, 2012
3:23 pm
PG – I found the clubs similar to Cheetah to be too vanilla…the girls didn’t really work it like they do in black clubs. I went to Pink Pony once and the girls danced slow to every single song no matter what the tempo was lol But I feel ya on the clean part though
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
3:28 pm
Slim…
I know my wife. If I’d taken her to the Blue Flame, which is about 10 min from the crib, she would have been ready to leave upon entrance.
Yes, the Cheetah is vanilla, but there drinks are pretty good. The black clubs try to water down stuff too much. I don’t want whisky flavored ice for $7.
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
3:32 pm
Leggs…
Guess what? It will beat Obama and the Dems. next week, too. The conventions rarely sway people. I don’t watch them. I will catch a debate or two, though. Those aren’t as scripted as the conventions.
I did get to see the 12 min Eastwood thing in a partner’s office. It was kinda odd and rambling. The partner is a staunch Republican and even he stated that it looked sad.
Comon Cents
August 31st, 2012
3:34 pm
I’ve joke on here that i probably really put some chick through college or at least helped her get her corvette.
I just wonder if any of tem ever finish college while working the pole. I know that’s the party line “I’m working my way through school”, but none of the strippers I knew from the Mo Brown days ever finished school (or even went to class for that matter…)
DreamsMaterialize
August 31st, 2012
3:35 pm
You all done moved on to the “ballet” huh? I love a good dance. lol
Comon Cents
August 31st, 2012
3:36 pm
PG~ I believe that this is election is going to come down to who will do the least amount of damage to this country over the next four years. Both horses in this year’s race are lame losers, IMO.
SlimUno
August 31st, 2012
3:38 pm
CC – They were taking classes at SU (Stripper University) DUH
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
3:44 pm
CC -
I actually know one or two that did graduate. They worked at Club Nikki and attended UGA back in the 90’s. I saw them in the club once while visiting Nikki and saw them again at UGA while visiting one of my friends. They graduated with my friend in 1996. I took some pictures with all of them in their cap and gowns at the Tate Center after the graduation took place in Sanford Stadium.
So, I know 2 that graduated. I know both their stage names and the guberment names. One is an attorney that works in the Galleria area. So, you never know who opposing counsel did to get where they are.
I must confess that while in college I did one bachelorette party for some quick cash since I couldn’t really work according to the NCAA. Females were crazy! Grabbing at stuff and all. It was good money, but I didn’t do it again. Speaking of costumes, we wore practice uniforms and were athletes instead of cops or firemen. No costs for us, but all income.
DreamsMaterialize
August 31st, 2012
3:46 pm
I just wonder if any of tem ever finish college while working the pole.
Comon Some do. I’ve met some grads who admitted to dancing in their college days. I do remember one who was at CAU while I was at the The House…she danced at Nikki’s. She was superfine too.
Leggs
August 31st, 2012
3:46 pm
H——- is that you???? I was at that party
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
3:48 pm
Mrs. PG did Poleteaze or something like that. That is where she started, but she goes somewhere else now. So, that is how we got to the whole pole thing. She likes it for exercise. She has a gymnastics background. She was involved with it until high school up in NY. She likes using some of the same moves on the pole.
Comon Cents
August 31st, 2012
3:51 pm
Alright, y’all. I’m bailing for the weekend. I don’t think that my brain can concentrate on any more work and it’s Slim & PG’s faults.
All I’m thinking about is the Big O, Beer & Football.
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
3:52 pm
DM & CC
They can take home some serious bank too. The ones that I knew could take home 300-500 on a bad night. After the house and DJ got their cuts. Cash money, bills, Dividends, Cheddar, etc. Of there were some really off nights, but I’ve seen one of them count quite a bit on a Saturday morning after a Friday night windfall.
SlimUno
August 31st, 2012
3:52 pm
Sounds like Mrs Swiss with her Yoga moves
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
3:53 pm
CC-
Have a good weekend.
SlimUno
August 31st, 2012
3:53 pm
“Big O, Beer & Football”
CC – That’s a man’s dream
Leggs
August 31st, 2012
3:54 pm
Enjoy your weekend, Comon!
SlimUno
August 31st, 2012
3:57 pm
I’ve seen one of them count quite a bit on a Saturday morning after a Friday night windfall
PG – um…does that mean you were spending the night with them too?
SlimUno
August 31st, 2012
3:58 pm
Comon is trying to dip to get her comon
Leggs
August 31st, 2012
3:58 pm
SlimUno ~ I purposely left that one alone (lololol).
Leggs
August 31st, 2012
3:59 pm
You should be proud, SlimUno (re: Comon dipping).
SlimUno
August 31st, 2012
4:01 pm
Leggs – I know she’s in a hurry and excited but she needs to be careful before she slips and falls
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
4:01 pm
Slim-
In my single days, I dated many a stripper. I still had my nights free because they had to work and I could hang with the fellas. I could rabbit dance for most of the day. I was great when I wasn’t looking to settle down.
However, in that particular case, I stopped by to pick a friend up that was dating one. He needed to pick up his ride from the shop and she needed to get some sleep .
Leggs
August 31st, 2012
4:05 pm
So, was she counting out the money to get his ride out the shop???
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
4:11 pm
Nope, she just gotten in. She did a bachelor party after her shift at the club. I think that she had separated the bills and counted about 6K between the two jobs.
He had his own dough. He was a football player whose game checks were about $100,000 per check. He was on the active roster, but didn’t get in games much. He didn’t need her money.
They were just started dating at the time. S
Leggs
August 31st, 2012
4:12 pm
I like that answer PoppaG (lol).
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
4:14 pm
He was picking up a Ferrari that he wanted to get some custom stuff done.
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
4:15 pm
What answer?
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
4:17 pm
She just happened to have money all over the place in stacks. So, it was just easier for me to pick him up to get his ride. They weren’t married and she owed him no duty to help him get his car.
She trusted him just enough to have the money out in front of him.
Leggs
August 31st, 2012
4:17 pm
She was counting out her money from her two gigs and he had his own money to get this own car out the shop.
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
4:20 pm
oh, ok
Leggs
August 31st, 2012
4:22 pm
I haven’t been feeling wel all day. I’m going home.
Enjoy the weekend!
PEACE!
DreamsMaterialize
August 31st, 2012
4:22 pm
have a good weekend guys.
Poppa Grande
August 31st, 2012
4:30 pm
Have a good one all.
ATL Guy
August 31st, 2012
4:40 pm
Am I too late? Tardy for the party? Did I miss my tagteam boos? Awwwwwww dayum
SlimUno
August 31st, 2012
4:43 pm
Hope you feel better…i’ll be out of here in just a few shawt minutes…it’s going to be a pizza and goose kind of night
Be safe and no DUI’s
SlimUno
August 31st, 2012
4:48 pm
Did I miss my tagteam boos
AG – You still have your left and right hands so you’re just in time.
PEACE
benita michelle wheeler
August 31st, 2012
7:23 pm
i like the chase….anyway, it would be great to meet an old school guy that chase back. One day as sit and celebrate my son’s b day. Late, i make love to this computer. computer love.