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Dating: Trivial pursuit?

I was surprised to learn that a couple of my guy friends were still pursuing women who had not shown any real interest in them. I know some men like the challenge of chasing some women. Women they believe are worth the effort. How persistent did they plan to be, though?

I wonder how men decide that a woman is going to be worth all that work. Would they need to see some effort on her part to reciprocate?
I know a lot of women who treat men badly, simply because they know that the guy will stick around and endure it.

Do men like a challenge? Is it always about the chase and the pursuit that makes it exciting?

Ladies, do you know think playing hard to get is a good approach when men are pursuing you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

249 comments Add your comment

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
10:05 am

O/T: Clint Eastwood is being raked over the coals over his speech w/The Invisible Man (lol).

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
10:05 am

He needs to stick to movies. He’s very good at that.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
10:05 am

I am just now eating my yogurt for breakfast~ what a morning and its after 10! yay! ;)

Jake...SPJTWB

August 31st, 2012
10:07 am

WHat up people, nothing on the topic other than, don’t play hard to get to long…wouldn’t want to be sitting there with the bitter beer face when dude moves on to the next lady…

Hey Lady

Celisea

August 31st, 2012
10:07 am

I LOL’d at Comon’s post…lol Or similiarly dreaming of a relationship based on a date. Run Comon ruuuuun.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
10:10 am

Hi Jake! ;) Happy Friday Bruh!

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
10:11 am

LOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yall are killing me softly!

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
10:16 am

C~ I think Imma have to throw that one back and let him go back to pursuing you. I can’t keep up with our “relationship” because I am pretty sure I wasn’t there for half the events. :lol:

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
10:18 am

PG~ The best things in life cannot be seen, touched or even held… at least that’s what the restraining order says, right? :lol:

Celisea

August 31st, 2012
10:21 am

Comon – Sorry hon, but I CANNOT accept…lol.

Poppa Grande

August 31st, 2012
10:23 am

CC-

Yeah…The order says the best things in life aren’t to be appreciated using ANY of your five senses. So no calling or writing either.

Poppa Grande

August 31st, 2012
10:24 am

Leggs

I didn’t watch it, but I heard about it this morning while preparing for work.

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
10:24 am

R.I.P. Mrs. Lucimarian Tolliver Roberts (Robin Roberts’ Mom passed yesterday).

disco

August 31st, 2012
10:26 am

I envision CC and celisea in a reverse tug of war with ATL guy in the middle “you take him – no. you take him.”

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
10:26 am

Me too, PoppaG. The NY Daily News is calling him a laughingstock.

Celisea

August 31st, 2012
10:28 am

disco – That’s one time the prize goes to the loser…lol

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
10:29 am

Leggs that was terribly sad~ much hope for her and her future~

Poppa Grande

August 31st, 2012
10:34 am

Leggs

Robin seems to be in one of those negative periods in life. She survived breast cancer and now leaves on medical leave for something else. Unfortunately, before she focus on her treatments for this illness, her mom dies. We all go through those periods in life. If you haven’t, keep living.

I remember her being on the evening news her in Atlanta when I was a kid. She handled sports on channel five news back when it was a CBS affiliate not a Fox affiliate.

Prayers to her and family

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
10:36 am

my pandora is rockin’ today and I am ready for happy hour! yay!

kimmie

August 31st, 2012
10:36 am

Morning All!

On topic – The key word is “play” hard to get. Play indicates games, or that you are not serious. Or, you’re not good at what you do, you are just “playing”. I don’t advocate being easy by any stretch. A healthy chase by both parties involved is welcome and keeps things interesting. By not being easy, you allow the relationship to develop, you get to know each other before jumping headfirst in. But it’s pathetic to continually chase someone that does not want to be caught. And yes, Diva, not only are there women that treat men badly because they can, there are men that do the same.

What are your plans for this holiday weekend? The kids are going to be gone, so me and the hubs are gonna have a REAL good time! :cool:

kimmie

August 31st, 2012
10:38 am

We all go through those periods in life. If you haven’t, keep living.

Poppa – So true. I know I sure have been there.

Celisea

August 31st, 2012
10:40 am

I’m just happy Robin made it there in time to see her mom before her passing. I hope she does well in her treatments to come.

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
10:41 am

PoppaG ~ It does look likr she’s on a black cloud. She started her medical leave a day early so she could rush to her mother’s side. She and her sister made it just in time to say goodbye. Robin has a tough road ahead of her, but she’ll make it to the other side of thru.

disco

August 31st, 2012
10:42 am

kimmie – not that y’all are planning to have a REAL good time. lol. not mad at you.

kimmie

August 31st, 2012
10:44 am

disco – I love the kids dearly, but it’s nice to have a little breather!!

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
10:44 am

me too C~

I am starting with Shout this evening for tapas and spirits and then hanging with our couple friends throughout the weekend……oh lil lady is having a party at a local water park……just glad to be off Monday and looking forward to a great getaway next weekend…plans changed too we are going to head to Charlotte and hang with a couple and do the game together in Orangburg~ love his crew! lol

Celisea

August 31st, 2012
10:44 am

Lady – When are you guys heading out for SC?

Poppa Grande

August 31st, 2012
10:46 am

Other than attending barbecues, I have nothing but chillin’ and watching some college football.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
10:48 am

next friday….local this weekend….we are suppose to do union city and the free keith sweat concert sunday…..they are doing fantasia at wolf creek too saturday but not us……

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
11:03 am

Speaking of SCSU, Lady, you guys had a banner evening last night! Did GSU even show up? :lol:

SlimUno

August 31st, 2012
11:04 am

Just as their are seasons in the year, there are seasons in life….Seasons of labor and seasons of harvest.

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
11:04 am

C~ Since I am already taken I will have to, regretfully, leave ATL Guy to you. To the victor goes the spoils, right? :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
11:07 am

Glad to see ya’ll got ATL to calm down. Just returned from a store run and bought a 20.00 scratch off ticket and BAM had 500 bucks on it. Hey that’s a great blend to payday. Leggs an old dude in the store told me and another lady to play 729 for mid day we’ll see what happens.

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
11:09 am

BF~ Apparently his troll manager called him and told him he was late to work under his bridge and they were going to Kardashian his a$$ unless he showed up pronto. **shrugs** Or maybe, in his imaginary relationship land, he and C are getting married this weekend and he had to run out to pick up his tux. Who knows?

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
11:10 am

SlimUno

August 31st, 2012
11:11 am

there not their sorry

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
11:11 am

Kimmie I adore everything you write.

Celisea

August 31st, 2012
11:11 am

Comon – This is between you and ATL Guy. My name is Wes…… lol Sorry you can’t pawn him off on me. :mrgreen: My time has passed…lololol

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
11:12 am

BF ~ 729 is one of my numbers. Congrats on the scratch off!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
11:13 am

LOL……@Comon 11:09 I don’t know Comon, I beleive ATL would not be up to the task with Cely.

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
11:14 am

Which $20 scratch off did you buy? One of them you can register online to be in the $20,000 weekly drawing. So far, they haven’t called my name.

Celisea

August 31st, 2012
11:15 am

Blackfoote – :mrgreen:

You should do a blog blockparty with your winnings…lol

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
11:17 am

i don’t play so I will never win! ;( good deal BF enjoy!

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
11:19 am

C~ Oh well, I guess it’s ATL uy’s loss then. Bigamy is not a good look, IJS… So I have to leave him to the billy goats. :lol:

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
11:20 am

Cosign on C’s 11:15. Blog block party sounds great. (Unless you are inviting ATL Guy, in which case I will have to regretfully decline…)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
11:23 am

LOL…….@Cely lets get this thing started.

Thanks Leggs it was the 2.5 million cash game and yes if it’s a non winner you can regiter it on line. I Don’t know when the drawing will be.

Lady you don’t have to play you’re still a winner.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
11:25 am

thanks sir~ so sweet

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
11:25 am

Yes, I left out that important detail…it has to be a non-winner (lol).

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
11:26 am

i am currently doing the best……lol woooosah!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
11:27 am

LOL……@Comon if ATL wants to show up I have a private room set just for him.