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Dating: Trivial pursuit?

I was surprised to learn that a couple of my guy friends were still pursuing women who had not shown any real interest in them. I know some men like the challenge of chasing some women. Women they believe are worth the effort. How persistent did they plan to be, though?

I wonder how men decide that a woman is going to be worth all that work. Would they need to see some effort on her part to reciprocate?
I know a lot of women who treat men badly, simply because they know that the guy will stick around and endure it.

Do men like a challenge? Is it always about the chase and the pursuit that makes it exciting?

Ladies, do you know think playing hard to get is a good approach when men are pursuing you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

249 comments Add your comment

Lily

August 31st, 2012
6:06 am

I never play hard to get, but I’m nowhere near easy. Every real relationship I’ve been in always resulted from pursuit and some persistence. Anything worth having is worth the work. Ar some point, you have to allow yourself to be caught.

Now, being stalked is another beast altogether! I’ve had one of those, a stalker. I suggest prayer. I’m sure though he would beg to differ. THERAPY AWAITS YOU.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
7:30 am

Hey I’ll put in a healthy chase but if she is playing hard to get it’s pretty much a sign she’s not feeling me and that’s her perrogative. I have a perrogative to and it wont be going round and round pursuing a lady who has no interest in me romantically. It’s always a good thing because I’m not bothered to be tossed back in the sea.

Good Friday Morning:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
7:36 am

Hey Lily great post:
In this town the little A it would seem counter productive for women to be playing hard. I know a lot of single good men that says it’s expected for women to be gaurded but playing hard is playing games.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
7:39 am

Breakfast bar open knock yourselves out. Since I already had breakfast I’m opening the spirits bar.

Lily

August 31st, 2012
7:44 am

Blackfoote, a little healthy chase is good, the prize is worth it. Turning into game playing, I’m sure is a turn off.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
8:20 am

Morning MIA & Happy Friday! In slow motion this morning and ready to go~ nothing new right lol….okay let me rad the topic! ;)

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
8:20 am

meant read…..see! lol

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
8:23 am

Playing hard to get? I can’t undersand why any woman in a city where women outnumber men 6-1 would be playing hard to get. Hard to want? Now, I have met some of those guys and they (funny enough) seem to be the really persistent ones. Any person who knows their worth is not going to put up with those types of games and will definitely KIM if they find themselves involved with one who plays them.

Good Morning! Screw breakfast, I am glad the spirits bar is open. It’s a long weekend, baby! Can I get a Tom Collins?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
8:37 am

Comon hey there lovely lady a Toms Collins is on it’s way to begin your lovely day. Coming soon the spickett never shuts off or runs dry.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
8:39 am

Hey Lady you too my dear have what you want.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
8:42 am

hmmm with the topic…….its a gamble I think………..I am still pondering….

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
8:43 am

I need some hot tea and hash browns smothered and covered…..and my bed….lol oh I miss being carefree as an adult……lol that was short lived…..lol okay I am rambling~

ATL Guy

August 31st, 2012
8:43 am

Comon, you sho do drink a lot. You read like a short thick mo fo. What’s up gul? Can we hook up. Is the hubs 6′6″ said on July 27th or 6′3″ said day before yesterday. Which is it? Hard to track lies ain’t it?

ATL Guy

August 31st, 2012
8:47 am

Come on gurl, what you gon do?

SlimUno

August 31st, 2012
8:49 am

Let the Friday Mayheim begin?

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
8:49 am

ATL Guy

August 31st, 2012
8:51 am

Is Comon still a lawyer? She ain’t mentioned no cases lately. Come post bail gal. I need you.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
8:51 am

ATL where the hell are you coming from? It’s Friday, man we don’t want to end a holiday weekend on futility.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
8:54 am

I’m gon keep my typing to myself cause I know Comon can handle herself and you.

ATL Guy

August 31st, 2012
8:55 am

I love the blog women!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
8:58 am

I love them too dude but I aint gon force them into a corner.

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
9:01 am

ATL~ The current hubs is 6′3 the ex hubs is 6′6. Just because I don’t mention cases doesn’t mean I’m not working on them. But I see you’re still a troll. Kinda hard to claim you’re a nice guy and we all misunderstand when your true trolliness always shines through, isn’t it?

ATL Guy

August 31st, 2012
9:01 am

Comon is calling for me to love her. Tall glass of water. Yeah buddy!

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
9:02 am

Good morning.

I have a friend that I’ve given the nickname of “die hard,” because just like the battery, he never gives up no matter how many times I’ve said No, Not Interested, Leave me Alone, You’re Too Fat, Your breath Stinks, Your Big Toe is Rotten. Nothing phases him.

ATL, Behave. I don’t know any lawyer that’s going to post their cases on this blog. Mentioning things is one thing, but do you really expect her to post cases?

BF ~ I’ll have a lemon drop martini..thank you. And, you’re right, Comon can handle him (lol).

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
9:03 am

Short? No. Thick? I guess that depends on your definition. Mofo? Never that. And, I’m done feeding the animals this morning. Let me go on over here and sip on my drink for a minute. Thanks for the TC, BF. With this isht first thing in the morning, I need it…

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
9:05 am

Besides, ATL, it’s a long weekend. Don’t you have a bridge somewhere to go monitor? There should be a lot of traffic this weekend… IJS.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 31st, 2012
9:16 am

LOL……@Comon 9:05, if ATL is gonna be monitoring bridges he can by pass the one I live under I got it covered.

Leggs coming up my dear.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
9:16 am

why am I working hard this friday morning?!? no more calls or knocks on my door PLEASE! lol

okay blog folks fighting early morning?!? sigh lol #carryon maybe noon will be here soon 0_0 lol

ATL Guy

August 31st, 2012
9:18 am

Only if you’ll do me the honors. I got no time to battle.

Celisea

August 31st, 2012
9:21 am

Morning!!

I like the pursuit. I agree with Lily. At some point you want to or will allow yourself to get caught. And no, not the same as a gazelle running for dear life….lololol No one wants to spend forever on the merry-go-round of love. For every race (i.e. chase), there’s always a prize at the end.

Celisea

August 31st, 2012
9:22 am

Hey Lady, what’s crackalackin?

OMGawd, trolls first thing this morning…smh

disco

August 31st, 2012
9:22 am

good morning all.

there was a rap song that said “if you play hard to get then you won’t get got”. don’t remember what song though.

CC – hard to want. LOL.

early morning isht starter – there was another rap song that said “punks jump up to get beat down”. ijs.

Celisea

August 31st, 2012
9:23 am

My my my, y’all are alkies, drinking first thing in the morning. I guess it’s after five somewhere. I’m heading for my first cup of java :)

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
9:25 am

Howdy C~ yes lets skip my tea and go for a margarita! its friday! texas! lol yeah seems its going to be poppin’ in blogsville today!

Celisea

August 31st, 2012
9:27 am

Lady – I have limited time today. So I’ll pop in and out. Wrapping up before the long holiday weekend. Go on and get your drink on then…lol

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
9:29 am

my coworker just asked “who works hard to be stupid?” and why stifle your education?!? she is a Spelman snotty lol but too cool! #random

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
9:30 am

It’s the pursuit toward happiness.

disco

August 31st, 2012
9:33 am

leggs – what’s the pursuit toward happiness? our alcoholism?

here’s my O/T – spike lee’s film opened today. I wouldn’t mind seeing it. it’s only showing in select theatres and my gripe is that none of them are even remotely close to me. wish I would drive close to an hour each way to see a movie.

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
9:35 am

leggs – what’s the pursuit toward happiness? our alcoholism?

Too funny. No, to be pursued then to find that connection with another is the pursuit toward happiness.

disco

August 31st, 2012
9:40 am

oh. I thought that folks that were drinking so early in the morning were pursuing happiness. my bad. guess I’m just not that deep. lol.

another off topic real quick. saw the commercial for rick smiley’s new show this morning. never been a rick smiley fan. thought he was too annoying to be funny. back in the day I also thought he was quite the funny looking little character. anyway, say all that to say that he looks a lot better now to me. still not good but definitely better.

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
9:44 am

Lady~ There are many who work hard to be stupid. Take ATL Guy for example…

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
9:45 am

I agree Disco he is too annoying to be funny…irks the heck out of me…….you know I walk around diagnosing folks daily and he is _______________ lol j/k but certainly anal. the boo loves him though ironically lol

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
9:47 am

ATL Guy

August 31st, 2012
9:50 am

Pot kettle, Comon? Last week we were besties, sharing great dialog on race relations. I’m hurt that you’ve turned on me. No time to battle.

SlimUno

August 31st, 2012
9:52 am

disco – I totally feel you on Rickey Smiley…I hate how he feels he has to yell when he talks on the radio. Relax dude! lol

Leggs

August 31st, 2012
9:53 am

disco

August 31st, 2012
9:55 am

maybe whodini had it wrong when they said the freaks come out at night. lol.

Comon Cents

August 31st, 2012
10:00 am

:lol: disco! It is definitely not limited to nightime…

ATL~ We were never besties. You must be one of those people who dreams up whole relationships based on one conversation. I have heard of tem, but I think you are the first I have encountered. Hmmm… Maybe you should check into one of the Trolls Anonymous programs to help you with that.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

August 31st, 2012
10:03 am

lmbao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Poppa Grande

August 31st, 2012
10:04 am

Good Morning -

It seems that the Partners who are here must’ve drawn the short straws because it is like a ghost town in here I kicked a tumbleweed to the side in order to enter my office. I even hear voices from The Outlaw Josey Wales around. Oh wait, that is just some partner replaying Clint’s rambling speech from last night.

On topic: Sure, the thrill of the pursuit is cool. Yes, there must be some indication that the apple of my eye wants to be caught. Otherwise, it is time to let it go because Restraining Orders are so such a drag on the romantic process. :lol: