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Left a good impression?

If you ever want to know if you had a significant impact on someone’s life, have a little chat with your ex. It could be a harrowing or enlightening experience – or both! We may never fully realize the impression we made on someone, but experiences are meant to teach us things.

What do you think you taught the people you have loved? It could be what they don’t want in their next partner, or what they absolutely would love to have in their future mate.

It is one of great things about dating, the chance to learn about who is ideal for us. Do you think you left a good impression on your dates and people you dated long-term?

Would you be surprised if they told you that you changed them?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

280 comments Add your comment

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
8:03 am

Good Morning MIA!!!!!

hmmmm changing a person?!? not so much……..change is within…….let me ponder! ;)

SlimUno

August 29th, 2012
8:06 am

I see AJC switched some things up a bit…almost couldn’t find blogsville

SlimUno

August 29th, 2012
8:16 am

Today is my sale day so I’ll try to peek back in a bit later.

Lady – You might need to fire up some flares so folks can find the place. ;-)

Oh and Good Wilding out Wednesday

Exiled!

August 29th, 2012
8:20 am

What happened Lady and Slim..uall lost or something?

Anyway,First! :lol:

Lily in the hallway? Hmmmmm

I need some coffee…Yaaaaawn!

On topic:

I think some people really have an impact on others,current or exes…

Andrea Sneiderman changed dude’s life….or more precisely,her couchie did…

And the dude’s ding dong changed Andrea against her husband and to jail….

Another one…the Astranaut lady that wore a diaper and drove across states to go to Florida to whack a competing heifer…when u are a dude and u put it down on a chic so much that she goes nuts,she disses her mama,her brother etc to go for broke for a luver…that’s talent…

Things happen and some folks can luv good and change lives.

I hope I was on topic…

Good morning!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
8:26 am

screaming LMBAO @ Ex with that Andrea Sneiderman post….that is soooooo extreme!!!!! Astranaut lady was extreme too…..I feel they had internal mental issues prior….again within……lol

Into the Light

August 29th, 2012
8:38 am

Morning, all.

Have mercy….I didn’t think I was ever gonna find Blogsville. We need to put up a bigger sign!

Would I be surprised if an ex told me I had changed him? Not really. I think most couples grow and evolve over the course of a relationship. Sometimes that growth brings them together, sometimes it widens the distance…..

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
8:40 am

Sometimes that growth brings them together, sometimes it widens the distance….<<<<<<Now I agree with that!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
8:42 am

I never go to the main page to come to blogsville, I just type ajc.com/blogs and pow I am here

Into the Light

August 29th, 2012
8:48 am

@Lady: Guess I’m gonna have to start typing it that way, too. :) But dang…. it’s hard for an old dawg to learn new tricks (i.e. break habits). :lol:

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
8:55 am

disco

August 29th, 2012
9:20 am

good morning folks.

ex – you immediately made me think of my little bro. he met a girl recently that he was really digging. in conversation he told me that this girl changed his whole perspective. I bust out laughing. like really? your whole perspective. since then perspective has become an inside joke. changing someone’s perspective can even be a pretty decent threat. keep playing and I’ll change your whole perspective. lol.

Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!

August 29th, 2012
9:28 am

LMAO at Ex!!!!

I think a couple of my exes and I evolved in ways together. I can say that they changed me in some ways and I changed them in some ways. Nothing too major. We had positive and negative effects on each other…I’m learning to focus on the positive changes and take the negative and learn lessons from them…

Single and Happy (Jamaican sunrise :-)

August 29th, 2012
9:39 am

Morning all! Over the years we all evolve, and yes some people to help along the way with that, not only S/O but alot of people in our lives. S/O may take you to places that you would not have ever ventured without them, or open our eyes to new opportunities that we other wise would not have seen. Some call it changing, others call it growing. What ever term you may use, it happens :-)

Single and Happy (Jamaican sunrise :-)

August 29th, 2012
9:41 am

Bluz I just walk out on the balcony and look at the beach :-p (LOL)

disco

August 29th, 2012
9:43 am

S/H you just changed my perspective. lol. if we are talking about “change” as in turned me on to something, then I’m all about that. I’m a big fan of being introduced to new things/places/foods/activities/you name it. I’m all about giving props to the person that turned me on to something.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
9:55 am

it feels great the week is almost over! #yay #random okay where are the blog folks at?!? #curious

disco

August 29th, 2012
10:02 am

lady – me thinks the others are lost.

Into the Light

August 29th, 2012
10:03 am

@Stamps: You just changed my perspective. You’re in Jamaica and blogging?!??!? Dude….

Into the Light

August 29th, 2012
10:04 am

@disco: You didn’t lock the door behind you when you came in, did you??? :)

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
10:04 am

disco lol…………..

I am ready for some daily funnies……..but it after 10 so time is passing~ ;)

Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!

August 29th, 2012
10:06 am

S/H – I’m jealous! I’m sure that beach is much prettier than the Charleston beaches, but I’ll take what I can get!!!

disco

August 29th, 2012
10:07 am

this is more like it people.

ITL – I always lock the door behind me. habit. and I see you like our line. lol.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
10:09 am

Bluz I am heading to Charles in a week or so….can’t wait….going to meet “his” fam and enjoy some time away and some football!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
10:11 am

meant Charleston~

i'm swiss

August 29th, 2012
10:14 am

Morning folks!

Me.lo — You’re special, bro. Hey, question for you… If you could have a conjugal visit to sample any incarcerated (or even should-be-incarcerated — so Casey Anthony counts, too) crazy puddy, which crazy puddy would you want? You can only choose one.

Slim, Lady, disco, ITL, Bluz — Top of the morning to you, ladies.

S/H — Dude, you’re in Jamaica. Get your ass off the computer an on a beach (or a b!tch. Or both, actually).

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
10:15 am

Howdy Swiss!!!

disco

August 29th, 2012
10:17 am

swiss – I know your question wasn’t directed to me but I have to admit (and I hate to admit it) that from time to time I find myself watching lockup and thinking that some of those inmates are fine.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
10:24 am

I really should be completing a task but I can’t seem to start…..sigh….

Sassy Me...PYT :-)

August 29th, 2012
10:34 am

Lady what part of Charleston are you going to?

you’re in Jamaica. Get your ass off the computer an on a beach (or a b!tch. Or both, actually).

:lol:

:lol:

Leggs

August 29th, 2012
10:37 am

??? post won’t go through…TEST!

kimmie

August 29th, 2012
10:39 am

Morning folks!

We were talking about relationships yesterday, hubs & I, and he talked about this older woman he dated right out of college. Here he was about 23 and she was pushing 40. He said she really taught him alot about how to treat a woman and generally dropped some good knowledge on him. Some of it is stuff, if you were lucky, your parents should have taught you.

I don’t know what impression I left on my exes. I try to treat people like I would want to be treated, but I’m sure I irritated some, like they did me!LOL! While I would say for the most part they were decent guys, none affected me in a profound way, or “changed” me. I guess I learned what I liked or didn’t like in a man, or what to watch for in the next dude. Maybe you could call me arrogant, I don’t know. I never felt I needed “changing”, especially from some dude. I am affected and inspired by people I truly respect, that make me want to be better, those that could show me a different way to look at things. None of my exes did that for me, which I guess is why they are exes. My dad, some uncles, some friends and teachers that have crossed my path over the years, and now my husband, truly inspire me.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
10:39 am

North Charleston Sassy….you know you have been in my thoughts~ we have to get together soon seriously………

Leggs

August 29th, 2012
10:41 am

Can’t figure out what word is blocking me…

Leggs

August 29th, 2012
10:43 am

Good morning! Well hope for you guys it is.

Single and Happy (Jamaican sunrise :-)

August 29th, 2012
10:44 am

Swiss, I would say been there done that, but can’t all my babe the b word

ITL, I’m addicted, but just passing through

Disco, yep that’s all change, sometimes change is not a person trying to make you into who they want you to be, but just opening your eyes to a whole other world out there.

Bluz, yea the beaches here are beautiful :-)

And that ends my blogging day :-)

Leggs

August 29th, 2012
10:44 am

I’m breaking my post down to see what the problem is:

Have I helped to change anyone? Doubt that I’ve changed anyone since I can’t alter anyone’s DNA, but I’m confident that I’ve given some that infamous “light bulb” moment.

Sassy Me...PYT :-)

August 29th, 2012
10:46 am

My mom lives in North Charleston near the airport….you should have fun. Make sure you go ALL around downtown Charleston(The Battery,Waterfont Park, King street). I know the food and the accents you hear will be interesting.

you know you have been in my thoughts~ we have to get together soon seriously………

Same here and yes we really do. Let’s link up when you get back.

Leggs

August 29th, 2012
10:46 am

Ok, it’s this paragraph:

I’m having a heck of a morning with car trouble. My car shook all the way home last night (and I’m not talking about the dance). I thought car parts were going to start scattering the highway. I was pet ri fied. Drove in slow lane with emergency lights on all the way.

Leggs

August 29th, 2012
10:46 am

Ok, that part got thru:

Leggs

August 29th, 2012
10:51 am

Got to shop and surprised my dang tires didn’t blow with all the thread that was chewed away by a poor alignment. So, I need 4-wheel alignment, new tires and a new transmission. Transmission quote of $1600. Can any of you refer me to someone that MAY have a better price and is re put able? To top all that off, I haven’t had breakfast.

Daggone, just figured out the word.

disco

August 29th, 2012
10:56 am

leggs – you should have been petrified. just read a story where a woman had car trouble on interstate and pulled on shoulder. got hit by a truck and killed. you just never know. transmission trouble? yikes. went through that once in a mazda 626. got out of that bad boy and scratched mazdas off my list. can’t front though. until the transmission issue I did like that car.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 29th, 2012
10:57 am

ok Sassy~ will do! thx!

Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!

August 29th, 2012
10:58 am

Awesome Lady! Have you been to Charleston before? I absolutely love it up there! I’m so lucky that my best friend lives there, so I have a free place to stay anytime I want to go!

Morning swiss!!!

kimmie

August 29th, 2012
10:59 am

Leggs – Now that I think about it, I did give one guy a different perspective. He was an nice enough dude, intelligent, kind, good father, but had kind of a dark side that I got a peek of. We came from 2 very different backgrounds – his mom gave him away when he was quite young, but stayed in and out of his life and brought trouble every time she came around. He was on and off the streets until he got it together, went to college and got in the IT field. In contrast, my world was a little more Cosby Show-esque. Anyway, his rough side would surface from time to time, and I wasn’t having it. A lot of game-playing and he was a little flip around my family. When I had enough, I was calm and matter-of-fact about it. I was a lady and was going to be treated as one at all times. This was the guy I spoke of in the past that broke down crying so much when I broke it off it scared me. Later when he calmed down and I agreed to listen to his apology, he told me I made him really look at himself. He said if a nice woman like me did not want to deal with him anymore, he really needed to look in the mirror and get himself together. He had never had a woman to set a standard and stick to it, he told me.

Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!

August 29th, 2012
11:00 am

Leggs – what part of town do you live in? I have a great mechanic in Norcross I can put you in touch with. He’s been my family’s mechanic for about 25 years…

kimmie

August 29th, 2012
11:02 am

Leggs – I am so glad you made it safely! I am paranoid about my tires, I constantly have them checked. I will ask around about a better price.

disco

August 29th, 2012
11:03 am

leggs – you might not be able to do anything about the car right this minute but you can get yourself something to eat. it won’t solve your problems but a full stomach definitely makes you feel better.

Willie Dynamite

August 29th, 2012
11:10 am

Morning All,
Thoughts and prayers to anyone affected in anyway by Hurricane Isaac.

Topic – I don’t know what kind of impression I’ve left. I do know I’ve been on the receiving end of several great lasting impressions. I was either too young, inmature or stubborn to appreciate it at the time. The change that I have embraced from those women are of course hindsight now.

Leggs

August 29th, 2012
11:10 am

disco ~ cafeteria is closed and I don’t do snack machines. I have to wait until 11:30 when it opens. If I can wait until then, I can wait until my lunch hour.

ITL ~ email me their numbers.

Bluz ~ I live in Ellenwood.

kimmie ~ I will go forward being paranoid about my wheel alignment. You should have seen those tires. Unreal.

disco ~ I so didn’t want to pull off to the side of the road and my car didn’t start back up. My plan was to drive it all the way to my exit hoping it wouldn’t stop on me. 285 is no joke when you have car trouble. I guess no highway is for that matter.

DreamsMaterialize

August 29th, 2012
11:15 am

Morning
How’s everyone doing this morning? Everyone leaves an impression the person they date, and vice versa. You are the sum of your experiences. So everyone you’ve interacted with has impacted you in some way. The people we’ve dated may have impacted us in ways we don’t even realize, and you may have also significantly impacted someone else without realizing it. That’s why I think you should always do right by people. You may not always truly know their situation or how your actions/words/behavior will play out in their lives.