Relationships: What is your hurry?
Have you ever met someone you liked a lot and things started going super fast? It’s like your romantic interest went from potential interest to possible soul mate in a matter of days. What happened?!
I think a lot of us get caught up in someone new that we tend to jump over a couple of steps. What is the urgency? Why the need to rush things on the fast track?
I can remember an older woman telling me that you should not make any decision about a man until you have seen him in every season: winter, spring, summer, fall. Yes, apparently men can have different sides to their personality that is specific to a season!
Old wives tale aside, I can understand why seeing a person in different situations can show you a lot about their character. Do you believe that rushing a relationship can allow a person’s true character to be observed?
How do you slow things down without pushing everything off the rails? Would you be offended if the person you were dating wanted to slow things down?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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disco
August 28th, 2012
3:07 pm
yep. Jamie foxx, Samuel l. Jackson, Leonardo dicaprio, don Johnson. I just looked it up on imdb.
HST
August 28th, 2012
3:07 pm
I’m out, everyone have a great afternoon and evening.
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
3:08 pm
Leggs~ Yes, it is starring Jamie Foxx. And he had the nerve to call it the new Roots. But judging by the trailer, I must say Negative, Ghostrider to that!
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
3:09 pm
Bye, HST! Have fun with your lady love!
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
3:10 pm
Light – I believe it is. I started watching around season 3 & it’s on 5 now. Hubs said I really need to go back and watch the first 2. I believe he said the first season is short too.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
3:11 pm
swiss ~ I hate to break this to you, but I don’t think any woman has looked at that as a compliment. It may be said with humor, but nothing funny about it.
Jake...SPJTWB
August 28th, 2012
3:11 pm
set a purchase price and mental disclaimer
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
3:11 pm
I’m definitely going to see that movie.
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
3:12 pm
Comon – Why when I read “lady love” I thought of that song by Lou Rawls?! He was a great singer, miss him!
Poppa Grande
August 28th, 2012
3:14 pm
Random thought: I may take advantage of the PF Chang’s free appetizer offer on their Facebook page tonight. I haven’t had the Changs in quite a while. I love the crab wantons.
Willie Dynamite
August 28th, 2012
3:16 pm
Kerry Washington = DSL’s. I really have a hard time getting past those lips. I am but a man.
Re; Women shopping. Women may save more than men but I refuse to goto. Ninety levum stores for a pack of wifebeaters.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
3:17 pm
Well, from what I’ve heard about PF Changs, I know I won’t be going there. Although I remember ARed thinking that place is as high on the scale and some think it is.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
3:18 pm
ISN’T as high on the scale as some think it is.
Jake...SPJTWB
August 28th, 2012
3:18 pm
WD-Kerry has a set don’t she, she is cute though, in a lil birdie type of way.
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
3:20 pm
Rut ro! Jake likes em THICK! Red Beans and Rice didn’t miss you, huh Jake?
i'm swiss
August 28th, 2012
3:21 pm
Leggs — Maybe it’s just Mrs. Swiss, then. But she wears it as a badge of honor!
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
3:21 pm
PF Changs??? Meh, not such a much. We go sometimes for lunch, but I can take it or leave it.
There is a new bagel place open over here now….Brooklyn Water Bagels, and they are yumalicious.
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
3:22 pm
I’m so excited! Baby girl wants to learn piano. I took lessons for 10 years but have not played since I graduated high school. I’m brushing up on reading music and we ordered a Yamaha electric keyboard so I can teach her the basics. It should arrive in the mail today. If all goes well, we’ll invest in a piano. So excited to get back into that. It really gave me an appreciation for good music!
Poppa Grande
August 28th, 2012
3:22 pm
**Re; Women shopping. Women may save more than men but I refuse to goto. Ninety levum stores for a pack of wifebeaters.**
Exactly, if you do that you haven’t really saved anyway. If gas is $4.00 per gallon, you may spend more riding around that if you just did your research on the internet and found the best place to go to get what you are searching for.
Especially if you drive from Stonecrest to Arbor Place for a pair of red shoes, you spent more in gas than is necessary.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
3:23 pm
swiss ~ women do wear it like a badge. We just know it’s not a compliment. It’s fact, but it’s not a compliment.
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
3:23 pm
Or have them shipped (or mgr pick up for your and bring) to your favorite store…namely Belks at Phipps
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
3:24 pm
Shoes…that is….back to lurking
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
3:24 pm
Oh, and Kimmie – Uncle Maddio’s has a salad pizza!
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
3:25 pm
Especially if you drive from Stonecrest to Arbor Place for a pair of red shoes, you spent more in gas than is necessary.
And, PoppaG, that is how I look at things. I got something at a good price, but how much gas did I used to get there. Meaning, bargain shopping is good, but not if I’m making a lot of trips comparison shopping.
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
3:26 pm
Leggs~ I have to disagree on this one. If my mate is the one that makes me mad, everyone will be happy BUT him.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
3:27 pm
I look at the ads and online before I go if it’s a big ticket purchase to make sure I am getting the best price.
But you can’t find my favorite designer, Clearance, or his sister, Take Another 30% Off, in the ads or online. Nope. That’s a gotta be there and root through the racks experience. And I love it.
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
3:29 pm
While I may not do all of the comparison shopping, I definitely have to try them on and walk around in them a bit to make sure that they are the correct pair. And, myself personally, I am not a one size fits all kind of girl. I need to make sure the shoe feels as if it was tailor made for me. I also don’t want a shoe that 5000 other people have. IJS…
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
3:29 pm
ITL – you asking about Breaking Bad? I know they do have all 4 seasons on Netflix. I got hooked watching season 1 at the beginning of the year…I hate that they are breaking up this season, though…
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
3:30 pm
ITL~ I also like Clearance’s twin brother Closeout and their younger sibling BOGO as well.
Poppa Grande
August 28th, 2012
3:30 pm
ITL- I am just going for the free. “Free” is my favorite 4 letter word. As far as bagels, I like Goldbergs but there aren’t many around me.
I will say that Changs took really good care of me and the missus after one of their servers nearly had me take a swing at him. He wasted food on her and gave her the towel to clean up. I wrote the regional manager a nice long email. Then, I was contacted with a long apology by the CEO of the restaurant group that they belong in. Two weeks later, we received $300 in vouchers that covered food and alcohol. So, they responded well with customer service for me. Now, I haven’t eaten there since the vouchers were used up nearly 3 years ago.
I definitely wouldn’t get any Frozen Changs out of the supermarket. Whose bright idea was that?
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
3:30 pm
That’s why I don’t like online shopping. I need to try on my clothes before I purchase them.
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
3:31 pm
I don’t have the patience to drive all over town for anything, never have. I know where I can find a deal most times, especially now with the internet. If I can get it online and not have to drive, it’s on. It’s not worth my time and energy and gas if I gotta make it a day trip. There are certain places I like to go for “treasures”, like cool jewelry or just something I know I won’t find anywhere else, but even then I have a certain price limit. All that driving all over town to save 2 cents is stupid – and I don’t think that’s a word to describe me!LOL!!
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
3:32 pm
Okay, that settles it. If it’s a rainy weekend in Blue Ridge, we’ll be watching Breaking Bad on Netflix.
As long as it doesn’t rain on Saturday, and the seat backs are dried out by game time. Sitting on a seatback, full of rainwater that squeezes out and soaks your feet when you sit down….. #epicfail
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
3:33 pm
I’m one of the odd women who HATES to shop! I do not like trying on clothes. When I go to the store, I go straight to what I need, get it, and get out.
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
3:33 pm
Leggs – Now clothes & especially shoes, I must try on! If it’s something I already have and just want in another color, I’ll get online.
disco
August 28th, 2012
3:35 pm
re pf chang’s. I like the banana spring rolls on the dessert menu.
PG – had a similar experience at maggiano’s. went home and immediately sent an email to the company via their website. they replied via email and sent out gift cards within the week.
Willie Dynamite
August 28th, 2012
3:35 pm
Me- baby here’s (couple hunned). Why don’t you and the girls go FIND those shoes you been talking bout (read;been to 7 diff stores)
Her – oh baby I thought you wanted to go by such and such for some wifebeaters
Me – I did but if you find some I might like that are reasonable pick me up a pack.
Her – okay baby, see you later
Me – (later at the sorts bar). What’s up fellas
Them – dayum we aint seent you since 97. How you get out the house.
Me – (thinking- shiid I just spent $200 on a pack of tshirts). Oh Wifey went shopping so I had a few hours to burn.
Them – oh, us too. Bartender: separate checks.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
3:36 pm
Exactly kimmie!
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
3:37 pm
@PG: Oh, see….you didn’t throw in the “free” the first time. Everything tastes better when it’s free. But in general, their food, to me, is just so-so. The restaurant is nicely decorated, though. LOL
I like Goldbergs, too, but I have to say, I think the bagels at Brooklyn are better. If you’re over by Crumblin’ Mall, it’s in the Akers Mill shopping center.
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
3:37 pm
Light – A salad pizza? Fabulous!!!
That sounds like a perfect plan for this weekend – catching up on the early Breaking Bad seasons!! The kids will be gone with their aunt & uncle, so we can let it rip!!!
Jake...SPJTWB
August 28th, 2012
3:39 pm
Comon-what you mean with regard to the thickness??
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
3:39 pm
He said free with his first post (lol).
Poppa Grande
August 28th, 2012
3:42 pm
I don’t think that there food is super great or anything. If it were, I wouldn’t wait 3 years to eat there again. I don’t eat a ton of Asian restaurants anyway because of the sodium.
I don’t doubt that Brooklyn Bagel is good. If they are really NY based or NY recipe that should be good. NYers know how to make some bagels.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
3:42 pm
@Kimmie: Yep. And you know there’s a Pinkberry in the same shopping center. Pizza and yogurt for later….win!
@WD: You left off the end of your scenario…..
(in the car)
DynoKids: Ooooh, mama…we had so much fun! And I love all our new clothes! Thank you for letting us go to Justice, too!!
DynoMom: Aw, babies, you’re welcome.
DynoKids: We can’t wait for daddy to see our clothes and shoes!!
DynoMom: Now y’all know to just take the shoe bag in for now. We’ll bring the other bags in when daddy goes to the driving range in the morning.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
3:44 pm
@PG: I’m with you on that.
Shoot, they are so New York, Larry King’s picture is on their menu!
No, seriously, it is.
@Leggs; Did he? I must be getting old.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
3:48 pm
@Leggs: You’re right. He said free appetizer. I guess I assumed he would be buying entrees to go with.
server: Will there be anything else, sir?
PG: Nah, and here’s the coupon for our free appetizer. Do we owe you anything for the waters??
Server: Well, no sir, but…
PG: Good! BYE!
Poppa Grande
August 28th, 2012
3:48 pm
Speaking of NY, Mrs. PG is there for a trial. I suggested that she eat a Amy Ruth’s Soul Food in Harlem while she was there. She did today for lunch. She texted me a picture of her lunch which was a what the menu calls An Al Sharpton (Chicken and Waffles). She now complains because she want to take a nap.
Willie Dynamite
August 28th, 2012
3:49 pm
ITL – exactly how it goes. Hahaha
Justice – I don’t hate many things but that place is waaay high on my short list.
i'm swiss
August 28th, 2012
3:49 pm
“Larry King’s picture is on their menu”
That would make me lose my appetite.
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
3:55 pm
Comon-what you mean with regard to the thickness??
Not a thing. It just tells me a little somthin, somthin about how you like your women.
Touchy! Touchy!