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Relationships: What is your hurry?

Have you ever met someone you liked a lot and things started going super fast? It’s like your romantic interest went from potential interest to possible soul mate in a matter of days. What happened?!

I think a lot of us get caught up in someone new that we tend to jump over a couple of steps. What is the urgency? Why the need to rush things on the fast track?

I can remember an older woman telling me that you should not make any decision about a man until you have seen him in every season: winter, spring, summer, fall. Yes, apparently men can have different sides to their personality that is specific to a season!

Old wives tale aside, I can understand why seeing a person in different situations can show you a lot about their character. Do you believe that rushing a relationship can allow a person’s true character to be observed?

How do you slow things down without pushing everything off the rails? Would you be offended if the person you were dating wanted to slow things down?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

557 comments Add your comment

SlimUno

August 28th, 2012
2:38 pm

Sometimes when women talk, all a man hears is womp womp womp.

Lady – hahahaha, the beau just told me in a debate the other night that he often get’s lost in my point when it takes to long to get to the vital stuff. So I feel like i’m back in a school debate team where you have a limited amount of time to get your argument in. Women like details and I guess men, not so much

PG – What turned you off about Kerry after actually meeting her?

Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...

August 28th, 2012
2:38 pm

After seeing her on the Oscars wearing the dress with the long split, I think that she needs to eat a sammich or two.

I was thinking maybe she should spend less time feeding the orphans and more time feeding herself. Maybe she is trying to look like one of her 3rd world adoptees to make them feel more at ease with her? IDK, but I agree she needs a sammich. :lol:

Into the Light

August 28th, 2012
2:39 pm

Hey HST….while you’re at the mall….can I get my bag??? :oops: J/K J/K……

I like to talk, but sometimes texting is much more convenient. But you’re right, Leggs, nothing replaces the expressiveness you get with real conversation.

Leggs

August 28th, 2012
2:39 pm

OK BF, we said the same thing at the same time! {{Ring, ring …}}

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 28th, 2012
2:40 pm

Leggs we hit the nail on the head at the same time.

i'm swiss

August 28th, 2012
2:40 pm

“Women like details and I guess men, not so much”

Slim — Men like relevant details. But our definition of relevant is obviously vastly different from yours. :lol:

Into the Light

August 28th, 2012
2:41 pm

WTH is a writing spider?!?!?!? Like Charlotte???? :lol: :lol:

Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...

August 28th, 2012
2:41 pm

PG~ I guess that goes along the lines of that song by Buckcherry “Crazy B!tch” :lol:

disco

August 28th, 2012
2:42 pm

I do not text and I had my carrier block all incoming texts. I have people telling me constantly that they sent me a text. I’m just like I hope it wasn’t important. I’ll sit and send emails all day long though.

kimmie – re Kerry Washington. my son’s take is that she is – and I quote – “a lifetime movie type of woman”. he likes her and all but says she just comes off as suburban soccer mom no matter what her role is. even in save the last dance when she was supposed to be an inner city hoodrat chick you could see her lifetime coming through.

Into the Light

August 28th, 2012
2:42 pm

(ITL now standing on Blog Ave and Shenanigans St ringing a bell)…….

“Give to the buy Angelina sackful of Krystals fund……”

Poppa Grande

August 28th, 2012
2:42 pm

Hey Kimmie

I don’t really know to explain it. She was nice, courteous, and all that, but I dunno. It is not like she is horrible.

She is definitely a go getter though. She is out there working for Pres. Obama and trying to raise funds for his campaign. So good for her.

Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!

August 28th, 2012
2:43 pm

A lot of times, I prefer to text. I can’t chat much while I’m at work and I’m on the phone a lot during the day doing business. Sometimes, at night, I don’t feel like talking. Thing is…texting can be dangerous. Sometimes you can say something jokingly and it doesn’t come off that way. Sometimes it can give you a false sense of intimacy. I think there can be a good balance…

SlimUno

August 28th, 2012
2:43 pm

kimmie – I took a picture of it too and put it on fb…Come to find out, another one of my friends has one on their back patio. I said I was going to name it since it does not seem to be going anywhere anytime soon. That joka done got big and he’s in a supreme spot right above the bushes surrounding the walkway…a haven for other flying insects. I came home (or to his house rather) the other day and he had something huge all wrapped up in the web. Ewwwww

HST

August 28th, 2012
2:44 pm

Those spiders are beneficial to your house and garden. I dislike spiders a lot – I’m completely creeped out by them, but they have their place. Luckily, my wasp and lizard population is huge, I’ve had very little spiders this year.

I put up bat houses to control my mosquito population. It’s the third year of having the bat houses, and I have little to no mosquitos this year. I also used the poop to make a slurry to feed my garden – it’s the best garden I’ve ever had, and it’s all organic.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 28th, 2012
2:45 pm

okay folks peace out~ be safe in the streets!

bye c~ ;)

SlimUno

August 28th, 2012
2:46 pm

Poppa Grande

August 28th, 2012
2:47 pm

My biggest complaint with texting is that it leaves interpretation mostly to the reader.

As a husband, I know good a well that “OK, go ahead and go” can mean different things from my wife depending on how she says. Sometimes, it means that I really can go. Other times, it is a threat that if I go there will be consequences. So, I can’t let texting get me hemmed up in some unnecessary drama.

I, at least, need to hear how it is said.

kimmie

August 28th, 2012
2:49 pm

Texting is good for quick check-ups like “what was the number to that painter again?”, “gonna be about 10 minutes late, stuck in line at the bank”, “is Joe’s house number 249 or 248″?, that kind of stuff. That’s after you’ve established at least a friendship! Just getting to know each other requires real communication, no texts that could be misinterpreted. If you don’t want to hear my mouth, don’t send me some tired text that could be taken 5 different ways!

And if the thought of talking to a woman irritates you that much, why are you even dealing with her? :shock: If all you need is the booty, get you one you can call up any time of day or night that you can get in and get it done without convo and call it a day! Geesh!

Jake...SPJTWB

August 28th, 2012
2:49 pm

Swiss beat me to it, relevant details….Men don’t really what to decipher, telll me exactly what you want me know, its more efficient….this also why we hate shopping with ya’ll, men don’t hate shopping, they hate shopping with women….women are not efficient in that arena.

HST

August 28th, 2012
2:49 pm

Bloggers, there’s about 20 spiders that all look the same as the one(s) you’ve described. Those spiders are harmless, and devour bad insects. Those spiders are omnipresent right now because of locusts and crickets.

Into the Light

August 28th, 2012
2:49 pm

Dayum, Gina!!! Seriously, Slim, I am no longer sleepy from my WaHo lunch – all those pics woke me the right up. (still shuddering)

Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)

August 28th, 2012
2:50 pm

Later Lady :) :) Toodles

HST

August 28th, 2012
2:50 pm

A real man listens.

i'm swiss

August 28th, 2012
2:50 pm

“As a husband, I know good a well that “OK, go ahead and go” can mean different things from my wife depending on how she says. Sometimes, it means that I really can go. Other times, it is a threat that if I go there will be consequences. So, I can’t let texting get me hemmed up in some unnecessary drama.

I, at least, need to hear how it is said.”

PG — I think our respective Mrs’es were separated at birth.

Into the Light

August 28th, 2012
2:52 pm

@Jake: Au contraire, mon ami chocolat….. We are VERY efficient at saving money and getting the best deal. You men are very efficient at saving time, because you know what you want, walk in, grab it and buy it no matter the cost. ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 28th, 2012
2:53 pm

Hello, hi Leggs how was your day? You was looking fine as hell when we went to Arozona’s for dinner the other night. I meant to tell you men were checking you out fiercly so I chose not to because you were with me and they didn’t matter.

Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!

August 28th, 2012
2:53 pm

Slim…that gave me the willies just looking at the pics of those spiders! I’m having a spider issue on my screened in porch. Can’t seem to get rid of those suckers! Anyone know of any good remedies? I let my cats hang out there and don’t want one of them to get bitten…

Into the Light

August 28th, 2012
2:53 pm

And before anyone misreads “mon ami chocolat” and has a hissy fit, it’s in reference to the posts Jake and I swapped last week about being chocolatey. No harm intended.

Disclaimer over.

Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...

August 28th, 2012
2:54 pm

PG — I think our respective Mrs’es were separated at birth.

Honeys, that it ALL women. Those words go right along with “Fine.” :lol:

HST

August 28th, 2012
2:54 pm

So my GF won’t let me drink alcohol during the day or even that often. All I can think about is a bourbon neat! A woman on a pole while I had it wouldn’t be so bad either. Funny, she’ll hit the PP with me,but make me drink Pellegrino.

At least she cares, or loves my abs more…?

i'm swiss

August 28th, 2012
2:56 pm

“We are VERY efficient at saving money and getting the best deal. You men are very efficient at saving time, because you know what you want, walk in, grab it and buy it no matter the cost.”

This is actually a very good metaphor for dating. And is good illustration why quality dudes are spoken for quickly while a lot of chicks get stuck rummaging through whatever is left in the $0.50 bin at Wal-Mart. :lol:

kimmie

August 28th, 2012
2:56 pm

Poppa – I know what you mean, some folks just come off that way. I’ve read about alot of stuff she’s involved in, so I give her props.

disco – I don’t know about Lifetime, but I am looking forward to Scandal coming back!

Into the Light

August 28th, 2012
2:56 pm

Dang, BF. If you weren’t my BBB, your 2:53 would have been swoon-worthy (even though it was for Leggs)

HST

August 28th, 2012
2:56 pm

Bluz, keep the lights off at night, and spray for other insects. No food will make them move on to a more desirable location.

Into the Light

August 28th, 2012
2:57 pm

LOL@Swiss. I never thought of it that way, but you might have a point…..

Leggs

August 28th, 2012
2:58 pm

@BF ~ you are crazy (lol).

Into the Light

August 28th, 2012
2:58 pm

@kimmie: I thought of you and For Real when I heard Breaking Bad is ending….. :(

HST

August 28th, 2012
2:58 pm

I’m Swiss @ 2:56 – what an analogy! From some of the stories out here, that has to be the case.

Poppa Grande

August 28th, 2012
3:00 pm

Suisse

I think that it is taught in the pre-martial counseling. :wink:

Just like my pastor’s first words in pre-marital counseling were the following: “If the wife ain’t happy, nobody under your roof will be happy!” 12 years later, I still remember that. :grin:

disco

August 28th, 2012
3:00 pm

kimmie – I’m looking forward to scandal too. I actually like Kerry Washington but when he said that I couldn’t help but thinking that she is kind of tame. even when her character (any character) is worked up you don’t see much fire. she’s got a movie coming out this year (django unchained). maybe around Christmastime.

SlimUno

August 28th, 2012
3:00 pm

Spiders seem to be bad this year…even here at work.

kimmie

August 28th, 2012
3:03 pm

Light – Yeah, it’s ending the season after this mini-season ends! I’ll be very sorry to see it go, but they’ve killed so many major characters off I don’t see where the storyline could go!

Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!

August 28th, 2012
3:03 pm

Thanks HST. I just need to get out there one evening and get to spraying!!!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 28th, 2012
3:03 pm

Later y’all have a great rainy eveining if the mood hits you.

Poppa Grande

August 28th, 2012
3:03 pm

* Those words go right along with “Fine.”*

Yep, that is another word that I will not trust via text. :grin:

Jake...SPJTWB

August 28th, 2012
3:03 pm

ITL-I want to agree with you, but I can’t…..women think that they are saving money because the sticker says SALE, which sometimes means nothing….We, or I will speak for me, may see something advertised, and make a mental note, see it again, its a little lower price, make a mental note, and set purchase at disclaimer…if it drops to that point…we go and get it. That’s call saving.

Now if its major WANT- we may go ahead and purchase, but our major wants are not usally exclusive, so we cross check every store first, and maybe stop by a pawn shop or two for comparables first.

Leggs

August 28th, 2012
3:03 pm

disco ~ isn’t that the movie starring Jamie Foxx???

HST

August 28th, 2012
3:06 pm

Bluz, spray during the day, wipe the cob-webs down, then spray the places where the cob-webs were, and finally spray the whole porch. Leave the lights off for a few days and most likely they won’t return. If they do repeat the process again. I have such virgin woods that the only way to control nature is with nature itself.

i'm swiss

August 28th, 2012
3:06 pm

“If the wife ain’t happy, nobody under your roof will be happy!”

PG — Yeah, I’ve heard that advice many times, and it’s definitely true. What’s funny about it to me is how many women (Mrs. Swiss included) whole heartedly embrace that adage. I hate to break it to you, ladies, but it’s not a compliment. :lol: It’s just another way of saying y’all will make everybody around you miserable until you get what you want. :lol:

Into the Light

August 28th, 2012
3:07 pm

Night, BF!!! :)

@Kimmie: Are all the seasons on Netflix? I need to start from the beginning.