Relationships: What is your hurry?
Have you ever met someone you liked a lot and things started going super fast? It’s like your romantic interest went from potential interest to possible soul mate in a matter of days. What happened?!
I think a lot of us get caught up in someone new that we tend to jump over a couple of steps. What is the urgency? Why the need to rush things on the fast track?
I can remember an older woman telling me that you should not make any decision about a man until you have seen him in every season: winter, spring, summer, fall. Yes, apparently men can have different sides to their personality that is specific to a season!
Old wives tale aside, I can understand why seeing a person in different situations can show you a lot about their character. Do you believe that rushing a relationship can allow a person’s true character to be observed?
How do you slow things down without pushing everything off the rails? Would you be offended if the person you were dating wanted to slow things down?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Jake...SPJTWB
August 28th, 2012
2:04 pm
Slim….if my baby came across, maybe Tiger, Denzel, etc… and tossed it up, no I wouldn’t be happy, but I would understand if she brought us some money,money,money,money, Moneybaggggs (Rozay voice)
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
2:04 pm
Heeeeey, BF! I thought about you at lunch. Got my breakfast on!
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
2:05 pm
BF – What does her ordering pizza have to do with him?lol
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
2:08 pm
@Leggs: Ask him if he wants to get a $5 Little Caesars and park at QT and talk.
I kid, I kid…..
i'm swiss
August 28th, 2012
2:08 pm
ITL / Slim — I’ll answer that for me. No passes for nobody, under no circumstances, no exceptions. Mostly because I know it’s a helluva lot more realistic that Mrs. Swiss could actually get it from any of her celebrity crushes than me getting it from any of my celebrity crushes. Plus, (and I know I’m about to get my man card suspended for this) there really aren’t any celebrities who do it for me like Mrs. Swiss does.
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
2:09 pm
Jake – But why does there have to be the case of her bringing some money home to make it okay? You didn’t mention doing anything other than beating that puddy up in your case. I guess that’ll make you feel better about letting Tiger beat dat dat up, ever which a way lol
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
2:09 pm
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
2:09 pm
BF~ If she orders pizza he thinks he will be fuggin tonight and Lord knows it is not that kind of party.
ITL~ If that was her plan, it backfired horribly because he is now married to another with a baby on the way in Sept.
Jake...SPJTWB
August 28th, 2012
2:10 pm
Tacky McTackster……lol
disco
August 28th, 2012
2:10 pm
leggs – I’ve been to that Arizona’s place.
swiss – re guys cheating I think of Terrence howard in best man when he said the only thing better than puddy is new puddy.
slim – derwin is pooch hall.
and…I’m all caught up.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
2:10 pm
swiss ~ your mancard will not be revoked. If anything, it’s been upgraded to lifetime membership!
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
2:12 pm
swiss – Well, if the MLB writes you a citation for that last statement, just know the WLB has thrown a few extra brownie points in your jar for that.
Sweeeeeeet…just enjoy the Mrs as much as possible before The Lil Miss starts taking over lol
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
2:12 pm
Oh Lawd…how could I have forgotten….well sort of. Terrence Howard. He’s not as “up” on the list as he use to be. He’s “a’ight”
i'm swiss
August 28th, 2012
2:12 pm
I appreciate that, Leggs, but you have a vajayjay, so technically you can’t issue man cards.
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
2:12 pm
I know this is random but did Laurence Fishburne ever speak out on his daughter being a p0rn star?
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
2:13 pm
Jake, BF et all men~ That is why it is easier for women to get away with cheating than it is for men; men want to SWEAR they hit it so good that no one else would ever have the opportunity to get up in there. But to borrow disco’s line, the only thing better than d!ck is new d!ck.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
2:14 pm
Awwwww, Swissykins. Mrs. Swiss is a lucky woman.
@CC: Oh. Well, maybe she’s the kind of chick that just likes to stir isht.
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
2:14 pm
swiss~ Had Mrs. Swiss heard you just now, you wouldn’t have gotten a coochie coupon, you would have gotten the coochie credit card. (And it would be AMEX baby! No limits!)
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
2:14 pm
swiss ~ I knew you would say I have no leverage. I knew it! Ok, I’ll co-sign SlimUno’s 2:12.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 28th, 2012
2:15 pm
Slim1 when Leggs order the pizza he might reflect on how awful the statement he made was.
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
2:16 pm
ITL~ That is the answer I am left with. But I would still like to see that karmic b!tch slap come around. Although, from what I hear, she may not have gotten the big whomp yet, she has had several little ones.
disco
August 28th, 2012
2:16 pm
CC – yep. men are in straight up denial about that one. a woman cheating on a man is a straight up blow to his ego.
I like Terrence howard and all but like skin AND funny colored eyes. eww. I can’t get with that.
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
2:17 pm
No leverage = no penis
HST
August 28th, 2012
2:18 pm
Good afternoon all. Since I have no idea from the last page the direction the blog has taken for the day, I’m just going with hello.
It’s raining pretty hard here at the Mall of Ga.
Willie Dynamite
August 28th, 2012
2:18 pm
Swiss – 2 demerits, no explanation needed.
Slim – my Wifey does have LL fever. She knows I have a few celeb crushes but doesn’t sweat it. Her thing is since she says I don’t have celeb fever she’s not concerned bout all that. Her problem is she says I have the gift of gab so it could be a celeb or a chick at QT all the same to me.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
2:18 pm
Pretty much, SlimUno!!
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
2:19 pm
Hey HST. How are things with you and your lady friend (fiance perhaps). Glad to came up for some air and in all places the Mall of Georgia (lol).
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
2:20 pm
& the plot thickens~
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
2:21 pm
BF – Well maybe she can offer a sack full of Krystal’s…i’d take pizza of Krystals anyday lol Oh wait, maybe we should cut it down to just one Krystal Chik lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 28th, 2012
2:21 pm
Comon I’m past all that I got the best D in the surrounding area. I hear men say that and I know it’s a figment of the imagination. I often hear it from young men trying to fluff up their feathers.
Jake...SPJTWB
August 28th, 2012
2:22 pm
Slim…you’re right, its one way
Comon-you might have made a play on words, but we know that’s a lie, this monster wit a hook typically has great showings, but I would be lying if I said it never accidently went off early. But never on new puddy, I am so proud of Lil Jake, I taught him to always make a good 1st impression…lol
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
2:23 pm
HST! You are still breating! I was worried you might have drowned in some puddy over the last week. I even asked about you on Monday or Friday. How goes it?
HST
August 28th, 2012
2:24 pm
I live by the MOG and Lake Lanier.
No fiance – never will have one of those again…
however, we’re doing well, we just came back from the mountains, and she went to hang with her mother for the afternoon. It’s raining, so I thought I’d stop out here for a bit.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 28th, 2012
2:24 pm
LOL…….@Slim1 at a sack full of Krystals.
i'm swiss
August 28th, 2012
2:25 pm
Willie D — Guilty as charged, and I accept my punishment.
But blog ladies, maybe you all could have a little talk w/ Mrs. Swiss for me, ‘cos right now she’s pissed because we found a little dead scorpion in the house the other day, which of course means that I’m worthless. That’s the formula:
Any sort of critter ever makes it in the house, even if it’s dead == Swiss is worthless and never does jack sheeeeeot.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
2:26 pm
3 Reasons Why Men Choose Text Message Over Phone Calls
We text because we can! Look I am just as guilty as the next man for over using text messaging to communicate. It is quick and convenient so we take advantage of that fact. If a woman takes no issue or does not express the fact that she has taken issue with all the text, then we simply won’t stop. Why would we eliminate what works for most of us if you don’t say you have a problem with it? The position of many women for the need to verbally communicate is not shared by a lot of men. To some men as long as you received a message from him and some form of communication, well then mission accomplished.
We don’t feel like talking to your ass! Sometimes when women talk, all a man hears is womp womp womp. So to eliminate that problem we just send you a text. It will minimize the need for a long drawn out conversation that we may feel is pointless. It could also save us from some incessant nagging that we know is about to come. So we simply use our text messaging as our shield. Again it’s just too convenient and if we see it can help us avoid some unnecessary talk and backlash, well then we will put it to use. There are plenty of men who have uttered the line “I’ll just text her for now until she cools down”. May not always be the best approach but the thought process makes perfect sense.
We don’t like you like that! I know that sounds harsh and mean, but I have to be honest. Sometimes a man will mainly use texting because you are not a priority. He may desire to have sex with you but for some women all it takes is some texting to get that ass. So guess what, that is all he may give you in his quest to get some. There are some cases where you may not start off as priority but you get “promoted” to the top spot. So initially while he hasn’t fully determined your value to him you may still mainly get texts instead of phone calls which take more effort and time. Time is precious, and a man isn’t going to give a woman a more time consuming action such as talking if he does not see the value in it. You as the woman have to set your price, and then he will decide if he wants to pay it or not.
of course from a male relationship expert~
HST
August 28th, 2012
2:27 pm
CC, absolutely great, thanks for asking.
Lady, glad to see you, when I was out here previously, I didn’t see you. It could have been me, and my on-and-off again presence on the blog, but whatever…HHHEEEEYYY!
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
2:29 pm
Howdy HST!!!!! good to read you as well!!!! I am in and out as well…As of lately in but nevertheless good to read ya! glad all is well on your end too!
Poppa Grande
August 28th, 2012
2:30 pm
Good Afternoon-
CC
In regards to Brad and Angelina. The one thing that I’ve known for quite sometime. Crazy Puddy is usually Fire Puddy. Crazy females always keep a man. Angelina used to wear a vile of he ex’sblood (Billy Bob Thornton) around her neck. If that ain’t bar **beep** crazy. I don’t know what is. After seeing her on the Oscars wearing the dress with the long split, I think that she needs to eat a sammich or two. She is getting Olsen-twins thin.
As for hall passes, I used to love myself some Kerry Washington until I actually met her. Right now, I am all about Sonya Richards-Ross, then again most of the US women’s track 4-100 relay team except Allyson Felix.
The wife and I met the Black Dynamite dude the other night at LA Fitness at Atlantic Station. I could tell he made her temperature rise.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
2:31 pm
Hey HST! Glad to hear all is well.
@CC: People always get what’s coming to them in the end.
Speaking of bugs, Swiss……
HST
August 28th, 2012
2:32 pm
Lady, I couldn’t feel any differently about texting. I have had to comply with new social standards of contact (in my case texting), but I still will not tweet, FB, and such. I dislike texting most of the time, I’d rather pick up the phone and call; however, sometimes there only is time for texts – no matter the sex.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
2:34 pm
Dang, Lady, that was a long text (lol).
I met a guy online and we emailed back and forth for a while. When we exchanged numbers, he immediately texted me. I CALLED and told him I prefer to speak over the phone and he said he would too. After that convo, he texted me good night, then good morning, then how’s your day going. I never answered. Months go by and he texts me “hey there, how you doing?” Just stupid….I may have let a good one go bye bye, but I no longer cared.
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
2:34 pm
WD – The local chicks would be my concern, not some celebrity that is probably bombarded by weirdo proposals and other icky things. The ’round the way girl’ are the ones you have to look out for.
swiss – I know creepy crawly things are not my fav but at least you don’t have a HUGE writing spider that has setup shop right outside the front walkway. The beau does not want to kill it because he says it eats all the other little bugs. This thing is at least 3 to 4 inches long. (shudder) I can put in a good word for you if you take care of it for me
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
2:34 pm
He said he preferred to call, but yet he kept texting??? Ummmm……
HST
August 28th, 2012
2:35 pm
ITL, what up!
Is it raining by everyone? It finally has slowed down some here, but still raining steadily. I thought I was going to have to start watering by tomorrow if it didn’t rain. My arbors were mad at me…
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
2:35 pm
Hey Poppa!
What did you think of Kerry?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 28th, 2012
2:36 pm
Hey HST I second that motion, get the phone and lets talk. Texting is ok but I like to hear a voice. Old school never dies.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
2:36 pm
Texting is ok, but pick up the phone sometime and let’s hear the inflections in each other’s voice.
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
2:37 pm
Slim – My coworker has one of those writing spiders in her garden! She took a pic of it and lets just say I would lose my mind, I don’t care if it eats snakes!!
HST
August 28th, 2012
2:38 pm
Leggs & ITL, some guys just don’t get it…