Relationships: What is your hurry?
Have you ever met someone you liked a lot and things started going super fast? It’s like your romantic interest went from potential interest to possible soul mate in a matter of days. What happened?!
I think a lot of us get caught up in someone new that we tend to jump over a couple of steps. What is the urgency? Why the need to rush things on the fast track?
I can remember an older woman telling me that you should not make any decision about a man until you have seen him in every season: winter, spring, summer, fall. Yes, apparently men can have different sides to their personality that is specific to a season!
Old wives tale aside, I can understand why seeing a person in different situations can show you a lot about their character. Do you believe that rushing a relationship can allow a person’s true character to be observed?
How do you slow things down without pushing everything off the rails? Would you be offended if the person you were dating wanted to slow things down?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
1:09 pm
swiss~ Once again I will reiterate; YOU STOOPID!
Gof help men if they ever figure out a way for the wang to be detachable! I think Sam Kinison once did a skit on that…
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
1:10 pm
I am actually on the phone with a guy who wants to take me out to dinner and told me he did some research on the restaurants out by Stonecrest and likes Arizona’s but then he says he thinks it’s too expensive for a first date. He says Arizona’s is a place you take a woman to when you know you’re in a relationship. He says his budget for a first date is Applebee’s, Red Lobster, perhaps LongHorns. I told him I was waiting for him to add Captain D’s to his list and he started laughing. I’m not laughing, but I have been given an insight into him as a person in that he operates on a “scale” system and going out on a first date you’ll start out on the lowest rung.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
1:10 pm
chuckle~ forgiveness is an inside job not for others to validate…….folks know the karma that comes back to them…. I am not projecting anything C~ lolololol LMBAO really
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
1:11 pm
Lady – To your 1:10…so true. And really, I thought only God can gauge what merits karma versus not. I’m sure though, many are right in their own eyes while having caused hurt or inflicted something on someone else.
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
1:12 pm
C~ I ain’t sitting around waiting on it, but Lord have sweet mercy Jaysus if I am lucky enough to see that isht come back around!
and, yeah, Lady, it’s personal.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
1:13 pm
I just know here recently something came back in another form to me but I pressed through and didn’t give them the victory and still holding on…..The devil is a liar. I ain’t perfect but what’s for me will be gracefully~
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
1:14 pm
Shoot, we blogging and Bluz has nothing so I will shoot it out there to you. You tell me if you think this deserves the karma b!tch slap or not…
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
1:15 pm
bbl too my head is killing me! sigh
i'm swiss
August 28th, 2012
1:17 pm
Here’s another misconception…
If a guy cheats, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s in any way unsatisfied with what he has at home. It could just mean there’s some puddy right in front of him at that moment. It’s like putting a big juicy steak in front of a dog. I don’t care how well trained the dog is, or how happy the dog is with his life, if there’s nobody around and that steak is sitting there, all juicy and delicious, just begging to be eaten, there’s a good possibility that steak is going to get devoured. The best defense is just turn and walk the other way when you start smelling somebody else’s steak too near.
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
1:17 pm
swiss – You make puddy sound like mosquitos — Occasionally, some puddy is going to land on them That’s exactly why I’d have a hard time dating a celebrity…and that ex-wife of R. Kelly, I sure as hell have no clue how she dealt with all that with him.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
1:18 pm
lmbao swiss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
1:18 pm
Didn’t R Kelly marry Aliyah when she was 14 or so?
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
1:20 pm
I had a friend that I have known since kindergarten (30+ years) and when I was married to the ex-hubs she could not STAND the air he breathed. I mean always asked me why I just didn’t leave him, he was an alcoholic, the whole 9. Her faher lived out of the country in a U.S. Territory. Oct 2010 her father got very sick. I helped her to get a plane ticket down there. I could not take a LOA from work at the time and she was calling everyday telling me how sad and lonely she was. I flew the BF down to be with her. After her father passed, (He was from our area) I helped her to set up a memorial at a local park and dedicate a bench to him and held the reception for the memorial at my home. Flash forward to March 2011. When I leave the bum, she all of a sudden stops talking to me. I call her. She comes to the house to pick up some stuff she has left there and tells me how wrong I am for leaving the ex when he was unemployed and his mother was dying I was like WTF?!? They have become fast friends and she even tried to fabricate things she said I had done during the divorce to help his position. Yeah, she deserves te karmic b!tch slap IMO.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
1:20 pm
swiss ~ I definitely agree with you that just because a man cheats doesn’t mean he’s unhappy or dissatisifed at home. Many times it’s just plain greed.
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
1:20 pm
Busy at work, so only checking in here and there…gotta get caught up and see what ya’ll are talking about now…
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
1:23 pm
Didn’t R Kelly marry Aliyah when she was 14 or so?
Yup. She married him in Aug 1994 and her parents had it annulled in Feb 1995.
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
1:31 pm
Leggs – So were you offended by what the guy said? Seems like he was being upfront with you, so no surprises when you roll up to Chili’s (not like that’s a bad first date spot). Matter of fact, the first place the beau and I ever went together was Buffalo Wild Wings
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
1:31 pm
ITL – I done finished my WaHo and now I need a nap…it’s all your fault
LOL@Slim. Girl, gone and blame it on me. I’ll be too busy snoring to notice. But DANG that waffle was good!
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
1:32 pm
SlimUno ~ I thanked him for his honesty. I wasn’t laughing because I sensed he thought Captain D’s was a great first date.
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
1:39 pm
I don’t know about Captain D’s unless we’re in high school or young college students…Zaxby’s may be a bit of a better choice
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
1:40 pm
Well, at least there is no mystery Leggs. If you go out with him a few times and then he takes you to Arizona’s, you know y’all have moved to the next level. No discussion required.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
1:40 pm
I knew it was too good to be true~ #goodnews
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
1:40 pm
Leggs – So where did yall decide to go?
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
1:40 pm
lol smh
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 28th, 2012
1:44 pm
Always be on gaurd that’s an obvious outlook. I’m in no hurry to get it and I wont be strung along now what? If we favor each other then what are we’re waiting for more love? There’s no time frame when couples make their own committment to start a realtionship.
Afternoon:
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
1:44 pm
That’s true, Comon.
Haven’t decided anything. Said he will call tonight with final plans (re: weather).
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
1:45 pm
CC – I guess it could be fun and exciting as you get to see your progress each date. Start out at the food court at the mall before hitting up the dollar movie. Then fast forward months/years later and you’re up in Ruth Chris or something.
Willie Dynamite
August 28th, 2012
1:45 pm
Afternoon All,
What’s really hapn now?
Nothing on topic.
Swiss – I aint calling calling you a liar but Dude Shet up. Hahaha
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
1:45 pm
@Leggs: I’m sure a lot of guys have a “scale” like that, but it was tacky to just come right out and say it…IMHO.
@CC: You sure your friend is not trying to, um…you know…..
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
1:47 pm
ITL – (note to self) Maybe WaHo isn’t such a great idea when I have over 3 more hours to be at work on this dreary day. I’M STRUGGGGGGGGGGLING
Jake...SPJTWB
August 28th, 2012
1:48 pm
Blog Observations:
Swiss has told the God’s honest truth about the male appetite for Steak…hehe
I told ya’ll yesterday that Womb wins out….
Condom man-”quit being childish and talk to me”-Translation-baby, I was a little ticked off, but don’t cut me off, that puddy good
Denzel hit Sanaa when they were making Out of Time-Shole wish I was Denzel….I loves me some Sanaa Lathan, my baby knows that if that opportunity ever magically occurred, Sanaa is as good as Fugged.
Hey Lady
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
1:49 pm
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
1:50 pm
@Slim: I know, right??? When the waitress asked if I needed anything else, i said, “a nap, but I don’t think my boss would appreciate that.” She was like, “OH…you gotta go back?”
Guess they get the nap line a lot in there.
BTW, shout out to Kay for using more “honeys” and babys” than I thought humanly possible in one sentence. And to Angela, with your rude, ignoring register-money counting while I’m trying to check out and get back to work self, I hope you stick a spatula where the sun don’t shine!
Ahhhh, much better.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
1:52 pm
I thought it tacky to say it too, ITL.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 28th, 2012
1:54 pm
Leggs wow dude put it up like that. He wants to start you from ground level, tell him you’re not that kind of lady.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
1:55 pm
just got a text gas is 3.94
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
1:56 pm
Jake – You sound like beau…his celeb crush is Zoe Saldana. My uncle’s is Sade…ex’s was Meagan Good…I think i’d take an Eldris Elba or Derwin Davis (can’t recall his real name)
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
1:56 pm
Jake – So if your honey came across her celeb crush and gave him some, would it be all good??? Lemme guess, this game only goes one way
i'm swiss
August 28th, 2012
1:57 pm
Willie D / Jake — My bad… Did I leak some classified information there?
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
1:57 pm
See! My BBB knows how to treat a lady (when he leaves the wolf suit at home!)
Leggs: Sooooo, are you going to go out with him?
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
1:58 pm
Celeb crush, imaginary crush, wishful thinking crush……..chuckle at all of the above…………….
Jake...SPJTWB
August 28th, 2012
1:59 pm
Leggs/Others-You don’t like that he put it out there….this may be his feeler, and there is nothing wrong with the restuarants he mentioned, and you will be at Chili’s more often than Ruth Chris if it works, guranteed. Don’t be dissing the free meal and drinks!!!
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
2:00 pm
Actually, I’d like to hear all the guys’ answers to Slim’s 1:56. Do the missuses get a pass for the celeb crush, no matter how unlikely it is????
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
2:00 pm
My ex lll (long time luva) was Meagan Good. My BIL was Janet Jackson in her hayday
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
2:00 pm
@BF ~ he knows. Jake, I’m thinking along the same lines listening to him talk.
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
2:01 pm
I guess there is a thin line between tact and tacky – If we go to Arizona’s just know you’re going to be fugging me tonight
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
2:02 pm
lol Slim
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
2:03 pm
ITl ~ first got to see if he calls this evening like he said he would. If he does, I’ll go, but it won’t be Applebees.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 28th, 2012
2:03 pm
LOL…….@Light
Leggs you may as well order a pizza, see if he likes that plan.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
2:03 pm
@Jake: Nothing wrong with eating at any of those places. I just think it was tacky of him to say it to Leggs like that. He could have just as easily said, “I was thinking Red Lobster or Chili’s….do either of those sound good to you???” The way he presented it makes it sound like she has to earn her way to a higher tier restaurant. Tacky McTackster.