Relationships: What is your hurry?
Have you ever met someone you liked a lot and things started going super fast? It’s like your romantic interest went from potential interest to possible soul mate in a matter of days. What happened?!
I think a lot of us get caught up in someone new that we tend to jump over a couple of steps. What is the urgency? Why the need to rush things on the fast track?
I can remember an older woman telling me that you should not make any decision about a man until you have seen him in every season: winter, spring, summer, fall. Yes, apparently men can have different sides to their personality that is specific to a season!
Old wives tale aside, I can understand why seeing a person in different situations can show you a lot about their character. Do you believe that rushing a relationship can allow a person’s true character to be observed?
How do you slow things down without pushing everything off the rails? Would you be offended if the person you were dating wanted to slow things down?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon Cents-Is now waiting patiently to hear the solution to yesterday's Bluz Cluz
August 28th, 2012
11:33 am
I don’t watch reality shows or soaps, but any show you watch, what hooks you in is the plotline. You gotta admit, Bluz has a HELL of a plotline…
disco
August 28th, 2012
11:35 am
ITL – this isn’t (necessarily) about bluz but why do sensitive people always put their business in the streets??? co-workers are always putting their stuff out there and then sniffling and crying when folks are talking about it and commenting on it. if they don’t want to hear the feedback they need to keep it to themselves. okay. I’m pulling back. my “personality” is showing.
Comon Cents-Is now waiting patiently to hear the solution to yesterday's Bluz Cluz
August 28th, 2012
11:37 am
me to the beach and him to the mountains
ITL~ You didn’t tell us you were going to the Mountains with Magnum tis weekend!
Is he going to the game too? Bluzy might cut you in real life… LMAO!
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
11:37 am
Ok, all caught up now.
It’s quite hilarious how so many admonishes Bluz for her antics and now everyone is hungrily waiting for her update. Gotta love America.
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
11:38 am
Well well well Bluzy…lol How much of a “booster” shot was it for him to reach out to you? Hmmmm? Do tell. Didn’t we tell you if you back off he’ll come around (if he likes you)? Yeah, get on to SC and let him go to the moutains. More space between the two of you is good right about now.
Soooo, how are you going to handle moving forward? Dry up would be a good place to start.
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
11:38 am
LOL CC!!!
disco
August 28th, 2012
11:39 am
CC – bluz has a hell of a plot line the first, second, maybe even the third time. there’s shows you can watch over and over and there’s shows where once is enough. just me though. where are the men? I’m sure some of them would be on my side. lol.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:39 am
how do you say miss me with the BS in spanish?!? lol yeah CC this blogs gets us thorugh the day~
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
11:40 am
Honestly, disco, I think it stems from the need to be validated by others. I’m sure “Lady” could speak to this better than I, but it seems like folks like Bluz have an extreme need for acceptance and validation from others in order to ensure that they are making the right decisions.
Of course, it is odd that Bluz never seems to take our advice, but then says things like, “Aren’t you at least proud of me that I did/did not ___________” Stumps me, quite frankly.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:40 am
meant through the day~
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
11:41 am
Cel – For now, I just want to focus on one day at a time. I hope we can have a conversation before we both leave town, but if it doesn’t happen, then fine. I’m just backing off. If he really does like me and is confused about what he wants, he’ll realize it when I’m quiet. If he says something today about not talking to him, I’ll probably tell him that I need a little time to digest everything that has happened.
I’m thinking that all of this happening is a good thing because it’s made me have to back off a little. I’m good at jumping in full speed ahead. I have tried to not do that this time…and felt I was doing ok with it. We’re hitting our big speed bumps now. How we both handle it will tell a lot about our future. Even if it’s just as friends…
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:41 am
naw ITL you got it……its a conflict of interest and unethical…MIA is pure entertainment for me~
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
11:41 am
Comon – It was a credit card fraud incident. They seem to have a strong marriage, in fact, she’s very forgiving, ride or die, and has stuck with him thru thick & thin.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
11:42 am
CC – ha ha. You’ll have a blog rumor started now. ITL and Magnum are having an affair.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:42 am
it’s made me have to back off a little<<<<Good deal Bluz!
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
11:45 am
ITL…I’ll get ya! LOL!!!
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
11:46 am
Bluzy – Well if you STICK to your first paragraph then I think that’s step in the right direction. DO NOT RENEGE…LOL
I will say this to you, I sometimes too OVERTHINK stuff. Sometimes just backing away and letting your brain air out helps.
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
11:46 am
I want ya’ll to know that I do listen to you all. I really do take in all that you say. Sometimes what I should do and what I want to do have a serious fight with each other and what I want to do ends up winning.
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
11:48 am
Cel – I KNOW that I overthink things. One thing I’m worrying about. I tell you, though…it sure felt good to vent to my therapist yesterday. He did figuratively hold up a mirror to me and helped me to see some things.
I really am glad that I didn’t go last night. When he made the comment about being childish, it ticked me off and I knew that it would not be good to see him! When I talk to him about it, I want to be cool and calm…
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
11:48 am
LOL@Bluz. I better not see you with night vision goggles, sneaking up on the screened porch.
Comon Cents-Is now waiting patiently to hear the solution to yesterday's Bluz Cluz
August 28th, 2012
11:50 am
We’re hitting our big speed bumps now. How we both handle it will tell a lot about our future.
No. You are not hitting your big speed bumps now. Big speed bumps are tings like handling your finances and whether you raise your kids baptist or caholic. These are just te amusing anectdotes of a new relationship. (Not trying to be harsh) But if you can’t get over these little ant ills, what are y’all going to do if this does become a relationship and you have some real issues?
i'm swiss
August 28th, 2012
11:51 am
You do realize that we’re all addicted to Bluz’s shenanigans, right? Bluz, you make us want to choke the computer screen, but we just can’t quit you.
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
11:51 am
Bluzy – I’m glad you didn’t go either. That would have read, too clingy, too needy, too thirsty. Hold the reins girlie. Get on out of town and have a blast (void of alcohol of course)….lol Forget him for a weekend.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
11:53 am
Dang, Swiss. Brokeback Mountain??? Really?????
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
11:53 am
Okay, that’s all the fun this girl can take on an empty stomach. Off to WaHo!
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
11:54 am
Ya’ll didn’t know how much of a ride it would be with me arriving on the scene, did ya? LOL! I told ya’ll I’m new to this whole dating thing…
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
11:57 am
Cel – I ain’t gonna lie…it will be hard to not drink this weekend because my best friend is definitely an alcoholic. He wants to go clubbing. BUT…I will try.
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
11:58 am
Do like I do (when I ain’t vacationing…lol), that will be a virgin drink for me please
Comon Cents-Is now waiting patiently to hear the solution to yesterday's Bluz Cluz
August 28th, 2012
11:59 am
swiss~ When did you have time to take in the Brokeback Mountain moment?
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
12:02 pm
To me…vacationing is a different story in regards to drinking. If I do, I will stick with beer. Beer doesn’t make me crazy. I know that I need to stay away from liquor for a LONG time!!!
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
12:02 pm
Well Bluzy, I ain’t gonna lie, your story was not as inflated as I thought it would be….lol
Comon Cents-Is now waiting patiently to hear the solution to yesterday's Bluz Cluz
August 28th, 2012
12:02 pm
Wait~ Your best friend is a he?!? This is not a former F buddy or FWB or an ex is it? And if he’s not, Lord sweet Jaysus for the love of all that HLOY do NOT sleep with him this weekend!
Comon Cents-Is now waiting patiently to hear the solution to yesterday's Bluz Cluz
August 28th, 2012
12:03 pm
* that’s HOLY
i'm swiss
August 28th, 2012
12:03 pm
ITL — Yes I did just bust out a Brokeback reference. That’s how real it just got up in this b!tch…
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
12:04 pm
CC – my best friend is gay!!!
Comon Cents-Is now waiting patiently to hear the solution to yesterday's Bluz Cluz
August 28th, 2012
12:05 pm
my best friend is gay!!!
Thank the Lord and pass the ammunition.
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
12:05 pm
Bluzy – Vacay does bring out the beast in us…don’t it.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
12:05 pm
Bluz ~ glad you didn’t go, glad you seem to be breathing a little better. Time away this weekend will help you see things even clearer than you do now.
Comon Cents - Thinks the Bluz Cluz solution to today's puzzle lacked the drama she's become accustomed to
August 28th, 2012
12:11 pm
And DO NOT, under any circumstances, have drinks and give the freebie while in SC!
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
12:13 pm
CC – I just read your moniker and I’m offended. LOL! J/K
Don’t worry…no freebies in SC…unless Brad Pitt is there…
Comon Cents - Thinks the Bluz Cluz solution to today's puzzle lacked the drama she's become accustomed to
August 28th, 2012
12:15 pm
Brad Pitt is about to be married, so no freebies for him either.
The moniker is actually a compliment. You need to move past the drama. In fact, make that your mantra. “No More Drama” Have your Mary J moment, girl!
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
12:17 pm
Bluzy – Brad no bathing Pitt? He USE to be my FAAAAV. Give me William Levy and Hugh Jackman…good Lawd!
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
12:18 pm
Blair Underwood (he still got it and can get it) and Laz Alonso…have murcy…
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
12:19 pm
Even though Blair Underwood played a number of crazy man, woman abuser, fiance beater roles….I still like. Saw him on a commercial the other day.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
12:21 pm
Must admit, William Levy is fine and oozes sex appeal!!!
Comon Cents - Thinks the Bluz Cluz solution to today's puzzle lacked the drama she's become accustomed to
August 28th, 2012
12:21 pm
C~ I just had to lol for real. When I saw William Levy, for some reason my brain popped up William H. Macy’s pic for a minute.
LOL!
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
12:22 pm
And after the mess Brad pulled on Jen, I lost alllll respect for him. Just trashy. I saw Jen in a totally different light at that point. It’s takes a mighty big woman to move on past and let it go, a man that’s embarrassed, disrepected and openly gallavanted his wh@re around in her face.
Comon Cents - Thinks the Bluz Cluz solution to today's puzzle lacked the drama she's become accustomed to
August 28th, 2012
12:22 pm
Mine is still LL. You know, Ladies Love Cool James… Mmmmm. MMMMMMM. Mmmm…
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
12:22 pm
Xnay on William Macy (thumbs down)
Comon Cents - Thinks the Bluz Cluz solution to today's puzzle lacked the drama she's become accustomed to
August 28th, 2012
12:26 pm
Yeah, William Macy is right up there with John C. Reilly. Blech!