Relationships: What is your hurry?
Have you ever met someone you liked a lot and things started going super fast? It’s like your romantic interest went from potential interest to possible soul mate in a matter of days. What happened?!
I think a lot of us get caught up in someone new that we tend to jump over a couple of steps. What is the urgency? Why the need to rush things on the fast track?
I can remember an older woman telling me that you should not make any decision about a man until you have seen him in every season: winter, spring, summer, fall. Yes, apparently men can have different sides to their personality that is specific to a season!
Old wives tale aside, I can understand why seeing a person in different situations can show you a lot about their character. Do you believe that rushing a relationship can allow a person’s true character to be observed?
How do you slow things down without pushing everything off the rails? Would you be offended if the person you were dating wanted to slow things down?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
10:28 am
….and I barely ate last night. Right now my ribs are hitting my back…ugh HUNGER….PAINS
disco
August 28th, 2012
10:30 am
ITL – my imagination isn’t working yet. I’m not generally a fan of back to school tales but I have one that tickled me. a lady was telling me that her 6 year old first grader was excited all summer long about back to school. she loved kindergarten and thought school was the best thing ever. she was all excited shopping for new clothes and supplies and could barely sleep in anticipation of going back to school. how come when the little girl got to school and realized that her first grade teacher and her kindergarten teacher weren’t the same person she had a mini meltdown. when her mom told me that I couldn’t do anything but crack up. what a let down.
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
10:33 am
Cel – I’m sitting in the office with my dang on hoodie on. HACE FRIO!
ITL – I was just looking up the nearest WaHo phone number.
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
10:35 am
Slim, as soon as I’m out of this icebox, I’m heading back to the heater under my desk. I mean seriously, my fingertips and nose are cold.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
10:36 am
@disco: Awwww, poor baby. That’s funny, but kinda sad.
@Slim: I’m thinking pecan waffle. YUM!
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
10:41 am
But then again, I’m thinking boysenberry syrup, which means IHOP. Decisions, decisions…..
disco
August 28th, 2012
10:43 am
ITL – yep. it’s funny and sad. I haven’t run into the mom yet to hear how she’s adjusting.
boysenberry syrup? that one’s new to me. the last time I went to visit my grandparents my grandma had made some homemade muscodine jelly. I brought some home but it’s long gone.
Comon Cents
August 28th, 2012
10:48 am
“God willing and the Creek don’t rise” is a reference to te Creek Indians. They were very warlike people, so when someone had to make a journey they used to say they would return safely if it was the Lord’s will and the Creek Indians did not have another uprising against the settlers. (And that’s one to grown on!
)
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
10:49 am
What’s up, blog crew?!
What’s the rush? Now you know we live in an instant gratification society now! Plus, it seems nobody asks “what’s the rush” when it comes to physical intimacy. Personally, I think that’s right up there with something you should take time to develop. But folks have no problem questioning when someone decides early on that they really care for a person deeply and want to give their all. Sometimes you really just “know”. Now I have no problem with taking ones time to really get to know someone. But there is a fine line between taking your time and stringing someone along too.
Go at the pace that’s comfortable for the parties involved.
What’s interesting going on in Blogville today?
Comon Cents
August 28th, 2012
10:52 am
disco~ My friend’s daughter was excited about Kindergarten until she realized it was more than one day.
Bluzgirl...needs to be on the wagon...
August 28th, 2012
10:52 am
Oh boy…is this topic about me? LOL!!! I just got to work and haven’t read the replies yet. Gotta get caught up!
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
10:53 am
Y’all don’t reckon Bluzy ticked buddy off and he got aggravated beat her??
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
10:54 am
Bluzy – THERE YOU ARE!!!! LOL…We were getting worried. Now dish!
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
10:55 am
yay!!! lol be right back too! wow so much just popped off in the last 30min! wow! its 11 yall! ok brb!
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
10:55 am
Yeah!!! We’re going to a braves game the first week of September
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
10:56 am
I’m soooo weak, I’m staaaaaaaarving
Comon Cents
August 28th, 2012
10:57 am
Cosigning on C! Dish, Bluzy! Dish!
disco
August 28th, 2012
10:57 am
C – worried? naw, not really. curious (translation nosey)? maybe. another perspective? bluz makes everyone else feel better about their own lives. my son has a standard response when asked how he’s doing. his answer is “I’m not locked up”. in blogville we can all reply “I’m not bluz”.
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
10:59 am
disco – I just didn’t want her to end up ticking buddy off cause she was sitting outside his house with the picture of a clown with tears (scaring him) and he snapped. Worried from that aspect…lololol
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
11:03 am
disco – That reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend recently. I asked her about a couple she’s close to that I met thru her. She said the husband was in jail! That’s the last thing I expected to hear about this straight-laced guy! Something about a debt he was supposed to pay while on probation years ago that he just stopped paying on.
You think you got problems………..
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
11:05 am
Disco!! Dang….that 10:57 was harsh…even for you.
Don’t make Bluz cry – she just got here.
SlimUno
August 28th, 2012
11:05 am
Bluz – no need to catch up…weeeeen tombout nuttin. So down to the nitty gritty. What had happened last night?
Comon Cents
August 28th, 2012
11:06 am
kimmie~ Did he stop paying his restitution? He was on probation so I assue that it was restitution or fines from the crime he committed and now he has to serve out the balance of his sentence. That always makes me SMDH. You’re already getting off lightly. Why would you screw that up by not meeting the terms of your probation?!
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
11:06 am
Bluzy – Dish girl!!! Don’t keep us in suspense
disco
August 28th, 2012
11:06 am
kimmie – my son says that phrase is his pick me up. no matter how hard he thinks things are he just has to remind himself that he’s not locked up.
ITL – really? that was harsh? hmm. I didn’t think so but I’ll take your word for it.
Comon Cents
August 28th, 2012
11:07 am
Y’all know, we are some nosy heifers. No “Good Morning, Bluz!” No “Would you like some coffee and a bagel, Bluz?”
We just wanna know what happened! LMAO!
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:10 am
lol CC that was rude lol
kimmie
August 28th, 2012
11:12 am
Comon – Yep, stopped paying! SMDH too.
disco
August 28th, 2012
11:13 am
CC – thank you for keeping it real. auntie celisea masks hers as concern. LOL.
I have to add too. everyone is quick to talk about doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. we talk about bluz’ situations repeating themselves but the whole blog collectively is just as crazy if we are still dishing out advice to the same situations month in and month out. we are instigators and enablers.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:14 am
O/T vent: It baffles me how grown adults bring children into this world and then have to be forced to take care and support their own flesh. Man or woman it makes no sense to be sorry as hell! ok wooosah! #carryon
Comon Cents
August 28th, 2012
11:15 am
kimmie~ Is his mariage still in tact? One of the other lawyers here had a client who had moved here from MI and failed to register as a sex offender He had gotten married and the whole 9. His wife didn’t know and he got stopped on a routine traffic violation and there was a warrant for his arrest for failure to register. Chick went ATOMIC in our office when she found out what he had been arrested for. SMDH…
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:16 am
yep disco crazy is as crazy does…..can’t argue that point…..
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:17 am
interesting……………..O_o
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
11:17 am
disco – No masking here babygirl. What I say, I say. Might not be popular but I ain’t gotta front…lol
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
11:18 am
I’m just not about hanging folks by their ankles for everyone to take a turn. Anybody can do that.
Comon Cents
August 28th, 2012
11:20 am
I can’t get on the crazy kick. As the Blog Turns makes my day go by faster. And Bluz is definitely a key component to that. I like to think of it like watching any other series on TV; you keep tuning in because the plot line is interesting. Besides which fact, I know some people very much like Bluz in real life. I keep my distance from them in real life because I don’t want their crazy to show up on my doorstep (no offense, Bluz) but on the blog I don’t have to worry about that.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:21 am
at all C~ we >>>>>HERE<<<<< cute though~
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
11:22 am
Lady – How is it said here? YUP!
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
11:23 am
I’m just mad at Bluzy KNOWING we’re all waiting for her to fuel the blog’s engine and she’s holdig back. Feels good having the spotlight eh?
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:25 am
lololol
Comon Cents-Is now waiting patiently to hear the solution to yesterday's Bluz Cluz
August 28th, 2012
11:25 am
Damn, Bluz! You read to slow! ive up the goodies, girly!
Comon Cents-Is now waiting patiently to hear the solution to yesterday's Bluz Cluz
August 28th, 2012
11:27 am
C~ Obviously, we are >>>>>>HERE<<<<<< too!
Bluzgirl...needs to be on the wagon...
August 28th, 2012
11:27 am
Ok Ok…I’m going to type a response now…Just now got caught up on everything…
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:28 am
Bluz Cluz<<<<<< #DEAD lmbao okay I am done for a few……yall got it lolol smh
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
11:29 am
@disco: Well, maybe “harsh” wasn’t the right word. But you know Bluz can be sensitive.
Anywho….. Exactly 4 days from this moment I will be sitting in section 117, waiting on kickoff. WOOHOO!
disco
August 28th, 2012
11:30 am
C – I guess that’s why I’m not feeling it as much. I don’t watch the so called reality shows. can’t get into them. they just don’t turn me on. this morning on my drive in 2 out of the 3 radio stations that I listen to were talking about love and hip hop. I just plugged in my ipod.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 28th, 2012
11:31 am
did yall know a personality disorder is the worst disorder to treat beyond your severe pathological disorders?!? 0_0
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
11:32 am
….and I’m spending the rest of the long weekend in the mountains. Much needed break. Yay me!
Bluzgirl...needs to be on the wagon...
August 28th, 2012
11:33 am
Kind of funny that ya’ll get tired of me, but now want me to dish! LOL!!!
I did NOT go last night. I had a ton to do at home anyways. So…he called while I was in therapy. I didn’t answer (was just talking about him). He then texted “Quit being childish and talk to me.” I had to laugh about it. I just replied that I was in therapy. It’s a good thing I was in therapy because I probably would have gone off on him with that remark! I wasn’t ignoring him…I was BUSY!!! Anyway…he texted later in the evening asking how’s my therapist and my reply was “very smart and insighful.” I wonder if that got him thinking. He has to know he was a big topic in my session!
I’m wondering if he’s confused about what he really wants. I know that I”m questioning what I really want. I think he and I need to have a face to face conversation. I need to talk to him about my feelings about him saying I was being childish and the babysitting comment yesterday. Both of those were so NOT cool. I’m willing to see if we can talk things out and go from there. If we are to only be friends…I’m fine with that, but I need to process it and will need a little time from him. Good thing is that we are both going out of town this weekend…me to the beach and him to the mountains. A little time a part may do some good. When he was in NOLA, he was all about me.
Anyway…I’m sitting back right now and just laying low. I’m not going to reach out today. When I backed off last week, he came running! Not that I’m trying to play games, but I’m trying to really back off so that I don’t feel too hurt.
I like him…I ain’t gonna lie…but I’m no where near falling for him or anything. If it’s not meant to be, I’ll be fine. My ego may be bruised a bit, but I’ll pick it up and KIM!!!
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
11:33 am
disco – Surprisingly I don’t have too much for reality tv either. When I’m driving in, I’ll listen to the Bert Show but if that’s too much fraggle naggle bull, I’m turnining…lol I’m with you on plugging in (to music) as a better alternative.
CC – YUP