Relationships: What is your hurry?
Have you ever met someone you liked a lot and things started going super fast? It’s like your romantic interest went from potential interest to possible soul mate in a matter of days. What happened?!
I think a lot of us get caught up in someone new that we tend to jump over a couple of steps. What is the urgency? Why the need to rush things on the fast track?
I can remember an older woman telling me that you should not make any decision about a man until you have seen him in every season: winter, spring, summer, fall. Yes, apparently men can have different sides to their personality that is specific to a season!
Old wives tale aside, I can understand why seeing a person in different situations can show you a lot about their character. Do you believe that rushing a relationship can allow a person’s true character to be observed?
How do you slow things down without pushing everything off the rails? Would you be offended if the person you were dating wanted to slow things down?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
3:57 pm
DynoMom: Now y’all know to just take the shoe bag in for now. We’ll bring the other bags in when daddy goes to the driving range in the morning
You know we ALL know that trick! LMAO!
Willie Dynamite
August 28th, 2012
3:58 pm
“Larry King’s picture is on their menu”
Was it next to Crinkly fries or limp noodles?
Changs is overrated if you ask me. I’ve found better Asian on Buford hwy. I couldn’t even tell you the name cause they don’t even bother to put the store sign or menu in english. But the food was out this world
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
3:58 pm
Orient Express
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
3:59 pm
@WD: If it makes you feel any better, it’s identical to conversations had by mothers and daughters everywhere.
@Swiss: Well, on the takeout menu. I don’t know about the in-store menu. But yeah, I can see where that might curb your appetite.
@CC: Wasn’t it WD who said that about lips????
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
4:00 pm
http://www.orientexpressatl.com/menus.php
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
4:02 pm
@WD: I was there two Sundays ago. Had some pho and bahn mi that were delish!!
Poppa Grande
August 28th, 2012
4:02 pm
WD-
You are correct that Buford Highway has some great Asian food! Yeah, there a places with no english on the sign. My cousin & I mentioned that the other day. We could be missing out of “free sex” or something like that.
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
4:03 pm
ITL~ Yes, It was!
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
4:05 pm
You might be more correct than you know, PG! I was gonna get a foot massage while I was over there, but the first place I went, the windows were tinted so dark you couldn’t see in and the door was kept locked. She let me in, and re-locked the door behind me. I asked for a foot massage, but she said, “Oh, busy” even though she proceeded to let two men in and send them straight to the back, locking the door behind each guy. I was like, “Nope. Too shady for me!” and went on down the street.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
4:08 pm
@WillieD ~ have you been to Phuket’s on Buford. Haven’t been in years, but I enjoyed it when I went.
Willie Dynamite
August 28th, 2012
4:13 pm
ITL – shady hunh? Last time I mentioned shady in a post to you iwas explaining all afternoon. So no comment hahaha.
Leggs – Phuket? Is this some kinda set up.
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
4:14 pm
Ugh…just got another text from him that I’m not going to respond to at this time…”Seriously, I like you and want to be your friend. I do not want a girlfriend. I do not want sex. I respect your knowledge and what you do for the blues and the fund, etc. I wish we could just be good friends, really.”
This is an example when texting is not great. He was all about communication last week when we talked. He was the one who said the word “dating” to me. He was the one who pursued me. Now, he’s changed his tune. He should have told me this face to face, but he needs to hide behind a text.
I won’t reply and then I’m sure he’ll say something about me not talking to him. Then I will respond and say that he said I’m being childish when he’s the one who wouldn’t talk to me all weekend and then hides behind a text. If he really respects me, he would have come and talked to me face to face…
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
4:15 pm
Ouch, WD. I thought we were blog pals.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
4:17 pm
Um, Bluz???? If you carry on in person like you just did in that post, I understand why he texted that. I’m not trying to be unkind, but like I said yesterday, you are a bit intense.
blog love xoxo
Jake...SPJTWB
August 28th, 2012
4:17 pm
CoMon-yeah we were talkin about lips, but to be honest, my type was tall, chocolate, and bo-legged, or least it looks like it when she stands back on them; however, I have a real love of women.
I can generally find something worth-noting on just about any woman….I’m am partial to my sistas, but I have tried other flavors and found them to be delicious as well, but Chocolate is my fav. I top out at about the Jill Scott range, lil Jill. As a man, I am truly blessed to be able to look at all the beautiful women this world offers, I only wish that each Individual lady could see her own beauty as I do. No surgeries,no Body Magic, just be you!!!
disco
August 28th, 2012
4:19 pm
jake – I like how you said “lil jill”. lol.
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
4:20 pm
That was lovely and well said.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
4:21 pm
Leggs – Phuket? Is this some kinda set up.
Too funny because I used to think one can seriously get in trouble saying it to fast, but I believe that’s the correct spelling.
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
4:21 pm
ITL – I needed to vent about it. It just ticks me off. I’ve been nothing but nice and caring towards him and now he changes his tune because I got trashed at a blues bar on a Friday night. Like he’s Mr. Perfect.
Better I vent here about it than talk to him at this moment…
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
4:22 pm
*sigh* I love days when the MLB let it flow and say stuff from the heart (a la Swiss and Jake)
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
4:23 pm
Plus…is he playing up us being really good friends so I’ll still help him out with his blues band? I won’t be used by another man…
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
4:23 pm
He was the one who said the word “dating” to me. He was the one who pursued me. Now, he’s changed his tune – A lot changes their minds once they’ve sampled the product. Not
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
4:24 pm
Okay, Bluz. If that’s how you see it.
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
4:24 pm
saying that’s a bad thing if two consenting adults, just that it happens sometimes.
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
4:24 pm
Bluzy – He’s said it again. Don’t read no more into what he said. Let it ride and don’t look back.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
4:25 pm
My guess would be he’s playing up the friend aspect to dispel any lingering romantic notions you may have. But that’s just my guess.
Ask the guys….
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
4:26 pm
Jake~ You just made me sigh a little. Lovely post…
Bluzgirl...So ready for the beach!
August 28th, 2012
4:27 pm
Well…I’m gonna need some time to process all of this. Yes…it hurts my feelings. It bruises my ego, but I’ll bounce back. I’m so thankful I’m getting out of town this weekend. I need it now more than ever!!!
Comon Cents - Would cut him if I found out he got some strange...
August 28th, 2012
4:28 pm
Just scored tix to Mary J and D’Angelo tonight. (Friends don’t want to go because it might rain) I’m about to put on a poncho and a rain hat, take my umbrella and go feel the LOVE of Mary! Yay! Y’all have a good night!
Poppa Grande
August 28th, 2012
4:29 pm
* As a man, I am truly blessed to be able to look at all the beautiful women this world offers, I only wish that each Individual lady could see her own beauty as I do. No surgeries,no Body Magic, just be you!!!*
That was one of the reasons that I quit watching America’s Next Top Model and really have a problem with pageants in general. My wife doesn’t understand why i am so against children in pageant Joibenet Ramsey style. It tends to indoctrinate the young’un that they aren’t beautiful enough.
As for Next Top Model, that Janice Dickinson chick called enough females fat that really weren’t especially sistas.
Willie Dynamite
August 28th, 2012
4:29 pm
ITL – we are, I was just kidding responding to your PG post. Hahaha
Jake – we are on the same page.
Leggs – Don’t think I been to Phuket. I have been up/down Buford years ago and to so many places. I’m international like that. Hahaha
Comon Cents - Sorry I don't have time to be sensitive Bluz~ It is what it is...
August 28th, 2012
4:31 pm
is he playing up us being really good friends so I’ll still help him out with his blues band? I won’t be used by another man…
Too late.
Poppa Grande
August 28th, 2012
4:35 pm
** I have been up/down Buford years ago and to so many places. I’m international like that. Hahaha**
Leggs
August 28th, 2012
4:35 pm
WillieD ~ I just googled it and found out it’s closed. It was a Thai restaurant.
i'm swiss
August 28th, 2012
4:36 pm
“My guess would be he’s playing up the friend aspect to dispel any lingering romantic notions you may have. But that’s just my guess.
Ask the guys….”
My guess would be that he was all for the FWB arrangement, but quickly realized the he was actually dealing with a Stage 5 Clinger, and now he has to ab.ort that mission.
Side note: So, apparently you can’t say the word “ab.ort” on the blog. Stupid F#$KING filtering “logic!”
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
4:37 pm
Remind me to NEVER come here for therapy….lololol
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
4:38 pm
Oooooh, I love Thai! Curry and basil and garlic…..yes, please.
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
4:38 pm
I wouldn’t it though on that kind of scale. Tell buddy to kick rocks and KIM
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
4:38 pm
I wouldn’t NEED it though
Willie Dynamite
August 28th, 2012
4:40 pm
Bluz- sounds like THAT DUDE is following the fwb playbook. You didn’t read the fine print. You gon miss that D hunh. And another one bites the dust. Read the rules and instructions.
PG – at least let me think I’m international. Hahaha
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
4:41 pm
Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. ~ M. Kathleen Casey
Bluzy – Before I hit the road…this one is for you
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
4:42 pm
Bluzy, he’s really no different than the average man. It’s all in how the game is played. As disco would say, don’t hate the player, hate the game.
i'm swiss
August 28th, 2012
4:43 pm
All this Phuket talk reminds me of this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhQhZyNKqhM
Poppa Grande
August 28th, 2012
4:45 pm
Bluz-
I concur with the other fellas. He wanted FWB and it didn’t work out as he hoped so he had to change course.
disco
August 28th, 2012
4:46 pm
C – I’ll add don’t be a sore loser or a poor sport when you lose the game. knocking all the pieces on the floor and stomping off is not a good look.
Poppa Grande
August 28th, 2012
4:47 pm
PG -
You are as international as you wanna be.
Into the Light
August 28th, 2012
4:47 pm
@Bluz: So, three different guys who have read your dilema all have the same take……
Celisea: Choir girl (haha) w/glasses and a sexy little bun, smarter than a fifth grader, blowing the smoking gun! Now watch me walk away! :)
August 28th, 2012
4:47 pm
disco – No it’s not. Just learn something from it and what to do or not the next time. And more than anything, if you don’t have the heart for that sort of play, dismiss yourself from the game.
Willie Dynamite
August 28th, 2012
4:49 pm
Cel – the average Man is not a homeless, jobless alcoholic. But the average man can get some puddy. IJS hahaha
ATL Guy
August 28th, 2012
4:49 pm
I’ll take you out Bluz. We can have a gooood time…