Dating multiple people: For or against
I don’t know why some women are so opposed to dating multiple people. We can multitask almost everything in our lives, but men? We hesitate to do so! I am sure everyone has their reasons, but I wonder is dating multiple people the best way to meet The One?
Almost all my guy friends are seeing a cadre of women – fascinating women, too. They are upfront with everyone they date and tell me that they make no false promises. Why does it seem so easy for them to do it?
I know men and women view dating and relationships differently. This is yet another example of how we have vastly different ideas on dating and looking for the one special “forever” person.
Let’s argue both sides today:
If you are in favor of dating multiple people, state the reasons why. Have you tried it personally? Why do you think it was easy or not easy for you?
If you are strongly opposed to the idea, state why you think it is a recipe for disaster. Have you tried it and got a lot of drama and backlash?
I am curious to see how where we all stand on this dating issue.
For the record: I am opposed to it – but it is basically because I am way too lazy/busy to devote a lot of energy to more than one guy at a time. Hey! At least I am honest! 
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 27th, 2012
2:55 pm
Damn my blush didn’t work WTH. I’mma stop trying.
Bluzgirl...needs to be on the wagon...
August 27th, 2012
2:55 pm
Oh boy, ITL…that’s a tough one. I can tell when I’m in a true crisis…don’t ask me how…I just can. I don’t normally tell others about most things going on. I share it here and only talk to my closest friends about how I’m feeling and what’s going on. I know when to ask for real help if I really need it…you know, like having someone come over just to be with me. I don’t know if I can really explain it. I am a little sensitive…
Comon Cents- is looking for Bluz Cluz
August 27th, 2012
2:55 pm
Jake~ For men, sex is like pizza; even when it’s bad it’s still good. It’s not like that for women. So when they finally find someone who does it right, they are willing to put up with a ton of isht to keep him. Up to and including this foolishness that Bluz is doing. Like Slim said earlier, she has told us about all these qualities that remind her of te ex, but now that he’s dissing “he could have been a great romance of her life” type bull.
Comon throws her hands up and heads out to Piece of Cake. Need some sugar to make the head banging stop. ITL, you coming?
You have two speeds – overjoyed and put away the sharp objects.
I thought we were waiting on swiss to say if we could slap or not?!?
Leggs
August 27th, 2012
2:55 pm
I think I can go and leave him alone. I want him to see I can have a blast with just diet coke! I keep going back and forth…
WRONG…you need to show yourself you can have a blast without him. The time has gone…you don’t need to show him anything.
Celiseaaa.....Choir girl (ha ha) with a twist of mmmmm!!
August 27th, 2012
2:55 pm
disco – Don’t know the overnight version….lol But your 2:48 brought back a song that we had to sing behind the house to avoid a beating..lol
four plus four he closed the door, in the beeeedroom and all night long
five plus five ………(can’t remember) in the beeedroom and all night long
six plus six, he pulled out his….. in the beeedroom and all night
seven plus seven my stomach was swelling in the beeedroom and all night long….
or something like that…yeah you got a beating for singing that.
Celiseaaa.....Choir girl (ha ha) with a twist of mmmmm!!
August 27th, 2012
2:57 pm
oooooh
eight plus eight, the baby was late in the beeedroom and all night long
Celiseaaa.....Choir girl (ha ha) with a twist of mmmmm!!
August 27th, 2012
2:57 pm
can’t remember nine but….
ten plus ten we did it again in the bedroom and all night long
Leggs
August 27th, 2012
2:58 pm
Comon ~ I look at the radio with a WTF look when I hear the song about some trifling dude, then the next line “but I want to have his babies…” I think it’s Melanie singing that one too???
Into the Light
August 27th, 2012
2:58 pm
@CC: Nah, you can go to POC without me. I’m gonna go find a quiet place to lie down.
I see ITL & Comon are auditioning for the role of Jerry Lawler to Bluz’s Andy Kaufman
Dang, Swiss.
Leggs
August 27th, 2012
2:58 pm
I’m still on page 7 trying to catch up.
Comon Cents- has decided that there are NO Bluz Cluz
August 27th, 2012
2:58 pm
Bluz~ Imma take ITL out of here and to the cake store before she strangles you with her blog love… IJS
Bluzgirl...needs to be on the wagon...
August 27th, 2012
3:00 pm
I so cannot wait to get the heck out of town this weekend. I need some clarity time…
i'm swiss
August 27th, 2012
3:00 pm
Comon — Well, someone needs to, that’s for damn sure…
disco
August 27th, 2012
3:00 pm
leggs – no lie. it was real talk because I was developing a real headache. like I said earlier, bluz is one of those folks that can take you there. I almost feel sorry for her “real life” people.
celisea – the other song is overnight scenario by rare essence. it’s some dc go go type stuff. “four in the morning you can hear her start to shout. five in the morning she’ll be calling a cab. six in the morning talking about the fun she had”. in short, he picked old girl up in the club, bought her breakfast, screwed her and sent her home.
Comon Cents- has decided that there are NO Bluz Cluz
August 27th, 2012
3:01 pm
Leggs~ That’s like that dang “I love My Mr. Wrong”. I love Mary but she was trippin’ when she made that song.
i'm swiss
August 27th, 2012
3:01 pm
ITL — I meant that as a compliment. I’m actually sitting here hoping one of you puts the pile driver on her.
(Metaphorically speaking, of course. Ahem…)
Comon Cents- has decided that there are NO Bluz Cluz
August 27th, 2012
3:02 pm
I need some clarity time… = drinks and strange.
SlimUno
August 27th, 2012
3:04 pm
I guess because I want him…it’s hard to give up my plans just to avoid someone
Bluz – Circles we talk again I see….which one is it..you’re using the ‘really want to go to a gig’ as an excuse to see him after he told yo…butt, that he need space. Or you want him and would hate to cancel your plans and miss seeing him??? (Confused yet????)
Celiseaaa.....Choir girl (ha ha) with a twist of mmmmm!!
August 27th, 2012
3:04 pm
disco – Yeah, that version would have gotten my mouth washed with soap and a beating.
disco
August 27th, 2012
3:07 pm
Aww heck C. i thought you were just “typing” a cleaned up version. lol. the other would have you with a mouth full of soap too (at least the one that I know).
Comon Cents- Happily munching on cupcakes
August 27th, 2012
3:08 pm
Next topic? Cause I can already give y’all the ending to this one.
Cliff’s Notes version~
Bluz decides to go tonight. Sits across the bar from dude looking alternatingly pissed and longing. Has a drink or two to calm her nerves. (Here is the you pick your own ending part) Either A) dude comes over and tries to be polite since she set up the show and they end up “making up” and smashing later or B) After said liquid courage, Bluz goes and tries to engage dude in conversation which ends up being a scene and they smash later. Either way, dude ends up back at her place. And you know this will happen because this is what ALWAYS happens with the Bluz of the world.
Leggs
August 27th, 2012
3:09 pm
kimmie ~ the words to Blessed are annoying…that’s my son, I’m blessed, blessed, BLLEEESSSEEDD!
Good grief!
BF ~ they’re finding me. I was looking good just standing there when homeboy introduced himself to me. He asked where I was from and how long I’ve been in GA. He then asked me to dance. It was then that I noticed he was singing some of the song, but I didn’t see any pearly whites or even stained browns….
BTW, BF ~ next time I see, I’m going to pop you in the head!!!!
ATL Guy
August 27th, 2012
3:09 pm
Bluz – listen to the song ‘Soft Shock’ by the Yeah Yeah Yeahs … it relates to your situation might help you take a step back and sometimes in the big picture its best for someone to leave you out
Comon Cents- Happily munching on cupcakes
August 27th, 2012
3:10 pm
It was then that I noticed he was singing some of the song, but I didn’t see any pearly whites or even stained browns….
You literally just made me spray sweet tea out of my nose…
Celiseaaa.....Choir girl (ha ha) with a twist of mmmmm!!
August 27th, 2012
3:10 pm
disco – lol…you’re right. Trust me, there were sooo many songs my mama yelled at us about…
Tampa tampa tampa, tampa to my heart I’ve been eating blackeyed peas now I gotta…Faaaarty is my number fifty is my game if you don’t believe kiss my rusty….asssssssk my mama for a nickel to buy some tea….
you get it…lol
kimmie
August 27th, 2012
3:11 pm
Comon – How did you get to Piece of Cake & back so quick???
disco
August 27th, 2012
3:13 pm
C – girl you crazy. you talking childhood songs and I’m talking two live crew.
CC – you mean to tell me you don’t have faith in bluz? what about girl power? what about keep the hope alive? what about even a broken clock is right two times a day? what about when hell freezes over?
Leggs
August 27th, 2012
3:14 pm
I need some clarity time… = drinks and strange.
I was thinking the same thing…Bluz, get a hold of a joint, take a few tokes and chill….
Celiseaaa.....Choir girl (ha ha) with a twist of mmmmm!!
August 27th, 2012
3:15 pm
disco – I heard you…lol
Leggs
August 27th, 2012
3:15 pm
I’ll take B, Comon.
Into the Light
August 27th, 2012
3:17 pm
Y’all remember this one??
Miss Susie had a steamboat
The steamboat had a bell
Miss Susie went to heaven
The steamboat went to…
Hello operator
Please give me number nine
And if you disconnect me
I’ll kick you from…
Behind the frigerator
There was a piece of glass
Miss Susie fell upon it
And broke her little…
Ask me no more questions
Tell me no more lies
i'm swiss
August 27th, 2012
3:17 pm
Oh the horror that Jerry Sandusky hath wrought. Now Penn State has banned the song “Sweet Caroline”.
“TOUCHING ME….
TOUCHING YOOOOOOOOOUUUUUUUUU….”
Comon Cents- Happily munching on cupcakes
August 27th, 2012
3:18 pm
kimmie~ I got them jokers on speed dial. They deliever for me.
disco~ Girl power only works if te girl in question wants it to work, and y’all know she don’t… As my granny used to say “Even a blind squirrel has to find an acorn every once in a while…” Let’s hope that today is Bluzy’s day.
In Jaysus name we pray… Can the church say Amen?
Bluzgirl...needs to be on the wagon...
August 27th, 2012
3:18 pm
CC…even if I were to decide to go, I can promise you that I would not drink. I’m proving to myself that I can go and not drink…just him.
I’m leaning more towards not going, though. Give him space and leave him alone. Maybe he’ll come back, maybe he won’t. I just need to let whatever is supposed to happen, happen…
Into the Light
August 27th, 2012
3:19 pm
Sweet Caroline…..bomp bomp bomp….Good times never seemed so good (so good! so good! so good!)…..
And to think, Caroline was gonna be my girl name…. smh….
Comon Cents- Happily munching on cupcakes
August 27th, 2012
3:19 pm
ITl~ The boys are in the bathroom eating cherry pies!
Leggs
August 27th, 2012
3:19 pm
I got them jokers on speed dial. They deliever for me. – OH SNAP!!! That’s funny…
ITL, she’s worse than you (lol).
Leggs
August 27th, 2012
3:22 pm
Joke I just heard on the radio.
A woman when to the doctor.
Doctor told her to take her clothes off and put on the robe
He left the room.
He returns and turns out the lights and the lady asks “where should I put my clothes?”
The doctor said, on top of mine…
It was hysterical over the radio.
Comon Cents
August 27th, 2012
3:22 pm
Whenever I ask the question of myself “What’s wrong with me?!” The answer is usually, “I can’t drink at work”. But I can have all the cupcakes I want.
Bluzgirl...needs to be on the wagon...
August 27th, 2012
3:22 pm
Leggs – good idea…my best friend does smoke, so maybe I’ll just stick to that!
Comon Cents
August 27th, 2012
3:24 pm
That is too funny about the Sandusky scandal. You know the name of his autobiography is “Touched: The Jerry Sandusky Story” I thought it was a joke until I went on Amazon..
disco
August 27th, 2012
3:24 pm
ITL – I remember one where miss suzy had a baby, she named him tiny tim. she put him in the bathtub to see if he could swim. he drank up all the water, he ate up all the suds….
CC – AAYYYYY – MEN!!!! I’ll even stand up and lead the congregation in song. I was thinking “it’s me, it’s me, it’s me oh lord standing in need of prayer” but I don’t think that’s the song we need. for bluz I think we need something like “his eye is on the sparrow”. since I can’t sing well enough to carry that one I’ll have to let someone else have it.
Leggs
August 27th, 2012
3:25 pm
I don’t know if I would care to see you high, Bluz. I think you would act a damn fool…
Comon Cents
August 27th, 2012
3:25 pm
Bluz~ Have you been a toker before now? If not, you may want to leave that alone too. That couls wend very badly for you…
Comon Cents
August 27th, 2012
3:26 pm
disco~ he tried to eat the bathtub but it wouldn’t fit down his throat!
Leggs
August 27th, 2012
3:26 pm
oops…
being paranoid. Alcohol, meds and now reefer…naw, don’t do that.
i'm swiss
August 27th, 2012
3:26 pm
Leggs — Why do I hear this in my head when reading your 3:14?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JMV_r4LjQIo
SlimUno
August 27th, 2012
3:27 pm
I just need to let whatever is supposed to happen, happen…
but you won’t…
Bluzgirl...needs to be on the wagon...
August 27th, 2012
3:27 pm
I have and I usually just mellow out. When I do it while drinking, I get even more goofy. Now…with my best friend, I’ll laugh and laugh while high…
Into the Light
August 27th, 2012
3:28 pm
I thought Tiny Tim was a goldfish???
miss suzy had a goldfish, she named him tiny tim. she put him in the bathtub to see if he could swim. he drank up all the water, ate up all the soap, he tried to eat the bathtub, but it wouldn’t go down his throat.
Ms. Suzy called the doctor, Ms. Suzy called the nurse, Ms. Suzy called the lady with the alligator purse.