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Dating: Play or get played

There are a lot of cynics on the dating scene. Heck, I admit that I was mayor of Bitterville a couple of times. It’s hard not to become at least a little protective of our egos, hearts, and emotions.

I met a really great guy the other day at the recycling center at DeKalb’s Farmer’s Market. We had the most random chat about Atlanta and dating. He was of the mindset that you have to play the dating game – at least a little. If not, you could find yourself being used and abused, even when your intentions are good.

It sounded a little cynical to me, so I asked him when did this attitude about women and relationships come about. He launched into a really awful account of his last girlfriend who played really dirty dating games with him. Of course he is gun shy!

Do you think that a lot of single people think this way? Are we slow to trust the intentions of others? Do we question their motives too much?

If we are all thinking that we have to play or get played, then who is winning?!

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Leggs

August 24th, 2012
3:51 pm

Also the African American Wine Tasting Society is having a function tomorrow. Originally $25.00 to get in, supposedly w/coupon $12.50.

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
3:56 pm

You going, Leggs?

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
3:58 pm

Nope, told a gf I’ll go to a party with her tomorrow night before I saw this event.

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
3:59 pm

Parrrrrtttttaaaaayy! :)

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
4:06 pm

I hope so. Last time I went out with her, the evening was a complete dud!

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
4:07 pm

Rut ro. Make sure you have the back-up call plan. You know what that is, right?

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
4:11 pm

Of course I do, ITL (lol).

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:16 pm

Isn’t it kind of an Insult to use the term ‘African American’ in the Olympics?? Heard some commentators saying it and I was taken back by it (even as someone of a different race)

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:17 pm

Why would it be an insult? That is the politically correct term.

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:20 pm

Politically correct!? So during the Olympics is the athlete representing the United States as an American or representing the continent of Africa? Think about it …

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:23 pm

These so called terms find ways to almost divide indirectly when they are really used as a sensitivity meaning. The American Athlete who held up a Mexican Flag when he won a medal wasn’t being called a Mexican/American, but that to me was unjust as he felt to be representing Mexico with USA on his jersey

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:26 pm

*crickets* there’s my point, real talk

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:27 pm

ATL~ It would depend on how the term was used. If you are describing his nationality, that’s one thing. But if you are talking about how Gabby Douglas is the first African American woman to win the Women’s Individual All Around competition, then it is the correct term.

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
4:28 pm

@Leggs: Just double checkin’. ;)

Oh, lawd. CC, don’t feed stray animals.

I’m outta here…y’all have a nice weekend.

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:31 pm

ITL~ I have nothing better to do… Have a good weekend! :)

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:31 pm

I agree with you CC. ITL just doesn’t get just intelligent dialog by her response

i'm swiss

August 24th, 2012
4:31 pm

ATL guy — Do you prefer the term “Troll American” or just “Annoying Jackass”? Wouldn’t want to offend you.

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:32 pm

So this is a fact, my family moved to the States when I was a kid from Europe, correct term to describe me is European American, right?

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:33 pm

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:33 pm

Swiss – why are you so sensitive? I’m saying it was odd to hear that in the Olympics describing distinction between American Athletes. Honest Point

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:34 pm

ATL~ No. The correct term to describe you would not be European American unless you were a natural born citizen. You are an immigrant so you would simply be a European who lives in America.

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:34 pm

This is what gets me … this kind of overly sensitive reaction to a non-issue

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:35 pm

I’m a naturalized citizen techically

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:36 pm

why are you so sensitive?

Because you have a tendency to be antagonistic when you think you have made a point. It would be my suspicion that that is cultural though and not symptomatic of your being a troll. What general area of Europe?

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:37 pm

You are a naturalized citizen but you are still not a natural born citizen.

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:37 pm

Have to understand it is an odd concept for people outside looking in, because end of the day, all races are Americans (not Asian Americans, European Americans, Australian Americans, etc). To me, its what makes this country so special

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:39 pm

all races are Americans (not Asian Americans, European Americans, Australian Americans, etc). To me, its what makes this country so special

Yup. You’re definitely an import. :lol: Anyone who is born in this country knows about race from a very young age because (unfortunately) as Americans we have a long and torrid history with it.

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
4:44 pm

Jake, yes I am

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:44 pm

Lets look at History, it wasn’t kind to Africans no doubt. Slavery sucks … but what about the Japanese that were detained for years out West or the Irish for terrible treatment during the industrial revolution, or the Indians that were ran off their land? American History has some terrible moments, no doubt, but when does that ever transgress? Is it fair to say that the generation today is not the same as the generation in the past?

Celisea....Beware of the Son of Belial! Sticks and stones baby, sticks and stones. And still? Winning, cause I'm not mad :)

August 24th, 2012
4:45 pm

Along with Swiss’s assessment, before I head home and as I popped in the end of the day to see if all the ranting had ceased (sigh), I found a few quotes that I hope will help heal the wounded sad misguided soul(s):

A misery is not to be measured from the nature of the evil, but from the temper of the sufferer.

We are apt to measure the happiness or misery of the world by that portion of either which has fallen to our lot.

Men appear to prefer to ruin one another’s fortunes, and to cut each other’s throats over a few miserable villages, than to extend the means of human happiness”,

You can’t make yourself happy bringing misery to other people.

Crack is wack

As my mama taught me, the biggest weapon against ignorance and hate is love, peace and hair grease joy :mrgreen: You should learn, oh broken one, that two or more parties must be present in order to debate or argue (changing your blog names don’t count…lolololol). Otherwise, you a rabid dog yelling in the wind. That it’s not really talking if there’s one person with the hand in the back of the dummy (as in make believe). But, I pray for you (and myself), come Sunday, a special prayer to lift you from your misery. I truly hope this helps and that your healing begins :mrgreen:

Assalamualaikum, Ali BaBa, Goodnight, Ciao, Peace in the Middle East, Holla, Toodles and PEEEEEEAAACCCES (said like Pam from Martin)…and whatever your soul can relate to :mrgreen:

LOVE IT….nothing but a clown show. Glad I didn’t get the job!!

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
4:45 pm

Comon ~ ATL loves to instigate.

Wasn’t sure how to tell Comon not to feed the trolls, but swiss shut it down like only a true “wordsmith” could:

ATL guy — Do you prefer the term “Troll American” or just “Annoying Jackass”? Wouldn’t want to offend you.!!!

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
4:46 pm

why are you so sensitive?

Because you have a tendency to be antagonistic when you think you have made a point

Comon, how would you know that’s his tendency? ATL Guy hasn’t been on in a long time and you still a newbie???

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:49 pm

I’m not racial in the least bit and maybe its my upbringing or whatever, but to me always being focused in the past doesn’t allow the next generation to move forward cohesively. Should always remember what happened and acknowlege the injustices to make sure that never happens again and educate to be a more complete society. The Germans had to move on from Nazi way, there comes a point where people must look forward to a better future for themselves or their people cause living in history will only set the distinction between people, in my opinion

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:50 pm

This is not instigating, its intelligent talk with Comon, I respect his point of view, its facinating.

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
4:51 pm

Comon can I jump in, something that upset me during the Olympics was Dominique Dawes describing her gymnastic team and the mufti-cultural , She said “we had a African american, an Asian american, a Romanian american and some Americans, that just didn’t go over that well with me. Probably most of here ancestors where here long before most of theirs!

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:53 pm

Leggs~ Because everytime he comes on here, he antagonizes. He did it with disco earlier today, he did it with me just now, he did it with Celisea a few days ago (maybe a week now?) and he did it with ITL one day. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out he likes to antagonize. If every time I “see” you on the blog, you’re instigating with someone, I have to assume that you like to anatagonize.

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:53 pm

Single – Asians (Americans) if you will, were on this soil well before any of them crossing the Bering Strait, for the record

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:54 pm

Ummm… ATL Guy, I am glad you find my point of view fascinating, but I am a “she” and not a “he” :lol:

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
4:54 pm

ATL Guy that’s good

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
4:55 pm

Comon ~ thanks for the clarification. Today is the first time I’ve seen ATL in a while. I didn’t even notice he’s been back.

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:55 pm

I asked a question, you responded, and we had dialog. Relax Comon, not sure what the issue is or who is trying to antagonize

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:56 pm

S/H~ Yeah, I agree with you on that. It was rather wack! :lol:

ATL~ Interesting that you bring up the Nazi’s because the Jews still classify themselves as Germanic Jews as opposed to just being Jewish. IJS

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
4:56 pm

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:56 pm

My Bad – She, haha, didn’t recognize how good looking you were

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:56 pm

Anyway – you all have a great weekend! All the Best

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:58 pm

ATL~ Again, as I said, finding out that you are of European descent clarifys what we consider antagonistic for me. Aain, I think it is a cultural difference. I have spent my fair share of time overseas and the methods and tones of communication are very different from Americans.

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
4:59 pm

Comon I meat this girl in Vegas who said she was half Mexican and half native american, now I wasn’t trying to be funny, but I asked her how could she tell the difference, because until they tell me or open their mouth I can’t tell the difference

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
4:59 pm

Bye, Leggs! Have a good weekend.

ATL Guy~ Stay loose.

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:59 pm

Perhaps, there are probably differences on communication methods

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
4:59 pm

Peace out Girlscout :)