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Dating: Play or get played

There are a lot of cynics on the dating scene. Heck, I admit that I was mayor of Bitterville a couple of times. It’s hard not to become at least a little protective of our egos, hearts, and emotions.

I met a really great guy the other day at the recycling center at DeKalb’s Farmer’s Market. We had the most random chat about Atlanta and dating. He was of the mindset that you have to play the dating game – at least a little. If not, you could find yourself being used and abused, even when your intentions are good.

It sounded a little cynical to me, so I asked him when did this attitude about women and relationships come about. He launched into a really awful account of his last girlfriend who played really dirty dating games with him. Of course he is gun shy!

Do you think that a lot of single people think this way? Are we slow to trust the intentions of others? Do we question their motives too much?

If we are all thinking that we have to play or get played, then who is winning?!

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Willie Dynamite

August 24th, 2012
2:47 pm

ITL/Comon – had some stuff to deal with (had to explain what extra starch in the Jorts looked like). Hahaha and for the last time NO Mullett.

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
2:48 pm

Because people in Ga never leave GA

@Stamps: Not to go to Alabama, we don’t. Unless it’s to watch you lose in OT. :)

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
2:48 pm

S/H~ We leave GA. It’s just that when we go, we take planes. You know, those big steel objects that fly through the sky. NO, Single! Those are not UFO’s! Jeeze! Dang AL folks..

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 24th, 2012
2:49 pm

Single @2:37 that wouldn’t be cause ATL got the Olympics and AL claim was to host the horse and buggy pull…………LOL

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
2:50 pm

Disco – if you saw me, you’d have rotten teeth cause I’m more eye candy than your can handle ;) Run and tell that, Girl

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
2:50 pm

BF~ No, I think they do the pumpkin smashing competition over there…

disco

August 24th, 2012
2:51 pm

S/H – maybe, maybe not. I get out from time to time but I’m not a street runner. my point is my general day to day life ain’t hitting on nothing when it comes to seeing people of color. (don’t mean anything buy it so no one jump on it). I can count the POCs in my neighborhood, I can count the number I see on my drive in to work on one hand and that’s IF I even see any at all. I can count the ones that work in my building. heck, currently, I’m the only one at my job. you see where I’m going with this?

Jake...SPJTWB

August 24th, 2012
2:51 pm

CC…see, that’s the problem with lawyers, always looking for evidence…

S&H…you from AL, and yea you can get from AL to GA in a variety of ways 431, 278, 165

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
2:52 pm

ATL~ Any man who says that is usually full of isht. (Not to answer for you, disco.) The ones who are and know it, we wouldn’t want anyway and the ones that say they are and aren’t… well, please see my earlier posts about a government mandated rating system.

SlimUno

August 24th, 2012
2:53 pm

ITL – Ms Light, I see you’ve been practicing. :lol:

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
2:53 pm

ITL, at least we get to over time!!!

Comon, it’s funny cause when I’m at the airport all the license plates are from Al

Black, you can’t win any National Champs, we had to let you have something

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 24th, 2012
2:53 pm

LOL…..@Comon yes that’s it tossing pumpkins.

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
2:54 pm

CC…see, that’s the problem with lawyers, always looking for evidence…

It’s not looking if it happens to find me, now is it. And, you sir, have avoided the question.

ATL Guy

August 24th, 2012
2:54 pm

Comon Cents – your sense is about as accurate as your spelling. True Story

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
2:55 pm

@WD: I bet your are lookin’ FINE on game day. Do you get them to press your tank top, so the creases match the ones in your jorts???? And don’t go telling me you got new tube socks to wear with your sandals this year….. that’ll have a girl salivating! :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 24th, 2012
2:57 pm

LOL……..@Single that 2:53 that one hurt.

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
2:57 pm

LOL@Slim. Let’s put it this way, for a man like CG, I’d have to keep PG or CC on retainer, because I would be doing all kinds of crazy stuff. ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 24th, 2012
2:59 pm

It’s been a fun day y’all have a good weekend everyone.

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
3:00 pm

it’s funny cause when I’m at the airport all the license plates are from Al

Yea, that would be because they haven’t figured out what the big building is for and they go park over there to “sightsee” the UFO’s. Real Georgians don’t park at the airport; they either take the MARTA or park off property because they don’t want to pay extortious airport parking rates. Aain, Jeeze! Those dang AL folks! Ya gott explain everything!

ITL~ Imma need you to come get your pet before his brain gets too confused up in here…

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
3:01 pm

Bye, BF! Muah to my BBB. Have a good weekend.

@CC: Girl, please. You know I don’t feed stray animals.

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
3:02 pm

your sense is about as accurate as your spelling. True Story

It’s called sarcasm…. So not only are you not cute, you’re obtuse as well. disco, I think you might want to throw tis one back. IJS

Jake...SPJTWB

August 24th, 2012
3:02 pm

Well CC…lets just say partially…that’s where it orignated though….I have earned the right to keep it and talked plenty smack before they fall into that deep sleep.

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
3:03 pm

ITL is running dozens…..

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
3:06 pm

Jake~ It was just funny to me. I was riding in the car and it came on and I just started laughing my a$$ off. :lol:

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
3:06 pm

@Leggs: Nah, but I good snap or two in me….

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
3:08 pm

*but I’ve got a

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
3:09 pm

Is it time to go yet?!? I don’t feel like doing another dang thing today, but I got a client coming in this PM so I gotta stay. Maybe I should sneak out to the bar for a beer before the appointment. Hmmmm…

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
3:11 pm

I’m going to let this GA thing go, because it’s like beating your head against a brick wall.

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
3:13 pm

it’s like beating your head against a brick wall.

S/H~ You should be used to that. Isn’t that the state recreation in AL?

DreamsMaterialize

August 24th, 2012
3:14 pm

Hey has anyone seen Five O’clock? I’ve been looking for that sucka all day.

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
3:16 pm

I am laughing so hard over here…you guys are truly outdoing yourselves today.

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
3:17 pm

@CC: It’s not a DUI client is it??? (ITL questioning the wisdom of CC meeting a DUI client with beer on her breath).

LOL@Dreams: Man, I think 5:00 has R-U-N-N-O-F-T. :(

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
3:18 pm

Dreams~ Didn’t you know? After Mon and Tues even your calendar says WTF.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 24th, 2012
3:19 pm

Ya’ll wild…reading back, ya’ll been talkin bout runnin trains and all…lol

Hey, S&H…I got your back, I’m from the A, but went to college in the great state of Alabama…

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
3:19 pm

Comon wining National Championships is what we do for recreation

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
3:19 pm

CC~ Yeah, it’s a DUI client. A) I won’t be driving (The bar is right accross the street) and B) this ain’t rehab and I’m not your sponsor. :lol:

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
3:24 pm

But, Comon, you don’t want to tempt your client with that strong odor of beer whenever you go to speak. For all you know, the mere ordor may have him/her doing some crazy things to get their lips on an actual bottle/can.

DreamsMaterialize

August 24th, 2012
3:27 pm

Dreams: Man, I think 5:00 has R-U-N-N-O-F-T.
ITL Yeah he’s been dodging me. I think he’s just trying to keep me from my girlfriend Tequila. lol

Didn’t you know? After Mon and Tues even your calendar says WTF.
Didn’t you know? After Mon and Tues even your calendar says WTF.

Comon Yeah I know. I could’ve sworn my calendar had all Thursdays on it when I looked yesterday. lol

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
3:28 pm

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
3:28 pm

@Leggs: You read my mind. CC, you better be careful…you don’t want that client tackling you to the ground just to breathe the beer vapors off your lips. Unless he’s fine. And then call me, and I’ll pretend to be you. :lol: :lol:

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
3:30 pm

@Dreams: Yeah, he’s standing between me and my boyfriend Don Julio, too. #$%$#

Jake...SPJTWB

August 24th, 2012
3:32 pm

So S&H, you come from the big city, or one of them 2traffic light towns…Gotta put on for my city first…lol

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
3:32 pm

Leggs & ITL~ Y’all are making me :lol: this afternoon (which is a good ting since I’m exhausted!) Contrary to popular belief, the majority of my clients are not alcoholics. Those are just the ones that are fun to talk about as case studies. Mostly it’s moms and college kids who are absolutely mortified that the find themselves in this predicament. If you have one drink in GA and you get stopped for “probable cause” you are DUI. I actually defended a neighbor about 2 years ago who is not really a drinker at all. She went out to dinner and had 2 beers and was less than 3 miles from home. She got pulled over for a burnt out tail light. Officer smeller alcohol on her breath and gave her the breathalyzer. She blew a .09. DUI, here she comes.

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
3:34 pm

Okay people stop rushing your life away and enjoy it :-D

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
3:36 pm

Jake, we had 3 traffic lights (LOL) and I had to hear War Eagle all the dang time

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
3:37 pm

Speaking of enjoying life, some cool festivals going on this weekend. Pigs and Peaches in Kennesaw today and tomorrow, an arts and food festival in Grant Park tomorrow, and a wine and cheese tasting festival at Chateau Elan on Sunday. Might be kind of nice to spend a Sunday afternoon up there.

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
3:41 pm

Legg~ LL just keeps getting hotter and hotter as more of this story emerges. Eventually that man is going to cause someone to spotaneously combust! (it might be me.) Fifty Shades of Christian who?

http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2012/08/ll-cool-j-burglary-suspect-convicted-of-manslaughter-in-texas.html

DreamsMaterialize

August 24th, 2012
3:42 pm

I plan on enjoying life very much…AFTER 5pm. lol

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
3:49 pm

Ha ha, Dreams. I’ll have a head start on you…I’m blowing this popsicle stand at 4:15. I’ll tell Don to call his sister and tell her to be ready for you. ;)

Jake...SPJTWB

August 24th, 2012
3:50 pm

S&H, so you from around the Auburn area or Phoenix City/Smith Station perhaps