Dating: Play or get played
There are a lot of cynics on the dating scene. Heck, I admit that I was mayor of Bitterville a couple of times. It’s hard not to become at least a little protective of our egos, hearts, and emotions.
I met a really great guy the other day at the recycling center at DeKalb’s Farmer’s Market. We had the most random chat about Atlanta and dating. He was of the mindset that you have to play the dating game – at least a little. If not, you could find yourself being used and abused, even when your intentions are good.
It sounded a little cynical to me, so I asked him when did this attitude about women and relationships come about. He launched into a really awful account of his last girlfriend who played really dirty dating games with him. Of course he is gun shy!
Do you think that a lot of single people think this way? Are we slow to trust the intentions of others? Do we question their motives too much?
If we are all thinking that we have to play or get played, then who is winning?!
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lady~cool beans :-)
August 24th, 2012
1:18 pm
lol I had some wednesday and probably will this evening~ yummy! don’t forget the beer and a real drink! ha!
Celisea....Beware of the Son of Belial. Sticks and stones baby, sticks and stones. And still? Winning, cause I'm not mad :)
August 24th, 2012
1:22 pm
Whew, my brain is aching….I need food. Working straight through ain’t no joke. Gotta give the man what they pay me for…lol
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 24th, 2012
1:24 pm
hey C~ I think I am done and just waiting on time….the week is over and I am glad…..I am not obligated to anything this weekend but laying up lol oh and mommy stuff…..just a carefree weekend awaits~
Celisea....Beware of the Son of Belial. Sticks and stones baby, sticks and stones. And still? Winning, cause I'm not mad :)
August 24th, 2012
1:29 pm
I’m nowhere near. I got deadlines and stuff coming from all agles. No time for blog bs. I got waaay bigger fish to fry…lololol It ain’t even that deep or special to me
Imma probably be working bedside the weekend too…ugh
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 24th, 2012
1:30 pm
Disco they don’t even share here, if it weren’t for donations, we would have to buy also, and these donations have nothing to do with the govt.
Celisea....Beware of the Son of Belial. Sticks and stones baby, sticks and stones. And still? Winning, cause I'm not mad :)
August 24th, 2012
1:30 pm
Back to the grind
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 24th, 2012
1:31 pm
alrighty then~ I am out too! nothing to see here~ lol Have a great weekend folks! Peace!
Celisea....Beware of the Son of Belial. Sticks and stones baby, sticks and stones. And still? Winning, cause I'm not mad :)
August 24th, 2012
1:31 pm
Lady – I had a lunch date but had to cancel….duty calls….dernit!!!
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 24th, 2012
1:37 pm
O/T
5 Things Wrecking Your Sex Life
1. Getting Grossed Out
2. Being Afraid to Experiment
3. Not Knowing What You Want
4. Being Embarrassed
5. Falling Into a Boring Routine
6. Your Arm is Tired
7. The Batteries are Dead
Leggs
August 24th, 2012
1:42 pm
Single, when the batteries die, just use your hands/fingers…old school always works (lololol).
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 24th, 2012
1:45 pm
Leggs, refer to #6 (LOL)
Leggs
August 24th, 2012
1:46 pm
LOL…I skipped right over that.
SlimUno
August 24th, 2012
1:49 pm
That’s when you use a volunteer’s arm lol
Into the Light
August 24th, 2012
1:51 pm
Wait…did I miss something, Stamps? You said 5 but I count 7. Is that some Alabama math?!?!??!
@CC: Yup. Bet he’s got the scissors all ready to cut off his jeans for his “new” jorts. LOLOL
C’mon, WD…you know it’s all in good fun.
Into the Light
August 24th, 2012
1:52 pm
That’s when you use a volunteer’s arm lol
Guess those Tennessee folks have to be good for something
Into the Light
August 24th, 2012
1:53 pm
I had some wednesday and probably will this evening~ yummy! don’t forget the beer and a real drink
I see a vodka lemonade washing down those wings!
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 24th, 2012
1:55 pm
ITL, I’ve been in GA to long, don’t have to count that high (14)
Leggs
August 24th, 2012
2:03 pm
SlimUno ~ sounds like someone else is in the room with them (voyeurism).
ATL Guy
August 24th, 2012
2:11 pm
Looks like someone just got PLAYED ….
SlimUno
August 24th, 2012
2:12 pm
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 24th, 2012
2:12 pm
Played with
disco
August 24th, 2012
2:14 pm
so… coming back from lunch there’s a cute guy in the lobby with me (definitely a building visitor, not a regular). I go into “chat him up” mode. he and I get on an elevator (just the two of us) and I’m about to work it. we are grinning and laughing and talking and the elevator stops to pick someone up. chick getting on the elevator just jumped full fledged gung ho into the conversation. I wanted to punch her in her throat. oh well. things happen.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 24th, 2012
2:17 pm
Did anyone get a date? That’s great for the lucky man he has it good catching one of you fine lady’s
Comon Cents
August 24th, 2012
2:18 pm
ITL~ Are ya ready for some football?!? I am on the countdown. I think I have end of the week delirium and it may boil over into a terrible case of anal glaucoma.
ATL Guy
August 24th, 2012
2:20 pm
Disco got played in the Elevator! Press the emergency stop button on that pick up game you were spittin
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 24th, 2012
2:20 pm
Single
You said five things why do I see seven, is that some of that good ole AL school teaching?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 24th, 2012
2:23 pm
disco I’ll bet you can do an eye roll with no effort. Folks can feel them eyes burning them up………LOL
disco
August 24th, 2012
2:23 pm
ATL – what I really need to do is school the little busybody chick from up the hall on butting in. I mean she hadn’t even put both feet into the elevator before she started running off at the mouth. and, fyi, I work in an older building with enough elevator issues. I would never push a stop button. the daggone things only work sporadically as it is. I usually take the stairs and only took the elevator to ride up with old boy. so much for that.
disco
August 24th, 2012
2:26 pm
BF – my eyerolls have a mind of their own. sometimes I literally put my hands up to my face as if that can slow down/stop/prevent the eyeroll. I also have a mean lip curl. you know that one that goes with “ninja please” face?
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 24th, 2012
2:27 pm
Black, my 1:55
ATL Guy
August 24th, 2012
2:29 pm
Reminds me of that Flo-Rida song Elevator, its about other things that pertain to your situation, but not really about elevators, haha. You should have stepped out with old boy and kept that convo going and let the lil girl move on. Come on now, work that hustle if you want it!
Comon Cents
August 24th, 2012
2:30 pm
Press the emergency stop button on that pick up game you were spittin
It wouldn’t be her game she would have to pick up. Chick is about to be picking her teeth up if she don’t slow that fast a$$ down. Don’t she know who she playin wit?
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 24th, 2012
2:32 pm
Eva Eva Eva, you just have to up your game
ATL Guy
August 24th, 2012
2:33 pm
Nah Comon – sounds like chatty girl got the best of that situation. Ran it like a Boss
SlimUno
August 24th, 2012
2:34 pm
disco – I’m sure Christian Grey would be able to remedy those uncontrollable rolling eyes lol
Into the Light
August 24th, 2012
2:35 pm
LOL@BF’s 2:20. Great minds think alike!!
@Stamps: How’d you get to GA if you’re not able to get to 20!?!? (ba domp bomp!)
@Comon: Girl, please. I am counting down the days. I cannot wait to hit Athens next Saturday.
@disco: you shoulda said, “Girl! I’m so glad I ran into you. I had been wondering how you were recovering from your herpes treatments. Were they able to laser, or did they have to cut on you????”
Into the Light
August 24th, 2012
2:36 pm
@Slim: I got a little shimmy shudder when I read your 2:34. (ITL now calling Christian G, and waiting patiently (kneeling) in the red room)
ATL Guy
August 24th, 2012
2:37 pm
How do you know about those treatments Into the Light!? Haha, speaking from experience!?
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 24th, 2012
2:37 pm
Well ITL I didn’t get dumb until I got to GA (ba domp bomp) They had to import people from Al because the people in GA just couldn’t count past 2 (LOL)
Into the Light
August 24th, 2012
2:38 pm
ATL, don’t front. You know you e-mailed me all about your treatments.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 24th, 2012
2:39 pm
LOL……@disco I know about those lip curls my grandma used them on me and when she did I feared for my life.
Single That’s too funny man.
ATL Guy
August 24th, 2012
2:39 pm
Oh Yeah …
Into the Light
August 24th, 2012
2:40 pm
@Stamps: I know you’re from Alabama, so I’ll type reeeeeaaaaallllll slllloooooowwwww. The “20″ was a reference to the interstate (that big road with lots of lanes where you can drive fast) that runs east to west.
Jake...SPJTWB
August 24th, 2012
2:40 pm
What’s good folks.
disco
August 24th, 2012
2:42 pm
slim – I’m not on the grey bandwagon but I figure if my momma ‘nem couldn’t keep my eyes in check then I know he can’t.
ATL – re chatty girl got it. it wasn’t that real. if it was I wouldn’t have got on the elevator with old boy. I would have pulled him to the side before hand. remember, I don’t like co-workers all up in my koolaid and generally co-workers are all up and through. chatty chick just irked me for butting in a conversation. that’s just tacky.
still, that was just the universe saying “keep hope alive”. y’all know y’all rarely hear me coming on talking about running into anybody worth looking at much less talking to. it’ll probably be another 3-6 months before I see anymore eye candy. it sucks to be me.
Comon Cents
August 24th, 2012
2:42 pm
Jake! Just the man I was looking for!
Jake...SPJTWB
August 24th, 2012
2:43 pm
What up CC
Comon Cents
August 24th, 2012
2:45 pm
Did you get your Sweet Peter Jeeter name from a Rudy Ray Moore skit? I heard him last night on XM and I thought of you and the sweet womb beater.
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 24th, 2012
2:45 pm
ITL, see what I mean about you GA folks I 20 isn’t the only way to get to GA from Al, but you would have to be from Al to know that Because people in Ga never leave GA (LOL)
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 24th, 2012
2:46 pm
Disco, 3 to 6 mnths, you really need to get out more