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Dating: Play or get played

There are a lot of cynics on the dating scene. Heck, I admit that I was mayor of Bitterville a couple of times. It’s hard not to become at least a little protective of our egos, hearts, and emotions.

I met a really great guy the other day at the recycling center at DeKalb’s Farmer’s Market. We had the most random chat about Atlanta and dating. He was of the mindset that you have to play the dating game – at least a little. If not, you could find yourself being used and abused, even when your intentions are good.

It sounded a little cynical to me, so I asked him when did this attitude about women and relationships come about. He launched into a really awful account of his last girlfriend who played really dirty dating games with him. Of course he is gun shy!

Do you think that a lot of single people think this way? Are we slow to trust the intentions of others? Do we question their motives too much?

If we are all thinking that we have to play or get played, then who is winning?!

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

404 comments Add your comment

SlimUno

August 24th, 2012
10:43 am

CC – Naw, not into trains unless it’s Amtrack lol

Exiled!

August 24th, 2012
10:46 am

ITL is new blog researcher?….we getting Big I tell ya!

@Common,are u litigating/defending in court anymore since u came on board? or rather how many cases have u lost since u came on…chilly be careful coz those drug folks might not be too happy if u sloppy …

I am just noticing that this blog is hitting 8,9,10,11 pages for past cple months

It’s jumping!

Sorry I ain’t here long but will advise Diva do I can do a video link.. :lol:

Since we now Big like that!

disco

August 24th, 2012
10:49 am

awww shucks. I wasn’t paying attention. I missed round one. okay. round two. (better late than never right).

what kind of animal? definitely nothing warm and cuddly. wouldn’t go so far as to pick something cold and reptilian either. happy medium. panther (first thought was cougar but I’m not going out like that). I’ll go with panther because I’m more on the militant side than the cradle robber side. also, I’m sleek and stealthy.

I don’t know what I’d say to the tooth fairy but whatever it was I’d be saying it while clubbing him over the head with the 2 by 4 that’s laid under my windowsill.

my best feature (this is a trick question if I ever heard one) would have to be legs. I’ll go with this because everyone has commented on my pretty legs my entire life.

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
10:50 am

I could go for a Lemon Drop right about now!

SlimUno

August 24th, 2012
10:51 am

CC – Dating game round 3…

If you were a movie title, what would you be called?

If you could have a super power, what would it be and why?

What is your weirdest habit?

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
10:51 am

LOL@Ex. Yep….I’m the new blog researcher. I’ve found out all kinds of interesting facts lately. You’d be surprised what you can find with a little effort. ;)

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
10:53 am

Look at Comon quoting my rapper crush.

If you had to describe yourself as an animal, what animal would it be and why? – Giraffe. I’m graceful.

If he’s the tooth fairy, and you caught him in your room at night what wouls you say? – Given that I now live alone, I would tell him to forget about his rounds, he has some business to take care of in this room (lol).

My best feature is my heart because I’m empathetic.

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
10:56 am

disco ~ why you cant wait for your own set of questions (lolol).

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
10:58 am

Ex~ I am but I have not been in court this week. In the field of law that I’m in, most cases don’t actually go to trial. They end up being negotiated pleas. So there isn’t really a win/loss category for me. DUI/drug law is more like playing chess than actually litigating. I can do it if I have to but most of the time it is not required. And I’m a lot of things, but sloppy is never one. Glad you’re concerned for my career and safety! :lol:

disco

August 24th, 2012
10:59 am

leggs – obviously I don’t know how to play. LOL.

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
10:59 am

Cracking up…that’s too funny, disco!

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
11:00 am

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
11:00 am

Excuse me, but can one’s “heart” be a feature????

SlimUno

August 24th, 2012
11:00 am

Leggs – hahahahaha “own questions” :lol:

disco – I don’t think you get to answer with essay answers…afterall, we have to pay for airtime so you might want to trim down those responses lol Or else we could just edit them out ;-)

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
11:01 am

If you were a movie title, what would you be called?~ The Fast & The Furious. (I have been accused of being a bit of a whirling dervish every now and again)

If you could have a super power, what would it be and why?~ The power to deflect stupidity as I have a very low tolerance for it.

What is your weirdest habit?~ I chew ice. I’ve done it since I was a kid and it soothes me.

disco

August 24th, 2012
11:03 am

ummm. do we not get to make house rules??? and – since I don’t know how to play, can I get a quick version of the rules? any rules? otherwise I’ll be playing like I’ve got tourrettes just hollering out stuff.

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
11:04 am

Comon ~ I love chewing ice too. So much my fridge is usually stocked with icees, even here at work.

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
11:05 am

Rule 1 – answer questions directed at you
Rule 2 – short answers preferred
Rule 3 – no piggybacking anyone else’s answers!

GO!

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
11:07 am

otherwise I’ll be playing like I’ve got tourrettes just hollering out stuff.

And all this time I thought you really had tourette’s; that’s why I was giving you a pass… WTF?!? :lol:

KIDDING!!!

Wen the host calls your name, you step up to the podium and answer your questions. At the end of all the rounds, the bachelor chooses who he wants to go on a date wit. Oh, and he can’t see them. His total choice is made on their answers. (Cliff’s notes version)

Exiled!

August 24th, 2012
11:07 am

Good for u Common!

This miscreants are really narcotic! :lol:

I am alone in the office today,my consultant peeps travel thursday so I got a Lil play time myself…nobody looking at my back..no meetings to attend..

I am gon play Hardballs today like always u know

these miscreants I tell ya! :lol:

disco

August 24th, 2012
11:08 am

thank you leggs.

CC – unfortunately I do not have tourrettes. I may have adult add though. I’m sick of this game. let’s play something else. lol.

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
11:10 am

otherwise I’ll be playing like I’ve got tourrettes just hollering out stuff.

HILARIOUS!

SlimUno

August 24th, 2012
11:10 am

My mom and sister usually go and buy a bag from Sonic, that crushed ice. It’s good with sweet tea!

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
11:10 am

comon who is the bachelor for this game??

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
11:11 am

Dang, I forgot we were playing blog dating game.

SlimUno

August 24th, 2012
11:11 am

And all this time I thought you really had tourette’s; that’s why I was giving you a pass… WTF?!?

:lol: Good one ;-)

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
11:11 am

Yay! Miscreants!

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
11:12 am

I have no idea. I just started shouting out questions cause there was an elephant in the room and I wanted it to get the fcuk on. :lol:

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
11:13 am

I may have adult add though

Don’t feel bad, disco. People tell me I’m ADD all the time, but what they don’t understand is HEY LOOK! A SQUIRREL!!!!!

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
11:13 am

Single ~ I’ve been so selfish, monopolozing all of your imaginery friend’s time. He/she has helped me with my transition over to empty nesting. This week of talking has helped. He/she wants to go back home now. He/she should be knocking on your door any minute now. Thank you for the loan.

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
11:15 am

CC! You stole my line! :)

Good luck with the elephant. I think I saw it poo behind your chair…..

disco

August 24th, 2012
11:15 am

re who is the bachelor. more importantly, what are the consolation prizes?

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
11:16 am

CCA = Diana Ross (4) 741-1075…Tix to see Uncle Charlie.

Into the Light

August 24th, 2012
11:17 am

Y’all hold on. I gotta set the DVR…I’m about to leave for lunch and don’t want to miss the ending.

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
11:18 am

I”m awful sorry, ma’am! I just wanted to be the one to shout it just once, huh. You understand Ms, dontcha? Awww, shucks… :oops:

Is that what I just stepped in? Damnit! Those ba$tards told me this was spa mud for my treatment this afternoon…

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
11:19 am

Comon ~ don’t start on doo doo jokes. Strawberry Letter yesterday had SHarvey and Nephew Tommy on a roll with doo doo jokes. I was cracking up driving to work.

DreamsMaterialize

August 24th, 2012
11:20 am

Ok I’m ready to make an exodus out of this place. Who’s with me?!?

disco

August 24th, 2012
11:21 am

bingo!!!

yahtzee!!!

uno!!!

did I win?

Exiled!

August 24th, 2012
11:22 am

At the end of all the rounds.. :???: wondering

I’m sure most dudes are with me here..@Common,so dudes get to feel on All the chics the want and then choose who they wanna date….

Ok I’m speed reading but it sounds waay good! :lol:

Dudes what u say..Common has a fantab proposal

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 24th, 2012
11:22 am

awwww just heard from an old friend~ interesting……

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
11:24 am

Um Leggs you mean all this time I been talking to myself (LOL)

DreamsMaterialize

August 24th, 2012
11:24 am

How come the urge to doo doo hits harder the closer you get to the bathroom? By the time you get to the toilet, you’re stamping your feet doing the doo doo dance.

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
11:25 am

Ex ~ keep it clean, nobody’s feeling on anyone!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 24th, 2012
11:26 am

SlimUno

August 24th, 2012
11:28 am

Dreams – I’ve heard of the pee pee dance but not the doo dance. Usually, if i’m gophering, my tactic is to move as less as possible. The slightest bubble could cause an avalanche :lol:

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
11:29 am

DM~ You may have seen this, but your post made me think of it…

http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/nyc/333345372.html

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
11:30 am

If there is a turtle poking, I find that to be true, but otherwise I’m good. Now, the pee pee dance? I am famous for that one. There is no way (except asking for a recess) to kindly get up and go to the potty during court.

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
11:34 am

Single ~ you don’t remember your friend has been with me? Wow. You’re good. He/she’s back to talking to you.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 24th, 2012
11:35 am

disco

August 24th, 2012
11:36 am

O/T – just reading up on hurricane Isaac and saw where a govt official asked residents to ask overseas relatives to wire them money to stock up on food and water. really? in a national emergency the govt isn’t even willing to give it’s own people food and water? crazy.