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Dating: Play or get played

There are a lot of cynics on the dating scene. Heck, I admit that I was mayor of Bitterville a couple of times. It’s hard not to become at least a little protective of our egos, hearts, and emotions.

I met a really great guy the other day at the recycling center at DeKalb’s Farmer’s Market. We had the most random chat about Atlanta and dating. He was of the mindset that you have to play the dating game – at least a little. If not, you could find yourself being used and abused, even when your intentions are good.

It sounded a little cynical to me, so I asked him when did this attitude about women and relationships come about. He launched into a really awful account of his last girlfriend who played really dirty dating games with him. Of course he is gun shy!

Do you think that a lot of single people think this way? Are we slow to trust the intentions of others? Do we question their motives too much?

If we are all thinking that we have to play or get played, then who is winning?!

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

404 comments Add your comment

disco

August 24th, 2012
9:06 am

bluz bluz bluz – really? you don’t understand dating games? child, that’s likely why you succumb to so much game.

S/H – I agree re conditions.

BF – single and happy might just be happy in the near future. (S/H – you like how I put that out there? that’s how rumors get started. lol)

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
9:07 am

Black I only have one gal :-) I’m no saint by any means, but only one is my girl :-)

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
9:08 am

Disco, look at all these rumors, starting all over the place (LOL)

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:08 am

Lily & swiss: The early bird may get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese. Y’all started WAY to early this morning! :lol:

On topic~ I’m with S/H, no games. If that’s all you got, KIM. As far as being cynical, I think this goes back to the same convo as yesterday, the dating scene as changed. Now, with all the scammers and gamers out there, a little bit of cynicism is warranted.

Good Morning all!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 24th, 2012
9:09 am

Single you’re not invisible by your self, I still can’t find my arms and legs.

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:10 am

See, now disco and single got me singing “Rumors”…

How do rumors get started?
They get started by the jealous people and
they get mad…

Exiled!

August 24th, 2012
9:12 am

K am back…

I was in theshower laughing at that scene where StevieJ takes his woman and the stripper woman for counseling… :lol:

Coz he wants his woman,the stripper and the shrink to All understand StevieJ better!

Rich and hilarious :lol:

I apologize ladies i needed a laugh! :lol:

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
9:12 am

Comon, yesterday your repeat history statement had Teena Marie, Deja Vue in my head all day, so payback (LOL)

SlimUno

August 24th, 2012
9:12 am

SH – Only one is your gal but what do you call all the rest of ‘them’?

i'm swiss

August 24th, 2012
9:13 am

Comon — I’m not starting, I’m still going. Been up all night for a prod release. Getting kinda loopy, so don’t be surprised if I make inappropriate comments.

5… 4… 3… 2…

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
9:13 am

Black I know why they don’t see me (5′5″) (LOL) why don’t they see you :-)

SlimUno

August 24th, 2012
9:14 am

Ex – You can’t leave out the “I am God” t-shirt he wore too. :roll:

Celisea......please get your belly rubbed...please!!!

August 24th, 2012
9:15 am

Morning,

I agree with Mmeello’s post.

While we want it to be all nice and pretty in the land of love, it hardly ever is. You better be cautious. I lack the ability to take folks at face value (I know…not good). I just don’t believe folks until it’s proven. Sort of opposite of trusting until you give me a reason not to. I am learning though, play nice and go along. If you start trying to decode something that’s NOT there, that’s detrimental and if you try and decode stuff that’s is there, you’ll only cause folks to hide deeper. But really, in love should all of these nasty elements be present? No. That’s why it’s called a game….to most.

Real love don’t have those nasty elements present.

DreamsMaterialize

August 24th, 2012
9:17 am

Morning
So, “game them before they game you” is dude’s motto? That’s wack. If you’re out for something real, at some point you have to expose yourself. The risk of exposing yourself is that you’re subject to getting played. No risk, no reward. Now, I don’t knock anyone for being cautious. Our approach to the new situation is often determined by our experiences with past ones. That makes some more cautious than others. That’s your journey, and you have to move at your pace. Just find someone who has the same pace.

disco

August 24th, 2012
9:17 am

CC – re the early bird, the worm, the mouse and the cheese. I am fond of saying the early bird gets the worm is good for the early bird but bad for the early worm.

CC – re the rumors song. do you remember the silly roaches song somebody came out with?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 24th, 2012
9:22 am

LOL……..@Single 9:13 that’s a good one, (6′4″) they can’t see my face when I’m standing at the bar so they walk on by………LOL

Into the Light with improved, D-Con pest-control robes. Shoo, you pathetic bug....shoo.

August 24th, 2012
9:22 am

(ITL pulling her protective robe a little tighter)

@BF and Stamps: You are not invisible. But Stamps, you have a girl, and BF, I wold have to disqualify myself if you’re the bachelor. Unless you wanna get a trailer and move to Alabama. :oops:

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:24 am

disco~ What’s the old African saying? Whether you’re a lion or a gazelle, you’d better wake up running. :lol: & I do remember that song. SMDH.. Y’all trying to have all sorts of crazy in my head today.

swiss~ I’m still waiting for my inappropriate comment in 5…4…3…2…1 :lol:

Into the Light with improved, D-Con pest-control robes. Shoo, you pathetic bug....shoo.

August 24th, 2012
9:24 am

Rumors! Man, that took me back…..

We should have blog karaoke at the bar this afternoon. I’ll sing Rumors…..it kinda strikes a chord with me.

Celisea......please get your belly rubbed...please!!!

August 24th, 2012
9:26 am

How do rumors get started? They get started by the jealous people and they get mad…

So true, so so true. Jealousy is an ugly emotion. And thanks for putting that song in my head.

I have to log off so I can work. I’m distracted if the blog is up…lol

Celisea......please get your belly rubbed...please!!!

August 24th, 2012
9:26 am

oopsy on the all bold

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:27 am

ITL~ How’s that robe working for you? We can always go with my idea and petition the government for certified ratings…

Into the Light with improved, D-Con pest-control robes. Shoo, you pathetic bug....shoo.

August 24th, 2012
9:29 am

@CC: Nah – the ratings won’t keep the cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs from sneaking in the door….

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:29 am

It’s really not my fault y’all got that song stuck in your head. It was disco in her 9:06! :lol:

Blame it on the boogie disco…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 24th, 2012
9:30 am

LOL……@Light to AL at least I’ll be a couple hours closer to the casinos in MS………LOL

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 24th, 2012
9:31 am

disco

August 24th, 2012
9:32 am

CC – how you just going to throw me under the bus? yeah, I started it but dang, you could have just rolled with it. lol. wait, I started the rumor, you started the song. there. shared blame. how bout that?

Celisea......please get your belly rubbed...please!!! Or take your meds

August 24th, 2012
9:32 am

Hey Lady…saw you earlier….

i'm swiss

August 24th, 2012
9:32 am

Comon — Actually, I was counting down to a “how is that different from any other time?” comment from some citizen of blogville…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 24th, 2012
9:33 am

:oops: Never mind 9:31 thi is it.

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:34 am

disco~ Agreed. I am willing to accept my complicity in this “sticking people with songs” scam… :lol:

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
9:34 am

Dang, 2 pgs by 9:30. You guys are on a roll.

Are we slow to trust the intentions of others? – Wouldn’t necessarily say “slow,” but being “cautious” is key. Do we question their motives too much? – Sometimes, you have no choice.

Ex ~ anyone aspiring to be like StevieJ is an idiot!

Into the Light with improved, D-Con pest-control robes. Shoo, you pathetic bug....shoo.

August 24th, 2012
9:35 am

Wow. Somebody had a heaping helping of phycho puffs this morning.

disco

August 24th, 2012
9:35 am

leggs – as CC is fond of saying. we are a band of miscreants. apparently no one is doing what they are supposed to be doing. at least they aren’t giving it 100%.

Into the Light with improved, D-Con pest-control robes. Shoo, you pathetic bug....shoo.

August 24th, 2012
9:36 am

LOL@BF. Yeah, but you’re not taking the trailer rent money to go gamble with!!! :lol: :lol:

Into the Light with improved, D-Con pest-control robes. Shoo, you pathetic bug....shoo.

August 24th, 2012
9:37 am

Yay, miscreants!

Leggs

August 24th, 2012
9:40 am

Good morning.

And like SlimUno said, that crazy t-shirt he wore made him look even more foolish. When he purse his lips, it makes him look even shorter.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 24th, 2012
9:41 am

waving @ C~ and trying to keep up with this fast paced blog hahahaha lol

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:41 am

disco~ Well, since we’re out of our element anyway, can we open the bar early and live up to our miscreants name? It’s 5 o’clock somewhere AND it’s Friday.

swiss~ True, true. So maybe I should wait for an appropriate comment?

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 24th, 2012
9:42 am

ITL, don’t act like they don’t have trailers in GA, oh that’s right, they call them schools (LOL)

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:42 am

When he purse his lips, it makes him look even shorter

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 24th, 2012
9:42 am

Leggs

Are you participating in the blog dating game? You, disco, and Light are doing the choosing. Single can’t play cause he’s got a girl I’m disqualified…….LOL Randyt aint here so he may be hitched by now. There may be a dilemma with unattached men on the blog.

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:43 am

don’t act like they don’t have trailers in GA, oh that’s right, they call them schools

And if you live up north, they’re “mobile home parks” :lol:

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:44 am

Damn, has anyone heard a peep for HST? I figured he would come up for air at least once and give us the update…

Into the Light with improved, D-Con pest-control robes. Shoo, you pathetic bug....shoo.

August 24th, 2012
9:45 am

Awwwww, good one, Stamps. And I’m sorry for making fun of Alabama. The state of Alabama actually has some very rich history. For instance, did you know that the name is derived from an old Indian term??? Yeah….it means “up on blocks!!!!”

:lol: :lol:

disco

August 24th, 2012
9:45 am

S/H – my mouth fell open. why you gotta call the state of Georgia out on having trailer classrooms? wrong I tell you. lol.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 24th, 2012
9:45 am

yall are funny as hell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hilarity~

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 24th, 2012
9:46 am

Where is HST anyway?!? He seems way cool!

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:47 am

Hey, ITL, did you hear that they don’t have any ice in the cafeteria at Alabama?

Comon Cents

August 24th, 2012
9:49 am

disco~ We can’t even get all our kids in a class room and TX is building $59.6 million dollar stadiums… :oops:

http://www.tmdailypost.com/article/sports/what-people-are-saying-about-allen-s-596-million-high-school-football-stadium