Is inexperience a bad thing?
When you get to be my age *cough*, you go through enough dating misadventures to get a little “wisdom” (see what I did there?) and gain a lot of experience. You figure out what works, what doesn’t. You define what you like and what you absolutely can’t stand. Experience is a good thing. What happens when you don’t have past experiences though?
I was talking to a friend who is seeing a new guy who is a lot younger than she is, which means he has not dated many women. Sometimes, she can tell because of how he reacts and handles certain situations.
Thankfully, she is a patient woman and feels he is worth it.
Do you think that dating someone who has little or no experience is hard? Have you ever been the first love, first relationship, or first lover? Do you feel any pressure?
They say we are the sum of all of our experiences, what happens when our experiences add up to zero??
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Bluzgirl
August 22nd, 2012
3:07 pm
Hey…he’s not moving in!!! I’m not referring to it as a relationship at this point…just dating for now and seeing where it goes!!!
ITL – I always had good feelings about Dr. Good until he did what he did. I don’t know if he’s necessarily a scam artist, but it wasn’t cool what he did.
I WAS NOT PLANNING ON SMASHING LAST NIGHT ANYWAYS!!! Yes…he had to leave early because of his dog, but even if he had stayed, it wouldn’t have happened…
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:08 pm
Victor Hill better walk around like 50 Cents and keep his vest on.
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 22nd, 2012
3:09 pm
wow bluz sounds like she may be a lil red in the face right now (LOL)
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:10 pm
swiss ~ MAN, I purposely left off “parents’ ” and here you go putting the word in (lol).
I hear ya, Single (2:55). We all hear you.
disco
August 22nd, 2012
3:11 pm
leggs – and there you go mentioning 50 cent. he’s my current “who can hit it” rap crush.
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:11 pm
Single, Bluz doesn’t get red in the face..she simply turns into one of the Smurfettes.
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:12 pm
disco ~ I’m cracking up. Mine is Nelly! YEP!
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 22nd, 2012
3:14 pm
Leggs, one of the smurfettes (rotflmao) and which smurf would that be DFWM (don’t fudge wit me) smurf, or LMMA (leave my man alone) smurf (LOL)
disco
August 22nd, 2012
3:15 pm
leggs – I was going to say that nelly is a sweetie but who am I kidding. 50 cent is a sweetie too. he just be perping like he’s all hard. still, if a sister had the opportunity to get broke off with the magic stick I’d be walking around like kanye (is it kanye?) talking about “did you say something? nuh uh. you can’t tell me nothing”. lol.
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 22nd, 2012
3:15 pm
Hmm Trina an Eve can have a seat any time (LOL)
disco
August 22nd, 2012
3:16 pm
S/H – I’ll let you have eve but trina just plain looks stank.
i'm swiss
August 22nd, 2012
3:16 pm
Leggs — What can I say? I’m a stickler for details.
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 22nd, 2012
3:17 pm
Disco be stank all up in my face (LOL)
SlimUno
August 22nd, 2012
3:19 pm
CC – That thought crossed my mind but since I’m just now strolling in late today, I didn’t want to throw that out there. Plus I was not sure if it was mentioned earlier or not. Don’t have time to go back and read all that
Comon Cents
August 22nd, 2012
3:20 pm
S/H~ True, True. Can’t I just have a little bit of glory?
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:21 pm
Disco be stank all up in my face (LOL)
I heard the voice of an 11 year old (lol).
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:23 pm
I know who Eve is, but who’s Trina???
SlimUno
August 22nd, 2012
3:23 pm
Mine used to be LL Cool J or Tupac…can’t say I have one now though.
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 22nd, 2012
3:23 pm
Leggs, all men turn into lil boys when the get a new toy to play wit, (LOL) just dreaming (LOL)
SlimUno
August 22nd, 2012
3:24 pm
Leggs – Trina is the baddist Biya lol
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 22nd, 2012
3:25 pm
Leggs Trina is the Baddest B. I don’t think she’s done anything in years
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trina
SlimUno
August 22nd, 2012
3:25 pm
http://images.search.yahoo.com/search/images;_ylt=A0oG7jonMjVQdVoA4QtXNyoA?p=rapper+trina&fr=yfp-t-701&fr2=piv-web
Leggs click the link for Trina
SlimUno
August 22nd, 2012
3:26 pm
S/H – Didn’t she have a song called Single Again not too too far in a land farther away than here? lol
Comon Cents
August 22nd, 2012
3:27 pm
Slim~ I’m wit you on LL, especially after he wrestled te burglar to the ground in his house and held him till the police came… mmmm, mmmm, mmm…
disco
August 22nd, 2012
3:29 pm
CC – slim – LL is just classic sexy. he was fine wearing a kangol talking about his radio and I was feeling gabrielle union in deliver us from eva when she said “and then we burned a hole in the floor”. mmm mmmm mmmmm.
disco
August 22nd, 2012
3:29 pm
sorry CC – I had to get on the mmm mmmm mmmm bandwagon. just plain delectable.
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:30 pm
SlimUno ~ thanks for that collage. She’s pretty. I see Beyonce, Lala (Anthony Mello’s wife), Keisha, etc in her.
Thank you too, Single.
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:32 pm
Although I don’t think this half pint is sexy, but I do like his raspy voice – Ja Rule!
SlimUno
August 22nd, 2012
3:33 pm
Leggs – I think LaLa and her are good friends. She was on her reality show hanging out in Miami with her and the Destiny’s Child chick.
CC – I don’t recall ever hearing that story about LL…Is that really true?
Comon Cents
August 22nd, 2012
3:35 pm
Leggs~ My secret one is Lil Wayne. While I think he has ZERO talent, I would let him thug me out in a minute…
Comon Cents
August 22nd, 2012
3:36 pm
Slim~
http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/gossip/la-et-mg-ll-cool-j-burglary-fight-20120822,0,6159156.story
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:36 pm
SlimUno ~ the story about LL just happened last night or earlier this week.
disco
August 22nd, 2012
3:36 pm
leggs – that made me laugh. Ja? for real? busta rhymes was my rapper crush for a long time. back when he was talking “woo hah. I got you all in check”. yeah. I still like old trevor. I even like to say trevor.
CC – little wayne? no comment.
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 22nd, 2012
3:38 pm
Slim don’t know what she was rapping, I was just looking a drooling (LOL) you know me
Comon Cents
August 22nd, 2012
3:40 pm
Y’all remember Khia? My neck, my back…
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:40 pm
I like Ja Rule’s voice.
I knew a lot of ladies were crushing on Busta. Never floated my boat. Hell, he raps so fast I have no idea what the man is saying. And, for the record, I don’t know what many of these rappers are saying.
Comon Cents
August 22nd, 2012
3:40 pm
I think she even made Trina look respectable…
Comon Cents
August 22nd, 2012
3:41 pm
disco~ IDK what it is about him, but that little knuckle head “makes me wanna holla” to borrow a phrase…
kimmie
August 22nd, 2012
3:43 pm
disco – LL all day for me!! In Deliver from Eva, remember that scene when he came to pick her up on their first date, and when Eva opened the door he was leaned on it looking delectable in his suit? I was on a date to see that movie and when it showed him in that scene I couldn’t resist saying Umm Umm Umm!! My date said “hey wait a minute now”!! I told him I’m sorry, but I just couldn’t help it!LOL!!!
disco
August 22nd, 2012
3:44 pm
CC – a lot of folks say that about wayne. he just looks like a little scarred up ninja turtle to me. plus he doesn’t weigh enough. he needs to eat. oh, and I admit, I was up in the club dancing all freaky to that song. what?
kimmie
August 22nd, 2012
3:44 pm
Leggs – I like Ja Rules voice too!!
disco
August 22nd, 2012
3:46 pm
kimmie – I went to see it with a guy. what I remember most is he kept comparing me to eva the whole movie. lol. messed up thing is everyone was comparing me to eva. friends and family members nationwide were talking about “you are just like eva”. I was like dang.
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:50 pm
Cool, I have backup (lol). Raspiness is sexy!!!!
kimmie
August 22nd, 2012
3:53 pm
disco – LOL!!
Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"
August 22nd, 2012
3:53 pm
Disco, IJS (LOL)
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
3:57 pm
friends and family members nationwide were talking about “you are just like eva”. I was like dang.
Reminds me of what a distant friend used to say to me “if people are saying the same thing over and over again, it must be true!”
disco
August 22nd, 2012
4:00 pm
re being compared to eva, I wasn’t even upset. there were some very unsettling similarities that even I cannot deny. it is what it is. I do the Tupperware/storage thing. when she looked at her watch and said “tick tick tick” that’s me all day. bossy as heck? me again. yeah. I was all up and through that movie.
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
4:00 pm
I have on a very thin chiffon blouse so I’m wrapped in my blanket eating an icee having people laugh at me as they walk by. Oh well.
kimmie
August 22nd, 2012
4:03 pm
Leggs – That is me all the way sometimes – wrapped up like I’m on the North Pole, but eating or wanting some ice cream or an icee!!!!
Leggs
August 22nd, 2012
4:08 pm
Ok, what’s the next topic? We’ve been a bunch of jumping beans today.