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Is inexperience a bad thing?

When you get to be my age *cough*, you go through enough dating misadventures to get a little “wisdom” (see what I did there?) and gain a lot of experience. You figure out what works, what doesn’t. You define what you like and what you absolutely can’t stand. Experience is a good thing. What happens when you don’t have past experiences though?

I was talking to a friend who is seeing a new guy who is a lot younger than she is, which means he has not dated many women. Sometimes, she can tell because of how he reacts and handles certain situations.
Thankfully, she is a patient woman and feels he is worth it.

Do you think that dating someone who has little or no experience is hard? Have you ever been the first love, first relationship, or first lover? Do you feel any pressure?

They say we are the sum of all of our experiences, what happens when our experiences add up to zero??

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

471 comments Add your comment

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 22nd, 2012
10:46 am

Hi there BF!!!!! all is well! Enjoy your day sir~

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 22nd, 2012
10:47 am

disco stop this madness, self employed is a scrap metal collector, knocking off 7-11’s I literally have tears in my eyes…………LOL

Bluzgirl

August 22nd, 2012
10:47 am

S/H…I only say that because I’m broke and wouldn’t want to drive my car out to Marietta on Mon night and we are going together, so he’ll be driving…

I know ya’ll are skeptical about the self-employed, but he does handyman/contractor work. I know several guys who are self-employed as a handyman. He was in New Orleans to work on a house and sent me pictures of the project. I know that he works everyday. Believe what ya’ll want, but a man can make an honest living that way.

CC – In the past I did have one successful FWB that just stayed that way. I seriously thought that’s all this would be. Typically…it would be me that started the feelings and got all clingy to the guy, but this time, he is the one that did the pursuing!

disco

August 22nd, 2012
10:49 am

awww sookie sookie now. bluz is stepping up to defend her man. go head girl.

ATL Guy

August 22nd, 2012
10:51 am

What exactly does FWB stand for??? I get what it is from the conversation though, Haha

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 22nd, 2012
10:51 am

I’m hangin Comon but you lady’s got me rolling this morning. I must be still buzzing from last night.

Into the Light

August 22nd, 2012
10:55 am

Bluz – you going to the jam spot on Monday? I might need to slide in there and see Mr. Magnum for myself…see what all the hoopla is about. :)

Seriously, girl, if you are happy then great. But um, er…..I kinda feel like happy is not exactly your comfort zone. Does that make sense?

ATL Guy

August 22nd, 2012
10:55 am

Bluz – how broke are you if you can’t afford to drive to you man!?!? I mean you aren’t exactly paying for the dates

Bluzgirl

August 22nd, 2012
10:56 am

ATL Guy…Friends With Benefits

disco…I am standing up for him because I don’t want ya’ll to think he’s just a slacker living at home. I’ve already explained what he does and why he’s at home. Roll with it how you will.

Bluzgirl

August 22nd, 2012
10:57 am

ITL…it’s not the jam at the place we discussed, but I’ll email you the info…

Bluzgirl

August 22nd, 2012
10:58 am

I’m usually not this broke, but overpaid a few things and am paying the price right now, which stresses me out…

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 22nd, 2012
10:59 am

Bluz, no one is saying that you can’t, being self employed is the same as having a job, you have to go everyday, we can only interpret what your words tell us.

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 22nd, 2012
11:00 am

bluz if when in a relationship it’s not using his gas, it’s he’s driving!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 22nd, 2012
11:00 am

Hi there Light, finally catching my breath and wiping my brow, I have confidence in Bluz she is making big strides and I hope the best for them.

Bluzgirl

August 22nd, 2012
11:01 am

And ITL – you’re right…happy isn’t necessarily in my comfort zone, but I’m working on that big time these days. I want to be happy in general and not depend on anyone else for my happiness. I’m getting much, much better at it…

Into the Light

August 22nd, 2012
11:02 am

Me too, BF, me too!!

Soooo, what is this about you tripping the light fantastic last night? You get your buzz on, BBB? (I’m jealous!)

Bluzgirl

August 22nd, 2012
11:02 am

Thank you BF…I really do feel a lot stronger than I did just 6 months ago.

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 22nd, 2012
11:03 am

ATL Guy
August 22nd, 2012
10:55 am

Bluz – how broke are you if you can’t afford to drive to you man!?!? I mean you aren’t exactly paying for the dates

Seriously??

Into the Light

August 22nd, 2012
11:04 am

I really do feel a lot stronger than I did just 6 months ago.

Rome wasn’t built in a day, Bluz. Be patient with the process.

(see, the kinder/gentler ITL has returned!)

Comon Cents

August 22nd, 2012
11:05 am

Bluz~ Then at the end of the day, that’s all that matters.

Bluzgirl

August 22nd, 2012
11:06 am

I like the kind/gentle ITL! LOL!

Comon Cents

August 22nd, 2012
11:06 am

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 22nd, 2012
11:07 am

Light had company over and we had a mini midweek party, didn’t get to bed 1am.

Comon Cents

August 22nd, 2012
11:07 am

Stop it Single! You just made me LOL for real…

Comon Cents

August 22nd, 2012
11:08 am

Awww… sookie sookie now! BF having mid week parties and thangs…

Into the Light

August 22nd, 2012
11:09 am

COMPLETELY OFF TOPIC: Last night, I stopped on the way home to vote, and on my way home I thought I’d stop by a little home cookin’ spot to get some dinner. While they were making it, I went next door to the likka store(trust me, this one is a likka store…..got corn likka on the shelf and everything!) to grab my lottery tickets. How come this Antoine looking mother fella that smelled like 3-day old Schlitz tried to holla at me???? I just kept walking and didn’t even speak although I did channel disco and was saying under my breath, “I know he is out his natural mind if he think he can holla at me….”

Comon Cents

August 22nd, 2012
11:10 am

Ok… O/T~ I just had the rude awakening moment when I realized I was old. One of my favorite bands from back in the day was classified as “Classic Rock” on Spotify. :cry:

Bluzgirl

August 22nd, 2012
11:10 am

LOL ITL!!! That’s too funny.

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 22nd, 2012
11:10 am

comon please tell me you took that the way I meant it, (LOL)

ATL Guy

August 22nd, 2012
11:11 am

Single – I’m being for Real! So this guy needs to pick her up, pay for dinners, buy her purses, etc. If you can’t afford gasoline just to meet someone then should probably worry less about dating and more about working! People get in financial troubles, but you gotta set your priorities. So if I get this girl’s number and tell her I can’t date her this weekend cause I can’t afford the gas it takes to meet with her … imagine how that would go over, just sayin, flip the script

Into the Light

August 22nd, 2012
11:12 am

@Bluz: It wasn’t too funny when I nearly turned blue trying to hold my breath to get past him. Mug should’ve changed the eye color on his drivers license to “red”

Into the Light

August 22nd, 2012
11:13 am

So this guy needs to pick her up, pay for dinners, buy her purses, etc.

That reminds me….where is HST?? I never did get my Birkin. :(

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 22nd, 2012
11:13 am

Comon my awakening moment came years ago when I was in a club and realized I was the old man in the club (LOL) hell I was only in my mid 30s at the time (LOL)

Comon Cents

August 22nd, 2012
11:14 am

How come this Antoine looking mother fella that smelled like 3-day old Schlitz tried to holla at me????

This is one of those instances when I think the government should step in and implement a rating system. You go to your local BRC (beauty rating center) and they certify you. If your a 7 then you get a card like a license that says you’re a 7. If your certification says you are a 2, you can UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES hit on a 10. You have a 1+/- range. That would alleviate so much of the need to shoot down someone you know you would never be caught dead dealing with… :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 22nd, 2012
11:15 am

Yep Comon friends spring up at my house and we make a couple of calls and the next thing we know there’s a party going on. Drinking cooking chicken wings and Like Lady mentioned yesterday we we’re weeding………LOL

Comon Cents

August 22nd, 2012
11:15 am

S/H~ I surely did…

Into the Light

August 22nd, 2012
11:17 am

Dang, BF. Let me make sure you have my number. I like a party on a school night errr now and then. No gardening for me, though…I’m allergic to weeds.

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 22nd, 2012
11:17 am

ATL Guy, she is saying she is broke this weekend, not broke all the time, there is a big difference. You’re telling me if you are dating a woman and she’s broke every once and a while, she doesn’t have her priorities straight?

And when I tell my woman I’m broke, she says okay, because I’m not broke all the time!

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 22nd, 2012
11:18 am

ITL HST isn’t having mis adventures anymore, he’s having adventures now :-)

Into the Light

August 22nd, 2012
11:18 am

@CC: I’m not saying I’m all that and a box of Nutter Butters, but dang. Even if he had been good looking I wouldn’t have been able to get past the stale beer smell. Blech!

Into the Light

August 22nd, 2012
11:19 am

@Stamps: Oh, that’s right. From Russia with Love is playing at the manse. I forgot. :)

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 22nd, 2012
11:20 am

Comon “shot for the moon, even if you miss you’ll still be among the stars” (LOL)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 22nd, 2012
11:22 am

Light yes I meant to say we were weeding the yard………LOL

Bluzgirl

August 22nd, 2012
11:23 am

S/H – Thanks for sticking up for me with ATL Guy! :-) I’m not normally this broke, but will be back on track next Friday!

ITL – I can imagine it wasn’t funny at the time, but it’s gotta be funny now!

ATL Guy

August 22nd, 2012
11:24 am

Single – thats exactly what I’m saying. If you’re so cash strapped for the weekend that you can’t afford gasoline … priorities should be something else. Once financially stable, then go date whoever. As a guy, if I’m in debt or something, last thing I’m doing is taking a date to the 4-Seasons cause its not practical. There are things to do on a budget like Piedmont Park, Biking, Running etc. But, if I struggled buying Gasoline, then it needs to be focus on where can I make that cash money instead of some guy that will hold your hand

Single and Happy "I'm not crazy, I'm just upset because my imaginary friend is mad and won't talk to me!"

August 22nd, 2012
11:25 am

YW Bluz that was what I meant by my reply to him.

ATL Guy

August 22nd, 2012
11:27 am

Bluz – I’m not trying to give you a hard time, we all get in money situations, but I’m saying go out with the guy next weekend when you’re solid and focus on other things this weekend if the means are not there, thats all

Bluzgirl

August 22nd, 2012
11:29 am

Damn…he just texted me that he needs to find a vet, which I’m pretty sure means it’s time for him to put the dog down. A vet can’t do anything else at this point. My heart breaks for him. That is the hardest thing you have to do when you’re an animal lover…

i'm swiss

August 22nd, 2012
11:30 am

Ahem… uh, ladies… if it’s only 2’s and 3’s that are hitting on you, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your self-rating. IJS… :lol:

ITL — In ole boy’s defense, you were in a likka store buying lottery tickets. That’s probably usually right in his wheelhouse. ;-) (I kid because I love…) :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 22nd, 2012
11:31 am

ATL:
Come on Bluz didn’t mean it the way it came out. Being slack in the pocket occasionally shouldn’t interfere with living. I get your drift about fiscally getting sound before taking on more responsibility.