Dating in Atlanta competitive?
I was out hanging in our great city recently and I noticed something about the dating scene, it’s competitive. No really, like pull out all the stops, going way overboard to attract people – competitive. It’s one of those things you sort of always knew about the dating scene here, but until you pay close attention, you don’t see the intricate ways it unfolds.
A lot of people in Atlanta are really big on image (fake?) and the appearance of success. You don’t have to actually be successful, just walk and talk like you are. The problem with focusing on the image and appearance is that you really find out later once the bait and switch happens. All this makes the dating scene competitive, a little challenging, and I think a bit shallow.
What do you think? Have you noticed the competitiveness of single people here? Does it bother you? How can you rise above this kind of thing and meet people who are more authentic and genuine?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:36 pm
My dumb slow self, it took me a minute to realize what was happening.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:36 pm
That was not an embarrassing moment…
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
4:39 pm
Those nylon track suits were the worse culprits in the Surprise wang teepee! And I hear silk boxers tend to cause that infracture more frequently than any other undergarment
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:39 pm
Swiss – All I remember are his deep dimples when I realized what was poking me…lol. He was saying nothing and he was NOT moving away either…lol Maybe he wasn’t embarrassed….lol
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:41 pm
“And I hear silk boxers tend to cause that infracture more frequently than any other undergarment”
Boxers, in general, are a bad idea when you’re in puberty. Gotta wait until you have mastered your domain before you can pull off boxers or free-balling.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:42 pm
There was another moment in my mom’s living room. He was visiting and I had on a skirt without a slip. I stood up to do in front of the lamp. After returning to the couch, he said, I just looked straight through your skirt…and there was the swell.
Soooo, now I wear slips….lolololol
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:42 pm
“He was saying nothing and he was NOT moving away either…lol Maybe he wasn’t embarrassed”
Bingo! That’s right out of MLB 101 playbook. Gets the message across without making you seem like a sexual predator.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:44 pm
Swiss – LOLOLOLOLOL…I ain’t gonna lie. I didn’t know what to do. I wanted to run but I wanted to stay. Soooo, I stay close until the bus came. But that was all. Too much time at the bus stop and my daddy would have come looking for me. No joke there…lololol Did NOT want that to happen.
disco
August 21st, 2012
4:45 pm
Celisea – and you make wearing slips sound like a public service announcement. lol.
swiss – what I got from it was that dude wasn’t new to this. he wasn’t one of those virgin-type brothersw who hadn’t been introduced to his own wang yet. he also knew that there are the girls that are scared of the lumps and the girls that are checking for the lumps. he was gauging her reaction.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:45 pm
” Soooo, I stay close until the bus came”
His name was “Bus?”
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
4:45 pm
Alright folks…I can’t read anymore talk about sex and boners! LOL! I’m out…wish me luck and good sense tonight!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:46 pm
Swiss – LOLOLOL…nooooo, his name was not bus and I’m sure blue balls is what he had. No releasing with me. Nuh uh, I can promise you my daddy was in the driveway looking through the trees….lololol
disco – I like slips, they’re dainty and sexy
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:47 pm
Bluzy – That was the laugh of the day for me…your 4:45 Get on out there and get with Magnum. Act like you got good sense now…tonight. K?
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
4:48 pm
No alcohol either…it clouds your already clouded mind and have fun
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:49 pm
Cel — If this was in high school and that hug lasted more than 16.2 seconds, all bets are off…
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:49 pm
And to think, I was 17 years old. That was the first ahem, I’d seen or at least been close to. Probably not the first one caused though….lol
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:50 pm
Swiss – LOLOLOLOLOL…it was hs as long as pops was close by, Imma go the other way on that. I’m telling you, a dude visiting with pops and four brothers walking around ain’t easy!
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:50 pm
You didn’t notice him give any little shudders as he backed away, did you?
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:52 pm
Nuh, my fast tail moved in closer after the realization set in and after the “oooooo” shock. That was all he was getting though. Just a good rub. Cloth to cloth…lolololol
STL Lady
August 21st, 2012
4:52 pm
You guys really crack me up. I’ve been reading this blog for awhile but haven’t posted. I really enjoy your back-and-forth banter. You are a bright spot in an otherwise routine day!
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
4:53 pm
LOL Cel! No booze at all tonight! I actually have a little headache starting…
I’m out!
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:56 pm
Welcome, STL Lady! I see all it took was a little boner talk (or maybe big boner talk?) to coax you out of lurking.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:56 pm
Disco – Your 4:45, you might be right. Everybody knows I was a “good girl” and he was knows as a pretty cool dude…a good boy. We went together about 3 years. At that time, I’d say we’d been in it about a year or so. So, yeah there’d been no tasting of the goodies, just heavy kissing and petting. I think though by that time he could tell his boys, dang y’all was right about her…lololol He always seemed cool with “no.” I’m sure though, in retrospect, some hot tailed cheerleader was dusting him off. He was 6′0″, deep dimples and bowlegged (shet it up…y’all know that would make sister go limp in the knees)…a cutie.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:57 pm
You should fit right in here…
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:57 pm
known not knows.
Alright, I’m getting ready to pack it up
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
5:00 pm
Night, folks. STL Lady, come back & join in the banter tomorrow. I’ll wear my sweatpants.
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
5:06 pm
You guys have had me laughing out loud all afternoon. Lord knows, with everything going on in my office today, they think I am pure D bat sh!t crazy. LMAO!
Welcome STL Lady! I agree with swiss, if hidden boners brought you out, you will fit right in.
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
5:07 pm
Night swiss… You and Miss swiss be sure to start plotting out your escape plans…
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
5:09 pm
Night C! Be careful walking to your car… The technical name for what your boy did is frotterism. Well, I guess not because he wasn’t a complete stranger.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
5:13 pm
Comon Cents – Night….I googled that word. Yeah, so what I didn’t know what it meant…lolololol
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
5:20 pm
Up until a couple of years ago, neither did I. I had a case where a client was charged with it. LMAO!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
5:25 pm
Comon Cents – Ewwwwww, probably some perv
Night for real this time