Dating in Atlanta competitive?
I was out hanging in our great city recently and I noticed something about the dating scene, it’s competitive. No really, like pull out all the stops, going way overboard to attract people – competitive. It’s one of those things you sort of always knew about the dating scene here, but until you pay close attention, you don’t see the intricate ways it unfolds.
A lot of people in Atlanta are really big on image (fake?) and the appearance of success. You don’t have to actually be successful, just walk and talk like you are. The problem with focusing on the image and appearance is that you really find out later once the bait and switch happens. All this makes the dating scene competitive, a little challenging, and I think a bit shallow.
What do you think? Have you noticed the competitiveness of single people here? Does it bother you? How can you rise above this kind of thing and meet people who are more authentic and genuine?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
August 21st, 2012
3:44 pm
Salted Carmel it was. Really good, and really light (to my surprise). Unfortunately, on top of a tunafish sandwich only landed me with a stomach ache screaming into the toilet bowl…
Sorry, TMI
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
3:45 pm
disco – Bluzy is your second encounter of “as is”, at least until things get right.
Well, wait until littl miss wants to sleep with you…lol Either you’re gonna get reeeeal creative on getting some or you won’t be getting any. Don’t get me wrong, I’m an advocate for kids sleeping in their own beds but just sometimes, you’re gonna give in. I remember doing it with my kid and I remember climbing in bed with moms and pops. My dad WAS NOT the happy camper so my mama would spoon with me on the opposite side of the bed. But ain’t nothing popping off, unless she’s 7/8’s dead (while sleeping) or under the age of one…lololol
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
3:49 pm
“Well, wait until littl miss wants to sleep with you…”
Cel — That’s why I’ve already been bombarding Mrs. Swiss with articles about SIDS & how having the baby sleeping in the bed with you increases the risks. Gotta be proactive, you know…
Jake — Well, I guess it’s good that my pain can bring laughter to others…
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
3:50 pm
And if she’s old enough to sit up and watch (say around 8 months or so), you’re gonna feel weird getting so, you won’t. I’m thinking 3 or 4 months, after that it’s blocking
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
3:51 pm
Swiss – Gotta be proactive, you know…
Eeeexactly!! lol
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
3:51 pm
Bluz- Sometimes you just need to sit back and listen (or in this case read)…We like having you here being so honest and sharing with us. However, it always comes down to what you say you NEED to have happen versus what you end up doing or WANTING to do. Just check out how you say you hate being broke, yet you want to go out this weekend. The LOGICAL thing to do is to sit down and chill at the crib and practice your bass. It does not cost you anything. You don’t get paid until next Friday, and I assume by next Friday that you mean of next week…not in 3 days. So you still have damn near two weeks to get through. So even if you do get the money for moving your aunt and you hate eating noodles, again it makes SENSE to not go out. I’m not trying to discourage you from sharing but at what point will you start making better decisions…every good action plan seems to come AFTER the fact of what you already knew was a high potential outcome. You don’t want anyone that’s like your ex, yet this dude has shown you many red flags that resemble your ex. He has already disrespected you and yall have only knocked boots a couple of times. I’ve never seen the honeymoon phase wear off that dayum fast. Your new moniker should be Whirlwind or Tornado Bluz lol
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
3:51 pm
swiss~ Wait until she’s born. You’ll swear that little missy has a camera in yur bedroom or anywhere else you try to touch Mrs. Swiss. You put your hand on her thigh=baby starts crying…
disco
August 21st, 2012
3:53 pm
C – naw. that’s when a whole new level of creativity will kick in. one baby don’t stop no show. how do you think brothers and sisters get here? lol. little swiss mocha will be answering the phone talking about “I’m sorry but mommy and daddy are wrestling right now”.
disco
August 21st, 2012
3:55 pm
celisea – or there will be a tiny little cough coming from down the hall. lol. I always laugh thinking about that.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:00 pm
Hey, I can be stealthy when stealth is required. I was once a horny teenager with nosey parents, so I can find ways to run covert freak-ops.
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
4:00 pm
Slim…you are so right. I think I’m still trying to figure out how to do everything that I NEED to do and not just what I WANT to do. I don’t know how I’ve gotten so low on cash and it bugs me that I can’t go out and do what I want to do this weekend. I’m very responsible with my money, but don’t know how I got far behind. I think I overpaid a couple of bills that I didn’t need too. Anyway…I do hear you. I’m working on it…
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:00 pm
Note to self: buy baby blindfolds & ear plugs….
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
4:00 pm
I cosign emphatically Slim 1’s 3:51 PM!!!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:01 pm
disco – Yeah, I can’t say I’ve experienced being told they’re “wrestling” but I’ve experienced the weird look and head cocked to the side trying to figured out, “what the heck is THAT” ooooo, and where is it going…lol Oooooh yes, I know it all to well. And the blocking don’t stop. Yeah, coughing from the bedroom when you have company. I send the little heffa out, mainly to my mom’s. At this point (of 17), heck ain’t no way nobody’s getting fooled. You might be able to get away with the wrestling stunt until they’re say 4 or 5….lol
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:02 pm
In my defense, that was baby’s daddy and cohabitating. That was not DICK, TOM AND HARRY (in Legg’s order)….lol
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
4:04 pm
swiss – No lie, I have a faint memory about waking up in my parents bed with my dad on top of my mother in a vigorous up and down motion. I was half sleep but i’m pretty sure I saw what I think I saw.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:05 pm
Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit, by the time Swiss Mocha’s 17, there won’t be any more fronting — if mommy & daddy’s room is rocking, don’t come a-knocking!
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
4:05 pm
C~ When my son was little (probably 3) he caught me inflagrante with the live in boyfriend. Came in the room and we didn’t even know he was there until he said “I wanna jump on the bed too!” (We were under the covers) Talk about red faces…
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
4:06 pm
Or wait until the day she walks in on yall and starts crying, “Daddy stop hurting mama!!!”
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:06 pm
“That was not DICK, TOM AND HARRY”
Or Tom’s Harry Dick?
disco
August 21st, 2012
4:07 pm
kids aren’t stupid. they know what’s up. playing horsey my foot. lol.
CC – that’s funny.
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
4:07 pm
disco~ I gotta go see a man about a horse…
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
4:08 pm
swiss – So you gonna tell honey bunny that you were just tapping mama’s arse and you’ll be out in about 30.0000455334 seconds? lol
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:08 pm
GOT DAMMIT! I’m never gonna have uninhibited sex again, am I?
disco
August 21st, 2012
4:11 pm
swiss – sure. it’ll just cost you a babysitter now. you might want to cozy up to another family in the neighborhood and develop a system for swapping kids so y’all can get it in. also, if it’s any consolation a lot of folks think that having to sneak actually makes it better. well, I guess that’s not that much of a consolation but it’s something.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:13 pm
Swiss – Well, seeing I’m not married and I have a kid, a girl under my guiding hand and eye, I can’t just toss all caution to the wind and hang a scarf (red for getting down), on the bedroom doorknob….lololol Yeah, that’s probably all any teenager in this day and age would need. Now, if I was married, then heck yeah, get over it. Mom and dad are getting it….lol
Comon Cents – Fortunately, I’ve been good to avoid and escape embarrassing moments in the sex department. Like I said, I’m either getting a weekend away or a night away. But, I cannot just get all willy nilly with a young woman in my home
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
4:14 pm
Hope you have a comfy vehicle….
We used to sneak out in the garage with the lights out and do it in the car while the boy was watching Teletubbies. 27 mins. Get in where you fit in…
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
4:14 pm
swiss – You two could always sneak off onto the back porch/deck/storage unit/back seat of the car in the garage (it’ll take her a long time to figure out yall are out there, but could be a bit hot though) lol Or you can do it on your way to check the mailbox – ultimate quickie
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:14 pm
That is the good thing about being married. The door is closed. Just know coming in is off limits, unless you knock and permission granted. If it’s not (granted), then assume what you will but WEEEE’S MARRIED….lolololol
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:15 pm
disco — Yeah, that’s true. We do have a lot of grandparent-aged folks in our neighborhood who’ve offered to babysit. Hell, as stated earlier, all I really need is about 27.92 seconds of uninterrupted time and I’m good. Mrs. Swiss is just gonna have to work on her time…
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:17 pm
Well Swiss, just know the days are over (for the next few years or unless she’s at grammy and grampa’s) for getting it in any ole place, any ole time, any ole where and any kind of way…lol Vacays and sleepovers will give you the much needed time for catching up. But just at random, BAM? Nuh uh. Learning creativity will be your next quest.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:18 pm
Mommy & Daddy’s Halloween costume for the next 18 years: Siamese twins, joined at the crotch.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:22 pm
Slim / Comon — In the car in the garage… See, now you’re gonna make me sprout wood right here on the ol’ blog. I have a Jeep, so I’m now picturing the top down w/ Mrs. Swiss bent over the roll bar.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:24 pm
And if we get caught… “go back inside, honey, mommy & daddy are just working on the car…”
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
4:25 pm
Ummm…I’m trying to keep sex off my brain and here ya’ll go talking about it! LOL
Leggs
August 21st, 2012
4:25 pm
PEACE!
disco
August 21st, 2012
4:25 pm
back in my day we had a get some consortium. it wasn’t nothing but a thang to call up peaches or shay and be like “girl, mike mike is trying to run through tonight. can I drop junior off right quick?”
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:26 pm
I’m glad I’m an innie and not an outie. You can feel some kind of way and no one ever knows it
disco
August 21st, 2012
4:28 pm
C – (disclaimer inserted here) – unless you are a squirter. then it looks like you had an accident. lol.
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
4:28 pm
disco~ we still do that….
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:28 pm
“I’m glad I’m an innie and not an outie. You can feel some kind of way and no one ever knows it”
Cel — I think I was in about 4th grade when I learned the hard way that I couldn’t wear sweatpants to school anymore…
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
4:29 pm
swiss – Mrs Swiss has to work on her time LOLOL….it’s like getting prepared for the Sexolympics. Gotta get that time down baby. Now get a grip and lets do the damn thing!!
You could suggest hide and seek, then you and the Mrs sneak off somewhere for a quick pump or two
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:29 pm
That was my mama’s house. Sometimes, to avoid a bunch of questions, I pull up and drop the kid off, with dinner and snacks and sometimes jammies in hand….and keep rolling….lol Sometimes. If I’d walked inside, there would have been a gazillion questions on “where ya heading?” Nonya Now, I don’t have to say a thing. My kid is big and my nieces and nephews all drive. I just need to send her with funds…lol She can do the rest or cook something right out of grammy’s freezer
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:31 pm
“You could suggest hide and seek, then you and the Mrs sneak off somewhere for a quick pump or two”
Hey, now that’s not bad…
“Alright now it’s Mommy & Daddy’s turn to hide. You count to 320,517,423 and then start looking….”
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:31 pm
disco – Yeah, that would be bad and looks bad…lololol
Only because folks are crazy do I leave my kid with my mom/sister if I’m gone a good while. Nuh uh, don’t want here home alone. Folks walking in and crap. It’s just crazy.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:33 pm
Swiss – My first encounter at seeing a young guy “point” was weird but it was during high school. He was my HS sweetie and was over visiting. I walked to the bus stop with him (he was heading home) and wowzer (while hugging)….lololol He was embarrassed to say the least. He had on jeans.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:34 pm
“…And if you cheat on the counting, god will kill Gram-gram.”
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
4:34 pm
You count to 320,517,423 and then start looking….”
Poor little SwissMocha. Just bring her to auntie before you have her counting for about 36 hours.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
4:36 pm
Cel — Mmm hmm. I’ve done the “accidental” boner hug many a time in my day. That was an embarrassing moment. That was his way of showing you what you could be working with.
disco
August 21st, 2012
4:36 pm
right. poor kid. 7, 8, 9, 10 ummm. ummm. 2, 3, 4