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Dating in Atlanta competitive?

I was out hanging in our great city recently and I noticed something about the dating scene, it’s competitive. No really, like pull out all the stops, going way overboard to attract people – competitive. It’s one of those things you sort of always knew about the dating scene here, but until you pay close attention, you don’t see the intricate ways it unfolds.

A lot of people in Atlanta are really big on image (fake?) and the appearance of success. You don’t have to actually be successful, just walk and talk like you are. The problem with focusing on the image and appearance is that you really find out later once the bait and switch happens. All this makes the dating scene competitive, a little challenging, and I think a bit shallow.

What do you think? Have you noticed the competitiveness of single people here? Does it bother you? How can you rise above this kind of thing and meet people who are more authentic and genuine?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
2:47 pm

Comon Cents

August 21st, 2012
2:47 pm

It is thick sliced and the white cheese sets it off perfectly. Yummmm! If I had the room, I’d run and get another one! :lol:

i'm swiss

August 21st, 2012
2:48 pm

ITL — From their menu:

REUBEN CUBANO – Grilled boneless breast of chicken, Swiss cheese, Cuban coleslaw, pickles and Cuban dressing on Cuban bread

I also highly recommend:

BOCADILLO CON CHORIZO – Sautéed smoked Spanish sausage, roasted red peppers, tomatoes, onions, Monterey jack cheese, Cuban dressing and brown mustard on Cuban bread

And their paellas are really good, too.

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
2:49 pm

Bluzy – I bet it’s royal being Magnum. Y’all gonna smash tonight. I can feel it….lol

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
2:49 pm

BOCADILLO CON CHORIZO – Sautéed smoked Spanish sausage, roasted red peppers, tomatoes, onions, Monterey jack cheese, Cuban dressing and brown mustard on Cuban bread

This…sounds delish!!

disco

August 21st, 2012
2:51 pm

swiss – do you eat mofongos? lol. I just like to say that word.

Into the Light

August 21st, 2012
2:51 pm

SWISS! Don’t say moist….ever since “Dead Like Me” that word gives me the creeps. ;) But those sandwiches sound delicious! I see a trip to La Fontina in my future.

@C: It’s that BIG building that juts out very which a way. There’s a gym in there, too. And I think a travel agency….

@Bluz: *sigh* That is all.

Into the Light

August 21st, 2012
2:52 pm

I’m off like a prom dress….y’all be good.

i'm swiss

August 21st, 2012
2:53 pm

“do you eat mofongos?”

disco — If that’s another word for tit-TAYS or cooter cats, then yes — if properly maintained. :lol:

SlimUno

August 21st, 2012
2:53 pm

Cel – You’re the Smash Psychic now. :lol: Yes, as I look into my crystal ball….i’m seeing…um….a wang in your near future. It’s not a really big wang but it’s decent. Uh oh, the crystal ball is getting cloudy. Usually, it does not cloud up that fast…which can only mean onnnnnne thing. That’ll be another $25 though before we can go on.

Comon Cents

August 21st, 2012
2:53 pm

Havana
Complex on PF and Windy Hill (got to think about that…I’ve been there but can’t picture right now

Wrong Havana. That’s a night club. My Havana is on the other side of the city by the Emory area. Buford Highway at Clairmont Road in Crossroads Village Shopping Center.

disco

August 21st, 2012
2:55 pm

swiss – suddenly plantains don’t sound so appetizing.

Comon Cents

August 21st, 2012
2:55 pm

Cel – You’re the Smash Psychic now. Yes, as I look into my crystal ball….i’m seeing…um….a wang in your near future. It’s not a really big wang but it’s decent. Uh oh, the crystal ball is getting cloudy. Usually, it does not cloud up that fast…which can only mean onnnnnne thing. That’ll be another $25 though before we can go on

I think I just snorted out loud at my desk. I cosign on C’s Smash Predictions, though. He and Bluzy will be doing the Horizontal Mambo before 10 PM. I would say midnight, but it’s a wekknight. ;)

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
2:55 pm

ITL – I think I know….Fuddruckers, GE and other stuff is up that way. I was just trying to picture as it’s been a minute since I’ve been on WH or PF for that matter. I have in mind right there coming out of Circle 75…that’s where I am now. Okay, cool that won’t be hard to find.

i'm swiss

August 21st, 2012
2:56 pm

Actually, I don’t care what it’s supposed to mean, I motion that we officially declare “mofongos” as a new word for tig ol’ bitties. Do I have a second?

i'm swiss

August 21st, 2012
2:58 pm

Oh, plantains… :) Hell yes, I love me some plantains. I like them better Haitian style, though — double fried & crispier… mmmm mmmm

Bluzgirl

August 21st, 2012
2:58 pm

Cel – I don’t think there will be any smashing tonight. I’m not into that when I’m feeling so down. Also…I won’t be drinking tonight because I know I’m not in the mindset to do so. As much as I want to, I know it will amplify my emotions and I’ll be crying about my friend all night. I know myself too well…(in some ways at least. LOL)

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
2:58 pm

Slim – LOLOLOLOL….you ain’t right

Comon Cents – I was listing my 3 options…from you ITL and Swiss.

This –>Havana was separate from this —>Complex on PF and Windy Hill

Comon Cents – I think they’ll smash first and talk later. Of course all the talking will go out the window by this time.

Comon Cents

August 21st, 2012
2:59 pm

I second that motion! Motion officially carried.

disco

August 21st, 2012
3:00 pm

swiss – I can’t second that. going out and ordering mofongos would never be the same. lol.

bluz – one suggestion. put your deaf cat in a safe place.

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
3:00 pm

Bluzy Bluzy Bluzy – Okie dokie

i'm swiss

August 21st, 2012
3:01 pm

Thanks, Comon, it is so decreed. Nice mofongos, BTW… ;-)

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
3:01 pm

I can’t second because I don’t know what’s considered tig ol bitties.

Comon Cents

August 21st, 2012
3:02 pm

C~ Ok, I just didn’t want you to go to te night club and be like What the Heyal? Where CC sent me?!? LMAO. I cosign on the smash first and talk over the pillows later. Tomorrow he’ll be moving in so Bluzy won’t be available to fill us in on the details… :lol:

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
3:02 pm

Oh, I guess I don’t have to know…just need to second. I see the motion has passed….never mind

SlimUno

August 21st, 2012
3:03 pm

The only talking they will be doing is that pillow talk before both drifting off to sleep only for Bluz to wake up the next morning and find buddy gone again. Anyone thinks this sounds like Meagan Good’s and Chris Browns role in “Think Like a Man”? lol

Bluzgirl

August 21st, 2012
3:03 pm

OK disco…you made me LOL with that one!!!

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
3:03 pm

Tomorrow he’ll be moving in so Bluzy won’t be available to fill us in on the details

Okay, I LOL’d on this one….y’all ain’t right.

I’m here for you Bluzy, I’m heeeeeere!!

Bluzgirl

August 21st, 2012
3:03 pm

I know I may be a little up and down, but don’t ya’ll have a little faith in me? ;-) There will definitely be talking before even a hug…

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
3:03 pm

He’s not sneaking out…he’s moving in

i'm swiss

August 21st, 2012
3:04 pm

Speaking of mofongos, LAWD JEEBUS, what pregnancy has done to Mrs. Swiss’ tit-TAYS! Oh the cruel irony! Do you ladies have any idea how rock hard it is to be gentle when your boobies look that full, round & inviting??? :lol: What I wouldn’t give for just 30 seconds to motorboat those puppies… :lol:

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
3:05 pm

Bluzy – Can you concretely confirm and trust in yourself enough to say, NO SMASHING? Can you say this with all surety, knowing you know yourself better than any one else? Or can you of a surety say, I’oooon know, shoot…I don’t trust myself???

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
3:06 pm

Bluzy – Imma be as honest as I can be….I believe some of your swinging mood today is unofficial withdrawal. Seriously, I believe that’s some of what’s wrong with you.

Bluzgirl

August 21st, 2012
3:08 pm

Cel…Ummmm…good question. I feel that I can keep from smashing tonight, especially if I don’t drink. It can be hard to trust myself, but I really want to prove to myself that I’m better than just that. I don’t want him to think he can say some kind words (if that even happens) and have me ready for bed. I really have to refrain for myself. If I give in, there is a chance I will feel like crap tomorrow for it. Not to mention I have to answer to ya’ll! LOL!!!

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
3:13 pm

Okie dokie…we’ll see come tomorrow

Bluzgirl

August 21st, 2012
3:20 pm

You could be right that that is some of what’s wrong with me today. I know I’ve been fighting the depression for a couple of days and I pushed aside anything to do with him because I couldn’t deal with it. I’ve had a lot in my mind about my deceased friend…never really had a chance to grieve before now. Been holding it in and all the feelings are starting to come out. Also, I really hate when I’m low on funds. Trying to figure out how I’m going to pay for everything and still get to go out Saturday night. This happens every once in a while, but I can usually pull myself out within a day or two…

Into the Light

August 21st, 2012
3:23 pm

Okay, meeting shorter than I thought, checking back in and banging my head on the wall @ Also, I really hate when I’m low on funds. Trying to figure out how I’m going to pay for everything and still get to go out Saturday night.

Ummmm, staying home on a Saturday night is not the worst thing in the world; especially if your bills are all paid. Priorities, Bluz, priorities.

(ITL now stumbling backwards as Leggs kicks the soapbox out from under her feet)

Comon Cents

August 21st, 2012
3:28 pm

ITL~ That wasn’t Leggs, that was me trying to adjust that soapbox to give you a better platform. Sorry, you know I’m clumsy…

Bluzgirl

August 21st, 2012
3:28 pm

I know ITL, but I REALLY, REALLY wanna go out Sat night! I have another friend who wants to meet me out and I already warned her that I’d have to look at my budget. I’m still supposed to get some money for moving my aunt’s stuff last week, so it may depend on if I get that this week…

disco

August 21st, 2012
3:28 pm

ITL – at least you took the “priority” path. ghetto me, I was thinking if you are going to smash tonight you should at least get some weekend spending money out of it. lol. don’t judge me. “if y’all don’t know me by now, y’all will never never never know me.”

i'm swiss

August 21st, 2012
3:30 pm

disco — +1 :lol:

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
3:30 pm

There’s a whole bunch of stuff that need repair so, at this point no soapboxes for me and Bluzy (love you still). It is what it is and she’s gonna do what she wants anyway. No point in my dandruff getting pulled up….lololol

Bluzgirl

August 21st, 2012
3:31 pm

You crazy disco!!! LOL

Into the Light

August 21st, 2012
3:32 pm

LOL@CC.

@disco – shoot, at least a Groupon or a $2 gas card. :lol: :lol:

@Bluz – thunk, thunk, thunk (that’s my head hitting the wall, by the way…..)

Into the Light

August 21st, 2012
3:33 pm

ITL now hanging her head, realizing C is right. And bc I now have a beyotch of a headache.

Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!

August 21st, 2012
3:34 pm

ITL – We’re just going to have to love Bluzy as is, until she wakes up from this dreammare she’s having.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 21st, 2012
3:35 pm

Swiss…you are a fool…just 30 seconds huh….lol

And so here we have the beginning of what may be the end. Bluz you can’t go all sexpot with the man and then try to pull a bait and switch with rationing the Coot, never works. Its not yours anymore, you gave it to him, don’t be an Indian-Giver, that just sucks….just playing, Kinda

Do whats right for you, but could it be that your just hooked on the D====and felt played by the escape.

disco

August 21st, 2012
3:37 pm

y’all need to quit with these gas cards.

C – I have a friend who refers to her daughter as “ms. as – is”.

i'm swiss

August 21st, 2012
3:38 pm

“just 30 seconds”

Jake — Maaaaan, my ballz are so blue at this point, 30 seconds is probably overkill… :lol: I love the little munchkin and all, but that little girls is already c0ck blocking! :shock: :lol:

Jake...SPJTWB

August 21st, 2012
3:43 pm

LOL…Swiss, man you bout to have my suitemates wondering what the hell is going on….I literally busted out laughing an rared back in the chair, for the gut busting experience….stay strong brother, or lubed, your choice…..lol