Dating in Atlanta competitive?
I was out hanging in our great city recently and I noticed something about the dating scene, it’s competitive. No really, like pull out all the stops, going way overboard to attract people – competitive. It’s one of those things you sort of always knew about the dating scene here, but until you pay close attention, you don’t see the intricate ways it unfolds.
A lot of people in Atlanta are really big on image (fake?) and the appearance of success. You don’t have to actually be successful, just walk and talk like you are. The problem with focusing on the image and appearance is that you really find out later once the bait and switch happens. All this makes the dating scene competitive, a little challenging, and I think a bit shallow.
What do you think? Have you noticed the competitiveness of single people here? Does it bother you? How can you rise above this kind of thing and meet people who are more authentic and genuine?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
2:15 pm
Bluz that is scary! I took one of those right after my pregnancy in 05 and I promise I thought I was dying which told me I didn’t need it. my body flat out rejected it! wow please be careful with your meds sis~ that was scary to me enough for me to get some much need rest on my on!
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
2:18 pm
back in the day on MIA the afternoon funnies were all that!!!! #random
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
2:21 pm
C~ Ok, I dipped out and got a cuban from Havana. Didn’t have to wait to eat and the sandwich is still fab!
Bluz~ Really?!? You knew he was going through a lot when you first boned him. That cannot be an excuse for not treating you right. BS! But if you’re willing to accept it, then so be it…
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
2:21 pm
I promise Lady that I’m never that irresponsible with my meds. I was angry and wasn’t thinking. I have never thought about doing that again. I know I won’t. Good thing is that Ambien doesn’t mess me up like it does to some people. I may get a little loopy before bed sometimes, but the worst that I typically do is eat and maybe text or email things that I don’t remember.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:23 pm
Bluzy – You’re going to become our case study at some point…lol
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
2:23 pm
CC – I don’t know everything he’s going through. I know a couple of things. It’s not an excuse for how he treated me, but I’m willing to hear him out and decide from there. I need to let him know how he made me feel. I’m not a wh0re and refuse to be treated like one…FWB or not…
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
2:23 pm
Cel – I know, right?!?!?!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:23 pm
Comon Cents – That’s one thing I have never tried. I have a friend that LOVES cuban cuisine but I dunno. I’m a chicken.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:24 pm
You knew he was going through a lot when you first boned him
Well, just spit it out then….lololol
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
2:24 pm
Interesting lol wow~ spot on~
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
2:24 pm
I am glad I can be totally honest in here. I know some of ya’ll get sick of me, but at least I can let you in on some of the things that make me tick. It may let you guys know why I do some of the things I do…
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:24 pm
I was trying to bold CC’s comments that I reposted in my 2:24
Into the Light
August 21st, 2012
2:26 pm
@swiss: I have to wait to check the link. I’m sure it’s something guaranteed to make me smile.
@Bluz: Cook’s Warehouse and Williams Sonoma (and a couple of other spots) offer inexpensive cooking classes. Might be a fun way to learn something new AND meet a well-adjusted single man. IJS….
@Lady: Lemon icebox pie at Jim and Nicks is off the hook!!
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
2:26 pm
Ironically I like lemon pie hmmmm! thx for sharing!
disco
August 21st, 2012
2:27 pm
I have two things to say. first “whew, lawd” and second “sweet jesus”.
one more thing – is anyone keeping a list of all of the restaurants mentioned? if so, will said list be available for posting when i’m ready to make my next trip down that way.
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
2:28 pm
Sorry for the bluntness, but I feel that Bluz can a) handle it and b) needs to hear the truth no holds barred.
C~ Cuban food is delish and if you’re ever in the Emory/Buford Highway area, Havan has some of the best. (And a good Health Dept rating)
Into the Light
August 21st, 2012
2:28 pm
@CC: LOVE cuban food. My mom lived in Miami for awhile when she was growing up. My granny could make some Cuban chicken and rice and black beans that would make you cry they were so good.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:29 pm
Comon Cents – I was about to ask where Havana was located. The place he enjoys getting Cuban cuisine is in the Kennesaw area.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
2:30 pm
confrontation is healthy to a degree~ as long as she is doing it for herself and not him. you can’t control how others think of you…..find that peace within and do you Bluz~
Into the Light
August 21st, 2012
2:30 pm
@Lady: I don’t care for lemon meringue pie (it’s a texture thing) but last time we were at Jim and Nick’s my friend suggested we split the lemon icebox for dessert. I was SO happy we did.
That said, the drunken chocolate voodoo cake at South City Kitchen is the bomb dot com!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:31 pm
Comon Cents – Okay thanks. I’m still iffy though about trying. They’ll do a cuban sandwich downstairs but it’s not the real thing and it’s not all that appealing. I think it’s ham, pork, flatbread, mustard and pickles…done on the grill. That’s sounds bleak
Into the Light
August 21st, 2012
2:31 pm
I have two things to say. first “whew, lawd” and second “sweet jesus”
That made me LOL
Into the Light
August 21st, 2012
2:32 pm
@C: Other than leaving off the cheese, that’s a traditional Cuban.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
2:32 pm
C it is your fault and guess what I want a pulled pork bbq sandwich! #sigh lol sloppy joes may suffice though! ha
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
2:32 pm
I’ve probably been to his spot in Kenn too. I am a KSU alum undergrad. Spent a LOT of time in that area.
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
2:33 pm
Soooo, anything else new, interesting, funny out in the world with you peeps?? I need to combat this ‘itis’ I have going on. Entertain me lol
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
2:33 pm
C~ The cuban sandwich from Havana is the BOMB!!! Cannot say it enough. Nothing bland about it.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:34 pm
Lady – LOLOLOLOL…..go on and do the sloppy joe and getcha fix…lol
ITL – Really? That’s not tickling my fancy.
Comon Cents – He’s up there a couple days a week and a cuban sandwich is a must have for him.
Leggs
August 21st, 2012
2:34 pm
Going to bday celebration in conf rm. Caramel cake from of all places, ITL, Piece of Cake. Since I only had a tunafish sandwich, I’m going to see what all the hoopla is about over Piece of Cake.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:35 pm
Comon Cents – Is that the sandwich you had today? Ham, pork, mustard, pickles, cheese and flatbread??? Okaaaay, maybe one day I’ll try it. Just reading the ingredients and looking at it (separated) downstairs never gets me….lol
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
2:35 pm
BTW, ITL, I have missed your witty banter today. You and swiss always make me laugh with your dialogue.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:37 pm
Leggs – I hope you like it as much as I do….Piece of Cake. If you don’t, it wasn’t me that recommended….lolololol
Into the Light
August 21st, 2012
2:38 pm
@C: If it’s made correctly, you will LOVE it. If Kool Korners was still open, I’d tell you to try theirs.
@Leggs: The salted caramel????? OMG…I might need to be alone for a minute just thinking about it.
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
2:39 pm
C~ Yup, that’s what I had. And it is FABULOUS!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:39 pm
ITL – Okay, I’m willing to try it from an authentic Cuban Restaurante. I can’t make no promises about downstairs…lolololol
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:39 pm
Comon Cents – I’m googling Havana right now
Into the Light
August 21st, 2012
2:40 pm
Awww, thanks CC. They’ve got a girl busier than a one-legged man in a butt-kicking contest these days.
Still, it’s good to be gainfully employed.
Dang, C! Did you just throw POC under the bus?!?!? LOLOLOL You know Leggs will love it. Maybe not as much as you and I do, but…..
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:40 pm
But deli ham and pork??? Together?? Okaaaay
disco
August 21st, 2012
2:42 pm
C – I’ve got to chime in. don’t sleep on the Cuban sandwich. they are most definitely on to something.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:42 pm
ITL – I did, didn’t I. It’s POC for me, until the day I die, or not allowed to have anymore…lol The strawberry and caramel cakes are UP THERE on my list…mmm mmm mmm
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
2:42 pm
I am done! Hilarity!!!! Peace out folks til the morning!
Bye C! #ha
Into the Light
August 21st, 2012
2:42 pm
@C: There’s a place not far from here that’s supposed to be good, too. Owned by one of the Kool Korners family. It’s in that big complex where Mellow Mushroom is on Powers Ferry and Windy Hill… Can’t remember the name…..
@CC: you know we’re getting our “Buffalo” meal all ready for the tailgate. We always try to do themed meals, based on the opponent (i.e. we always have chicken for Carolina games!) I think I heard Buffalo wings and Bison burgers for next week.
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
2:43 pm
Man…ya’ll talking about food again and I skipped out on lunch! At least I know that I’ll be having some yummy Mexican food tonight. Now, I don’t want to eat the lasagna because it’s too late in the day and I wanna be hungry tonight!
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
2:44 pm
Cel — Go to LaFonda Latina & get yourself a Rueben Cubano. You won’t be sorry.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:44 pm
Okay….at everybody’s recommendation, I’m going to try it.
Into the Light
August 21st, 2012
2:44 pm
@Bluz: He is treating, right??????
Into the Light
August 21st, 2012
2:45 pm
@Swiss: What sort of yumminess is that??? If you say it has corned beef, I’m leaving work and going straight there.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
2:46 pm
“I have to wait to check the link. I’m sure it’s something guaranteed to make me smile.”
ITL — Might just make you a little moist, too. You have been warned…
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:46 pm
K…wait
Havana
Complex on PF and Windy Hill (got to think about that…I’ve been there but can’t picture right now)
LaFonda Latina – Thanks Swiss….
I’ll see which is closest to me after hours.
No wonder he’s always gung ho about eating there. Okay, cool…something new to try outside of Popeyes…lolololol
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
2:46 pm
ITL – I told him I have another voucher for a small amount, but I’m po’ right now and he said he would take care of the difference…