Dating in Atlanta competitive?
I was out hanging in our great city recently and I noticed something about the dating scene, it’s competitive. No really, like pull out all the stops, going way overboard to attract people – competitive. It’s one of those things you sort of always knew about the dating scene here, but until you pay close attention, you don’t see the intricate ways it unfolds.
A lot of people in Atlanta are really big on image (fake?) and the appearance of success. You don’t have to actually be successful, just walk and talk like you are. The problem with focusing on the image and appearance is that you really find out later once the bait and switch happens. All this makes the dating scene competitive, a little challenging, and I think a bit shallow.
What do you think? Have you noticed the competitiveness of single people here? Does it bother you? How can you rise above this kind of thing and meet people who are more authentic and genuine?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:08 pm
Bluzy – I just don’t like to eat them when I’m forced to get them cause I’m broke!!!
Yep, that places them noodles in a different arena…I HATE them
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
1:09 pm
Yeah…I’m not feeling the lasagna today, but today is the last day I can eat it before it may go bad. I’m craving some country cooking, but can’t afford to go out to get anyway. Waaaaaahhhhhhh!
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
1:10 pm
Realizing how tight I am this pay period has probably also affected my mood today. I HATE feeling broke. I want to go out Saturday night and will have to see if I can get up some money from somewhere…
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:10 pm
LOLOLOLOL….girl stop. Payday will be here sooner than you think. Go ‘head and heat your Stouffers, shake a bit of salt and pepper, say your grace and chow down
It’s only as bad as it seems.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:12 pm
Bluzy – Tell you what, wait until you are near famished and you’re feeling weak and faint…lol. That lasagna will start looking a whole lot better…lol
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:12 pm
ok time is slowing down~ wow and I am here a lil longer today! hmmmm
Jake...SPJTWB
August 21st, 2012
1:16 pm
Lady…well as they say, its good to be thought of….all is well over here.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:18 pm
good deal sir~
kimmie
August 21st, 2012
1:19 pm
Bluz – The kids LOVE ramen noodles! They are one of those absolute last resort things. Funny, the few rare times I’ve made them for the kids, I end up wanting and eating some as well!LOL!!
Now that I think back, I may have briefly dated someone that was bipolar or at least PSTD. He was ex-military special ops, one minute he would call me all nice and sweet and charming. Then the next hour or day he would be a completely different person – mean and nasty. He would call and just start putting me down and making nasty jokes about me! The last time I talked to him I told him just lose my number and I cussed him out. I mean it was straight WEIRD!!
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
1:19 pm
Thanks swiss…the songs are coming up on my phone…
My next pay day isn’t until next Friday and it stinks!!!! I guess I’ll take a later lunch today. I do like the stouffers, but not feeling it today!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:21 pm
Bluzy – I’m not big on frozen foods…ugh, but I do like Stouffers Lasagna and I like California Pizza Sicilian Style. Those are quickies.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:22 pm
Kimmie imagine being married to a person suffering from both diagnosis~ military families are going through much. just glad the federal government is now finally embracing professional counseling prior and, during, and post…….many folks come to our armed services with heavy pasts socially~
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
1:22 pm
kimmie – that does sound like bipolar without proper management. The guy I was in a relationship with didn’t have the proper meds or insurance. He was long distance, so we would Skype. I could literally see the switch turn. He’d be all like, “baby, I love you and miss you and want to marry you.” Then, 10 minutes later, he would start calling me awful names and would accuse me of a lot of things I never did. It was a roller coaster!!!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:23 pm
I’m telling you it works. If you have lunch and it’s not all that appealing, wait until you’re near starved. That has a way of helping you get to wanting it…eventually…lololol
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:24 pm
C you are killing me softly lol~
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
1:24 pm
Cel – I don’t mind some frozen foods, but I get really tired of them really fast!!! When Publix has their Stouffer’s family meals on sale, I stock up because they are good every once in a while. I get tired of leftovers easily too. When I fix something for dinner, I don’t necessarily want to eat it for days in a row, you know?
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
1:26 pm
I’m not even feeling hungry right now and it’s time for me to go to lunch. Maybe I’ll just go chill outside for a while and I can always take a few minutes to eat later if I get hungry…
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:28 pm
Bluzy – Why don’t you get a few things and cook (I’m one to talk…I know), rather than frozen foods? You can buy a family pack of chicken/ground beef, etc and break up and freeze separately. When I do grocery shop, I’ll buy sometimes in moderate portions and separate and freeze separated. So, say I fry chicken, I too don’t want to eat it forever, I’ll cook enough for a couple of days. Something along those lines. I’m not one for advising though in the cooking department cause I gotta be feeling some kind of way to get it done. I’ll buy and freeze stuff in a heartbeat, if buy the time I’m home to cook, the feeling of cooking has passed….lol
kimmie
August 21st, 2012
1:28 pm
Lady – I could not deal with it. I feel for them though!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:28 pm
Lady – I see you flexing your psyche muscles
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:31 pm
Lady – I speak from whence I’ve come…no lie, no joke and not being funny or making light.
Into the Light
August 21st, 2012
1:31 pm
Afternoon, all.
Just popping in for a quick hello before I dip out for lunch.
@Swiss: I see the karaoke bus driver’s legacy lives on.
10 days, 22 hours, 50 minutes…..
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:36 pm
I know C bc I been there and still there sometimes but like you can master a grain and making a simmering meal~ lol
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:37 pm
C girl refer back to my 1:02 and don’t be scared lol
Leggs
August 21st, 2012
1:42 pm
I’ve never had Ramen Noodles.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:45 pm
leggs I hate tuna in college and watched my college best friends eat them like Jesus was coming to save us! I can’t they are nasty…oh I ate beans and franks too! I survived~ lol
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:48 pm
I still like bean and franks. Well, I like smoked sausage and beans, rather. I don’t think I’ve ever had a taste of Ramen Noodles and I probably won’t. I just already know, I’on like ‘em….lol
Tuna? It’s gotta be one of those “got a taste” thingy going on. Gotta have chips, crackers and pickles (on the side) though. Not often do I want tuna on bread.
Leggs
August 21st, 2012
1:48 pm
Havent had beans and franks since I was a teenager! No can do. Rather, haven’t had the need to do since I look at that as food that was forced upon me to eat back in the day. Matter of fact, I don’t eat anything that was forced upon me anymore.
Leggs
August 21st, 2012
1:49 pm
Too funny, cuz I just took my last bite of my tuna sandwich! Haven’t had tuna in a long time. Delicious!
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:49 pm
meant ate tuna! I love tuna lol especially a tuna steak but starkist is just fine too! lol
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:51 pm
Jim and Nicks has a sausage and beans plate that is delish. My kid NEVER ate hotdogs growing up, so I didn’t really buy. She didn’t start eating hamburgers until about 14 ish or so. She wouldn’t eat anything from McDonald’s but fries. She moved to the chicken sandwich later years. But as a tot/kid, she would NEVER eat theirs (or anybody else’s) hamburgers. She’s more a chicken and pasta type person.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
1:52 pm
What’s up, ITL? Yes, the countdown is getting close… Oh, and since you’re here now, here’s a musical dedication for you…
(I kid, I kid. Well, in that alternate universe where I’m single & you’re an island chica, I wouldn’t be kidding, but in this universe, I kid..) 
JuneBug
August 21st, 2012
1:52 pm
Atlanta WAS a great city. Atlantas best days are now behind it. Atlanta is just a huge toilet.
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:52 pm
I can eat chicken salad ahead of tuna salad
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
1:54 pm
Cel – I’m not much of a cook, but I do need to learn. I had to laugh when last time I went to the store, I came home and realized I had 7 boxes of cereal!!! That’s the single girl’s kitchen! LOL
So…Magnum and I are going to have dinner tonight. I decided after not hearing from him to be honest and tell him that I’m fighting a deep depression due to the reality of my friend’s death setting in. I’m not in a good place in my head right now, and I wanted to tell him because he is my friend and I wanted him to know where I’m at today. He asked if I was busy tonight and I said that I was only planning to practice my bass, so he asked if we could have dinner to talk about our troubles…he may be going through a lot right now also…
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:54 pm
Bluzy – Okay (on the grocery thing) and okay (on Magnum)
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:56 pm
Actually Bluzy, I can cook, I’m just about done with it…lol I did it everyday when my kid was small. I’m tired of the kitchen. Oh, I will do it now, don’t get me wrong but as far as everyday, nuh uh.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:57 pm
C we are going to have to do Jim and Nicks I am hearing great things!
Leggs
August 21st, 2012
2:00 pm
Bluz ~ when single, cereal was not my thing. I’ve always cooked. Got a little teary eyed in the grocery store last night because I was buying food just for me. It’s been a long time since I’ve done that. Now, I have only myself to cook for, so feel free to come on through (lol).
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:01 pm
Lady – Okay…there’s another location aside from Smyrna but not exactly sure where it’s located. I will say they’re not tops on my list as it relates to bbq. There are a couple of dishes I’m fond of but it’s not bbq. IMO, the ribs and tips always tastes oven baked, rather than having that grilled taste. I do think though, they have really good baked beans.
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
2:02 pm
I can cook when given a recipe, but I don’t like to. Especially, just for one person. I’ve thought about taking some beginners cooking classes just to get some basics down. I’ve always been lucky to find men who cook for me!
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
2:02 pm
ABC’s and 123’s
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
2:03 pm
Eh really no lie my dude thinks its the best next to Fat Macks! I told him his bbq in Atl is limited….I am just not all that into BBQ either…..sigh lol
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
2:03 pm
Leggs – a lot of times, I don’t get hungry until about 8:30 or so…at that time, it’s too late to cook, so I’ll eat a bowl of cereal. Also, I sometimes get the munchies on Ambien and have forced myself to eat Special K or something so that I don’t gain a bunch of weight on that pill!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:05 pm
Lady – Really??? Well there’s always a nice crowd at the Smyrna location so apparently your boo is not the only one digging J&Ns. I’m just so funny about bbq. Like Blackfoote mentioned this morning, I want bbq that tastes like you put your foot in it. I don’t want mundane. And if I do sauce, it must be right….so I can dip my bread in it…lol
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
2:05 pm
hump Bluz I have one that would gladly watch me cook nightly lol smh but he does appreciate those meals when they come….its night everyday though. bless those women who hold it down daily…. I don’t even pretend to start what I am not going to keep going~ he loves to grill and cook side dishes and loves fish….where is Sassy?!? He is from North Charleston…..we are visiting soon and can’t wait to get away and let somebody else cook! his family lol
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:07 pm
Bluzy – I thought about when I saw this on ABC the other day/week.
http://abcnews.go.com/WNT/video/reporter-driving-simulator-ambien-17006699
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
2:08 pm
C he brags about the one in Charleston I just told him one was there in Cobb county we haven’t been there…I am not pressed…lol
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
2:10 pm
Check it out with him and then tell me what you think. Oh, their cheese muffins (or whatever they are) are delish…and fattening
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
2:12 pm
Cel – I drove one time on Ambien and got super lucky. My ex and I were fighting and he wouldn’t answer his phone. I knew where he was going to be, so I just got up and met him there. He was so angry when he found out I had already taken my pill. He followed me home to make sure I was ok. I did fine, but the next day, I was beating myself up for doing that. That could have ended dangerously…