Dating in Atlanta competitive?
I was out hanging in our great city recently and I noticed something about the dating scene, it’s competitive. No really, like pull out all the stops, going way overboard to attract people – competitive. It’s one of those things you sort of always knew about the dating scene here, but until you pay close attention, you don’t see the intricate ways it unfolds.
A lot of people in Atlanta are really big on image (fake?) and the appearance of success. You don’t have to actually be successful, just walk and talk like you are. The problem with focusing on the image and appearance is that you really find out later once the bait and switch happens. All this makes the dating scene competitive, a little challenging, and I think a bit shallow.
What do you think? Have you noticed the competitiveness of single people here? Does it bother you? How can you rise above this kind of thing and meet people who are more authentic and genuine?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
12:27 pm
LMBAO Leggs! it took me a while to admit Sade is a bit depressing but when I am in a funk her songs hit home! lol
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
12:28 pm
Hey, Cel — If you want to fill your iPod with some white boy music from me, feel free to borrow some from me:
http://karaokebus.com/stash/
(username: MIA / password: MIA)
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
12:28 pm
NEVER liked Sade….never
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
12:28 pm
Swiss – Cool….thanks man!
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
12:28 pm
regroup and stop falling on Dick
Leggs – Almost had to slap myself because for whatever reason, I ended the sentence after Dick….after re-reading the line I saw that Tom soon followed. I was about be like daaaaaayum! Talk about honesty
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
12:30 pm
I’ll have to do that when I get home.
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
12:33 pm
Nope…no Sade either for me!!!
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
12:36 pm
Wow…talking a lot of stuff out is helping lift my mood a little bit. Thanks ya’ll…
Willie Dynamite
August 21st, 2012
12:37 pm
Afternoon All,
Guess the topic didn’t float yalls boat today. What else is hapn?
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
12:39 pm
WD I think Dallas lost Sat but I could be wrong I know Pitts won though….hmmmmmm lol
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
12:39 pm
Hey Bluz — he’s a tune that might put a smile on your face:
http://karaokebus.com/stash/Music/Ben%20Folds/Supersunnyspeedgraphic,%20The%20Lp/06%20Bitches%20Ain‘t%20Sh_t.mp3
Same user/pass that I told Cel
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
12:40 pm
Sorry, guess that link text got too long. Let’s try that again
Willie Dynamite
August 21st, 2012
12:42 pm
Lady – dang at least say hello before you jab me. Yep dallas and Atl both lost but I could be wrong. Lol
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
12:43 pm
Bluz~ Maybe you should just start out taking baby steps as opposed to tring to finish the marathon right out of the gate. You didn’t learn the behavior over night and you are not going to change the behavior over night. Set small milestones and as you accomplish each one, you will build your confidence in your ability to make the right choices. Anything that you can do consecutively for 30 days becomes a habit. So think of the types of behaviors you would like to have as habits and move in that direction.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
12:44 pm
Hey, it’s after lunch — I think that means it’s sexy time.
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
12:45 pm
sorry Hello WD~ I do know betta than that!
see my theory stands our teams are the same faces! ha! least I keep it real~ lol my boo hollers 5 championship rings day and night! I can’t I said 96 sir~ but anyway I will digress lol
Leggs
August 21st, 2012
12:46 pm
SlimUno ~ I was going to end it with Dick myself, but when I realized I couldn’t type d y c k Tom, Dick and Harry came to mind, with Dick being first (lol).
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
12:46 pm
pretty much CC~ good post~
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
12:47 pm
Hey, Comon, this one’s for you. I feel like Casey Kasem…
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
12:49 pm
swiss…it’s telling me that I need a username and password?
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
12:50 pm
Bluzy MIA is un and pw
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
12:50 pm
Good memory, swiss! I love this song!!!
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
12:50 pm
Lady – It’s funny, I just got a call from the beau telling me he’s hungry but he’s going to wait until he gets off to eat. So he’s trying to pick my brain on whats for dinner tonight. I told him to figure it out and let me know. Are we on an unofficial strike or what? lol
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
12:51 pm
Bluz — MIA / MIA (all caps)
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
12:51 pm
Slim girl over it for the moment lol catch me on the weekends~ lol
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
12:52 pm
Thanks CC! Gonna start figuring out which baby steps are most important at this point! You guys really do help me a lot…even though it doesn’t always seem like it…
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
12:53 pm
Lady/Slim~ My hubs just text me and told me he took out chops for dinner. I was like “Who cookin?” LOL!
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
12:54 pm
lol
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
12:54 pm
swiss~ Until next week, keep your feet on the ground, but keep reaching for the stars.
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
12:54 pm
I may need to wait until I get home…not sure IT would like me pulling up music on here!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
12:55 pm
LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
Mind over matter…easy as pie
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
12:55 pm
Whew, Jesus
Jake...SPJTWB
August 21st, 2012
12:57 pm
what up people…Ladies, Shake that Monkey…Fellas, toss a band, (of singles…lol)….I thought a regular ole hello wouldn’t get it today…
Willie Dynamite
August 21st, 2012
12:57 pm
Lady – decent theory as both have not won. Your dude is right tho. Tis better to have won and lost to have never won. IJS
Ladies – speaking of food and bbq. The wifey doesn’t cook much either. I think ill take out some brisket and make a few sliders.
i'm swiss
August 21st, 2012
12:58 pm
Bluz — Here’s another funny one for later…
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
12:59 pm
I can’t keep up~ sigh lol smh simply amazing! 0_o
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:00 pm
yum WD!!!! saving my brisket menu for Thanksgiving sir! can’t wait! I shall attempt to smoke it this year since I have help…..hmmmmm
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:01 pm
I’m loving the food talk more than anything…lol Does that make me greedy? I’m giving myself technically four hours (since breakfast) and it’s lunch time after that…lolol
Jake...SPJTWB
August 21st, 2012
1:01 pm
Hey Lady…where you been sweetie?
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
1:01 pm
Will you email the link to me at bluzgirl79@gmail.com? Maybe I can play it on my phone…
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:02 pm
C you betta find the alter honey!!!!! I am right behind ya! a drink will suffice after the prayer! LOL God is understanding! lol let me stop~
Comon Cents
August 21st, 2012
1:02 pm
C~ No, that does not make you greedy. I am over here plotting my escape to go get some food too. All that talk made me hungry!
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
1:03 pm
Cel…I’m not loving the food talk because all I have for lunch is leftover Stouffer’s lasagna!!! I need to go to the store, but just realized how broke I am until next Friday…looks like I may need to go buy some ramen noodles…
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:03 pm
Lady – I ain’t touching that 1:02…lol
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:03 pm
Hey Jake summer break is over and I am back sir! I asked about you the other day! Glad to read ya… I have to catch Taco Mac soon with yall I am free from fall classes~
SlimUno
August 21st, 2012
1:04 pm
My hubs just text me and told me he took out chops for dinner. I was like “Who cookin?
CC – He did his part, so the cooking is on you lol
Lady~cool beans :-)
August 21st, 2012
1:05 pm
lol yeah C pay me no mind~ lol
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:05 pm
Comon Cents – Glad it’s not just me then…lol I seem to get more excited with home cooked food (even though it’s rare for me) than the same ole stuff downstairs. I’m giving it about 10 more minutes and technically, it’s been 4 hours…lol Hope you grab something tasty
Bluzy – Girl, you DID NOT say Ramen Noodles….ugh and yuck! But I ain’t mad atcha…lol
Bluzgirl
August 21st, 2012
1:07 pm
Cel – every once in a while, I actually crave Ramen Noodles! LOL! I just don’t like to eat them when I’m forced to get them cause I’m broke!!!
Celisea....He who laughs last, laughs on: Winning!
August 21st, 2012
1:07 pm
The worst is when you are STARVING, it seems and get a meal that’s a let down. That’s the worse. You end up getting a snack because the meal was nowhere or close to what you thought and you’re still hungry.