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Plastic surgery to improve dating success?

I watched a news report recently that featured a young lady who made the decision to get plastic surgery in order to improve her dating choices. Apparently, her chin, nose, or whatever body part she displayed on her online dating pictures did not garner the dates she really wanted.

She truly believed that her flaw was the source of her dating disappointments. I don’t know if this is extremely sad/disturbing or if it is a sign of the times. Are we becoming more shallow?

The idea that we have to chase some standard of beauty to attract people who seek partners solely on their looks just does not sit well with me. Obviously, we won’t to feel confident and attractive to people, but at what cost?

I wonder if the young woman ever considered writing a new profile instead of getting plastic surgery. Why does changing the outward appearance become more important than finding someone who likes us just as we are?

Maybe I am being too critical? What do you think. How do you think plastic surgery impact our dating habits?

Have you ever dated someone who has had a little nip/tuck? Was their improvement/change the thing that actually attracted you to them initially?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

236 comments Add your comment

Big Al

August 20th, 2012
6:50 am

Plastic surgery is not necessary. Dating is all about personality and confidence. It doesn’t matter if you are the most handsome/beautiful person alive, if you have the personality of a wet mop, then nobody is going to want to be around you.

Lily

August 20th, 2012
7:42 am

No, I’ve never knowingly dated someone that went under the knife. I’m totally turned off by individuals that are hung up on looks. Yes, there must some sort of physical attraction, I understand that. But for EVERYTHING to hinge on looks or the inability to live beyond natural flaws and imperfections is a turn off. No one is perfect. And if (you believe) so, time will handle that.

When people asks for pictures of me prior to meeting, that’s an automatic 1.5 strikes.

Orlando

August 20th, 2012
8:01 am

Plastic surgery for a date??? Much better if you use you car to get a man or woman. At least your doing something crazy to your body http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JcWsEBhxTI

ThirdWheel

August 20th, 2012
8:52 am

I used to think that if I got gastric bypass then the men would fall at my feet. I look at my friend who was a 1st runner up to Miss Georgia and all of my other hot looking friends and they have a hard time finding a good man. They have great personalites but the guys are duds. So now I see that looks really don’t matter a whole bunch. I would rather sweat it out in the gym and lose weight the healthy way….

SlimUno

August 20th, 2012
8:53 am

Good morning and heyal naw…Next topic please lol

Comon Cents

August 20th, 2012
8:55 am

Good Morning, Bloggies!

On Topic~ I think that if the plastic surgery is something you did for yourself, then so be it. If you did it to get a date, then you get what you put out. You will attract someone who is only looking at your exterior if that is the package you are selling.

Off Topic~ I missed you guys on Friday! Hope everone had a great weekend! Is the coffee bar open yet?

Exiled!

August 20th, 2012
9:02 am

Let’s just admit it and not sugar coat:some folks are just too daamn ugly to throw off any residual semblance of self esteem. So I would understand the feeling if a chic thought that was her way out.

But an ugly chic with personality will do it.

Look at Opprah! On looks alone she and Stead aren’t a match,unless he went for the money!

Good morning!

Comon Cents

August 20th, 2012
9:33 am

Oprah? She’s not that ugly and Stedman is not that fine. JMO…

SlimUno

August 20th, 2012
9:37 am

I hope i’m not making this up but wasnt there a story of a guy suing his wife because she failed to let him know she underwent major plastic surgery prior to them getting together? Something about their child being very unattractive and he couldn’t figure out why…come to find out the kid took after the mom. I suppose the wife came clean and showed him what she previously looked like.

Comon Cents

August 20th, 2012
9:43 am

SlimUno

August 20th, 2012
9:47 am

CC – Thanks, I knew I had thought I heard about that story. ;-)

Bluzgirl

August 20th, 2012
9:53 am

Ummm…not a topic that appeals to me today. No…would not get plastic surgery to improve odds of meeting someone to date. IF I were ever to consider that, then it would be for myself only!

disco

August 20th, 2012
9:53 am

good morning y’all. I won’t front. I’ve said countless times that if my stomach ever got out of control that I’d go under the knife before I walked around with my stomach sticking out further than my booty do. lol.

SlimUno

August 20th, 2012
9:54 am

I see we’re getting off to a slow start this morning. I definitely didn’t feel like getting out of bed to go to work. Mundane Monday blah!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 20th, 2012
9:54 am

Morning and its almost 10am! today is moving….hmmmm for the topic~

SlimUno

August 20th, 2012
9:57 am

disco – But that is for personal reasons, not just to snag a date. And having that muffing top chopped off is a wish for many women, especially those that has had multiple kids. Nuttin wrong with that.

disco

August 20th, 2012
10:01 am

slim – gotcha. and for the record I do not (yet) have a muffin top. lol. I’ll also say that in my opinion a lot of folks will say they are having such procedures for themselves but I have to wonder. I bet many say that because it’s the “socially acceptable” answer but I’m sure many do it for other reasons including what other people think. while that might not necessarily be the exact same thing as doing it to get a date I’m sure they kind of overlap.

Roberta

August 20th, 2012
10:16 am

I think this woman’s money would have been better spent by going to a therapist who could help her figure out why she has such low self-esteem, and then work to change that behavior.

Leggs

August 20th, 2012
10:19 am

I’m not a proponent for plastic surgery, so getting it done to land dates is something that I would never consider. If one is only attracted to me because of my looks, then he in essence is not attracted to ME!

Good morning.

Comon Cents

August 20th, 2012
10:25 am

I’m not a big proponent of plastic surgery, but I would say that given the opportunity, I would reduce the “girls” in a minute! Not just for cosmetic reasons either. But as far as doing it for someone else? Never in a million years.

Celisea

August 20th, 2012
10:26 am

Morning,

On topic: Nothing :) :)

Bluzy – If you’re reading, you ain’t gotta deep dish as I know it’s personal but let us know. How did Friday’s date go? Good? Bad? So So? Drunk? lololol

SlimUno

August 20th, 2012
10:31 am

I would be nervous about doing anything to my face…sometimes plastic surgery seems to make some folks look worse than they did prior to having anything done. I do not want to walk around looking like I was created in a mad scientists’ lab. Little Kim needed to stop 10 procedures ago :shock:

Bluzgirl

August 20th, 2012
10:32 am

Hey Cel…I was gonna wait until you got online!

I had a blast Friday night. I danced so much!!! Things got a little weird between us…don’t really know why. He did stay the night, but he snuck out in the morning without even saying goodbye. He left my front door open and two of my cats got out (one who is deaf) and I called him because I was freaking out about not being able to find him…Anyways…he disrespected me a couple of times on Saturday. No need for a lot of details, but we made plans for Sat, then I didn’t hear from him for a while…I heard from him late, he said he was coming over later, then he didn’t. I’m pretty sure he got drunk and passed out.

Well…I’m over it. My feelings aren’t even hurt…I’m not upset about it. He did text and call early yesterday morning while I was asleep and at one point, I just texted him that I was sleeping so that he would leave me alone. I’m over the infatuation. It was much better when he was out of town!!!

At first, I was trying to overanalyze what may have happened Fri night, but then I just decided that I did nothing wrong. If he likes me like that, he’s gonna have to work extra hard for it. Even then, I may not give in. I would like a friendship and that is all. You don’t disrespect me and get away with it easily. My eyes are open and he’s so much like my ex. Maybe that’s why the crazy attraction, yet some replusion. I hope to be able to see him sometime this week and I will tell him that you should not treat a friend the way he treated me.

Single and Happy I knew I should have kept my $15 in my pocket!

August 20th, 2012
10:32 am

on topic, Do You

Comon I know several women that have had the girls reduced for medical reasons, mostly back problems I think.

Bluzgirl

August 20th, 2012
10:38 am

One good thing is that I’m not heart broken or worried about it. That tells me I’m getting stronger. Normally, I would have been so depressed yesterday, but I think I was more ticked off from Sat. He has already texted me again this morning.

Oh…and…I think I got my answer about his drinking without having to ask…No can do!

Celisea

August 20th, 2012
10:39 am

Bluzy – I’m sad to hear that but you gotta do whatcha gotta do and disrespect should always be first and foremost for handing a dude his walking papers. My only assessment is that you should have sent him packing at the first sign of getting disrespect. I wouldn’t have let him spend the night, let alone getting a whiff of it. But the weekend has pass. In the future, don’t EVER let that crap slide, EVER!

Well, glad you’re sounding pretty upbeat overall.

Celisea

August 20th, 2012
10:39 am

Carry on folks

SlimUno

August 20th, 2012
10:44 am

Bluz – What was going on at the time it got ‘weird’ between yall on Friday night? Did you two run into someone you know, an ex, what was the conversation about. Did you tell him you talked to your mom about him or something?

Bluzgirl

August 20th, 2012
10:44 am

I’m glad I’m feeling pretty upbeat about it! Had this happened a year or so ago, I probably would have been so upset and would have been texting and calling. Now, though, I’m not about to put up with any crap! :-) Well…it was a good few weeks. Just glad my eyes were opened early so I didn’t fall into any traps like I did with the ex!!!

Celisea

August 20th, 2012
10:45 am

One more Bluzy….block him, if you’re done for real…lol Remember the Waffle House dude? He called me a couple of times and was texting me every morning. All I needed was one convo that didn’t sound right. Y’all remember I already didn’t like his cockiness. I blocked him. It was funny too when he realized. I guess he tried to call a couple of times and it went straight to voicemail. I guess after the realization set in that he’d been blocked, he sent a text. I can tell by the tone of the text that there was a question mark on whether he’d been blocked. Yeah buddy, you’ve been blocked…is what I wanted to text back. He was like “hello??” and “you okay??” Umm, yeah, I’m splendid…lol I was like “hello” right back…and that’s all. I’m not in the market or shopping for bullcrappery.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 20th, 2012
10:46 am

Celisea

August 20th, 2012
10:46 am

Lady – Hey there chica. Everything good?

Celisea

August 20th, 2012
10:48 am

Alright….again….carry on folks. I got work and meetings.

Bluzgirl

August 20th, 2012
10:49 am

Slim…I’m not 100% sure. I mean…I did drink a bit and was a little touchy feely, which I warned him I would be. He seemed to be digging his time with me. Even when we got home, he was still talking about what he was going to cook for me on Sat night. We were just chilling at home. I got into something sexy and pranced around in front of him and he didn’t seem to even react. I went to bed and he came up about 15 minutes later. By then, I had changed into a comfy t-shirt. We fooled around and barely had sex. He was still exhausted from his trip. At least I got mine! I may have messed up by being too excited and affectionate, but that still doesn’t give him the right to disrespect me by slinking out in the morning without a word. At first, I kept trying to think of what I may have done or said, but then I realized, that it wasn’t my problem! He doesn’t deserve me… He’s just like the others…

Bluzgirl

August 20th, 2012
10:52 am

Cel – I would like to still be friends and business associates with his band. I just know that I don’t want anything more and I’m pretty sure I can handle just being friends. BUT…before a friendship can continue, we need to have a conversation about his blatent disrespect in several ways on Sat.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 20th, 2012
10:54 am

yep things are go~ don’t work too hard….

abc

August 20th, 2012
10:56 am

Are we becoming more shallow?

I’d say that jumping into the dating pool these days will put you in up to your toes, it’s so shallow. Online dating. Puh-leeze. Just a gut feeling, I’d estimate that less than 1% of those that participate in that get any really long-lasting positive results. It’s just another bogus Internet industry, based on people’s propensity for both exhibitionism and voyeurism, which is a very sad fact, even more so than the shallow character being displayed for all to view. On purpose. Look at me, look at me! Thpppppt.

DreamsMaterialize

August 20th, 2012
10:57 am

Morning
If you can find the happiness you’re looking for by way of some cosmetic surgery, then go for it. It’s not something I would do, but I don’t have to live your life. Do what makes you happy, as long it’s not at the expense of anyone else’s happiness.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 20th, 2012
10:57 am

meant good….

Celisea

August 20th, 2012
10:59 am

Bluzy – Okay, so the “disrespect” was him leaving out without saying a word? Hmmmm, okay. I was thinking along the lines of maybe he lost his mind and called you something while out Friday or tried to holler at another chick. Hmmmmm, well I say do what you feel is needful. I’m one of those women that if I have an issue or problem with something my SO did, if I don’t say anything and “try” to let it slide, I can’t…lol It’s right there, top of mind. I just believe we treat people how to treat us. If it’s just petty nuances within the relationship, then yeah, I can let that go. But blatant disrespectful, if I’m not “out with it”, there’s only so long I’m going to hold it. I said that to say, be out with it. Don’t let stuff slide. If so, you’ll be getting that, if not worse treatment for years to come. :) :)

Just my two cents.

Celisea

August 20th, 2012
11:00 am

blatant disrespect

Celisea

August 20th, 2012
11:01 am

Okay…got an 11:00

Comon Cents

August 20th, 2012
11:09 am

I got into something sexy and pranced around in front of him and he didn’t seem to even react. I went to bed and he came up about 15 minutes later

You’ve knocked the boots with dude twice and he is already posting up after you hit the sheets like he’s the man of the house? Yeah, don’t walk away from that one; RUN!! He didn’t leave a toothbrush over, did he?

Bluzgirl

August 20th, 2012
11:15 am

Cel – Yeah…the disrespect was him leaving without saying a word in the morning, then making plans with me Sat night and leaving me hanging and blowing me off. There was nothing disrespectful on Fri night. We were very flirty and playful. No matter what, I had a GREAT time at the concert. Some of my friends were there and I dance with a real swing dancer. I think I lost 5 pounds from dancing and sweating!!! LOL

Now, he is kind of blowing up my phone! LOL! It feels good to be the one to put the brakes on! I kind of wanted to be mean and tell him he’s no different than my ex and he knows my ex and knows that would not be a compliment!

Leggs

August 20th, 2012
11:15 am

“You’ve knocked the boots with dude twice and he is already posting up after you hit the sheets like he’s the man of the house?” – I saw that wondering, how does someone have company over and go to bed 15 mins before they join in???

Celisea

August 20th, 2012
11:17 am

Bluzy – Good you’re feeling good :) Don’t lose perspective and keep things in tow.

Leggs

August 20th, 2012
11:21 am

“I kind of wanted to be mean and tell him he’s no different than my ex and he knows my ex and knows that would not be a compliment!” – No need to say that to him. He already knows you, how you handled your ex, what you tolerated from your ex and all that you tolerated from your ex. He knows!

Leggs

August 20th, 2012
11:22 am

Didn’t mean to type that twice.

Bluzgirl

August 20th, 2012
11:23 am

CC and Leggs – I know, right?!?! I was drunk and ready for bed…I had hoped that he would immediately follow. Once he didn’t, I was kind of over it…

Into the Light

August 20th, 2012
11:24 am

Morning, all.

Busy today but wanted to check in and say hi.

Bluz, when people show you who they are, believe them the first time. This weekend was his first time; don’t look for additional confirmation.

@Leggs: How was the weekend?

And where is BF with my money??? I know I won something this weekend…..