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Dating: The L word dilemma

What would you do if the person you just started dating blurted out “I love you” way too soon? It happens a lot! People get caught up in the moment and express what they think they are feeling.

This kind of situation can either scare someone off because they don’t feel the same way or it can force a conversation about “where things stand” with you.

I think some people have been the first to say I love you in relationships that they are gun shy with sharing those words. Should you wait to say it when you mean it? Do you say it when you think you are falling?

Why are guys freaked out when a woman they are saying tells them she loves them. After doing all kinds of things with the woman, hearing her say I love you somehow seems outrageous, but why?

When do you think it is appropriate to tell someone you are falling in love, are in love, or love them? When is the wrong time to say it?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

183 comments Add your comment

Lily

August 17th, 2012
7:22 am

It’s appropriate to tell someone you love them, when you love them. This thing is not about games and tic for tac (ie you say it because he or she did first). I would hope you and your partner are succinct at this point and things running parallel. Other than believing you’re in love for real, there is no reason to say it.

oddmanout

August 17th, 2012
7:24 am

Good Morning!

This is the way I look at it, just because one person is ready to shout out “I LOVE YOU” doesnt mean that the other person is.
Them: I love you
Me: Ok….

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
8:00 am

Good Morning MIA!!!!

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
8:42 am

Morning,

Sorry peeps, I ended up leaving work early yesterday. I just needed some time to get my thoughts together.

disco

August 17th, 2012
9:05 am

good morning folks. here is to a super speedy day. I need to get up out of here. I’ve got thangs to do.

on topic. I’m not pressed to say I love you, I’m not pressed to hear it. if a guy said it to me too soon I’d probably look at him like he had a tree growing out of his forehead while thinking “dude, you don’t even know me like that”.

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
9:07 am

Lily said it all,

Happy Birthday Lady

Slim you doing okay? I know you feel bad for your sister, but you have to wish her the best and try and let it go. those are her issues and her life.

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
9:08 am

Disco, you don’t believe in love a first sight?

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
9:09 am

Thanks Single and Happy!!!!!!!!!! :-)

disco

August 17th, 2012
9:13 am

single and happy – are you cracking jokes bright and early in the a.m.? me? believe in love at first sight? hecky naw.

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
9:16 am

Disco love a first sight is a beautiful thing :-D It happen to me once..

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
9:17 am

Too bad it wasn’t mutual (rotflmao)

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
9:20 am

love at first sight~ chuckle

disco

August 17th, 2012
9:21 am

I certainly won’t debate it with you S/H. I’ll simply have to take your word for it. your word and the word of countless others that believe in the phenomenon. me, myself, personally – I just can’t be down.

oh. and here I am responding to you and you are still cracking jokes.

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
9:23 am

Nah no joke this time, it actually happened. different stroke for different folks :-D

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
9:26 am

Morning,

Love is a beautiful thang :) That’s all I gotS!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
9:30 am

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
9:34 am

SH – You are right and it’ll take a little bit of time to swallow such a rash life decison. We had it out yesterday so at this point, all anyone can do is pray about it and hope my niece will be okay in the end.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
9:36 am

Morning Lady!!!

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
9:54 am

One thing I’ve learned over the past year with some losses I’ve had and some near losses is to tell people that I love them when I do. Contrary to what ya’ll may believe, I do wait with a man. I have a tattoo of a heart on my wrist to remind me that I wear my heart on my sleeve. It is true that I’m good at falling fast and hard, but I do my best to wait a while before saying it to a man. But…once it’s said, I say it often. I tell all of my friends that I love them. I’m all about showing the love these days.

With my ex, I waited until he said it first even though I felt it. I knew it was coming. I may have said that I was falling at some point, but he looked at me one night and said “I really, really, really, really like…ah he!!, I love you!”

I was a little scared away from saying I love you to a man because an ex from a long time ago would tell me he loves me, but not in the way I want him to. It broke my heart. He’s the one who passed away in March. After he died, I found things in his house that I gave to him and I knew he really did love me, he just couldn’t show it properly. We were close friends and before he died, we did tell each other that we loved each other, but we knew it was just as friends at that point.

Ok…feel like I’m rambling!!!

disco

August 17th, 2012
10:04 am

i’m not into the verbal declarations of love. just last night I was on a call with my mother and she said I love you and I let it ride. she then said it again and I was like “alright alright. you said that already. get off of my phone”.

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
10:07 am

Singing to disco (there’s a ice box where my heart use to be, there’s an ice box where my heart used to be, so cold so cold so cold) (LOL)

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
10:09 am

My mom and I talk a couple of times a night sometimes and we always say I love you before we hang up. I was afraid I was going to lose her last year to cancer and she’s my best friend. I say it because you never know what may happen to either one of us and it’s nice that the last words we said were I love you…

disco

August 17th, 2012
10:16 am

S/H – shut up.

bluz – I know. I hear folks say that all the time. still, in my opinion, you can say/hear I love you too daggone much and it can (at least for me) get on your daggone nerves. I already told y’all I listen to a co-worker confirm her love to her children 15-20 times a day. it’s not that real.

another word that irks me when it’s over used – “mommy”. it’s like that family guy commercial when dude is like “mom, mom, mommy, mom, mom, mommy”. shut the EFF up. lol.

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
10:18 am

Disco, I’m the same way, when you say it to much it just becomes a word that you say
I’m like that when I hear someone say my husband or my wife all the time, I be like da*n does the MF have a name (LOL)

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
10:19 am

disco – Is there anything that you do like? :lol:

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
10:21 am

Don’t give it do disco, she won’t like she hates everything, she likes it hey disco

Hope that wasn’t to dated for everyone

disco

August 17th, 2012
10:23 am

S/H – I don’t think you were around when I voiced that exact same opinion. can’t stand when folks do that.

slim – lol. yes but talking about what you don’t like is more fun. my favorite radio show segment of the week is tirade Tuesday. I like to hear other people complain so I don’t have to feel like it’s just me.

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
10:25 am

Disco don’t for get “baby” it sounds like they’re trying to prove to everybody else that they’re in love (LOL)

DreamsMaterialize

August 17th, 2012
10:32 am

Morning
You say I love you when you feel it. Life is too short and unpredictable to be playing games. If someone doesn’t feel it when you feel it, it’s not the end of the world.

So, how’s everyone doing this morning? Who’s ready for the weekend? Any big plans?

Into the Light

August 17th, 2012
10:32 am

Morning, all.

Just left the lab and enjoying some crazy good breakfast. Fasting blood work is best when followed by eggs, grits, bacon, and a biscuit. :)

Slim, glad you are back. Feeling any better?

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
10:33 am

Hi DM! I’m so ready for the weekend! Tomorrow, I get to go bowling for a credit union tournament, raising money for the Children’s Miracle Network! Should be fun, but have to get up early on a Saturday! Waaaaahhhh! LOL

How about you?

DreamsMaterialize

August 17th, 2012
10:37 am

Don’t give it do disco, she won’t like she hates everything, she likes it hey disco
Classic commercial. lol

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
10:38 am

disco – I’ve never heard of tirade Tuesday but I guess it’s similar to v103’s I’m Just Saying segment. People call in to complain about various things. Maybe we could get one going in here at some point today.

ITL- Thanks for asking. I’m…um…errrrrrr a little numb right now. But as SH said, she’ll have to deal with whatever consequences arise from her poor decision making. Even if she tried to play me to the left from some piece of old wang, i am her sister and that will never change. I’ll just be here as best as I can if something goes awry. I just hope dude doesn’t have to come up missing if he even thinks about messing with my niece (3yrs old)

DreamsMaterialize

August 17th, 2012
10:39 am

How about you?
Hey Bluzy Sounds like you’re involved and active in lots of things. That’s cool. I suck at bowling, so I have the most fun when everyone else sucks just as much as I do. lol I don’t have any specific plans this weekend, but I’ll get out and do some things.

DuShawn

August 17th, 2012
10:46 am

- I LOVE YOU – Nothing ruins a good “Jump Off” relationship quicker than those three fatal words.
Things could be going great; everyone is playing their position and behaving accordingly. Then they say it. Often they try to slip it in informally at the end of a conversation or electronic correspondence with a “Luv Ya” and a damn smiley face. That immediately signifies the beginning of the end. I love that thing you do with your tongue, but that’s about the extent of it. Even that dissipates as I ejaculate.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
10:50 am

It’s probably been 5-7 years since I’ve bowled, so a little nervous, but will be lots of fun! My team has raised over our goal amount, so it’s a great thing! I do stay active and get involved in a lot…sometimes, too much! But…the busier I am, the less trouble I can get into! LOL

Into the Light

August 17th, 2012
11:00 am

@Slim: well, if Earl has to die, I’ll help you cook the black eyed peas. (do you know the Dixie Chicks song I am referencing?)

@Blue: have fun, and wear extra thick socks. I don’t trust those nasty shoes. Nope, sure don’t.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
11:03 am

ITL! LOL! That song is funny…forgot about that one.

I promise to wear thick socks…or maybe two pairs! Don’t want a fungus! Ewwwww!!!

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
11:04 am

ITL – Sorry, you have me stumped on that one. :oops:

disco

August 17th, 2012
11:09 am

DM and S/H – that song reference went right over my head. I don’t get it. what is it?

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
11:13 am

Disco that’s an old Live Cereal commercial

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=34wJt3pRY0w

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
11:15 am

The song reference was from Ice Box by Omarion

disco

August 17th, 2012
11:15 am

oh. so I’m mikey? got it.

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
11:16 am

Disco, I’m sure you like some things (hee hee hee)

disco

August 17th, 2012
11:21 am

and now I’m doing a smooth little two step while singing debarge in my own mind.

I like it, I like it
I really, really like it
I’m for it, adore it
So come let me enjoy it

DreamsMaterialize

August 17th, 2012
11:24 am

Ok so the blog topic played out quickly. What’s next?

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
11:26 am

Someone just like me – Runnin’ into someone just like you

I like it

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
11:29 am

Opps wrong debarg (LOL)

You send chills up my spine every time I take one look at you

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
11:37 am

slow morning………..noon is slowly coming~

disco

August 17th, 2012
11:40 am

lady – noon is coming? I’ll take your word for it. (my way of saying that I agree. this is about the slowest morning ever).

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
11:42 am

yup………

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
11:46 am

Lady, disco, it’s a mind thing, the day isn’t going any slower than it would if you were home
(I can say that because I’m home :-) )

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
11:49 am

dead! lol enjoy~

disco

August 17th, 2012
11:55 am

S/H – well I’d rather have a slow day at home than a slow day waiting to get to be able to go home. whoever coined the phrase “long as a month of Sundays” got it wrong. it should be “long as a bunch of slow work days”.

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
11:57 am

Well how about I was blessed with a new nice super padded leather chair at work…even had wood grain arms and legs lol…Well this morning i get notified that the chair will get repoed on Monday. Apparently, my ass is not worth a $400 office chair.

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
11:57 am

Lady, Disco, just think if your day as getting better by the minute, because it’s always a minute closer to time to go :-)

Think positive.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
11:57 am

Where is everyone today? I’m sleepy and not feeling like working, so I need ya’ll to start some interesting topics! LOL

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
12:00 pm

Wow slim (trying to keep a straight face)

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
12:04 pm

SH – I’ve heard of cars, boats, atv’s etc being repoed but not the damn office chair at work. For a few days, I’ve been thinking I must be somebody up in here lol…guess not

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
12:06 pm

Slim they will repo anything, they must lease their furniture, did you have time to put your print in it (LOL)

disco

August 17th, 2012
12:07 pm

slim – re work and chairs. some years ago I worked at a place where folks had a thing for playing practical jokes and pranks on one another. y’all know me. I’m not the jokey joke type especially with co-workers. anyway, I was out of the office for awhile. don’t remember if it was vacation or funeral or what but it was extended. I get back to work and have no chair. my first thought is it’s a joke and I’m not in the mood. I go to the office services guys so they can track down my chair. no one would own it. chair never did turn up. we eventually just decided that someone swiped the chair for their own use and never owned it. meanwhile, my buddy in office services decides that since I thought it was a joke he’d turn it into a joke. he went and took a wing chair and ottoman from someone’s office and put it in my workspace.

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
12:09 pm

SH – I think i’ll crop dust the hell out of it before they come get it. lol Honestly, it’s probably a matter of someone being jealous of the new chair and went to complain about it. I don’t even think my GM’s chair is this nice lol At least I got to feel like somebody special this week…lol

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
12:10 pm

” y’all know me. I’m not the jokey joke type especially with co-workers.” REALLY! ( with a surprised look on my face) (rotflmao)

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
12:13 pm

I just won tickets to Big Bad Voodoo Daddy tonight!!!!! Yay!!!! Hoping Magnum will go with me…if not, I’ll have to find someone. Rain, rain, stay away tonight!!!

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
12:14 pm

Okay Bluzy that’s your one Magnum for today

I’m declaring this a no Magnum day (LOL)

disco

August 17th, 2012
12:14 pm

S/H – again I say – shut up. those folks played too much. they did the basic things like staplers in bowls of jello but they took it up a notch too. one time a chick stayed after work and made another chick’s workspace look like a crime scene. complete with blow up doll, fake blood and crime scene tape. another time they typed up a fake list of folks to be let go and left in a public area to be found. some folks were actually in tears thinking they were about to lose their jobs.

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
12:17 pm

Disco, staples in jello, fake fired list, I’m sorry I don’t get those jokes.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
12:17 pm

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 17th, 2012
12:18 pm

Disco I feel on not liking your coworkers, I tell mine all the time I’m there to make money, not make friends. so I don’ t care if they like me or not, but we will be professional to each other.

disco

August 17th, 2012
12:19 pm

neither did I S/H, neither did i.

anyone read the article re the air france plane having to stop for gas and asking the passengers to pitch in? that’s too crazy.

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
12:20 pm

disco – At my last job they bubble wrapped everything in our manager’s office…and one of the supervisors they foiled everything in the office lol I get the feeling that neither of those ideas would be funny to you

I Lust You

August 17th, 2012
12:20 pm

Single and Happy (I’m declaring this a no Magnum day (LOL))

August 17th, 2012
12:23 pm

Disco, apparently they didn’t take France Express (LOL)

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
12:23 pm

My boss just had to p*ss me off after she heard me say I won these tickets. She had the nerve to come in and say something about all of us having our cell phones out (when she’s on hers all the time). She said that she shouldn’t walk into our offices and see cell phones and iPods on our desk. It is too the side. I commented that she has hers out all day and she tried to say she didn’t. I said that mine stays to the side and I occasionally check my emails and just saw that I won these tickets. She said she was going to talk to all of us after work about it. After she walked out, I said “talk about trying to be a buzzkill.” Whatever! I’m not going to let her ruin me being excited about winning!!!

disco

August 17th, 2012
12:25 pm

slim – nope, not funny at all. I must admit, though, that I was a wee bit tickled to see a saran wrapped jeep in my neighborhood once. I could only imagine the effort required to pull that off. of course if it was my jeep I would have been ticked.

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
12:26 pm

Single and Happy (I’m declaring this a no Magnum day (LOL))

August 17th, 2012
12:28 pm

Disco, I think that happened years ago on a hijacked plane in the same place, only that time one of the flight attendants put it on her credit card. the must have canceled the purchase so now they won’t take credit cards (LOL)

Single and Happy (I’m declaring this a no Magnum day (LOL))

August 17th, 2012
12:34 pm

Here’s a weird one for you

The officers found less than two grams of cannabis on Nugent and he was also charged with possession of cannabis, (LOL)

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/suburbs/park_ridge/chi-park-ridge-police-say-man-attacked-and-spanked-girl-16-20120816,0,3483944.story

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
12:49 pm

OMG S/H – I just noticed your moniker! LOL

Single and Happy (I’m declaring this a no Magnum day (LOL))

August 17th, 2012
12:53 pm

whacha talking bout bluzy

(doing my best Arnold Jackson impression) (LOL)

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
12:56 pm

SH – That dude looks uber freaky!! And what the hell was that all about. SUrely he had to be high off something stronger than just weed

Single and Happy (I’m declaring this a no Magnum day (LOL))

August 17th, 2012
12:58 pm

Slim it wasn’t weed, it was “cannabis” (rotflmao) suburban weed! (LMAO)

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
1:09 pm

SH- Not ‘cannibis”??!! That ish right therrrrr getcha fugged up :lol:

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
1:35 pm

Afternoon All,
Its Friday and I am in one of those ‘dayum its a good day mood’. Let me read up a bit. I aint tryna hear bout that love isht, Bluz drama or nothing else that’s gonna blow/spoil this mood. Hahaha

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
1:38 pm

WD – Don’t worry, I don’t even think anyone is here to try to ruin your good mood. I see you didn’t notice all the empty seats lol

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
1:39 pm

Woo hoo! I have a date tonight now! I sure hope that the weather stays clear!!!

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
1:40 pm

WD – I ain’t talking drama today…all is good for now!

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
1:40 pm

Bluzy – YOU GO GIRL….GIT IT GIT IT!!!

Deets Monday morning!!

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
1:42 pm

Slim – cool cause this isht right heren this isht right here got me chillin in the corner joneing folks, tripping in a real good way. Don’t mind me.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
1:43 pm

You got it Cel! It will be interesting to see how things are after not seeing each other for two weeks!!!

Single and Happy (I’m declaring this a no Magnum day (LOL))

August 17th, 2012
1:46 pm

Bluzy Moniker! (LOL)

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
1:50 pm

WD – Gotcha home skillet…lol

Bluz – Well, have fun chica!

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
1:54 pm

Magnum free day, I like that. For the record that is the 1st and last time I will refer to THAT DUDE by that name. Just don’t feel right. Hahaha

Disco – I just wanna hear something good from you 1 time. Don’t give me a story bout ya coworkers or cousin followed by a cussing out session. Just 1 thing good without a bad part. You got it in you I know you do.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
1:54 pm

Bluzy – I’m sure reeeeallll intense interesting :) Have a blast girlie

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
1:55 pm

WD – How about Big Boy? LOL

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
1:55 pm

Hollering at Big Boy….lololol LOVE it

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
1:57 pm

I say call it like you see it :mrgreen:

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
1:57 pm

Bluz – how about “NO” lol

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
1:59 pm

I’m no genius or anything but I’d go out on a limb to say that Big Boy and Magnum would be considered one in the same. Oh and no pun intended with the ‘limb’ I just threw out there lol

disco – I think Willie just committed you into therapy on an involuntary basis. “You can do it…tell us something good”. Hey group, let’s welcome disco to our circle of trust ;-)

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
1:59 pm

Single and Happy (I’m declaring this a no Magnum day (LOL))

August 17th, 2012
2:00 pm

Bluzy call him what ever you want to, just wait till Monday :-)

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:01 pm

Slim – right, even the M E L O will get mushy on us every now and then.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:04 pm

I tried to bring disco to the light yesterday but I think that read as hogwash…lololol

disco

August 17th, 2012
2:07 pm

willie d – re hearing one good thing from me. all I have to say to you right this minute is “shut up”.

y’all blog folks will take me as I am or y’all won’t take me. wish I would be all up on the blog trying to post happy posts just to make the general population happy. puh-leeze. bump that. if and when I’m feeling effing happy I will let y’all know. lol.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:08 pm

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:09 pm

WD hey bruh did you snag tickets to the dallas vs atlanta game for november?!? #curious

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:11 pm

Classic,
Come on Disco we know you got it in you.
At least tell us the last time something made you happy WITHOUT the expense of someone elses misery.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:12 pm

disco disco disco (chanting like the audience from Jerry Springer)

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:13 pm

Lady – yep, got 2 in hand. Working some folks to get field passes and/or suite tix. You know me I’m greedy like that.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:14 pm

**********burst out laughing********** cool dude enjoy~ lol

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
2:15 pm

WD – I’m re-reading disco’s last post. I think i may see a hint of something positive in there but let me know if you see if before I do. lol

disco – jokey joke…oh wait, you don’t like jokes oops :oops:

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:15 pm

C what is good sis?!? its been a slow friday~

disco

August 17th, 2012
2:15 pm

i will not succumb to peer pressure. and hold up, wait a minute, back it up – how the heck did this get to be about me anyway?

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:17 pm

Lady – Just chillin….said like Bro Man from the fif fl (while holding up 4 fingers)…from Martin…lol Tryna fix a huge boo boo I made yesterday. My treasury dude (ie cute white guy) is NOT happy with me right now :cry:

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:20 pm

Lady – What’s crackalackin with you?

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
2:21 pm

LOL S/H…I promise.

Now…to figure out what I’m gonna wear tonight in case it rains! I’m looking forward to visiting Chastain for the first time…

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:21 pm

Lady – you got your pink Romo jersey? I know you a Cowboy fan.
Slim – naww I didn’t see it. Keep looking.

Disco – we just trying to spread the love per the topic. Come on come on I know you wanna.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:21 pm

Just let it be sexy and make sure you smell good

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:22 pm

nothing but problematic children….the usual…I just tweeted I can’t front I worked hard today and I guess I will play harder tonight 0_o lol #lame I know lol

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:22 pm

You can do it alright, you can do it dynamite
You can do it alright, you can do it dynamite
You can do it alright, you can do it dynamite

high school cheer from back in the day

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:24 pm

WD my boo is a staunch Dallas Cowboy fan and would love for me to join that bandwagon but it ain’t happening! We fight over it daily! Choke Romo is who he is! lol did yall score a TD the other day?!? lol

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:24 pm

C I cheered that cheer as a cheerleader~ lol

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:26 pm

Lady – Really? I’ve heard that one for years. Even going back to being a cheerleader from the Girl’s Club

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:26 pm

I taught it to my squad in my recent past~ lol no biggie its classic!

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:32 pm

Lady – your boo sounds like a good dude then. And no TD but we did Win.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:34 pm

lol good one sir~ you got it! lol :-)

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:35 pm

Disco – ???????

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
2:36 pm

Well I have a little bit a good news regarding my sister situation. So I just got a call from my mom to say that my sister did end up cancelling having the new hubby’s name added to my nieces birth certificate. My mom basically told her that in the event that something happens to her, she does not want to have to fight him for any reason for custody or anything else. That makes me feel a little bit better. Whew!

disco

August 17th, 2012
2:37 pm

awww heyall willie d. I ain’t got nothing. I’ve been sitting here thinking for 20 minutes. I can’t even come up with a creative lie. maybe next week?

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:40 pm

y’all be easy! peace out!

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:40 pm

disco – All that your son has accomplished, from what you’ve blogged is tip top to me. That’s something good.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:41 pm

disco

August 17th, 2012
2:41 pm

there willie d. use that. lol.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:41 pm

Did Bluzy leave work early? LOLOLOLOLOLOL

Jake...SPJTWB

August 17th, 2012
2:41 pm

What up folks…been a long hard week…what ya’ll been doing in here?

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:53 pm

Therapist – ok let’s talk about some goods times in your life.
Tell me about your child.
Disco – that mfer was 10 lbs at birth and then ate up all my groceries. I’m so glad his azz is up out my house.
Therapist – alrighty then tell me about your mother.
Disco – I can’t stand that chick. Every time I talk to her this heffa got the nerve to say I love you. I don’t even answer no more. She goes straight to voicemail and her azz got 1 month time before she gets blocked. Heffa
Therapist – alright then. Do you have any pets? Maybe a cat perhaps.
Disco – Doc, if one more dog isht in my yard I’m gon be Mike Vick on that azz.
Therapist – well dayum would you like a drink.
Disco – hell yeah and it betnot be no fruity isht doc.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:55 pm

Reading Slim’s chair story….

A few years back in another department, we had “refurbished” chairs, which caused nothing but backaches daily. We all complained and they bring a team of dudes up…again…to tighten and adjust and repair. Well, nothing gets better so, in team meetings we’d all complain. Soooo, my manager decided to order chairs for each of us. The chairs were $500 each. After finding out it’s coming out of her budget (bonus money, parties money, events funding, etc), she renigs. She says the order has been indefinitely delayed. Sooooo, as a team and standing united, we (being about 50 folks), all rolled the busted chairs to the freight elevators and left them there. She comes through and see everyone standing up working….lolololol She tried to be mad at first and brought them back in one by one. We again, all united, took them back to the freight elevator. All she could do was laugh and order the chairs. Best dang chairs ever. Now every floor, every area, every department have those chairs.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:56 pm

LOLOLOLOLOLOL…..that was COMEDY

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:02 pm

Cel – I’m still here. Boss said we can leave at 4:30, though! Give me time to get some more things done around my house and figure out what to wear! I did some major cleaning last night!!!

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:06 pm

Bluzy – Ain’t it nice having a man come up in a clean house, you looking good and smelling good??? Ahhhhh, yeah

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:07 pm

No sad long songs come Monday though….lol This is what week 3? Shoot, next thing we know six months will have passed. No more couch sessions.

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
3:11 pm

Make it a great weekend, peace out!

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:14 pm

Cel – I had fun cleaning last night actually…I cranked some Elvis and got to work! Had to do it just in case of company. I’m getting more and more excited!

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:18 pm

Bluzy – Girl, I can hear your heart beating over here. Dontchu go into cardiac arrest now. Yeah, I know all about “just in case.” :) :) Git it girl

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
3:19 pm

Ok folks I gave it a shot. Its on yall now to get something good out of Disco.
Enjoy your weekend. Back to my happy place.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:20 pm

LOL Cel! Only 3 more hours til I see him…

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:21 pm

I thought we had a bit of juice going but I guess not. I’m here but I’m falling back until it’s time to go or something pops off.

Bluzy, seems I’m the only one excited right now…nothing personal I don’t. How bout we prove everybody wrong. I’m a believer and for the underdog :) :)

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:30 pm

Thanks Cel! I hope to prove everyone wrong. But, I also am trying to keep some of my guard up, even though it’s hard. One day at a time is my motto!!! :-)

Jake...SPJTWB

August 17th, 2012
3:35 pm

Yeah Bluzy, you got your guard up, but it seems them good ole sugar walls have been comprised….and I think somebody don’t really mind the “comprimising positions”.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:35 pm

Bluzy – Just try and remember some of what we said. Make sure buddy gets a job and keep a job…IMO is the first priority. I can’t say don’t give up the draws too early cause you’ve already done that. So a bit of “damage” control (lololol), would be to make sure you ain’t supporting buddy. Oh, don’t pull out a list while y’all drinking. In the morning, if he’s still there and it’s just top of mind, find a way to spin it. I wouldn’t though…not just yet. Technically y’all are still WFWB (working friends with benefits…lolol). That’s all you bargined for initially. You gotta get it out of that phase first before you go tossing dos and donts. If you can get him in PBF (potential boyfriend) status or BF status then go from there. Technically he can throw it back to you that y’all just flucking. So careful making demands right now.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 17th, 2012
3:40 pm

Awww man…Bluzy, you ain’t thinking bout having a “talk” with him are you…Don’t do it, ya’ll just having fun right, Please Let Him Be The One To Say, “I want more”.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:42 pm

Thanks Cel…good words of advice. I think this weekend will tell a lot about what may or may not happen with us. I would like to have a convo about his drinking, but maybe I can turn it into a casual remark. I was thinking about asking him to drive tonight since I won the tickets… :-)

I do listen to ya’ll, even if it seems like I don’t at times! ;-)

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:42 pm

Yep, she said the other day she’s ready to lay it out there. Technically she disqualified herself for “having the talk.” I got faith though. Buddy could be in for just ass or he could be digging her for real. He ain’t been exactly ghost so, there’s hope. Play it right Bluzy and come out on top with the priiiiize!!!! You can do it :)

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:45 pm

Jake…I really just want to have a talk to find out how much he actually drinks. Too much drinking or having a problem are a deal breaker and I don’t want to get in any deeper if it is a problem. Maybe having him drive tonight will be a good test…

I’m not wanting to have a relationship “talk”…just want to clear some things before it turns into a relationship…

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:45 pm

Him driving right now should be automatic. Once y’all get cozy, you can get sexy and swing through and pick him up. Just remember, the rules are different with FWB….ain’t none. So you gotta get on the good foot first. Don’t get all deep and heavy. Good convo, good time, good sex. If he’s still there, make him a couple of flap jacks. Don’t be hanging on his leg when he gets ready to go in the morning. Play cool (even if you want him to stay the entire weekend), if he decides to leave. Get yaself a hot bath and occupy youself so you don’t be tempting to call him back over after being gone for only an hour (lololol). Stay gone all day. If he calls and wants to do something Saturday, cool..if not, heck you was busy (wink wink) and never gave him a second thought.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:46 pm

I think he’s digging me for real…if it was just to get some, I don’t think he would have texted and called while in NOLA. Just my opinion. Who knows, though. I know that I sure want to get some!!! LOL

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:47 pm

LOLOLOLOLOLOL…..I’m am so fond of you. You just put it out there, no shame, no lying. Chile, I’m not hating on you for that. Yeah, all of us get there of “just wanting some” Nuttin but da truf

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:48 pm

Thanks again Cel! Luckily, I have a bowling tournament in the morning, so no biggie if he leaves. He does have a dog to take care of, so I’m not worried about that. The night we first hooked up, he asked if I would drive, but he did give me gas money. Now, though, the game has changed! I don’t mind him driving my car, but I sure don’t want to drive in the ATL traffic!!! Plus…it would be nice to get my drink on!

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:49 pm

Let me clarify, him driving SHOULD be automatic but right now ain’t no rules. Still, don’t pull your car out of the driveway (hope nobody shoots me for saying).

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:50 pm

Alright, you got your tools…good advice (all week long), good cuttie (kitty) and a good liver…lololol Work it!

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:54 pm

I’ll be working it all right!!! :-) :-) :-)

Jake...SPJTWB

August 17th, 2012
3:54 pm

Ohhh, he like to get toasted…I guess I probably missed the discussion of why it concerns you…There are vastly different categories of gettin too it, now he getting “white-boy wasted’ regularly, then you have call for concern..

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:57 pm

Just pay attention. Too much alcohol intake is top of mind right now. Be swift about it if you see it’s too much. I don’t care if he’s long dong, magnum, big boy….that’s not worth the problem you no doubt will have in the future. Don’t ask him (like you planned), because what alcoholic say they drink too much. Take the wheel on this one.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:59 pm

Jake…I don’t care about social drinking…I’ve just dealt with a couple of alcoholics and have promised to not get in a relationship with another one. One ex passed away in March and he was a severe alcoholic.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
4:00 pm

That’s true Cel…I think I’ll be able tell as we spend more time together…

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
4:02 pm

Alright Bluzy, for now have a blast!

DreamsMaterialize

August 17th, 2012
4:03 pm

What’s good ladies and gents? What you all got going on? Anyone have a time accelerator handy? I’m ready to sprint up outta here.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
4:07 pm

Bluzy might have one….lol

i'm swiss

August 17th, 2012
4:10 pm

GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD AFTERNOON, MIA!

Did you miss me? :) I’m too lazy to go back & read, so what’s happening up in here?

i'm swiss

August 17th, 2012
4:12 pm

“There are vastly different categories of gettin too it, now he getting “white-boy wasted’ regularly, then you have call for concern.”

Jake — I wish I could get offended by that, but I can’t be mad when it’s true… :lol:

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
4:13 pm

I wish I had a time accelerator!!! Get to leave in 20 minutes, then time is going to DRAG once I get home!!!!

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
4:14 pm

Girl, don’t kill yourself and others getting there…lol He’ll be there soon enough. Slooooooooow dowwwwwwwwwwwwn

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
4:17 pm

LOL!!! I know, right?!?!?!

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
4:18 pm

swiss…you are definitely missed!!!

i'm swiss

August 17th, 2012
4:22 pm

What’s up Bluz? You still walking funny? ;-)

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
4:23 pm

LOL! I will after tonight! Since you were to lazy to catch up…I’ll fill you in real quick! He just got back yesterday from Nola…I won tickets to Chastain tonight for Big Bad Voodoo Daddy and he is going with me!

i'm swiss

August 17th, 2012
4:25 pm

Oh wow… I didn’t realize Big Bad Voodoo Daddy were still around. Cool. Well, I’m sure you’ll enjoy both Big Bad Voodoo Daddy and Big Daddy.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
4:27 pm

:-) I saw them last year and they were great with the Atlanta Symphony Orch. I love the dancers that come out to see them. It’s gonna be a blast!!! I also have friends who work at Chastain, so I’ll get hooked up with good seats…

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
4:29 pm

Alright peeps…time for me to jet. I’ll fill ya’ll in on Monday! Have a good weekend!

me

August 17th, 2012
4:31 pm

just saying

August 17th, 2012
4:59 pm

@me: what a relief from the clown show bafoonery bringing things to a slow crawl. the lesser of two evils

just saying

willie wonka

August 17th, 2012
5:01 pm

buffoonery right?

just saying

August 17th, 2012
5:04 pm

no way BAFOONERY

just saying

hasta la vista