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Dating: The L word dilemma

What would you do if the person you just started dating blurted out “I love you” way too soon? It happens a lot! People get caught up in the moment and express what they think they are feeling.

This kind of situation can either scare someone off because they don’t feel the same way or it can force a conversation about “where things stand” with you.

I think some people have been the first to say I love you in relationships that they are gun shy with sharing those words. Should you wait to say it when you mean it? Do you say it when you think you are falling?

Why are guys freaked out when a woman they are saying tells them she loves them. After doing all kinds of things with the woman, hearing her say I love you somehow seems outrageous, but why?

When do you think it is appropriate to tell someone you are falling in love, are in love, or love them? When is the wrong time to say it?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Single and Happy (I’m declaring this a no Magnum day (LOL))

August 17th, 2012
2:00 pm

Bluzy call him what ever you want to, just wait till Monday :-)

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:01 pm

Slim – right, even the M E L O will get mushy on us every now and then.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:04 pm

I tried to bring disco to the light yesterday but I think that read as hogwash…lololol

disco

August 17th, 2012
2:07 pm

willie d – re hearing one good thing from me. all I have to say to you right this minute is “shut up”.

y’all blog folks will take me as I am or y’all won’t take me. wish I would be all up on the blog trying to post happy posts just to make the general population happy. puh-leeze. bump that. if and when I’m feeling effing happy I will let y’all know. lol.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:08 pm

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:09 pm

WD hey bruh did you snag tickets to the dallas vs atlanta game for november?!? #curious

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:11 pm

Classic,
Come on Disco we know you got it in you.
At least tell us the last time something made you happy WITHOUT the expense of someone elses misery.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:12 pm

disco disco disco (chanting like the audience from Jerry Springer)

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:13 pm

Lady – yep, got 2 in hand. Working some folks to get field passes and/or suite tix. You know me I’m greedy like that.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:14 pm

**********burst out laughing********** cool dude enjoy~ lol

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
2:15 pm

WD – I’m re-reading disco’s last post. I think i may see a hint of something positive in there but let me know if you see if before I do. lol

disco – jokey joke…oh wait, you don’t like jokes oops :oops:

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:15 pm

C what is good sis?!? its been a slow friday~

disco

August 17th, 2012
2:15 pm

i will not succumb to peer pressure. and hold up, wait a minute, back it up – how the heck did this get to be about me anyway?

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:17 pm

Lady – Just chillin….said like Bro Man from the fif fl (while holding up 4 fingers)…from Martin…lol Tryna fix a huge boo boo I made yesterday. My treasury dude (ie cute white guy) is NOT happy with me right now :cry:

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:20 pm

Lady – What’s crackalackin with you?

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
2:21 pm

LOL S/H…I promise.

Now…to figure out what I’m gonna wear tonight in case it rains! I’m looking forward to visiting Chastain for the first time…

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:21 pm

Lady – you got your pink Romo jersey? I know you a Cowboy fan.
Slim – naww I didn’t see it. Keep looking.

Disco – we just trying to spread the love per the topic. Come on come on I know you wanna.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:21 pm

Just let it be sexy and make sure you smell good

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:22 pm

nothing but problematic children….the usual…I just tweeted I can’t front I worked hard today and I guess I will play harder tonight 0_o lol #lame I know lol

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:22 pm

You can do it alright, you can do it dynamite
You can do it alright, you can do it dynamite
You can do it alright, you can do it dynamite

high school cheer from back in the day

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:24 pm

WD my boo is a staunch Dallas Cowboy fan and would love for me to join that bandwagon but it ain’t happening! We fight over it daily! Choke Romo is who he is! lol did yall score a TD the other day?!? lol

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:24 pm

C I cheered that cheer as a cheerleader~ lol

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:26 pm

Lady – Really? I’ve heard that one for years. Even going back to being a cheerleader from the Girl’s Club

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:26 pm

I taught it to my squad in my recent past~ lol no biggie its classic!

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:32 pm

Lady – your boo sounds like a good dude then. And no TD but we did Win.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:34 pm

lol good one sir~ you got it! lol :-)

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:35 pm

Disco – ???????

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
2:36 pm

Well I have a little bit a good news regarding my sister situation. So I just got a call from my mom to say that my sister did end up cancelling having the new hubby’s name added to my nieces birth certificate. My mom basically told her that in the event that something happens to her, she does not want to have to fight him for any reason for custody or anything else. That makes me feel a little bit better. Whew!

disco

August 17th, 2012
2:37 pm

awww heyall willie d. I ain’t got nothing. I’ve been sitting here thinking for 20 minutes. I can’t even come up with a creative lie. maybe next week?

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 17th, 2012
2:40 pm

y’all be easy! peace out!

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:40 pm

disco – All that your son has accomplished, from what you’ve blogged is tip top to me. That’s something good.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:41 pm

disco

August 17th, 2012
2:41 pm

there willie d. use that. lol.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:41 pm

Did Bluzy leave work early? LOLOLOLOLOLOL

Jake...SPJTWB

August 17th, 2012
2:41 pm

What up folks…been a long hard week…what ya’ll been doing in here?

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
2:53 pm

Therapist – ok let’s talk about some goods times in your life.
Tell me about your child.
Disco – that mfer was 10 lbs at birth and then ate up all my groceries. I’m so glad his azz is up out my house.
Therapist – alrighty then tell me about your mother.
Disco – I can’t stand that chick. Every time I talk to her this heffa got the nerve to say I love you. I don’t even answer no more. She goes straight to voicemail and her azz got 1 month time before she gets blocked. Heffa
Therapist – alright then. Do you have any pets? Maybe a cat perhaps.
Disco – Doc, if one more dog isht in my yard I’m gon be Mike Vick on that azz.
Therapist – well dayum would you like a drink.
Disco – hell yeah and it betnot be no fruity isht doc.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:55 pm

Reading Slim’s chair story….

A few years back in another department, we had “refurbished” chairs, which caused nothing but backaches daily. We all complained and they bring a team of dudes up…again…to tighten and adjust and repair. Well, nothing gets better so, in team meetings we’d all complain. Soooo, my manager decided to order chairs for each of us. The chairs were $500 each. After finding out it’s coming out of her budget (bonus money, parties money, events funding, etc), she renigs. She says the order has been indefinitely delayed. Sooooo, as a team and standing united, we (being about 50 folks), all rolled the busted chairs to the freight elevators and left them there. She comes through and see everyone standing up working….lolololol She tried to be mad at first and brought them back in one by one. We again, all united, took them back to the freight elevator. All she could do was laugh and order the chairs. Best dang chairs ever. Now every floor, every area, every department have those chairs.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
2:56 pm

LOLOLOLOLOLOL…..that was COMEDY

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:02 pm

Cel – I’m still here. Boss said we can leave at 4:30, though! Give me time to get some more things done around my house and figure out what to wear! I did some major cleaning last night!!!

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:06 pm

Bluzy – Ain’t it nice having a man come up in a clean house, you looking good and smelling good??? Ahhhhh, yeah

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:07 pm

No sad long songs come Monday though….lol This is what week 3? Shoot, next thing we know six months will have passed. No more couch sessions.

SlimUno

August 17th, 2012
3:11 pm

Make it a great weekend, peace out!

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:14 pm

Cel – I had fun cleaning last night actually…I cranked some Elvis and got to work! Had to do it just in case of company. I’m getting more and more excited!

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:18 pm

Bluzy – Girl, I can hear your heart beating over here. Dontchu go into cardiac arrest now. Yeah, I know all about “just in case.” :) :) Git it girl

Willie Dynamite

August 17th, 2012
3:19 pm

Ok folks I gave it a shot. Its on yall now to get something good out of Disco.
Enjoy your weekend. Back to my happy place.

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:20 pm

LOL Cel! Only 3 more hours til I see him…

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:21 pm

I thought we had a bit of juice going but I guess not. I’m here but I’m falling back until it’s time to go or something pops off.

Bluzy, seems I’m the only one excited right now…nothing personal I don’t. How bout we prove everybody wrong. I’m a believer and for the underdog :) :)

Bluzgirl

August 17th, 2012
3:30 pm

Thanks Cel! I hope to prove everyone wrong. But, I also am trying to keep some of my guard up, even though it’s hard. One day at a time is my motto!!! :-)

Jake...SPJTWB

August 17th, 2012
3:35 pm

Yeah Bluzy, you got your guard up, but it seems them good ole sugar walls have been comprised….and I think somebody don’t really mind the “comprimising positions”.

Celisea

August 17th, 2012
3:35 pm

Bluzy – Just try and remember some of what we said. Make sure buddy gets a job and keep a job…IMO is the first priority. I can’t say don’t give up the draws too early cause you’ve already done that. So a bit of “damage” control (lololol), would be to make sure you ain’t supporting buddy. Oh, don’t pull out a list while y’all drinking. In the morning, if he’s still there and it’s just top of mind, find a way to spin it. I wouldn’t though…not just yet. Technically y’all are still WFWB (working friends with benefits…lolol). That’s all you bargined for initially. You gotta get it out of that phase first before you go tossing dos and donts. If you can get him in PBF (potential boyfriend) status or BF status then go from there. Technically he can throw it back to you that y’all just flucking. So careful making demands right now.