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Dating: Why Are You Single?


Hello lovelies! Since I am pretty much having a horrendous week in the office, I have asked my Wonder Twin (seriously we are, we share the same birthday and we are both dating bloggers!) to guest blog today. Brittany Manson aka Miss Alone in Atlanta wants to discuss that oh so lovely question we ALL have been asked WAY too many times, “Why are you single?” (*insert eyeroll*)

Every now and then (more now than then) when I meet a guy, I’m posed with the question “Why are you single”? I like many women across America CRINGE at this question! What are you supposed to say that won’t make you sound crazy, picky, desperate, lonely, needy, vulnerable, sneezy, dopey, bashful, grumpy….ok well maybe not those last few.

Most of the time when I get this question, the way it’s posed almost sounds like you have a disease, like the underlying tone of the question is saying something’s wrong with you because you’re….dare I say it…..SINGLE! A lot of times women will get on the defense when asked and answer that they are single “by choice” (even though that might not be the case) leaving guys to think they’re not looking for anything serious.

My smart self began to answer with “I’m single for the same reason you are”. A guy countered my response one day with “so you have bad taste in women too?” I said “Yup! That’s why I don’t date them.”

So today I ask to the guys: Do you ask this question when meeting someone and why? Ladies: Do you like or dislike this question and why? Ladies: How do you usually answer this question when asked?

By Brittany Manson, Guest Blogger for Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

331 comments Add your comment

Celisea

August 16th, 2012
4:21 pm

Let me go back and read.

Did I miss Comon? S/H called her name twice and she’s not here (shrugs). Let me go back to yesterday

Sassy Me...PYT :-)

August 16th, 2012
4:22 pm

If you had seen what it posted yesterday afternoon

LOL @ “it”…

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
4:23 pm

….and no one can blog with a troll you know
…that is you know unless is the troll is Maccy Do Ro….

Celisea

August 16th, 2012
4:24 pm

What does Maccy Do Ro means anyway? Something profound I hope with all that “umph” s/he’s got going on.

Celisea

August 16th, 2012
4:25 pm

I think he said he was a man.

Maccy Do Ro….WELCOME!!! Stick around and Leggs will provide you a vest given you past the test.

disco

August 16th, 2012
4:25 pm

ITL – that’s what I’m talking about. I wondered if anyone would finish it off. lol. speaking of trolls. what do you all envision when you think troll? I think of the big thing from where the wild things are but I think the blog in general would be safer if we had smaller, gremlin-like trolls.

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
4:25 pm

Heeeey, Sassy. I guess I should have said (s)he, but it was quicker and gender-neutral, too. :)

Although, i did go back and read the line about a “farther” so I guess Maccy is a he. Or a long way away. Or gassy with an extra “h”.

ITL shrugs and pours another Captain and diet Coke.

Single and Happy I knew I should have kept my $15 in my pocket!

August 16th, 2012
4:27 pm

ITL which captain are you drinking?

Comon Cents- just cosigning today...

August 16th, 2012
4:27 pm

Wait. What? What Trolls did I feed? I step away from the computer for minute and y’all just done gone off da chain. And WTH is Maccy? Where is te original post? I’m wit disco on this. Can’t pass judgement till I read the post. SMDH…

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
4:28 pm

@disco: Mr. Ed comes on MeTV. You know I love all those old shows. :)

And Where the Wild Things Are is one of my all time favorite kids’ books. My current fave, though, is SkippyJohn Jones. The godkids and I were LOL when we read that one the other day.

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
4:29 pm

@Stamps: In honor of National Rum Day, I am on a date with Captain Morgan. :)

disco

August 16th, 2012
4:30 pm

ITL – I like old sitcoms too though mr. ed isn’t one that I’d watch. the other day someone threw out the skipper’s name on gilligan’s island. I was like who? what? he was like that’s the skipper. I was like “oh”. I didn’t watch gilligan’s island.

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
4:34 pm

I used to watch Gilligan’s Island when I was a kid, but now it just seems kind of dumb to me. I mean, you can build radios and lawd knows what else, but you can’t fix a boat???

Single and Happy I knew I should have kept my $15 in my pocket!

August 16th, 2012
4:34 pm

sorry comon wasn’t meant for you

Single and Happy I knew I should have kept my $15 in my pocket!

August 16th, 2012
4:38 pm

ITL I guess you’re drinking the Original Spice

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
4:42 pm

@Stamps: I’m drinking whatever the bartender is pouring. :) Virtual drinks, of course, since in reality I am still at work and they frown on drinking in the office. It would be very career-limiting. :(

Comon Cents- just cosigning today...

August 16th, 2012
4:45 pm

OK. Went back and read. Dude is a troll. That is all.

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
4:46 pm

@CC: Ya think??? :lol: :lol:

disco

August 16th, 2012
4:47 pm

ITL – speaking of drinking at work. how come a co-worker accidentally grabbed a can of Budweiser lemon lime something or other this morning thinking it was something else. not sure what it is, not beer but some kind of new novelty drink. she messed around and went to put it in the work fridge and saw it had alcohol in it. we got a good giggle out of it but I swear I think I could have jacked it out of the fridge and drank it in the bathroom. what was she going to do? report her drank missing. lol.

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
4:47 pm

Okay, I have a report to finish before 5:30, so I gotta get cracking. Y’all be sweet and if I don’t make it in tomorrow, everyone have a great Friday and a great weekend.

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
4:48 pm

LOL@disco. She could have if you worked here. The random drug tests include a breathalyzer. Yup. Shole do. :eek:

disco

August 16th, 2012
4:54 pm

well my office doesn’t follow the rules. y’all hear me on here griping all the time about all of the daggone violations. these heffas at my job are all but running a prescription drug ring up in this camp.

Comon Cents- just cosigning today...

August 16th, 2012
5:00 pm

Well, we all drink at my job. I think it is a hazzard of the field. IJS…

Single and Happy I knew I should have kept my $15 in my pocket!

August 16th, 2012
5:06 pm

it’s alot of days my morning meeting is a “drinking situation” (LOL)

Single and Happy I knew I should have kept my $15 in my pocket!

August 16th, 2012
5:07 pm

ITL Gilligan was dumb when I was a kid, because we were asking the same thing then (LOL)

Single and Happy I knew I should have kept my $15 in my pocket!

August 16th, 2012
5:09 pm

Rock boys in the building today, the drinks are on the house
http://www.thebar.com/

Comon Cents- just cosigning today...

August 16th, 2012
5:12 pm

S/H~ I’m still pouting and mad at you. Trying to throw me under the bus with Maccy. WTH were you thinking?

**Comon hops up and dusts her blog vest off** Even if I look like the organ grinder’s monkey in my vest, it’s still mine. Hmpf!

Single and Happy I knew I should have kept my $15 in my pocket!

August 16th, 2012
5:13 pm

I’m sorry comon,

Single and Happy I knew I should have kept my $15 in my pocket!

August 16th, 2012
5:14 pm

I meant come on, but it came out comon, I’m sorry

Comon Cents- just cosigning today...

August 16th, 2012
5:15 pm

J/K. You know I like to poke fun. I’m bout to be out! “See” y’all tomorrow possibly. Waiting to hear back on a few things.

Single and Happy I knew I should have kept my $15 in my pocket!

August 16th, 2012
5:16 pm

yea but you had that serious lawyer face like when you have a client on the witness stand and you know he’s lying (LOL)