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Dating: Why Are You Single?


Hello lovelies! Since I am pretty much having a horrendous week in the office, I have asked my Wonder Twin (seriously we are, we share the same birthday and we are both dating bloggers!) to guest blog today. Brittany Manson aka Miss Alone in Atlanta wants to discuss that oh so lovely question we ALL have been asked WAY too many times, “Why are you single?” (*insert eyeroll*)

Every now and then (more now than then) when I meet a guy, I’m posed with the question “Why are you single”? I like many women across America CRINGE at this question! What are you supposed to say that won’t make you sound crazy, picky, desperate, lonely, needy, vulnerable, sneezy, dopey, bashful, grumpy….ok well maybe not those last few.

Most of the time when I get this question, the way it’s posed almost sounds like you have a disease, like the underlying tone of the question is saying something’s wrong with you because you’re….dare I say it…..SINGLE! A lot of times women will get on the defense when asked and answer that they are single “by choice” (even though that might not be the case) leaving guys to think they’re not looking for anything serious.

My smart self began to answer with “I’m single for the same reason you are”. A guy countered my response one day with “so you have bad taste in women too?” I said “Yup! That’s why I don’t date them.”

So today I ask to the guys: Do you ask this question when meeting someone and why? Ladies: Do you like or dislike this question and why? Ladies: How do you usually answer this question when asked?

By Brittany Manson, Guest Blogger for Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Lady~cool beans :-)

August 16th, 2012
11:25 am

ITL nope low key and quaint sis~

DreamsMaterialize

August 16th, 2012
11:26 am

Hey Lady. Happy Birthday. Raising my Don Julio to you. ;-)

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
11:28 am

@Lady: Sounds good! I’m off tomorrow, so in honor of your birthday I will sleep in. :)

Uh oh. Dreams is in a drinking situation. LOL

SlimUno - oh no she didn't

August 16th, 2012
11:28 am

Well I made last night Hennesey Day…

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 16th, 2012
11:31 am

@DM thanks bruh!!!! I have an whole bottle not opened that I shall partake in!!!!! I will toast to you sir!!!! YES ITL please sleep in for me!!!!! :-)

DreamsMaterialize

August 16th, 2012
11:31 am

Uh oh. Dreams is in a drinking situation. LOL
And encouraging others to join my situation. lol

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
11:34 am

@DM: Well pour me one, man. Only things I need to drink tequila are an excuse and a glass. :)

Ilikedrunkpeople

August 16th, 2012
11:35 am

http://earlswynn.hubpages.com/hub/101-reasons-to-stay-single

Here you go… Why do people want to be in relationships anyway?? Half of them end up breaking up anyway!!

disco

August 16th, 2012
11:39 am

ITL – and I don’t always need a glass. I’m a “take it to the head” kind of chick. of course, that brings to mind the image of a group of drunks huddled up passing around a bottle of thunderbird in a brown paper bag.

Bluzgirl

August 16th, 2012
11:39 am

I could use a drink today!!!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 16th, 2012
11:41 am

Bluz I have been sippin’ the bud light lime margarita and it is great and refreshing!!!!!!!!!!

Comon Cents

August 16th, 2012
11:44 am

Happy Birthday Lady! I will drink to that. I’m with ITL on the tequila tip. And, heck, I don’t even need a glass or an excuse. It’s already in glass when I get it and my excuse is that it’s a day that ends in “y”.

On the Bluz tip~ ave to cosign with all of the above and move on from this dead horse. Jaysus! We got dead horses and cats today!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 16th, 2012
11:45 am

Happy Birthday Lady! I will drink to that.<<<<<<<<<<<Love it! Thanks CC~

Bluzgirl

August 16th, 2012
11:46 am

Lady…I’ve heard about those, but haven’t tried them yet. My best friend drinks them all the time. I’ll have to pick some up this weekend…

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
11:46 am

@disco: I hope you remember your Sunny D/Juicy Juice chaser. LOLOL :)

@Slim: :( You seem so sad today…..

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
11:48 am

@Lady: I like to make “ginger beer” in the summertime….cool and refreshing and easy. Half ginger ale, half beer, squeeze of lime. Et voila! :)

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 16th, 2012
11:49 am

sounds crisp ITL!!!!! yeah I am a beer drinker! lol

disco

August 16th, 2012
11:49 am

ITL – straight. no chaser. that’s just how I roll.

Bluzgirl

August 16th, 2012
11:54 am

I’m becoming more of a beer drinker. I’ve discovered that I like Yuengling. I don’t like anything to heavy and bitter. I’ve just learned that when I start with the rum, it’s hard for me to stop until I’m obliviated!!!

SlimUno - oh no she didn't

August 16th, 2012
11:56 am

You seem so sad today

ITL – Yeah…well the big reveal, are you ready??! drum roll…………………the ‘friend’ that i’ve been telling you about or ‘person that is close to me’ is actually my SISTER. So yeah, that’s why i’ve been taking all this hard. So there, I said it, it’s out now. SHAZAM!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 16th, 2012
11:57 am

I like Yuengling too~ speaking of which its a Falcons Thursday meaning lemon pepper wings and beer and FOOTBALL~ yay!

Bluzgirl

August 16th, 2012
11:59 am

Oh dear Slim…that’s got to be really, really tough to deal with…

disco

August 16th, 2012
11:59 am

slim – well. the bright side of your “friend” being your sister is that your “friend” isn’t you. you know the old joke about how folks pose their own issues as that of their friend. okay. probably wasn’t funny but meant to lighten the mood. anyway, yeah, it does change the dynamic a lot. you can pull back from a friend and even let a friend go completely but your sister is your sister no matter what. you can’t change her decisions though and she is a grown woman. what you can do is watch out for your niece. how old is she? is she old enough to pick up the phone and call y’all?

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
12:11 pm

Oh Slim…..I’m so sorry. Like disco said, when it’s family it definitely change cut off yours the dynamic. Has she ended contact with your parents, too?

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
12:13 pm

Sorry, blogging from phone…..

Comon Cents

August 16th, 2012
12:23 pm

Ohhhh… Slim that IS a tough one. I’m so sorry. But I have to cosign disco. (I’m doing a lot of cosigning today)

Comon Cents- just cosigning today...

August 16th, 2012
12:26 pm

Lady~ Football & wing Thursdays are AWESOME!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 16th, 2012
12:26 pm

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
12:31 pm

I don’t care if it is just preseason……it’s football! Go birds!

Exiled!

August 16th, 2012
12:36 pm

Slim…so sorry !!

So the sister is the one with the 3 month boyfriend_husband?

Happy birthday Lady!!

Eghh eghh lemme clear my throat:

@Lady..what’s up with dude? Progress?

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 16th, 2012
12:39 pm

Thanks Ex!!!!!! Yes much progress~ I am loving our relationship! It may be long overdue but right on time~ HE is a good guy and I am a good girl and we both deserve to love again~ Those are his words and I am loving it! Thanks for asking sir!

disco

August 16th, 2012
12:42 pm

blog peeps. have I ever told y’all thank you? thank you for being here and keeping me distracted from some of the real life goings ons. every now and again I am so close, so tempted, so ready to tell a certain somebody something and when I get real close like that I know I can pull back, type something crazy and send it to y’all. right now the words that I’m biting back are directed to my workplace nemesis (who else?). I wish I could tell her that she pays her stylist too much money to be walking around with patches of scalp showing. I wish I could tell her that all the diets, exercise, personal trainers in the world won’t help her get to be my size. she’s walking around talking about “get thin or die trying”. I want to tell the ho to just go ahead and buy a plot. I want to tell her it’s a shame you lost X number of pounds and still can’t look down and see your own coochie. yeah. I’m the one that uses words to hurt. boy I would like to make her cry.

Exiled!

August 16th, 2012
12:53 pm

Nice to hear lady hope dude will be bold!

Exiled!

August 16th, 2012
12:55 pm

How are u Cel?

getting on a plane to Atl in an hour..

U guys will have closed shop when I land..

Common,since u new Baby, make sure All doors are locked.
Talk tmrw!

Celisea

August 16th, 2012
1:00 pm

Hey there Mmello! What’s crackalacking?? In Atlanta shortly eh? Good for you. Hows the fam?

Celisea

August 16th, 2012
1:01 pm

disco – That chick is gonna be waiting for you in the parking lot one of these days…lol Ever though the feelings might be mutual?

I have a nemesis at church. He’s 4 and bad as the devil. Well, I didn’t call him that but my brother pinned that one to me…lol When I see that kid he takes off. I give him the evil eye.

Celisea

August 16th, 2012
1:02 pm

He acts at school and his mom can’t do a thing with him. To boot he looks every bit of 7 or 8. He’s a big ‘en

Celisea

August 16th, 2012
1:02 pm

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
1:11 pm

:shock:

Um, I may have said this before, but disco, remind me to never make you mad. :lol:

Comon Cents- just cosigning today...

August 16th, 2012
1:15 pm

disco~ I have the nemesis at the job too. She is a lawyer but has been here longer. But she is one of those “shady, I wouldn’t be surprised if I saw you on the news one day and not in a good way” lawyers. Think Fred Tokars. While I definitely deal with some less than desirable clients, hers make me want to wash and sanitize my hands after meeting them. And you would SWEAR that butter would not melt in this b!tche’s mouth. OMG! Thank God I found y’all too… :lol:

Comon Cents- just cosigning today...

August 16th, 2012
1:16 pm

C~ So, what you’re saying is he one of Bebe’s kids. You need to take that boy off into one of the “meeting rooms” and let him have. Can’t stand no bad a$$ed kids!

Exiled!

August 16th, 2012
1:17 pm

In security liine Cel,getting my shoes off….hate that!

Imagine if I was getting shoes off but ravishingly eyeing some young tail lying nakked on the bed…? :lol:

Fam is good..looking frwrd to seeing them

Single and Happy I knew I should have kept my $15 in my pocket!

August 16th, 2012
1:19 pm

Disco, Comon Woosaw

Celisea

August 16th, 2012
1:20 pm

Comon Cents – He’s been in school two years (some sort of Head Start program last year) and they’ve been trying to handle Sasquatch every since. Snatching away from the teacher, bad language…ugh His grandma is always telling “cutesy” things he does and I can’t handle it. I cut the convo short and move it along. Of course our kids are always “cute” in a way to us that’s not so cute to others. They’ll tell him “no” and he just keeps on asking. They’ll tell to “go play” and he’ll come back in a few minutes. Yeah, off to the meeting room…lol

cba

August 16th, 2012
1:22 pm

CC, you didn’t say Fred Tokars….that’s about as low life as a human can go. Atleast, he’ll never see the light of day.

Celisea

August 16th, 2012
1:22 pm

MMeello – Don’t you just HATE disrobing in the security line. Don’t laptop and the “one bag allowed” in tow. Folks getting mad cause you gotta take your computer out and stuff…lol Especially when they’re in a hurry but you’ve got what 3 hours to burn??

I had to laugh and not be offended at the ravishingly eyeing young tail. I would be mad (now), if you didn’t say something of the sort. Have a safe flight and enjoy Queen :mrgreen:

Celisea

August 16th, 2012
1:24 pm

“Don’t have the laptop and ‘one bag’ in tow too”

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
1:26 pm

@CC: Fred Tokars?? Dang…that’s a blast from the past. And C will be needing you to rep her if she takes somebody else’s kid to the come to Jesus meeting room. Doesn’t matter how bad folks’ kids are, they don’t want anybody even looking at them sideways.

Into the Light

August 16th, 2012
1:27 pm

@cba: Agreed. I don’t care how much you despise your ex. Having him/her killed IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS??? That is lower than low.

Comon Cents- just cosigning today...

August 16th, 2012
1:29 pm

they’ve been trying to handle Sasquatch every since

:lol: :lol: :lol: