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Anger issues a deal breaker?

I just read about NFL player Chad Johnson’s domestic violence arrest over the weekend. He has been released from the Dolphins and his wife of 41 one days is filing for divorce. Needless to say, he is having a very bad week.

Johnson apparently has a history of physically fighting with his significant other. I wonder if single people bother asking specifically about their date’s history with physical violence?

I know it’s not the sexiest topic, but it could be quite informative to ask a general question about arrests and domestic violence. Shouldn’t a history of violence and anger be a red flag of something to come?

Would you want to get involved with someone if you knew they had problems controlling their temper?

We all go through human emotions, but real anger issues in a relationship is a recipe for disaster. Why do so many of us overlook it when we see that kind of behavior?

When you consider bad dating behavior, is it likely the same thing would happen in a marriage or a committed relationship?

I remember my Grandmother always telling me that if something about a man bothers me during dating stage, imagine that same thing magnified and worse when I marry him. If the issues are there before marriage, they get deeper and more painful when you are tied to one another.

What do you do when there is an issue you are dealing with in your date’s personality that could prove to be a really tough challenge when things get more serious?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

253 comments Add your comment

oddmanout

August 15th, 2012
7:21 am

Good Morning!!

Im not gonna say that it is an immediate deal breaker, I will try to figure out where this well of issues dwells within in my partner. If it something that I can help him get over so the two of us can move on to other thing, then I dont mind it. If not, then Im spitting. I dont have time to figure out how not to hurt someone
Have a Great Day!!

Lily

August 15th, 2012
7:34 am

Getting angry is a natural emotion, but untamed unruly behavior is something I cannot deal with. Untamed anger causes people to fight unfairly. Untamed anger is dangerous. If a person won’t have a problem breaking my heart they won’t have a problem braking my spirit. And if that can be done easily (by them), with no issue no conscious, then couldn’t they easily move on to braking bones? Yes, there are some, for the sake of winning, go no holds barred. In this case, NO THANK YOU!

Paragraph #7 of WISEDIVA’s post says it all

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
7:51 am

When I’m confronted with somebody’s temper mine will flare and nothing gets resolved that way. I don’t like to show force when it’s not necessary to run from it is far from how I was raised. I don’t have anger issues and if my lady friend did I would ask she find ways to vent that don’t put me in a defensive mode. Tactfulness is under used but there aren’t many people that can crawl under my skin. Guys my advice never hit/head butt a woman for any reason just take your anger and walk away with it.

Good Friday (I mean Wednesday) Morning:

Lily

August 15th, 2012
7:52 am

Not too many times have I’ve been left wondering who the hell is that? Or, who in the hell does that? But, there’s been a time or two where I had to ask.

Good day all!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
7:55 am

Good morning, all!

@BF: Friday??? Where you goin’? If it’s somewhere fun, can I go, too? Your sissy needs a vacation BAD!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
7:57 am

Hey Lily, grandma’s are wise and knows well. “Untamed anger” good catch words for the day.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
7:57 am

” Anger Issues a deal breaker?” Yep, anger issues is a deal breaker, nuff said.

” I wonder if single people bother asking specifically about their date’s history with physical violence?” How many people will honestly say, yea I use to abuse my S/O.

“Shouldn’t a history of violence and anger be a red flag of something to come?” A red flag, heck it’s a semaphore message!!

“Would you want to get involved with someone if you knew they had problems controlling their temper?” Lets see, she burnt his clothes, broke out his windows, scratched up his car! But I think we’ll make a wonderful couple cause she wouldn’t do that to me. Duh!!!!!!!!

“When you consider bad dating behavior, is it likely the same thing would happen in a marriage or a committed relationship?” Why not, things only get better (worse) then! (rotflmao)

But Diva using that relationship for anger issues? They both have anger issues!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
7:59 am

co-signing Lily’s 7:34. The more comfortable someone is with you, the more their true colors will show.

As the saying goes, “When someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time.” I would add “and run the hella away!!”

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
8:02 am

Hello Light, yes today is my Friday and I’m going back to Tunica to get my gamble on. Come on down the spa and swimming pools are open and ready for to grace your presence. Lots of free food and drinks to boot.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
8:11 am

LOL…….@Single you breaking out the laughs early.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
8:13 am

Black, sometimes you just wonder WTF was they thinking (LOL)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
8:20 am

I’ve seen it too many time can anyone tell me what does rotflmao mean. I think I got the last four letters, “laughing my ass off.” If nobody does that’s cool I’m just waiting on 3 o’clock.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
8:24 am

BF: I’ll be down Thursday night. Save me a spot at the roulette wheel. :)

Do you fly or drive? How far is it down there? I’m looking for a little weekend escape sometime soon. :)

Oh, and you know to put $20 on black for me, right?

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
8:25 am

rotflmao = rolling on the floor laughing my a$$ off

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
8:29 am

Anger issues and domestic violence are a no go for me. If you’ve done it in the past, you will do it in the future without some serious counseling for those issues. I’ll pass. Good Morning to all!

Roberta

August 15th, 2012
8:36 am

Behavior problems take a very long time to develop, and are very difficult – but not impossible – to eliminate as an adult. A person with a bad temper now has had a bad temper for a long time, and will continue to have a bad temper until the person gets help.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
8:37 am

Light I used to fly thanks to the generosity of the casino’s. I’ve been driving lately it’s about 5 and a half hours drive. Nice little road trip with a possibility of winning some cash. I got your bet on the table like the last time $20.00 on black as always.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
8:39 am

Light thanks for breaking that down for me. Now I know.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
8:41 am

Hey there Comon:

Good morning a lady your size I don’t think a dude would try to man handle you too much.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
8:43 am

Five and a half hours is not too bad. I see a road trip in my future. :)

You’re welcome. We need a Blog Glossary somewhere. :lol: :lol:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
8:54 am

Five and a half hours, too far for me to drive (LOL)

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
8:57 am

BF~ You would be surprised. I had one try and I had to put my pimp hand down on him strong! The relationship was over very rapidly after that. :lol:

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
9:13 am

I’ve told any man I’ve been with if he lays a hand on me, he better run and hide. If I don’t kill him, my dad and/or brother will. I will NOT tolerate physical abuse. I have been emotionally abused in a relationship before and I will NOT tolerate that again.

Everyone gets angry, but you must learn to keep it under control. I have had temper issues in the past, but have gotten much better. I’ve never hit someone, but I have thrown stuff against the wall and broken things. I’m not proud of some of my anger outbursts, which is why I’ve worked on it the past couple of years.

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
9:20 am

Speaking of anger…I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning!!! Just seem to be angry at the world…

Exiled!

August 15th, 2012
9:20 am

You got to treat the condition as well as the disease causing the condition

Don’t be an angry wife beating muffa

Don’t be a quarrelsome heifer

Done!

Good morning!

P.S quarrelsome heifers got maad mad phia bootey!!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
9:21 am

Good Morning MIA!!!!! Interesting topic…….pondering a bit~ ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
9:25 am

Single 5 and a half hours aint bad very therapeutic like running down to Savannah.

Comon I don’t blame you for ending that relationship with a quickness.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
9:30 am

Hello Lady glad to see you’re back. I got lonely without walking you to your car in the afternoon.

DreamsMaterialize

August 15th, 2012
9:36 am

Morning Everyone.

Anger issues are a no-go. No time for that stuff. If you can’t control yourself, then you’re mentally weak.

Btw, has anyone seen Friday around? I’ve been looking for it all week, but it won’t come fast enough.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
9:38 am

Good morning, Lady! We’ve missed you. :)

BF, I’m ready to pack my bags right now. I need to get the hellz up outta here. My nerves are shot.

@Bluz: Buck up, little camper. :)

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
9:44 am

ITL – I’m tryin’!!! I did just get off the phone with one of my customers who always makes me laugh. I don’t like when I wake up irritated!!!

lolalee

August 15th, 2012
9:45 am

Single and Happy ~ cyberstalk , then you get an idea of somebody’s history cuz you know even if they tell you, they gonna spin it some kinda way (’Uhhhh, she waz cra cra…” and “blah blah blah”)

disco

August 15th, 2012
9:45 am

good morning y’all. I’m just getting here and playing catch up but it sounds like someone has to stand up for anger. to quote marty mar (martin payne) “if you don’t like it when I get mad, don’t make me mad”.

lily – untamed anger causes people to fight unfairly. really? it’s fighting. it’s not supposed to be fair. just my take on fighting though.

history of violence a red flag? hmm. depends on the violence and the history. a history of fighting isn’t a deal breaker for me. I’d rather be with someone who would fight than someone who was afraid to fight. ultimately it would depend on who they were fighting and why but I don’t see anything wrong with fighting.

gosh. I’m only up to the 8:00 post. I’ll be back.

lolalee

August 15th, 2012
9:46 am

Dreams ~~If you can’t control yourself, then you’re mentally weak.

You got that right.

Celisea

August 15th, 2012
9:46 am

Morning!

Um yeah…I have a temper. In the past I was in it, blow for blow. Not so much physically but in words and in actions. As I get older, I still have a temper…lol I think I’ve grow A LOT…LOL I don’t go there with words unless I’m pushed. Still working on that. The thing about me though is that I’m not spiteful. Anything along the lines of vendettas, spite, hate, I’m not dealing with. I will take my stuff and go home…lol I’m ever evoling and learning walking away is so much better.

lolalee

August 15th, 2012
9:48 am

disco really??! you good with fighting your man?

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry :-)

August 15th, 2012
9:51 am

Anger Issues a deal breaker?” Yep, anger issues is a deal breaker, nuff said

I soo cosign with that and with what Lily in that the more comfortablea person becomes with you thier real colors start to show. Anger issues and domestic violence are definitely deal breakers…if a man puts his hands on me out of anger then I don’t need to be with him….and he needs to be in therapy….or Imma put his a$$ somewhere else he wouldn’t like(i.e. jail, hospital, morgue….)

Chad and Ev were an accident waiting to happen…those two volatile personalities should’ve never gotten together….

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
9:52 am

O/T~ For anyone who didn’t see it, Ochocino’s wife has filed for divorce. Ray Charles could have seen that coming! :lol:

Celisea

August 15th, 2012
9:53 am

Lady – Are you still here? If so….MORNING!!! :) :)

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
9:55 am

disoc~ I don’t think anger is a bad thing; sometimes it is neccesary. However, I think we are talking about those “B!tich, you didn’t answer my phone call! I know you were out screwing some dude!” Whap! Whap! Whap!. And you were at your momma’s house where there is not good reception. That constant walking on eggshells because he might decide you need “correcting”. LOL!

disco

August 15th, 2012
9:57 am

BF – re comment about CC’s size and manhandling. is it just me or does it seem like the petite men have more issues with domestic violence than their larger counterparts? don’t know if it’s napoleon related or if women are more likely to try a smaller man. still, from where I sit, it’s almost always the little ones. go figure.

lolalee – actually I’ve never fought a man. well, I’ve never fought a man in a relationship. there’s been a couple of times when I actually had street fights (so to speak) where a male was involved but that’s not what we’re talking about.

as for folks being angry and expressing anger – yeah, I think I want to see it. I’d much rather know when you are angry and see how you deal with it than put up with the person that represses every daggone thing. I can’t stand to watch someone cower in a situation when they should be angry and reacting. sure some may say they are the bigger person and they are taking the high road. in some cases that may very well be true but in other cases they are simply getting punked. I can’t be with the person that’s going to stand by and get punked.

Celisea

August 15th, 2012
9:59 am

IMO, believe fighting (not physical) and releasing anger is healthy. Keeping with issue at hand, nothing wrong with that. Making it widespread and going for the jugular means you’ve gone far past the issue and taken it to a personal level.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
10:00 am

Black, I can deal with the long flights and even long layovers, but I hate driving.

Lolalee, how do you cyberstalk??

lolalee

August 15th, 2012
10:01 am

Comon ~ That constant walking on eggshells because he might decide you need “correcting”. LOL!

How is that funny?

lolalee

August 15th, 2012
10:03 am

Single and Happy

Start with Googling them. Also check the GBI registered sex offender pages. Most metro county court records are online, so you can check criminal cases, divorces, etc. You can also check real estate records. You can check addresses on googlemaps.

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
10:04 am

lolalee~ Because I actually heard someone use that term and it struck me as funny. The only person wo should be “correcting” you is a parent. Definitely not a lover or significant other, but that was how she referred to it when he would hit her. Just a funny term to me.

disco

August 15th, 2012
10:06 am

CC/lolalee – my comments on anger aren’t even focused on domestic violence. I’m not really sympathetic to domestic violence victims. as far as I’m concerned, they get what they get. I’m of the first time shame on you, second time shame on me camp. I won’t be going out like that. I know a chick whose man literally whooped her with a belt. I was like for real? if your man is going to beat you the very least you can do is demand that he beat you like a grown up. what I look like, a grown woman, getting whooped with a belt. crazy heffa.

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
10:06 am

Cel – on what you said…I have gone there with words that cut deep, but that’s when I was pushed really far. Then…I felt so bad about saying what I said. Through therapy, I’ve learned to just walk away and calm down and come back to just talk. I also had to learn to speak up when something was bothering me as it was on my mind rather than hold onto it and lash out later. I was really bad at just holding it in and getting angrier and more resentful. With my ex, he was amazed when I would come to him and calmly say that I needed to talk to him about something that was bothering me. Now…sometimes, it would end up as a fight, but at least I approached it calmly in the beginning!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
10:08 am

Disco, about the napoleon thing, if you look at society and the way the treat height for a man, it sort of becomes an issue, people feel like they can talk to or treat you any kind of way, you’re always having to prove yourself, if I’m dating someone and she’s constantly making comments about my height then we won’t be dating long. But some just can’t seem to walk away they’ve always got to prove that they are a man.

And as far as expressing anger, what if it’s a situation that you are angry about, but it doesn’t really bother him.

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry :-)

August 15th, 2012
10:10 am

That constant walking on eggshells because he might decide you need “correcting”.

See that’s when isht gets real…I wish a muhfu@&a would…

Celisea

August 15th, 2012
10:10 am

Bluzy – I feel you. I’m not just going to up and be angry. But yeah, I’ve said things that cut deep. Once words are out, they’re out and you can’t retract. And like someone said, two volatile personalities should probably not be together….period.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
10:11 am

Morning C!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!~ :) I am in and out for a sec…..give me 20min! Good to read ya!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
10:11 am

Lolalee, hmm I see you’ve got that down pat (LOL)

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
10:12 am

disco~ Hence the “lol” on the “correcting”. I just don’t get it. SMDH.

Celisea

August 15th, 2012
10:13 am

Lady – Good to read ya as well :)

disco

August 15th, 2012
10:17 am

S/H – I own my anger. it’s mine. I get it. what I’m tirading about is people who refuse to show anger or at least refuse to show anger at the person it’s directed to. then they want to sit up under me (or whoever) and B and moan about how they are being mistreated. I’m like GTFOH with that. if so and so has you this worked up you need to take it up with so and so. it doesn’t always have to culminate in a fight or angry words but you definitely have to stand up for yourself and every now and again put your foot down. like I said earlier, stopped getting punked OR at the very least, stop getting punked and then whining to me about it.

S/H – and I’m going to throw the petite men a bone right here. I’ve noticed that lots of small men can actually really fight. get their little squabble on. a lot of bigger guys never had to fight much as their size alone was a deterrent then when push comes to shove they are just big but with no fight game.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
10:18 am

Disco, I’m playing catch up, you say you’re good with fighting men, there is a certain age that MEN stop fighting, and for most it’s in the late teens to early twenty’s, anything other that to protect me or mines just aint worth fight for.

Willie Dynamite

August 15th, 2012
10:18 am

Morning All,
Anger issues during initial dating is an absolute deal breaker. I have an easy going personality so I’m not trying to deal with it. That is why I don’t go back and forth with folks, especially women. Honestly I don’t even want to around anyone who I think might fly off the handle.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
10:21 am

Disco, okay I get you on the anger issue.

Yea people always want to try the little guy (women included) (LOL)

lolalee

August 15th, 2012
10:23 am

I’m not really sympathetic to domestic violence victims. as far as I’m concerned, they get what they get

DISCO Seriously?! What planet are you from? Domestic violence victims are often broken down by their partners over a long period of time, and then it might be a small incident and first, then apologies and roses, then another incident. It wears away at them. Maybe some start to believe that somehow they deserve it (”if I’d just had the food ready when we got home” “if I wasn’t too tired to have sex”). That’s wack, but that’s how it works. You can go watch court cases anytime, and you’ll see a wide range of people– rich,poor, working, educated, uneducated, smart, stupid, etc etc.

lolalee

August 15th, 2012
10:25 am

Single and Happy a certain age that MEN stop fighting

Exactly. MEAN learn to stay away from brawling.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
10:27 am

okay let me catch up a bit~

lolalee

August 15th, 2012
10:27 am

Disco ~lots of small men can actually really fight. get their little squabble on

Wow. You got somekinda attitude towards men who aren’t tall. What’s the height limit on “small” men?

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
10:28 am

lolalee~ You can only be broken down over a long period if you allow yourself to be. There is no excuse for staying with a man that puts his hands on you. period. If we would stop making excuses for the women who stay, less of them would stay. It’s too easy to say “well, he controls the money” or “I just love him so much”. Women need to wise up and realize that if a man puts his hands on you he doesn’t love you. No excuses, no apologies. JMO

disco

August 15th, 2012
10:31 am

lolalee – seriously. like I said, first time shame on you, second time shame on me. any of us can be hit by a partner that first time. what we do if/when that happens is up to us. a person can choose to stay or choose to go. as for a person being broken down slowly, that’s also on them or we can blame it on their parents/upbringing. we can place blame all kinds of places but folks are responsible for themselves.

re the small men thing. it’s nothing. just a little jokey joke among blog friends.

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
10:33 am

disco~ you and I are on the same wavelength when it comes to this issue.

DreamsMaterialize

August 15th, 2012
10:33 am

like I said earlier, stopped getting punked
disco There’s the other side to that coin too though. Some people think EVERYONE is try to punk them ALL the time, so they’re always on the defensive and confrontational. The funny thing is that most of the time, probably nobody is even thinking about them, let alone trying to punk them.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
10:34 am

okay what is the difference between anger and resentment and when does resentment become a issue with trying to get to know a new mate when the resentment is from a past relationship…..this may be a bit rhetorical but I need clarity on anger and resentment and how both can affect a person dating a new person…..

disco

August 15th, 2012
10:39 am

DM – yep. that makes sense so I’m on board.

Celisea

August 15th, 2012
10:39 am

Lady – For me, resentment comes into play if it goes personal and beyond keeping with the issue at hand. I believe I can be forgiving but at that point, I’d just rather move away from it all and leave it alone. I think resentment can be the fallout of unresolved anger. Where one of a couple may have an issues they feel merits discussing and the other discounts and shrug it off as nothing…and vice versa. I have experienced in a past relationship saying I’ve forgiven but it’s still there. At that point, the unresolved issue always came out, no matter the discussion or issue.

Celisea

August 15th, 2012
10:42 am

Lady – So to answer, I think anger can turn to resentment or can be separate and held and dealt with, avoiding resentment. I do think though resentment is more deep rooted. As it took time for resentment to set it, if ever to be resolved, it’s going to take for it to be removed or dealt with.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
10:42 am

Comon, Disco, this long period of time usually starts at a young age, long before the abuser get there. It starts at home of what you see your parents go through, and how they treated you.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
10:43 am

why are my comments not going through 0_o

disco

August 15th, 2012
10:44 am

S/H – I’m not even going to argue the psychobabble. my point, and I believe CC’s point as well, is that grown women can choose to be battered or choose not to be battered. doesn’t matter if momma was battered, daughter doesn’t have to be. daughter’s got a mind of her own. she oughtta use it.

DreamsMaterialize

August 15th, 2012
10:44 am

when does resentment become a issue with trying to get to know a new mate when the resentment is from a past relationship
Lady Hey how have you been? I’d say resentment becomes an issue as soon as I can recognize it. If I see it on date 1, then I’m putting the brakes on. If the resentment is from past relationships (meaning it’s not related to me), then there’s nothing I can do personally to change that. That person has to confront that issue themselves. If they don’t, then it’ll surely be a recipe for disaster in every relationship going forward.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
10:47 am

wow guess I will just say this C and DreamsM you two are spot on!!!! I had more to say but it won’t come through~

All is well DreamsM thanks for asking!!!!! Wishing you a successful school year too with your little one~

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
10:48 am

Disco, for some when it’s been instilled in you, it’s hard to get out, just like you not liking short men, it’s hard to change your thoughts (LOL) (had to throw that in there)

But seriously it take some longer that others to realize this isn’t how life is meant to be!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
10:49 am

It will be interesting to see how a person think they can move forward being resentful in a new relationship and think its going to be healthy and balance~

C you are on it~ my silent thoughts. just wanted to make sure I assessed the situation correctly for a good friend…..

Celisea

August 15th, 2012
10:50 am

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
10:54 am

Resentment is something most like to say they don’t have, but usually do, IE: that’s the same way he/she used to act! He/she used to say the same thing.

Even though one has nothing to do with the other in our minds it’s going to lead down the same path.

disco

August 15th, 2012
10:56 am

S/H – I still say it boils down to personal choices. and there’s a big difference between liking short men and not liking for someone to go upside my head. lol. shoot, I didn’t like it when my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles whooped me. couldn’t wait to be grown so the whoopings could stop. wish I would take up with a man who thought he was going to whoop me.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
11:00 am

SH you are so right it is a great observation that I called someone on too after they admitted it then wanted to change their stance. My counseling skills are kicking in. Change is an inside job and all counselors do is LISTEN and RESTATE what has been said and its on the person to confront~ Confrontation is healthy to me but denial can be a trap~

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
11:01 am

Disco, your parent’s whopped you when you were bad, but you didn’t see them fighting and saying I love you after the fight. your parent’s didn’t tell you that you were stupid, no one will ever want you, you will never amount to anything.

And from the sound of all the whooping you got, you were a bad ass lil girl (LOL)

lolalee

August 15th, 2012
11:01 am

wish I would take up with a man who thought he was going to whoop me.

Disco you oughtta learn boxing, healthy outlet

Willie Dynamite

August 15th, 2012
11:01 am

DreamsMat – cosign that 10:33. And I think that’s a anger issue as well.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
11:02 am

Thanks folks!!!!! I will be back a lil later!

DreamsMaterialize

August 15th, 2012
11:03 am

DM – yep. that makes sense so I’m on board.
disco Uh oh, I think that’s like three times you’ve agreed with me on something. You better disagree with my next point off GP just so I don’t think you’re losing your edge. lol

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
11:03 am

Still catching up.

I thought of you yesterday, disco. I walked past a mom and her daughter (the kid was probably 10-ish) and the mom was telling her, “See…that’s why I’ll leave you at home next time. Do you see that big mirror up there? Everyone in here and can see it, and they’re all gonna see you sprawled on the floor if you don’t quit.” I was thinking, “Dang….disco didn’t tell me she was coming to Marietta!” LOL :lol: :lol: I’ll tell you this, though, everytime I passed them after that, the little girl was walking the line.

disco

August 15th, 2012
11:03 am

S/H – you don’t know my parents. LOL.

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
11:03 am

S/H~ Even if something is ingrained in you from a young age, it is on you to move past your past and make your own life. Anyone can blame their current situation on their childhood because no one’s childhood was perfect. At some point, as an adult, you have to take accountability for your own circumstances.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
11:03 am

Lololee a lil S&M aint all that bad (roflmao)

lolalee

August 15th, 2012
11:05 am

But seriously it take some longer that others to realize this isn’t how life is meant to be!

Single and Happy Exactly!! Just like some folk think having your power cut off is on the regular is just the way it is, some folk think having no money saved is just the way it is. It takes time to change the way folks think. And when the partner is perpetuating negative thinking it’s even harder for somebody to get the heck out. Disco’s thinking is like telling an addict “well, you just have to stop taking that drug.” Yes, that’s true. But it doesn’t play out that easy.

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
11:08 am

I know all about resentment turning into anger. The last six months of my last relationship was full of resentment on my part. I resented that he wasn’t working or even looking for a job, that he stayed home and played on the internet all day, that I was broke because I was paying for everything, etc. I should have ended it when the resentment set in. There was no going back at that point…I stayed angry at him a lot, but I also loved him very much. It was a crazy place to be…

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
11:09 am

I don’t agree with the addiction analogy. Addiction is a PHYSICAL dependency on something. Abusive relationships are a mindset. No matter how you got the mindset, if you don’t like the scenery then change you position. And if you do like it, then stay where you are, but don’t expect others to give you sympathy for a choice that you are making. Also, with the amount of information available today, there is no reason to stay in a bad situation like that. I could see if we were talking about 50 years ago when you just didn’t discuss tings like that, but now there are outreach programs, websites, etc. etc. etc. No excuse.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
11:09 am

Comon, for some of us moving on is as easy as driving down the road, for others, since I don’t know what’s down that road, I’m going to stay where I know!

I had to get on someone years ago, because i over heard them tell someone in an abusive relationship “that a bird in the hand was worth 2 in the bush” If that bird is pecking at your had trying to get out, let it go! The one’s in the bush may be better for you, but you have to let one go to find out.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
11:11 am

Bluz, go down the road, let it go.

Celisea

August 15th, 2012
11:13 am

Bluzy – Resenting and loving someone at the same time is like trying to walk backwards and forward…at the same time.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
11:13 am

Comon Cents 11:03 Exactly~

I meant to add Change is an inside job and happiness but y’all know this~ :-)

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
11:13 am

disco

August 15th, 2012
11:14 am

ITL – that’s funny.

DM – either I’m losing my edge or you are getting more edge to you.

lolalee – I laughed because I have told addicts just that. while I understand the addictive qualities of certain drugs a lot of addiction is more the result of an “addictive personality”. goodness knows I’ve got my share of experience with addicts. some folks are always going to find something to be addicted to be it drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, lotto, coca cola, sunflower seeds. you name it. what the song say – “too much of anything makes you an addict”

lolalee

August 15th, 2012
11:16 am

alrighty then I gotta step out but its been an interesting conversation. happy day all

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
11:16 am

Comon, how many adults/clients do you see everyday that it’s always someone, or something else s fault for what happened. It would be so nice if people own up to their adult situation, but society doesn’t want that for some reason.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
11:18 am

Indeed~~~~~~ CBT is all about RE-FRAMING yourself~

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
11:19 am

Disco @ your 11:14, we actually agree on something today, (about being an addict) (LOL)

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
11:20 am

@WD: You didn’t say comment on my poem yesterday. I thought it was one of my better efforts. :)

Seeing Sassy’s and then disco’s “I wish a so and so would……” reminds me of Cedric the Entertainer and his “hope vs. wish” bit. Cracks me up everytime.

disco

August 15th, 2012
11:28 am

y’all know what? I’m about sick of folks acting like it’s almost the end of the world when they agree with me. lol. I may be on the crazy side and a bit crazy but my views aren’t that throwed off, are they?

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
11:29 am

S/H~ The majority of the clients that I see that are repeat offenders have that mentality. It was the officer’s fault because he stopped them for no reason, or if so and so had just come and picked me up like I asked, I wouldn’t be here. Etc. Etc. Etc. Hence the reason I have very low tolerance for that.

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
11:30 am

disco~ Definitely not. I agree with you whole-heartedly! Now, I’ll be checking into Peachford later today so you guys might miss me for awhile… :lol:

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
11:35 am

my views aren’t that throwed off, are they?

Not to me, disco. You may be more straightforward with your opinion than others, but I like folks that cut to the chase instead of sugarcoating stuff. Shoot, I have to play the PC game at work, and it gets OLD.

disco

August 15th, 2012
11:36 am

my second crazy was supposed to be abrasive. still y’all got the point. CC – is Peachford the “crazy house”?

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
11:36 am

@CC: I’d offer to visit, but they’d probably keep me. :(

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
11:43 am

disco~ yup. Chater Peachford has a crazy house.

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
11:44 am

ITl~ I think we could really have a blast in that joint and raise some ruckus! :lol:

disco

August 15th, 2012
11:47 am

CC – I’ll pass on the field trip to the crazy house. I can do “ha ha, girl you so crazy” crazy but I don’t think I’d do to well with the “I heard a voice and it told me to chop up my mother and eat her kidneys” crazy.

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
11:54 am

You mean, you don’t hear those voices too? Damn, I thought we were vibin… LMAO!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
11:57 am

@disco: Yeah, I’m pretty sure they house the organ-eaters in a separate wing. :lol: :lol:

Okay, so since the blog has slowed to a crawl, I’ll throw out my current dilema. I’ve been invited to a wedding on Saturday, and I really want to go because I love the bride and the groom. Unfortunately, it’s the ex’s family so he will be there and likely have Skankee Doodle Dandy in tow.
To go or not to go? Should I just send a gift and my regrets?

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
11:57 am

Oh…forgot to mention that I DO NOT have a date. That makes a difference to me for some reason….

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
11:59 am

hmmmmmm ITL me personally will send a gift and maybe join them for dinner in days to come a more one on one imitate and quaint atmosphere…….Will you feel like an outsider even though you know the bride and groom?!? I know that feeling and I don’t like it so I don’t subscribe to it but I don’t disappear I will find them in my own time~

disco

August 15th, 2012
12:00 pm

ITL – if you really want to go – then go. if the lack of a date is the issue, find one. if you can’t find one, suck it up and go alone. I’m not even going to feed into all of the why not having a date bothers you. it’s not important. go to the wedding, go to the reception, dance, eat cake. have fun.

DreamsMaterialize

August 15th, 2012
12:00 pm

Disco @ your 11:14, we actually agree on something today, (about being an addict) (LOL)
disco guess it ain’t just me. haha now stop being so agreeable!

disco

August 15th, 2012
12:01 pm

lol. right off the bat. two conflicting responses. gotta love individuality.

btw, I can’t wait to have a dilemma for the blog.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
12:03 pm

I just ate soup and crackers and now I want a blanket to snooze~ lol another year is upon me! ***one eye open~

disco

August 15th, 2012
12:04 pm

dreams – see my 11:28. LOL. it’s not the end of the world.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
12:05 pm

hmmmm ITL follow your heart~ Do what you really want to do and do it confidently sis~ you know you~ :-)

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
12:06 pm

Yeah….I think I’m going with Lady’s suggestion. It’s not that I would feel like an outsider, per se, but let’s just say I would feel far better walking in there on the arm of some eye candy than slinking in by myself while he’s sitting there with her.

I know it probably sounds immature, but I just don’t there to be any thought in anyone’s head that I still have feelings for him.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
12:07 pm

Lady – I cooked last night. On a school night! I was so pleased with myself. :lol: I had leftovers today and it was even better.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
12:09 pm

lol ITL me personally would long to go to be nosy but that isn’t cool just wasting time and wish I wouldn’t have gone~ been there done that and can’t no more lol

DreamsMaterialize

August 15th, 2012
12:10 pm

it’s not the end of the world.
disco Yeah I know it’s not the end of the world, but it is funny…to me at least. I’ve had my laugh at your expense though, so we can move on now. ;-) (now watching for the right hook)

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
12:10 pm

LOL ITL I ate a turkey sandwich last night and said thank you Jesus and went to bed lol this week has been busy one day I will catch up lol

keep cooking sis~

GracieL

August 15th, 2012
12:18 pm

Anger issues are a big red flag. RUN! If someone is angry that you didn’t respond to his or her text message within ten minutes, or that you won’t commit right this minute to whatever it is that person is demanding, these are early clues of controlling behavior and anger issues. Cut loose, keep going, and don’t look back. Unstable person will find a new target soon enough.

disco

August 15th, 2012
12:18 pm

aww light. first off I agree with you doing what you are comfortable with but to say you really want to go but that you are leaning toward not going just because of what others might think is kind of whack (note I didn’t say immature – lol). I’d go and just be extra fly so that the new girlfriend would be afraid to mingle. she’d be all insecure and holding on to old boy the whole time and I’d be laughing to myself while having the good time I went to have. of course, all that could backfire. you could go and get all mushy and then get to feeling all alone on top of feeling all mushy. you could have a wardrobe malfunction and be embarrassed in front of all those people. okay, my imagination is running away with me. I’m done.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
12:25 pm

@disco: See there? You nailed it. I don’t mind her feeling some kinda way. Matter of fact, I prefer it and relish it. There’s some more backstory here that y’all don’t know, but let’s just say she was the girl smiling in my face while plotting evil. Anyway, wedding get me a little choked up in general and I’m sure baby girl’s would be no different. If I got all mushy squisy and then the heel fell off my left shoe and my bra strap broke and started hanging out, it would be too much. ;)

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
12:26 pm

ILT I was think that reading Disc’s post……a wedding is an emotional affair……….I feel you to with the past history too….its a fine line but you know your levels of taking calculated risks~

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
12:27 pm

meant Disco’s sorry Hi there Disco too!!!!

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry :-)

August 15th, 2012
12:30 pm

Seeing Sassy’s and then disco’s “I wish a so and so would……” reminds me of Cedric the Entertainer and his “hope vs. wish” bit

ITL..that’s what I was thinking about when I posted that…Cedric the Entertainer was funny as heyal with that :lol:

disco

August 15th, 2012
12:31 pm

oh. you are right. the backstory definitely adds to the whole situation. still it sounds like if you could find a fine A date to take it would be all good. it’s short notice but here’s to finding a fine A date. lol.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
12:31 pm

Yeah, part of wants to be like Eddie Murphy with an ice cream cone “wanna lick? PSYCH!” but the other part of me knows that I can be fragile, especially where his family is concerned. I already know his niece, daughter, and mama will be first in the hug-ITL line. That could be a boost, or a boo-hoo fest.

D’oh.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
12:31 pm

Waving @ Sassy!!!!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
12:36 pm

btw, I can’t wait to have a dilemma for the blog.

Hmm should I cut him up or should I cut him down, or should I just get cousin Ray Ray to take him out!!

Disco’s dilemma (LOL)

disco

August 15th, 2012
12:37 pm

S/H – LOL. good one. by the way I don’t have a cousin ray ray though I do have a “play” cousin named ray ray.

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry :-)

August 15th, 2012
12:45 pm

Waving back @ you Lady!!!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
12:48 pm

Heeey Sassy! :)

LOL @Stamps and disco. I love my play cousins. Don’t have one named Ray Ray, but I do have Jay Jay. :)

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
12:49 pm

ITL – I’m thinking it would be a good idea to just send a gift. I don’t think I would be comfortable seeing the ex with a new girl, especially if she’s evil!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
12:51 pm

I don’t have any play cousins, but I have some play sisters (thought that would stop me from asking for some) (LOL)

disco

August 15th, 2012
12:54 pm

play sisters? S/H – I’m tempted to ask “what’s that”. come on now. if you aren’t related and you are cool like that or were raised up like that then you are play cousins. where you from that you have a play sister?

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
12:56 pm

@Bluz: You don’t know the half of how evil this heffa is. But yeah, I think I might just send a gift. Or invite them to dinner like Lady suggested. *sigh*

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
1:06 pm

Disco play sisters is another way of saying you’re not my type, “we’re so close we’re just like siblings, and you don’t have sex with your siblings” (LOL)

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
1:07 pm

Leggs

August 15th, 2012
1:14 pm

“Play sisters” sounds like a man waiting in the wings for that pristine time when he might be able to pounce (lololol).

HST ~ thanks…I have a daughter. Waiting for the slow urchin to get dressed so we can go clothes shopping.

ITL ~ I’m going to side with disco. If you really want to support the bride and groom, then do that. Does not matter in the least what’s in the minds of others. They will think what they want. Go and enjoy yourself. Smile, be gracious and leave our “evil eye” in your purse. If you two should wind up in the restroom at the same time, then you can pull it out and use it on her (lolol)…that was funny to me!

Good afternoon.

Leggs

August 15th, 2012
1:16 pm

Not “our” evil eye, yours. My “y” keeps getting stuck.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
1:16 pm

Leggs, women are the ones that come up with that title, you know us mean always waiting to pounce!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
1:17 pm

@Leggs: If we wind up in the restroom at the same time (alone!) an evil eye is not all I’m pulling out. That heffa betta have quick reflexes. I kid, I kid. :lol: :lol:

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
1:20 pm

My “y” keeps getting stuck

I should be so lucky….. LOLOLOL :oops:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
1:28 pm

ITL what you trying to say

My “y” keeps getting stuck

I should be so lucky….. LOLOLOL

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
1:28 pm

Afternooner folks! ;-)

Leggs

August 15th, 2012
1:28 pm

I know, Single.

ITL ~ I can only imagine how fast her reflexes would have to be (lol).

Girl, yyou’re a mess with wanting your “y” stuck…that’s funn

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
1:31 pm

@Stamps: I’m saying what I’m saying. Mami’s hit a dry spell. :( LOL

@Leggs: Yeah, although I’ve only ever been in one physical fight, in my mind I still see me saying, “Skank, meet tile. Tile, Skank” as I throw her to the ground and pull off her wig.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
1:35 pm

Hey Leggs my Dearest did the little lady get off to a good start?

Single you know you can’t get nothing from a play sister.

Here I go again what is having a Y stuck? Guess y’all can tell I’m not up on all these references.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
1:37 pm

okay Black, you do know what eating at the y is? it’s just getting stuck there

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
1:38 pm

Pull out the glossary and let it stay out for my sake.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
1:39 pm

the Y, a woman on her back with her legs open, (now I don’t feel so bad about the camel toe) LOL

Leggs

August 15th, 2012
1:40 pm

BF ~ we leave Friday morning. Took the rest of the week to eliminate stress on my part with last minute running around. She’s too excited to leave home (lol). It’s her time to soar, though!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
1:40 pm

LOL@BF. You’re just in vacation-mode and too distracted to try to figure stuff out. Your body is here, but your mind is in Tunica. :)

Leggs

August 15th, 2012
1:41 pm

Thanks for the laugh, BF, asking about the Y. I thought that was given (lol).

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
1:42 pm

@Stamps: Nuh uh. You don’t get a pass on that. You knew what it was….you just wanted somebody to whisper dirty nothings in your ear. :LOL:

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
1:43 pm

@Leggs: Did you give her a copy of Dr. Seuss’s “Oh the Places You’ll Go” to take with her??? Great book for occasions like this.

Leggs

August 15th, 2012
1:46 pm

Ummm, never heard of the book, ITL. Will look for it while I’m out…

Peace! Hope to check in later or tomorrow!

BF ~ I now think you’re up to all the new terminolog

Leggs

August 15th, 2012
1:47 pm

Ok, can someone loan me a Y.

Wait, wait, nevermind!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
1:49 pm

LOL…..@Single you shouldn’t feel bad, hell it’s a lot of sht I have no clue what it is. I don’t give a hoot about being the hippest or the most knowledgeable. I do like your interpretation, she can be on her back or stomach don’t matter.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
1:52 pm

(ITL now clamping her hands over her ears while BF talks about s-e-x)

La la la la la la la la la laaaa…..

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
1:53 pm

Light vacation couldn’t get here any sooner, I am counting the minutes to freedom.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
1:55 pm

LOL……..@Light, you should be proud of me I know what a stuck Y is now.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
1:55 pm

I’m jealous, BF! :(

And how is it that “Y” and “CT” have been thrown out there, and no Swiss???

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
1:57 pm

Okay ITL, start whispering (LOL)

kimmie

August 15th, 2012
1:59 pm

Afternoon Gang!!

It’s crazy up in this camp I work in, but I’m handling it!

Light – Go, look fly, and like disco says, find a FINE date!!! Oh, and F— what others might think!

I know you all are off topic, but I was reading some of the earlier posts. It’s wierd what people start to think “normal” is. Like folks who are abused as kids think that is normal and become abusers. I’ve never understood that concept of human behavior, especially the urge to repeat something that didn’t make you or others around you feel good. I have a friend right now whose ex husband beat her, used to give her black eyes. They broke up and she has remarried. Her new hubs in not abusive at all. But any time she hears about any other female in an abusive situation she immediately tries to make excuses for the male! It’s crazy! I’ve of the mindset of CC – a man doesn’t put his hands on you in anger, period, but not her. She can be a little opinionated and will argue her point down. She told me she’s always been like that. I asked her “so that made it okay for him to hit you, because you are outspoken?” When I put it like that to her, she was speechless.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:08 pm

@BF: Nope. No can do. Cannot be thinking about my BBB thinking about girl parts. That is just wrong on so many levels.

@Stamps: A white horse fell in the mud…… (dirty enough?) :lol:

@kimmie: I just might do that. The more I think about it, the more I want to go. But I’m torn. Meh….I’ll figure it out before Saturday.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
2:11 pm

“a man doesn’t put his hands on you in anger, period,”

Hey Kimmie, no ifs ands or buts about this. My dad made sure I didn’t get caught up in this trap.

disco

August 15th, 2012
2:12 pm

ITL – well you know my original stance was that you should go. sounds like you just need a little emotional support to get through. if you can’t find a suitable date take a trusted girlfriend. you won’t be alone and she’ll have your back. y’all can talk about how the new girl has on ugly shoes.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
2:15 pm

disco I can see you now with Light, girl look that shoes she got on. You know you can take her I got your back………LOL

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
2:19 pm

Ok, Light, I had to check out for a minute and am now sitting in court on the iPad reading your deliema. I am with disco- go for it. Maybe eye candy from work would like to escort you? You know, just as friends…

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:21 pm

@disco: I thought about that, too. It’s a good idea…..Would be the most fun with a fine a$$ date, because I know it would eat him up a little. Whether he’s with someone or not, I know he keeps up with me. Yep, he does, I’ve heard it from his friends.

Dang, BF. You’re good at that! If you weren’t going to Miss, I’d take you. LOL

disco

August 15th, 2012
2:21 pm

BF – I wouldn’t disrespect the wedding but I wouldn’t be past playing a mind game or two. the new chick will probably be checking extra hard for light but not really sweating me so I’m sure I could sneak something in there.

CC agreed with me. Dreams – where you at? duck, the sky is falling.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:22 pm

@CC: I don’t know…..Banana Pudding and I haven’t even been out for a drink yet. A first date to a wedding might be a little too much to ask…..

Wiser Demi

August 15th, 2012
2:25 pm

An individual with anger issues, is nothin more than a childish individual who often refuses to learn the art of ‘Adult Communication’.

Y’ALL HAVE A GOOD ONE!

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
2:26 pm

Nah. Make it a friendly outing. “Hey, we can stop by this friend’s wedding and then dip out to do something else” that will eat the ex up even more. Not oly did you come with eye candy, you showed your support for the bride and groom in an untenable situation, and then you can get to know banana pudding better. Sounds like a win win to me!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:26 pm

LOL@disco. You mean like while I distract her, you put itching powder on her chair? :)

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
2:27 pm

seems time stopped! lol

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:28 pm

Hmmmm….okay, CC. I have to call him later about a meeting we’re having. I might just see if I can slide that in. And the man does dress fine, too….that would have the Ex’s mom turning around to stare, because she loves a sharp-dressed man.

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
2:29 pm

Besides, if you take diso I’ll have to clear my calendar to rep y’all in court at a later date. There’s your blog deliema disco! Should I wear pants or a skirt to court? Lmao! But I’d do it for free cause I can’t stand those “frenemys” either.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:32 pm

@CC: They’ve known each other longer than he and I have. At a BBQ at his BFF’s house, she was all over him until she saw me standing there. And then she was like, “Oh hey, ITL! You know Dumb@ss and I have known each other forever!! He’s just like a brother to me!” Mmmm hmmmm. I don’t know about where y’all are from, but where I’m from you don’t bang your brother.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:32 pm

@Lady – I know, right? I might need a siesta.

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
2:32 pm

Just because you invite him to a wedding doesn’t mean you want to marry him. Put it on that level of “I would really like to get to know you better and you can do me a huge favor by giving me a reason to skip out of this wedding after I make an appearance” Kill two birds with one stone!

Willie Dynamite

August 15th, 2012
2:32 pm

Dipping back in for a minute.

Slim – yeah I saw the poem and good work.

ITL – saw your poem too and no comment. hahaha

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
2:33 pm

Lady @2:27 please don’t say that I’m ready to skip town……..LOL

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
2:33 pm

Lol! Is she from Alabama? Oh, ahem, sorry! I mean, Roll Tide! Lol!

Comon Cents

August 15th, 2012
2:35 pm

Your ex is dumb@ss? Mine is @sshat. Maybe they’re related? Hmmm….

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:35 pm

C’mon, WD!! I thought it was some of my best work. How about this one?

Cakes are delicious
And so are tortes
Gators look stupid
With mullets and jorts!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
2:36 pm

LOL……..@Comon I’ll bail them out and you can represent.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
2:37 pm

lol BF!!!! ITL today has been a drag even though I have been productive~

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:37 pm

(ITL now sneaking into BF’s car) Mississippi or BUST! :)

@CC: Maybe. His brothers are both wonderful, but he might have a cousin or two that falls in the @sshat category.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:38 pm

@Lady: I have been quasi-productive, at best. Sleepy today. And distracted thinking about this weekend.

Willie Dynamite

August 15th, 2012
2:39 pm

ITL – since no one seems to be giving you the straight about the wedding date I will. DO NOT ask that dude to goto the wedding. No dude wants to go to a wedding as a date or part of a date. Don’t do it.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
2:42 pm

lol WD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:47 pm

Thanks, WD. :) Always good to have a male perspective. I’m probably just gonna send a gift and bag the wedding.

No need in adding more stress to my life (even if it is fun to think about ways to trip her without getting caught). Besides, knowing that chick, I wouldn’t be surprised to find “ITL is a beeyotch” scratched onto the side of my truck and four flats.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
2:48 pm

y’all be easy!!!!! peace~

Willie Dynamite

August 15th, 2012
2:48 pm

Sup Ms. Lady? In/out again? How you?

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:49 pm

Night, Lady.

PS: WilleD: If Idon’t go to the wedding, I’ll have more time to write awesome poetry. Shall I send you a signed copy of my first book? ;)

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
2:50 pm

WD – Thanks sweetie

Willie Dynamite

August 15th, 2012
2:52 pm

ITL – yep, just make sure its paperback.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:54 pm

@WD: Will do. You’ll love it – it comes with a special cork cover so it can double as a coaster. ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
2:56 pm

Hold up Lady I’m right behind you. I can’t take it no longer I’m getting the hell out of here. I’ll check in from the Delta y’all go on and have good week.

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
2:57 pm

Trying to play catch up…not that I’ve been busy at work or anything! :-) The boss is away and have lots of personal emails I’m tending to. Just sent out a press release this morning about a benefit concert I’m part of planning, so my phone has been buzzing! So gladd the boss is out!!!

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
2:58 pm

Have a good time BF!!!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
3:07 pm

Have fun, BF!

$20, black, ITL. :)

DreamsMaterialize

August 15th, 2012
3:19 pm

Ok this code is giving me fits. What are you all up to? Are we gambling?

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
3:21 pm

@DM: Blackfoote is leaving for a long weekend in Tunica. I always have him put $20 on black for me. :)

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
3:24 pm

O/T – Ever have trapped gas in your gut? UNCOMFORTABLE….I need someone to come tickle me until i fart :oops:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
3:31 pm

ITL @ your 2:08, what was the horse wearing

Comon @ your 2:33 you have earn to privilege to say RTR (LOL)

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
3:46 pm

LOL@Slim. Count me out. I got dusted TWICE on Sunday. Dayum people at the Dollar Tree. I gave the little old lady in the card section a pass, because I’m pretty sure based on the volume that it was that or explode. Plus, she didn’t seem to hear or see me walking up behind her. But the mystery duster in front of the cleaning supplies that left a cloud for me to walk right into??? That was NOT funny.

Felt like I needed to go home and shower.

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
3:54 pm

ITL – Awwww dayum! Double Dusted! :lol: I should send the beau a message to say, “Prepared to be dusted!” Or maybe i’ll wait till I get there and shout, “I’m about to release the Krackin!” lol

For Real

August 15th, 2012
3:56 pm

“….I need someone to come tickle me until i fart” – For Real is now headbutting Slim’s CT.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:02 pm

lol@Slim. Or you could just surprise him. :eek: Nah, on second thought, that’s not a good thing….

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:04 pm

For Real – You’re going to get more than crop dust if you keep on

Maccy Do Ro

August 15th, 2012
4:08 pm

“I just read about NFL player Chad Johnson’s domestic violence arrest over the weekend.”

Just because this topic includes Pro Athletes, this topic is disqualified. Those of you who support Pro Athletes, Collage, or any type of Celebrity (Musician, Movie Star, W/E) YOU support the few who get away with murder, RAPE, Assault, animal abuse, drug abuse, Alcohol abuse and whatever else they get away with. Because how dare YOUR stupid Heros be properly be punished and set the example, Heaven forbid they not to be able to do something with ball or get up an act like an jackass. I am not angry, I am just telling you what you all hate the most, THE TRUTH. So glad we are in the end times.

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
4:09 pm

LOL Slim!!! I feel your pain! My grandma used to always say to just bend over and let it out!

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:10 pm

All clear! Someone just came up behind me messing with me at my desk. PROBLEM SOLVED! :lol: :oops:

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:11 pm

Maccy – You might want to watch out for that cloud you’re about to walk into. If you aren’t careful, it’ll get in your mouth lol

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:11 pm

Slim: QUICK! Aim your butt toward the blog entrance and fire. HURRY! The trolls are coming, the trolls are coming….

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:16 pm

For Real – You’re going to get more than crop dust if you keep on

She’s right, For Real….that baby hair makes a girl feel some kinda way…..

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:20 pm

ITL – It feels much better when he leaves off the crusty hair gel though. Don’t want to rub it raw lol

disco

August 15th, 2012
4:23 pm

ITL – the trolls are coming? aww heyall naw. not the trolls.

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:27 pm

disco – I think I blew them away…gotta wait until the smoke clears though ;-)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
4:28 pm

baby hair, haven’t heard that one in years :-) (LOL)

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:31 pm

LOL@Slim and the crusty gel. Just be glad he doesn’t have the Soul Glo on there anymore. That man ruined at least 3 sets of sheets (I heard….I wouldn’t know personally!!)

@disco, they were trying to get in, but Pooty McFanny (aka slim) blasted ‘em out.

@Stamps: Where you been, man? We say it here all the time.

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:32 pm

S & H – Well you must have not seen that show ex celebrity wives….R. Kellys exwife has OBHD Obsessive Baby Hair Disorder

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:35 pm

That man ruined at least 3 sets of sheets (I heard….I wouldn’t know personally!!)

ITL – Mmm huh…how many 50cent gift cards did For Real give you to keep your mouth shut about it? lol

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:35 pm

Yeah, and I have OTMD Obsessive Taco Meat Disorder. I kid, I kid….. :)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
4:35 pm

Slim seen it, I’ve never heard of that show (LOL)

ITL you know I’m a little slow (CT)

disco

August 15th, 2012
4:37 pm

50 cent gift cards!!! now that’s funny. where can I buy some of those? that’s the kind of gift that lets somebody know exactly what you think of them. it’s the thought that counts my behind. lol.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:45 pm

@Slim: They were 75 cents. Shoot….I started keeping those chicken franks in the house and I got a raise. I know what Realsie likes. Mmmm hmmm. :lol: :lol:

@disco: I mean, why not just tape a dime in a card???

@Stamps: You need a 12-step program for your CT addiction, man. IJS….

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:45 pm

hahahaha dang disco

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:46 pm

why not just tape a dime in a card???

ITL – I think you just gave me the perfect gift idea for the newlyweds I told yall about. Preciate cha!!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:48 pm

My pleasure, Slim. You could wrap it with the yellow pages listings for divorce attorneys…. :roll:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
4:49 pm

ITL how can I be addicted to something I just found out about (CT) ??

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:50 pm

@Stamps: You may not have known the name (although that is still up for debate) but you KNEW it….in the biblical sense.

disco

August 15th, 2012
4:51 pm

ITL – the gift card would build up a level of anticipation. they’d see the card and be thinking they had something. heck, I hope the card doesn’t even have 50 cents on it. I hope they have to call the 800 number on the back to check the balance.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:54 pm

DAYUM, disco. In that case, just buy gift cards for yourself and use up all but a penny or two. Then re-gift. :) My genius triumphs again. :)

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:58 pm

disco – No lie, I do have an American Express gift card that has about .70 left on it…BAM! lol

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
5:00 pm

@Slim: Problem solved. Put that baby in a card and send it over. “I didn’t know where you were registered, but I figured you could always use cash…..”

disco

August 15th, 2012
5:02 pm

re-gifting isn’t the same. re-gifting is just passing along leftovers. actually taking the time to buy a janky gift sends a stronger message.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
5:03 pm

@disco: What message is that???? “you mean so little to me, it’s worth my time to insult you with this stupid gift just so I can watch you get mad and/or cry!” ?????

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
5:04 pm

Heeeeey, we made 6 pages. (happy dance)

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
5:08 pm

good night, all.