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Anger issues a deal breaker?

I just read about NFL player Chad Johnson’s domestic violence arrest over the weekend. He has been released from the Dolphins and his wife of 41 one days is filing for divorce. Needless to say, he is having a very bad week.

Johnson apparently has a history of physically fighting with his significant other. I wonder if single people bother asking specifically about their date’s history with physical violence?

I know it’s not the sexiest topic, but it could be quite informative to ask a general question about arrests and domestic violence. Shouldn’t a history of violence and anger be a red flag of something to come?

Would you want to get involved with someone if you knew they had problems controlling their temper?

We all go through human emotions, but real anger issues in a relationship is a recipe for disaster. Why do so many of us overlook it when we see that kind of behavior?

When you consider bad dating behavior, is it likely the same thing would happen in a marriage or a committed relationship?

I remember my Grandmother always telling me that if something about a man bothers me during dating stage, imagine that same thing magnified and worse when I marry him. If the issues are there before marriage, they get deeper and more painful when you are tied to one another.

What do you do when there is an issue you are dealing with in your date’s personality that could prove to be a really tough challenge when things get more serious?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

253 comments Add your comment

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:38 pm

@Lady: I have been quasi-productive, at best. Sleepy today. And distracted thinking about this weekend.

Willie Dynamite

August 15th, 2012
2:39 pm

ITL – since no one seems to be giving you the straight about the wedding date I will. DO NOT ask that dude to goto the wedding. No dude wants to go to a wedding as a date or part of a date. Don’t do it.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
2:42 pm

lol WD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:47 pm

Thanks, WD. :) Always good to have a male perspective. I’m probably just gonna send a gift and bag the wedding.

No need in adding more stress to my life (even if it is fun to think about ways to trip her without getting caught). Besides, knowing that chick, I wouldn’t be surprised to find “ITL is a beeyotch” scratched onto the side of my truck and four flats.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 15th, 2012
2:48 pm

y’all be easy!!!!! peace~

Willie Dynamite

August 15th, 2012
2:48 pm

Sup Ms. Lady? In/out again? How you?

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:49 pm

Night, Lady.

PS: WilleD: If Idon’t go to the wedding, I’ll have more time to write awesome poetry. Shall I send you a signed copy of my first book? ;)

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
2:50 pm

WD – Thanks sweetie

Willie Dynamite

August 15th, 2012
2:52 pm

ITL – yep, just make sure its paperback.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
2:54 pm

@WD: Will do. You’ll love it – it comes with a special cork cover so it can double as a coaster. ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 15th, 2012
2:56 pm

Hold up Lady I’m right behind you. I can’t take it no longer I’m getting the hell out of here. I’ll check in from the Delta y’all go on and have good week.

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
2:57 pm

Trying to play catch up…not that I’ve been busy at work or anything! :-) The boss is away and have lots of personal emails I’m tending to. Just sent out a press release this morning about a benefit concert I’m part of planning, so my phone has been buzzing! So gladd the boss is out!!!

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
2:58 pm

Have a good time BF!!!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
3:07 pm

Have fun, BF!

$20, black, ITL. :)

DreamsMaterialize

August 15th, 2012
3:19 pm

Ok this code is giving me fits. What are you all up to? Are we gambling?

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
3:21 pm

@DM: Blackfoote is leaving for a long weekend in Tunica. I always have him put $20 on black for me. :)

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
3:24 pm

O/T – Ever have trapped gas in your gut? UNCOMFORTABLE….I need someone to come tickle me until i fart :oops:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
3:31 pm

ITL @ your 2:08, what was the horse wearing

Comon @ your 2:33 you have earn to privilege to say RTR (LOL)

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
3:46 pm

LOL@Slim. Count me out. I got dusted TWICE on Sunday. Dayum people at the Dollar Tree. I gave the little old lady in the card section a pass, because I’m pretty sure based on the volume that it was that or explode. Plus, she didn’t seem to hear or see me walking up behind her. But the mystery duster in front of the cleaning supplies that left a cloud for me to walk right into??? That was NOT funny.

Felt like I needed to go home and shower.

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
3:54 pm

ITL – Awwww dayum! Double Dusted! :lol: I should send the beau a message to say, “Prepared to be dusted!” Or maybe i’ll wait till I get there and shout, “I’m about to release the Krackin!” lol

For Real

August 15th, 2012
3:56 pm

“….I need someone to come tickle me until i fart” – For Real is now headbutting Slim’s CT.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:02 pm

lol@Slim. Or you could just surprise him. :eek: Nah, on second thought, that’s not a good thing….

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:04 pm

For Real – You’re going to get more than crop dust if you keep on

Maccy Do Ro

August 15th, 2012
4:08 pm

“I just read about NFL player Chad Johnson’s domestic violence arrest over the weekend.”

Just because this topic includes Pro Athletes, this topic is disqualified. Those of you who support Pro Athletes, Collage, or any type of Celebrity (Musician, Movie Star, W/E) YOU support the few who get away with murder, RAPE, Assault, animal abuse, drug abuse, Alcohol abuse and whatever else they get away with. Because how dare YOUR stupid Heros be properly be punished and set the example, Heaven forbid they not to be able to do something with ball or get up an act like an jackass. I am not angry, I am just telling you what you all hate the most, THE TRUTH. So glad we are in the end times.

Bluzgirl

August 15th, 2012
4:09 pm

LOL Slim!!! I feel your pain! My grandma used to always say to just bend over and let it out!

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:10 pm

All clear! Someone just came up behind me messing with me at my desk. PROBLEM SOLVED! :lol: :oops:

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:11 pm

Maccy – You might want to watch out for that cloud you’re about to walk into. If you aren’t careful, it’ll get in your mouth lol

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:11 pm

Slim: QUICK! Aim your butt toward the blog entrance and fire. HURRY! The trolls are coming, the trolls are coming….

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:16 pm

For Real – You’re going to get more than crop dust if you keep on

She’s right, For Real….that baby hair makes a girl feel some kinda way…..

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:20 pm

ITL – It feels much better when he leaves off the crusty hair gel though. Don’t want to rub it raw lol

disco

August 15th, 2012
4:23 pm

ITL – the trolls are coming? aww heyall naw. not the trolls.

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:27 pm

disco – I think I blew them away…gotta wait until the smoke clears though ;-)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
4:28 pm

baby hair, haven’t heard that one in years :-) (LOL)

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:31 pm

LOL@Slim and the crusty gel. Just be glad he doesn’t have the Soul Glo on there anymore. That man ruined at least 3 sets of sheets (I heard….I wouldn’t know personally!!)

@disco, they were trying to get in, but Pooty McFanny (aka slim) blasted ‘em out.

@Stamps: Where you been, man? We say it here all the time.

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:32 pm

S & H – Well you must have not seen that show ex celebrity wives….R. Kellys exwife has OBHD Obsessive Baby Hair Disorder

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:35 pm

That man ruined at least 3 sets of sheets (I heard….I wouldn’t know personally!!)

ITL – Mmm huh…how many 50cent gift cards did For Real give you to keep your mouth shut about it? lol

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:35 pm

Yeah, and I have OTMD Obsessive Taco Meat Disorder. I kid, I kid….. :)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
4:35 pm

Slim seen it, I’ve never heard of that show (LOL)

ITL you know I’m a little slow (CT)

disco

August 15th, 2012
4:37 pm

50 cent gift cards!!! now that’s funny. where can I buy some of those? that’s the kind of gift that lets somebody know exactly what you think of them. it’s the thought that counts my behind. lol.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:45 pm

@Slim: They were 75 cents. Shoot….I started keeping those chicken franks in the house and I got a raise. I know what Realsie likes. Mmmm hmmm. :lol: :lol:

@disco: I mean, why not just tape a dime in a card???

@Stamps: You need a 12-step program for your CT addiction, man. IJS….

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:45 pm

hahahaha dang disco

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:46 pm

why not just tape a dime in a card???

ITL – I think you just gave me the perfect gift idea for the newlyweds I told yall about. Preciate cha!!

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:48 pm

My pleasure, Slim. You could wrap it with the yellow pages listings for divorce attorneys…. :roll:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 15th, 2012
4:49 pm

ITL how can I be addicted to something I just found out about (CT) ??

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:50 pm

@Stamps: You may not have known the name (although that is still up for debate) but you KNEW it….in the biblical sense.

disco

August 15th, 2012
4:51 pm

ITL – the gift card would build up a level of anticipation. they’d see the card and be thinking they had something. heck, I hope the card doesn’t even have 50 cents on it. I hope they have to call the 800 number on the back to check the balance.

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
4:54 pm

DAYUM, disco. In that case, just buy gift cards for yourself and use up all but a penny or two. Then re-gift. :) My genius triumphs again. :)

SlimUno

August 15th, 2012
4:58 pm

disco – No lie, I do have an American Express gift card that has about .70 left on it…BAM! lol

Into the Light

August 15th, 2012
5:00 pm

@Slim: Problem solved. Put that baby in a card and send it over. “I didn’t know where you were registered, but I figured you could always use cash…..”

disco

August 15th, 2012
5:02 pm

re-gifting isn’t the same. re-gifting is just passing along leftovers. actually taking the time to buy a janky gift sends a stronger message.