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Dating: The returning ex

There always seems to be one constant in our dating lives: the ex that won’t stay gone. It’s almost as if they have some kind of silent alarm that rings the moment we are completely over them. They show up and say the right things and suddenly we make a bad decision in a weak moment.

What is it about the one that resurfaces and makes us forget the reason we broke up with them? Is it ever a good idea to reunite with a former flame?

What would you do if your “one that got away” came back and seems to have changed? Do you give it another try or find a way to keep your distance?

Have you ever reunited with an ex and things turned out great? What do you think made the difference the second (third?) time around?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

236 comments Add your comment

Lily

August 14th, 2012
7:31 am

I’m all too familiar with this scene but I never forget why he’s an ex. No going back for me.

Dwayne

August 14th, 2012
7:59 am

Stay away from your exes. Cut all ties as soon as things are over. Don’t answer the phone. Don’t answer the door. People need to move on.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

August 14th, 2012
8:15 am

If there’s a person with whom you share a geniune connection, you feel comfortable enough to drop your most guarded facade for, but – for whatever reason* – your relationship doesn’t work out, why dismiss that person as a possible mate?

People grow, people change, and some people need to have life ‘assist’ them along that path. With maturity comes perspective.

“Cut all ties” has never made sense to me. Maybe because I don’t like people in general, when I do find someone I like (more than tolerate) I like to keep them around if possible.

*Please note, DAN does not condone physical or mental abuse, these are explicit reasons to remove someone from your life permenantly and without recourse. Once someone feels comfortable assaulting you, they will NEVER lose that impulse. They may be able to control it over time, but the impulse – thus the fear and the probability that they will hit you again – will always be there.

disco

August 14th, 2012
8:42 am

I’ve been at work all of ten minutes and already I’m calling on jesus. here’s to a very good blog day. I ask you all to BRING IT.

disco

August 14th, 2012
8:49 am

y’all know I’m the chick with exes as friends. thing is, the ones that are friends aren’t necessarily ones that I’d want back. we cool but that’s it. now there is a guy who I will probably say is the one that got away. that one that I probably thought was “perfect for me” though I didn’t realize it until it was over. after it was over I spent many, many years comparing guys to him. probably still do on some level. he married about 10-12 years ago, had a kid and as far as I know they are still doing their thing. if he divorced and our paths crossed again I would definitely be willing to give it do-over.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
8:58 am

Morning, all!

Busy day at work already, but wanted to step in and say hello. :)

@disco: Somebody needs to turn on the blog music and get some coffee going…. I’m sleepy. :(

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 14th, 2012
8:59 am

I have an ex that recently came back in my life after 23 years and thought we could pick up where we left off, after a few conversations I remembered why she was an ex. And I also have an ex who went on a recent vacation with me, we had a great time with no hanky panky.

Most of the time when you’re lonely and they know the right thing to say to get you back, you give in, but after awhile you have that aha moment where you remember why they’re an ex!!

Cool Breeze

August 14th, 2012
9:06 am

There’s a reason why this person is an ex and, I’m sorry, contrary to what some say people DO NOT CHANGE. Why keep yourself in emotional turmoil and your life in limbo. Move forward, not backwards.

Call me corny but I look at my life like a beautiful sail boat. Once I set that sail I don’t keep an anchor out holding me back from what’s waiting for me ahead.

disco

August 14th, 2012
9:09 am

S/H – re remembering why they are an ex. in general we all usually assume that one or the other party had something wrong with them or did something wrong that led to the demise of the relationship. most times that’s the case. lol. every now and again though it can be right person just at the wrong time. I think I’ve already used up my supply of “good men”. I happened to meet several of them in my 20s. thing is, in my 20s I wasn’t ready. marriage wasn’t even on my list of things to consider until I was over in my 30s. by then that supply of good men had dwindled considerably.

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
9:17 am

Well, those of you who read my situation when I first came to blogsville know that my ex is now my one and only. I would say that I am like disco in that I KNEW he was the one, we just both had to go through some things and do some growing up before we could be together. Now that we are reunited, I believe that we both appreciate what we have and how long it took us to get there. So, yea, I believe that there can be a good outcome with an ex.

Good Morning, everyone! ITL~ I just turned on the music and I have the coffee brewing.

Ray Charles to the BS

August 14th, 2012
9:19 am

Thinking about the 80 year old couple that reunited after many years of being divorced. hummmm?

Ray Charles to the BS

August 14th, 2012
9:24 am

I don’t mean to change the subject, but I am acknowledging publicly that I am so shallow…I let someone go who deeply cared for me and who I actually had great chemistry with because he was too short. We looked like the perfect 10…Lawd heal me.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 14th, 2012
9:25 am

Disco, there are still some good men left, just stop looking up over them (LOL) That aha moment goes for both parties, most relationships don’t end because of just one person.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 14th, 2012
9:26 am

Ray Charles to the BS I see you looking over the good men too (LOL)

disco

August 14th, 2012
9:31 am

S/H – I don’t deny that there are “good” men. I put good in parentheses because many so called good men are still doing much dirt. I put good in parentheses because good is relative. I always think of my friend trying to hook me up with a guy who still lived with his ex while trying to convince me he was “good people”. I put good in parentheses because our nations prisons are filled with good men but that doesn’t mean I want one of them once they make parole. okay. forgive me. my very first post of the day indicated that I was feeling kind of janky today.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 14th, 2012
9:35 am

Disco, I’m not talking about any of those “good” men, I’m talking about the vertically challenged men :-)

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

August 14th, 2012
9:43 am

I’m one for speaking with the person, (attempting to) understand where they’re head is/was, and going from there.

If I could honestly say I was the same person 5 years ago that I am today, I’d be lying. Why wouldn’t I give someone else the opportunity to express/show/prove their growth?

While I agree that ‘wallowing’ is not helpful, nor is conversely an over estimation of one’s own wortth. To say you haven’t cufked up and needed/wanted/earned a second chance at something, and then deny that to someone else is….not good.

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
9:50 am

“What is it about the one that resurfaces and makes us forget the reason we broke up with them?” – I can honestly say that this has never happened to me. No sweet talk, goodtime memories of yesteryear can make me forget or push to the back of my subconscious and allow me to dive back in.

“Is it ever a good idea to reunite with a former flame?” If the uniting is solely for a dusting off and both know, go for it. No matter is prowess in bed, if he was a male ho as one of the reasons the relationship ended, I wouldn’t advise until you see his medical papers!

Oh, good morning!

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
9:57 am

lmao @ the topic. NO experience with anything like this. thank you, God!

now lemme browse some blog stories (or off topics). HiYas!

Ray Charles to the BS

August 14th, 2012
10:03 am

@S&H – Yes, sad but true. smdh ugh…maybe overlooking Love is wore than losing Love.

Ray Charles to the BS

August 14th, 2012
10:04 am

lolalee

August 14th, 2012
10:04 am

Amen, DAN.

Can’t say I’ve ever had an ex that I wanted to get back with…except one that was a quick dusting off, and nothing more. Otherwise, by the time I walk, I’ve thought it through and made all the effort I will ever make, so I’m ready to cut the ties. Maybe it would be different if I were the one dumped, but so far that hasn’t happened.

lolalee

August 14th, 2012
10:06 am

and good morning. Almost done with a huge coffee and still sleepy… must be the rain.

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
10:10 am

Good morning,

I can’t say i’m necessarily friends with exes…we are proably more like faint old acquaintences really. The one ex I was with for 8+ years off and on had called into a talk show to get me to come on. I believe the topic was “Second Chances”…up until that point, we would talk errrry now and then. But after he went through all that to get me to go to some show in New York knowing I am in a relationship, just made me feel some kind of way. I asked the assistant producer of the show, when she called, why in the world would I go all the way to NY on a talk show to hear what the ex has to say about our past and his mistakes, when i’ve already moved on…been over 2 years now. Of course, she offered to bring my current beau to the show too but i was not going to make a fool of myself for mere entertainment. So after all that, I figured that it was just not good to even really do the “is everything okay, calls”. I told the beau about it and he thought it was funny, but I have to say, I think he probably wondered in the back of my mind whether I’d decide to go. He told me he’d go just for the free trip to NY lol Anyway, from the grapevine I heard that exman is now in a relationship so maybe he’ll be happy now.

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
10:13 am

comon, your story sounds super sweet.

as for change. following any breakup i pray for growth for all parties involved. i expect something good to come of each experience. but my goal has always been to use that growth to move forward … never back.

i suppose it’s within the realm of possibility that an ex could sidle up at the right moment and make my knees go weak. but if the past 25 years are any indication, that just ain’t happening.
i’ve been waaaay too happy in each successive relationship to even wonder “what if” about the exes.

disco

August 14th, 2012
10:14 am

every now and again you hear about folks getting divorced and then getting re-married. I always wondered if it was more of a matter of I realized the error of my ways and you really are the one for me OR if it was more of there ain’t nothing else out here and we might as well be together. about 4 or 5 years ago I remember saying there must be something going on with the earth’s rotation. at that time I had maybe 3 divorced friends who were all screwing their ex-husbands. they all blamed it on the “drought”. I have another friend who got divorced at 30 after 10 years of marriage. she said if she didn’t have a new man by 40 she’d reconsider the ex. fortunately/unfortunately (who knows?) she lucked up on a man. lol.

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
10:21 am

disco ~ I have wondered what it is that have divorcees remarrying each other. I know it’s not going to happen in my case, just as I know I won’t be fornicating with my ex. My neighbors tell me I’m crazy not to get some from him, or even give him some for the work he has done around the house. Although I certainly believe in the “barter” system, my body isn’t a bartering piece of merchandise.

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
10:23 am

Booty Bartering lol

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
10:28 am

SlimUno ~ guess he really wanted to get back to you. I too wouldn’t have gone on the show, especially if I was involved with someone. Even a free trip wouldn’t have enticed me. No doubt you did the right thing. For some, it takes a little longer to actually let go.

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
10:30 am

lola, between the oatmeal that’s weighing me down and the rain outside my window this huge mug of coffee don’t stand a chance of waking me up today.
pretty sure i’ll perk up when the boss gets in, tho. :grin:

disco, it’s probably natural to go back and forth between fear of not finding someone and uncertainty of letting that ex get away. i recall at one point thinking about how some woman was going to benefit from the 20 years i put into my ex. that he’d eventually be a better man for another woman, when all i wanted was for him to be the best man he could be FOR ME.

then i realized that out there, somewhere, some woman was diligently shaping the man who would come along and shower me will a grateful love that you only learn from devastating loss.
and that’s when i kicked my ex out with the quickness! :lol:

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
10:35 am

Leggs – Yeah, I felt good about my decision and I think the beau relaxed a bit as well. I don’t say that to mean he was stressing or worried about the ex, but he does know that we had a very long courtship. I could see how that would make the next person uncomfortable for the fact that people do do the back and forth thing. The same applies to when you meet a dude with a fairly young child. You just never know how his relationship is with the baby mama…I hear it’s easier to get some baby mama puddy than new puddy lol

disco

August 14th, 2012
10:36 am

brat – your post puts me in mind of conversations i’ve had about first v. second spouses. opinions run the gamut as opinions do. at one point I was firm in wanting to be a first wife in my first marriage. subsequent marriages I don’t think I would care so much. contrary to what folks say, they bring some of that previous marriage with them (not all good, not all bad). I was just of the mind that it needed to be new for both of us. a couple of my friends disagreed with me but they were first wives in their first marriage AND first wives in their second marriages. go figure.

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
10:45 am

so, disco, how do you feel now about possibly being a second or even third wife in your next marriage?

disco

August 14th, 2012
10:50 am

brat – I’ve never been married. still, I’m not overly thrilled about the idea of being a second wife. I wouldn’t even entertain being a third. I’m also a single father magnet. when I had a child I was more open to that. now that I’m “childless” I don’t think I really want to be bothered with minor children and I’ve discovered that I don’t want to be bothered by adult children who are still treated/supported like minor children. my issues, I own them. lol.

HST

August 14th, 2012
10:55 am

Since I have only been committed to two women, and married to one of them, I have always played with my GFs from past. I was monogamous with my wife, and as much as I was required with my LTR. I have moved, taken different paths, and married but it seems all my past loves/flings/FWBs have never left. Only with my ex-wife was it completely over after divorce, and I was only with her while married.

I’ve never been the one to burn a bridge, or dismiss a Miss. I will say it’s never me who stays in contact, I even stay off social networking sites, so that I may not be found so easily. My sister said she’s going to charge me for any more notes she has to pass to me from my GFs contacting her through FB.

I have changed my attitude recently though, and for the first time in my life, I’m in love and realize it.

HST

August 14th, 2012
10:58 am

Disco, is your child in college? Moreover, no one can blame you for not wanting a man/woman-child or wanting to raise another child.

Why are single fathers attracted to you so often?

kimmie

August 14th, 2012
11:01 am

Hi Gang!

I went back once and it didn’t work. Wasn’t terrible, just didn’t work, we were not compatible for the long term. If the ex is a basically good person but the timing just wasn’t right, I can see a person going back. Good people you get along with and have chemistry with are hard to find. I don’t think a person’s basic core personality traits change – sorry I just don’t. Sure, people grow up and mature. Their circumstances change. I am not an advocate of taking someone back and hoping a core trait has or will change. Life is too short for that. There really are some folks that you need to cut ties with, for your own sanity and well-being. They might be a decent person but they are just not for you. Sometimes things happen that you over time can forgive but you can’t forget. Those things you can’t move past for a healthy relationship to thrive. You should always look forward. If taking that person back will drag you down, that’s not a forward move.

People should do what is best for themselves. I wish all of my exes well, even the ones that hurt me the most. I see nothing wrong with leaving it at that.

HST

August 14th, 2012
11:02 am

Good post kimmie.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
11:05 am

I’ve “retraced” by steps a couple of times, and it’s always come back to the same thing: there is a reason he is an ex.

There is this one guy, though, that I can’t say with 100% certainty I wouldn’t be willing to try again with. The thing I miss the most with him is our friendship. We had the best connection, laughing all the time, finishing each other’s sentences….. Even if it was just as friends, I would allow him in my life again.

disco

August 14th, 2012
11:06 am

HST – my son graduated has graduated college and is currently working full time and doing the grad school thing. he’s well on his way. graduated high school, left my house and hasn’t looked back. consequently, the most recent ex has a daughter who is damned near 30 and lives at home with two kids. daddy doesn’t charge her any rent or make her pay any bills and he pays her car note. he and I are still cool and I still talk about his daughter like a dog. all he can say is “that’s my baby”. I’ve got a female friend who is nearly 40. lost her job about 5 years ago and moved into a home that her parents owned. lived there rent free up until a few months ago when she moved into the house that her parents live in (translation: moved in with her parents). I asked why thinking maybe the parents decided to rent the house to someone who would at least pay them rent. her response, she moved because she couldn’t keep up the utilities on the house!!!! I’m like you have been living rent free all this time and you can’t keep the lights and water on???? really??? my only point with my tales is that adult children can pose just as many problems as minor children but I can’t be party to that mess. I’ve told my friend countless times that she needs to appreciate her parents because if I was them I’d put her behind out and tell her to make it the best way she knows how.

kimmie

August 14th, 2012
11:09 am

HST – Thank you. Did you make a decision about your lady love in Russia?

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
11:11 am

@kimmie: I was just about to ask the same thing! :) Great minds…

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
11:17 am

3 minds think alike because while reading his post and scrolling to the end, I now see your’s ITL/kimmie.

kimmie

August 14th, 2012
11:18 am

HST – The 3 of us are on the edge of our seats!LOL!!!

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
11:20 am

F5 F5 F5!!!! And still no update. C’mon HST!!!! :lol:

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
11:21 am

I’m not overly thrilled about the idea of being a second wife. I wouldn’t even entertain being a third. … now that I’m “childless” I don’t think I really want to be bothered with minor children and I’ve discovered that I don’t want to be bothered by adult children who are still treated/supported like minor children. my issues, I own them.
my issues as well. this was my staunch stance up until a couple years ago, now i find myself searching for healthy balance/compromise.

disco

August 14th, 2012
11:22 am

HST – come on man. where you at? you’ve got to give the people, give the people what they want.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 14th, 2012
11:26 am

CZ, Disco we get those issues because now we finally have that freedom after 18 loving years on lock-down, sure don’t want to start over again.

HST

August 14th, 2012
11:27 am

I have some good news about my absentee LTR – in reference to our discussion – if y’all wanna know what happened.

Sorry, I was on the phone with my car tuner, but give me a sec to type what happened.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 14th, 2012
11:27 am

HST, “you never miss your water till the well runs dry” (another one of those dumb ass sayings) (LOL)

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
11:35 am

single/disco, i think you ladies probably have a pretty good handle on where i’m at. some things are just too complex to blog. *sigh*

disco

August 14th, 2012
11:38 am

S/H – part of it is relishing in the “emancipation” but another part of it is where I’m simply a like attracts like chick. I’m one that will whoop a kid’s behind so I have little patience for folks who want to timeout their kids. I called my son out of his name just because that’s how I talk so I’m not a huge fan of the folks who only call their kids precious/sweetheart/baby/princess and god forbid if they ever swore at or in front of their kids. i started telling my son as early as kindergarten that when he graduated high school he graduated out of my house. he could go to college, join the military, get a little girlfriend with a project. I didn’t care but he knew he had to go. consequently I’m not a fan of the parents who obviously have no desire to put their adult children out of the house. all these traits are all well and good but as far as me and a relationship with a person who has these traits – don’t see it happening.

kimmie

August 14th, 2012
11:48 am

disco – You are being true to yourself and anyone you get involved with. That’s a very good thing.

To be honest, I wanted kids but the only ones I could take would be the ones I have now! Someone with some bad and/or spoiled bratty kids with smart mouths I could not deal with. Also, someone with a sorry adult son still living at home or adult daughter living at home that was a “daddy’s girl” with a stank attitude. None of that I can deal with.

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
11:50 am

“I’ve never been the one to burn a bridge, or dismiss a Miss”

Sometimes the only way to light the path in front of you is to burn the bridge behind you. IJS…

disco

August 14th, 2012
11:54 am

kimmie – I always figured lying should be reserved for other people. what’s the point in lying to yourself? lol.

CC – I like that. puts me in mind of how folks like to say the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t. I usually counter that with you don’t stay in hell because you know the names of the streets.

HST

August 14th, 2012
11:55 am

SO…

I came home from the PP drunk as hell. I knew it was wake up time in Russia, so I decided to skype.

I set the computer on the coffee table, got the hounds beside me on the floor, and I made the call.

She looks at the 4 of us, and starts crying. I’m already an emotional bomb myself, so I ask immediately ‘what’s wrong?’ She says how much she misses us, and loves me – I lost it. Now were both crying, talking over each other about how much we miss each other. My GSD starts howling because Mommy is crying – he’s very protective of Mommy, and loves to herd her. It was an emotional powder keg! So drying my eyes, in my drunken stupor, I immediately sober up, and get right to the point.

Before I can, she says “I want to come home.” I told her ‘I’m dying for you to come home, it’s not without you, and the hounds miss their Mommy.’ She says “I’m putting in my notice Monday,” and I tell her do it first thing.

She didn’t mention her debt, monetary concerns, or any such detail. I’m so glad I didn’t have to say anything, but I did. I told her that I’ll wipe her debt, give her money to play with, and she can ride with me – mi casa es su casa.

Yesterday she skped me and told me her boss was being a prick, and she couldn’t even understand some of his words, because he was using a regional dialect in an angered voice. I told her to leave that crap, we’ll pay some movers, tell her boss to GFHS, and book a flight. She laughed, said she only had suitcases, and was living in a corporate apartment. I booked her a flight on my lap-top, sent her the info, and Wednesday she’ll be back.

I made it seem so hard, when all I had to do was ask, or show my sincerity. I’m not the best, or even well versed on being emotional. The ER will do that to a person, and my failure at marriage will never leave my thoughts.

I haven’t even told my family yet, and it seems surreal until she’s in my arms. I hired a photographer to get photos of her/us when she arrives. I’ve had to drink myself to sleep since Saturday, the anticipation is killing me – I never thought I cared, or would care about a person the way I do her.

*he exhales deeply*

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
11:58 am

Awww… HST, you just made me all weepy at work.

kimmie

August 14th, 2012
11:58 am

I’m jumping up and down!!!! :lol:

That’s the best I’ve read on here in awhile, HST!!!!

Congrats!!!!!

disco

August 14th, 2012
12:00 pm

HST – great story (all except for the part about you crying – LOL)

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
12:00 pm

I LOVE a happy ending. Congratulations, HST! :)

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
12:01 pm

LOL@disco. How did I know you would say that??? :lol: :lol:

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
12:03 pm

HST ~ I’m already emotional over my child leaving for college and now I read your emotinal, drunken, heartfelt desire for your woman to be by your side. That was indeed a very nice read. Although I didn;t let the tears fall, they were there…thank you for sharing, and I wish the two of you all the happiness.

disco

August 14th, 2012
12:04 pm

ITL – because I have been very vocal on this blog re my dislike for tears. I was willing to give his woman a pass (though as far as I’m concerned she could have sucked it up – lol) but I can’t give old boy a pass. if I were to ever break down crying to a guy and he in turn broke down crying too I’d have to blow my nose, wipe my face, talk about him and walk it off.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
12:04 pm

s/n: Anybody but me have an image of HST, in his best smoking jacket, settled onto the leather sofa in a the study which smells of bay rum, cigar and brandy snifter at his side????

Release the hounds! :lol: :lol:

Sorry, HST. Just the mental image I had, and I needed some comic relief. No offense intended.

HST

August 14th, 2012
12:04 pm

Disco, I hear ya about the adult-child syndrome. My sister has a severe case of it, and lived rent free in one of my rentals for 7 years. Held the welfare of my nephew over my head, and never paid any utility. Her reasoning, I had everything, and I was the Devil to hold something over her head.

I quit trying to fix her from that point on. She recently – 2 months ago – moved out, and never thanked or paid me a thing. Furthermore, she owes – well did, I said for get it – 44K and was trying to pay me $100 a month. I told her I wasn’t a bank or mortgage company, and if I had to see her once a month for $100 it would take longer than a 30yr mortgage.

She still hasn’t said thanks…

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
12:05 pm

LMBO@disco. Don’t tell me you would point at ole boy as you walked away, too. :oops:

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
12:05 pm

well, i’m not familiar with the backstory, so for a while i was like :shock: “why the hell is dude sobbing on skype? not a good look. NOT A GOOD LOOK.”

but i must admit, you had me in your corner by the end of it all. that’s the sweetness. indeed!

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
12:06 pm

Don’t listen to disco (lol)…even the part of your crying was good. I would like to see my man cry at some point in our lives together. It’s very refreshing (for me) to see that a man can cry sometimes.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
12:07 pm

I’m sure being a little schnockered didn’t make it any easier to hold back the tears….. darn firewater. :lol:

HST

August 14th, 2012
12:08 pm

I’m surprised I cried as well, I deal with death constantly, informing relatives, stupid family members, but after our conversation, I was an emotional powder keg. I also buried my BFs father last Tuesday from battling cancer for 3 yrs. I guess, I’m getting older, and my heart that was filled with blood, guts, and black stuff has a pulse.

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
12:10 pm

s/n: Anybody but me have an image of HST, in his best smoking jacket, settled onto the leather sofa in a the study which smells of bay rum, cigar and brandy snifter at his side????

Hell No. I have an image of a man stripped to his core, slinging snot, slurring his words looking like he has a big head on Skype pouring his heart out. :wink:

disco

August 14th, 2012
12:10 pm

ITL – yeah. I was being a little bit nice.

leggs – you know I have a disco approved list of acceptable reasons for crying and I reserve the right to amend said list at any time. said list doesn’t just apply to men, it applies to men women and children age 2+ – lol. unfortunately, because you miss me is not on the list.

HST – god bless you re the sister. I have one brother who is on the sorry side. he gets one “gift” from me per year, that’s it. just the other day my niece’s mom (brother’s baby momma) called me asking for help for getting back to school stuff together. I sent a little something and decided to not even call my brother on it. it is what it is.

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
12:11 pm

I think that it shows a true sign of character for a man to be able to cry AND to recognize that he has had a change of heart and be willing to be vocal about it. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want a dude that cries when he sees a cute puppy or watches a chick flick, but I do love a man that can be vulnerable when it is require. (And in this situation, I think it was warranted) Bravo to you, HST!

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
12:12 pm

I have been very vocal on this blog re my dislike for tears… I can’t give old boy a pass. if I were to ever break down crying to a guy and he in turn broke down crying too I’d have to blow my nose, wipe my face, talk about him and walk it off.

oh jeez. it seems we were actually triplets separated at birth; kimmie, myself AND disco. :lol: :lol:
s/o now recognizes the look of disgust that clouds my eyes as soon as voices begin to tremble and/or eyes begin to well-up.
and that goes for either gender over age four!

HST

August 14th, 2012
12:14 pm

I enjoy releasing the hounds. Good ol’ Montgomery Burns style.

I gave up my cigars, and rum diaries, but I have ABs. Although, bourbon is my friend right now. My GF won’t have that ish – she keeps me in check, or tries as she’s put it…

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
12:21 pm

(And in this situation, I think it was warranted)
like i said, i don’t know the backstory. so imma just give him a pass and whistle while i work.
lol

disco

August 14th, 2012
12:22 pm

thanks brat. sometimes I have to remind myself that contrary to what the general population may think I am not a monster. lol.

HST

August 14th, 2012
12:24 pm

“sometimes I have to remind myself that contrary to what the general population may think I am not a monster.” I know exactly what you mean.

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
12:26 pm

I know, you have a list of acceptable times a man should cry in front of you. I think we all do.

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
12:27 pm

diso~ You strike me as very matter-of-fact and straight forward (no BS, no chaser) but I don’t think that makes you a monster. LOL! I think it makes you refreshing in a world where everyone wants to sugar coat everything and we all hang out by the fire and sing Kumbyah. Sometimes ish just can’t be like that and you are a good person to help one remember that.

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
12:28 pm

My GF won’t have that ish – she keeps me in check, or tries as she’s put it…

Just to be clear, is this the one in Russia, or the one you’re currently playing with????

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
12:28 pm

I think y’all (disco, kimmie, cz) must be rubbing off on me. I was watching TV the other night and this guy starts welling up and I caught myself saying, “Aw, suck it up!”….. That said, if I was on the other end of the skype convo, I would have cried just watching HST cry. Something about a man making himself vulnerable (OCCASIONALLY!) cuts right to the heart of me.

HST: We went out for happy hour last week, and I told my co-workers I was “in training for tailgate season.” LOL. Can’t fault a girl for getting her liver primed.

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
12:31 pm

Moving on with topics~ You guys gave me your opinion on the footbal situation with my son. I talked to his dad on Sunday when he dropped him off and he gave me the sob story about how he is making less money than he used to make or he would help me out with my son’s extra expenses but he still believes that it is in his best interest to participate in all the sports this year. The ex has 3 other children (1 before my son and 2 after) and he says that with their extra expenses this year, he just can’t swing anything more. So, were do we go from here?

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
12:31 pm

disco

August 14th, 2012
12:32 pm

CC – I am indeed a piece of work. one of my cousins told me once that I was going to be the little old lady on the block that if a kid’s ball came in my yard they’d be afraid to come over and get it.

HST

August 14th, 2012
12:33 pm

Times I’ve cried…
Broken (not fractured) collar-bone in 3rd grade.
The birth of my Son.
The death of my Father.
My Divorce.
Last Saturday morning.

Seriously, I’ve always said my heart was filled with blood, guts, and black stuff. I’ve never seen my buddy cry in the 32 years I’ve known him, or his brother, but at their Father’s funeral they weeped. I was having flash backs to my Father’s funeral, seeing my BF cry for the first time ever, and what it was for…I had to take several deep breaths. When the flag gets presented by the Military Branch that was served – it’s really hard to be dry eyed. When they say “On behalf of the President of The United States, we present you with this flag.” – oh boy.

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
12:34 pm

HST, just messing with you. I know you said you’re ready to give up your playboy ways (lol).

disco

August 14th, 2012
12:36 pm

CC – this is where I put my two cents in and I don’t suggest anyone listen to anything that even remotely sounds like advice because mine is usually of the ghetto variety. me, myself, personally – I’m all for truly accepting any kid that came before me/mine but the kids that came after – not my problem. i wish a ninja would tell me my child couldn’t have because he had to do for his other ones. it would get real ugly, real quick.

HST – I give you 2 out of your 5.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
12:37 pm

When the flag gets presented by the Military Branch that was served – it’s really hard to be dry eyed. When they say “On behalf of the President of The United States, we present you with this flag.” – oh boy.

Amen, HST. I was okay during my cousin’s funeral, but when we go to the graveside service and Taps was played and the flag folded and presented to his wife, the waterworks came on. Gives me goosebumps just thinking about it.

HST

August 14th, 2012
12:38 pm

Leggs, yes.

ITL, I think I need a drink now…is that bad? One does have to prep for stringent drinking – I preped for Rally season.

CC, suck it up, you have the money, but that doesn’t mean the men should be irresponsible, or not give what they can. They should give something, and participate fully, or give them the reality check they need.

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
12:39 pm

Comon ~ I may not remember it all, but I thought you paid for the extracurricular activities. Or is that you pay for “one” per year??

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
12:39 pm

Meaning, if that’s the case, then the decision on what to do rests solely with you.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
12:40 pm

@HST: Nope. It’s 5 o’clock somewhere. Not that I feel compelled to wait until 5…EVER….but you know…. :)

@CC: I agree with HST.

disco

August 14th, 2012
12:44 pm

CC – I agree with the others. I’d suck it up BUT – just so you know – I wouldn’t suck it up quietly.

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
12:44 pm

disco/HST~ This was my opinion as well. I feel like a) I have been very good over the time my son has been alive about NOT asking for extra stuff that a lot of ex-wives ask for simply because I am able to provide them on my own. and b) therefore, when I do ask, I shouldn’t have to hear a song and dance about what you have to do for your other kids. Additionally, it should be noted that my son is almost 14 and I have never gone back to court to have child support modified. He is paying based on what he made 13 years ago. hat alone should be enough to make him cough up the cash IMO.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
12:45 pm

I wouldn’t suck it up quietly.

I’m shocked, disco! :lol: :lol: :lol:

HST

August 14th, 2012
12:45 pm

ITL, it’s hard to explain the emotions when you hear and see that. It’s something that can’t be forgotten…
Well, it is past noon here, so bloggers, HST is having a bourbon neat. Any vicarious drinks that need to be served, please ask, and you shall receive.

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
12:47 pm

Leggs~ When we agreed on how to split his expenses, I pay for extra-curricular, but only because it made it balance out to 50/50 at the time. To simplify, rather than having to go to him on every little thing and ask him for his half, we figured out what the expenses would be total and decided who would pay what to make it come out half and half.

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
12:48 pm

HST~ Can I get a shot of Tequila? Dark, 100% Agave please.

disco

August 14th, 2012
12:50 pm

ITL – hush!!! I make no bones about the fact that I was the baby momma from hell. I, alone, am probably the reason baby mommas the world over get a bad rap. my son is my only and his father’s oldest. I don’t give a rat’s behind about any of his other kids. when my son graduated high school I went home to PA and had a graduation party. my brother mentioned that he happened to run into one of the “other” kids and invited them to the party. I made sure to let it be known that none of them had better show up at my party or there would be consequences and repercussions. if they wanted a party they needed to throw one. a lot of people told me I was wrong and I told a lot of people that I didn’t care. bump that.

HST

August 14th, 2012
12:52 pm

CC, do you think my tequila isn’t agave? Reposado or Añejo Esquire?

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
12:53 pm

lol @ light.

comon, prob with your history is that some exes will make the minstrel show a standard response any/every time you approach for “extras”. only the decent human beings willingly do all they can.
or those you take to task … come hell or high water!
but stay blessed and able to do for yours.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
12:57 pm

LOL. disco ALWAYS keeps it real. I respect that. :)

@HST: I’m about to head out for a late lunch (actually, I’m going to Ross, but I might eat while I’m out). But I’ll have a drink when I get back. Something refreshing….maybe a vodka lemonade?

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:00 pm

CC, well those are some very valid points. I completely agree with you, but we both know trying to change a grown person whom was a former love into a proper grown-up is usually an exercise in masochism.

You would have better luck trying to inspire them to rise to the occasion. Placate their manliness…

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
1:01 pm

It’s very refreshing (for me) to see that a man can cry sometimes.

Leggs – We just had this converstation the other day. I’ve seen my ex cry but not the current beau. It would be nice to see that he feels he can open up on that level around me but lawd knows i’m not wishing for anything devastating to happen.

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
1:04 pm

HST~ Resposado, please and thank you. I am not interested in masochism, but a little sadism at this point might be in order. What do you mean by “placate his manliness”?

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
1:07 pm

slim, it’s ok to see that vulnerability and know he feels he can go there with you (once or twice, under extreme circumstance).
thereafter, imma have to insist you button that sh!t up and keep a lid on it.

:lol: don’t mind me folks. the ex hubs used to say i was raised by russians. :lol:

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
1:12 pm

cz – Yeah, I am surely not hoping for a town crier…I couldn’t handle a dude feeling the need to shed tears more than me. lol

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:16 pm

ITL, I’ll have one waiting for ya.

CC, placate as in, kind of like be a man, so and so did this, did you see what his father did?, ___’s father bought the team refreshments, ____’s father hasn’t missed a practice – even though he’s working lots, your son needs you, your son needs help with plays, your son needs some money to go out, and such…

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:18 pm

Hey CC, (he slides the shot) one Resposado. Wait…here’s your lime lady…

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:21 pm

Virtual drinking is fun.

Remember when everyone was having jobs for the blog? I wanna be ‘The Driver.’

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 14th, 2012
1:22 pm

CZbrat, I’m playing catch up, but I’m guy that loves his freedom

kimmie

August 14th, 2012
1:24 pm

The Most Interesting Man In The World:

” I don’t often drink beer, but when I do I prefer Dos Equis”

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 14th, 2012
1:29 pm

Real men don’t cry (LOL)

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
1:32 pm

Yeah, HST, I don’t think placating his manliness would work. He’s not the type. He would be like “I don’t give a damn what they’re doing. They must have the time/money/etc. to do those things” I swear to God, the mistakes of the past… SMDH.

Thanks for the shot. Can I get another please? Make it a double.

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:33 pm

The Most Interesting Man In The World:

Bigfoot takes pictures of him.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 14th, 2012
1:33 pm

kimmie

August 14th, 2012
1:36 pm

HST – Presidents take HIS birthday off!

kimmie

August 14th, 2012
1:37 pm

His beard grows until it’s exactly the right length and then it stops.

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:37 pm

SSSSSSSSLLLLLLLIIIIIIDDDDDEEEEEEE………………….

Well, then at least you know and can deal with “lowered expectations.” Some men. If ever heard a guy say such words like you described, I’d call him out. I have a word for people like that as well CHRONIC UNDERACHIEVERS.

Good part is, your son has an educated, experienced, and professional mother – that’s irreplaceable.

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:39 pm

I love those commercials Kimmie!

Willie Dynamite

August 14th, 2012
1:40 pm

Afternoon All,
Topic – the only real true ex I have is my Sons mother. We parted amicably and are cool with each other. We both are married with kids and the spouses are cool with each other as well.
We never played after the breakup so I don’t think we would ever go that route again regardless of the circumstances.
Side topic – I think you should pay for the kid to play (told you that before). Not taking a swipe but you agreed to pay for extracurriculars. Now since they raised the price you want to cry foul because he won’t step up. I personally think he (should) just cause but he is honoring your agreement. Should he come back to you if tuition or school clothes cost more (or whatever it is he is paying). Honor the agreement until you get it changed.

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:42 pm

The Most Interesting Man in the World…

He’s fluent in all languages, including three that only he speaks.
Midgets look up to him.
Ghosts fear him.
He tips an astonishing 100%.
Once while sailing around the world, He discovered a short cut.
When sailing the wind is always at his back.
Panhandlers give him money.
He does Calculus in his head.
He always rounds to five decimal points.
He divorced his wife because he caught her littering.
His 7th Inning stretch could last through the 9th….
He’s never not sat up straight.
As a toddler he taught others to walk.
At the book store people crowd to see him read.
Athletes seek his autograph.
His passport requires no photo.
He can keep one eye on the past while looking into the future.
When fishing at some point he has to call it quits.
He’s never found a penny that wasn’t heads up.
When he drives his new car off the lot it increases in value.
His 1913 Duesenberg still has that new car smell.
Though he can’t walk on water he’s never slipped on ice.
Dolphins love swimming with him.

kimmie

August 14th, 2012
1:42 pm

Me too HST!LOL!!

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
1:45 pm

oopsy! single, please accept my apologies for this —> “single/disco, i think you ladies probably have a pretty good handle on where i’m at. earlier post.
chalk it up to my A.D.D. :oops:

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
1:46 pm

HST~ That’s what makes it crazy to me. His father is educated/professional. Advanced degree and the whole 9. Just doesn’t make sense. You know the old saying: You can lead a fool to knowledge, but you can’t make him think.

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:47 pm

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:49 pm

CC, then there isn’t an excuse in the world. Take his ass to court, and make him accountable to the degree that he should be.

Here, have another Esquire…SSSSSSSLLLLLLLIIIIIIDDDDDDDEEEEEE………….

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:53 pm

24 more hours to go.

I haven’t had sex since the 22nd of May.

Willie Dynamite

August 14th, 2012
1:55 pm

The Most Interesting Man in the World…

Would have trouble getting a date around here.
Girl he just too good to be true
He has too many female friends
He’s arrogant and always right.
I can’t stand his azz. Hahaha

HST

August 14th, 2012
1:56 pm

WD, too funny.

kimmie

August 14th, 2012
1:57 pm

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
1:58 pm

Willie Dynamite

August 14th, 2012
2:01 pm

Slim _ why not what?

Willie Dynamite

August 14th, 2012
2:06 pm

Plus he’s divorced and short. There goes another 20% of the blog ladies. Hahaha

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
2:06 pm

WD – oops, HST said he hasn’t had any nookie since May. Other than that, i’d like to know why the day is draggin ass.

disco

August 14th, 2012
2:10 pm

hold up!!! wait a MFing minute!!! y’all been passing out drinks and I didn’t get one??? what kind of low down, good for nothing, dirty, backstabbing, good for nothing folks have I been consorting with? do I need to make new virtual friends? greedy bastids. LOL.

czBrat ♀

August 14th, 2012
2:10 pm

gotta figure out what to do for lunch coz that coffee now has me shaking like a dope fiend.

Willie Dynamite

August 14th, 2012
2:14 pm

Slim – break us off with a poem. None of that mushy isht plz.

Disco – you are 1 funny chick.

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:14 pm

“Plus he’s divorced and short.” who is?

That’s right Slim, pathetic for a guy who has whatever he wants, but I’m getting what I want, soon enough.

Is it a serious crime to have consensual sex in a car? What about at the parking garage at Harstfield? Am I going to be on a file – if I get caught – by the TSA?

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
2:15 pm

Good afternoon fellow bloggers!

I came in to work late and have just now been able to catch up some on here.

HST – Congratulations! My heart skipped a beat when I read your story. I love it when a man can cry and show his emotions (at certain times).

Before anything happened between me and Magnum, he shed a couple of tears talking to me about his dog, who he loves very much and has cancer and won’t be around very long. It really touched my heart. I loved it that he could show some vulnerability to me.

On topic – My recent ex is someone who was in my life about 10 years ago. I’m pretty sure I’ve talked about that before. I thought he came back into my life for a reason. Well, he did, just not the reason I thought. He seemed to be such a different person because of things he went through in those 10 years. Little did I know it was an act to suck me in! I will NEVER go backwards again!!!

Dang it…there was something else I was going to write and it just left my brain!!! I’m too tired and in pain today. The pain pills are making me a little loopy!

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:15 pm

F that Disco, how may I be of service to you?

Willie Dynamite

August 14th, 2012
2:16 pm

HST – TMIMIW is divorced and short.

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
2:17 pm

Enjoy the rest of the work week guys. Taking the rest of week off to pack my child up for college and run last minute errands.

Ciao ~

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:19 pm

Bluz, I would cry like a baby for my dogs. I don’t care what that makes me. I wouldn’t have felt like that as a younger man, with my other animals, but now, my dogs are my world. My child, my dogs, my GF, and my family – I’m gonna shed a tear.

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
2:19 pm

WD – Hmmm, haven’t written in a short while…lemme see what I can come up with.

disco

August 14th, 2012
2:20 pm

WD – I’ve heard that before.

HST – it’s early and I’m still working so I’ll have vodka and midori topped off with a tiny little smidgen of pineapple juice. I’ll skip the clear glass though. you’ve got to put mine in the solo cup just in case somebody’s all up in mine.

bluz – I’ve told you to watch out for those sob stories.

Leggs

August 14th, 2012
2:20 pm

“Before anything happened between me and Magnum, he shed a couple of tears talking to me about his dog, who he loves very much and has cancer and won’t be around very long” – Although I know people love their animals, I would feel some kind of strange way if a man cried over his dogs. Only because I’ve never been attached to an animal. I had a co-worker who let her food spoil and put her dead cat in her freezer until she could bury it.

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:22 pm

WD, please explain TMIMIW.

Leggs, how proud you must be. What an accomplishment for you and your son. Have fun and hug him dearly. Congratulations.

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:23 pm

Red cup passed…

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
2:26 pm

I’m a huge animal lover and when my oldest cat dies (my baby), I’ll be a total wreck! I’ve joked that I’d have to go into the mental hospital!!!

Since I’m an animal person, I feel like I need to be with another animal person. It showed me a lot when he felt comfortable enough to cry a little in front of me talking about his dog. It made me tear up…

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:26 pm

Leggs, how a man treats and loves his animals says a lot about his person. I spend 18 hours a day with my dogs, they love me unconditionally, would die right then-and-there for me – the good list is never ending of positive. Th

disco

August 14th, 2012
2:31 pm

I’m so not an animal lover. I’ll give a dog a little bit of respect (well at least a dog sized dog. those little squirrel sized dogs get no love) but cats get nada from me. I don’t understand the deal with city folks having outside cats. country, I get. city, I don’t. I swear if a dog runs in front of my car I’ll likely slow down or swerve to avoid it. a cat and I’m aiming for it.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 14th, 2012
2:32 pm

He don’t often drink beer, but when he do

Hills lay flat for him
Kings ask permission from him
Holidays take a day off for him
Trash takes itself to the landfill for him
Flat tires inflates for him
Paper writes poems to him
Chickens want to be eaten by him
Rain drops avoid him
Recipes cook dinner for him
Clothes want to wear him

Afternoon:

My take on the most interesting man in the world.

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:32 pm

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
2:37 pm

Back from Ross. Thank God those shoes were too tight across the toe, bc mami would have re-homed another pair. :lol:

Congrats to you and Lil Leggs, Leggs. :)

Heeeey WD, Slim, and Bluz. Glad y’all made it in.

@Bluz and never going back: Like I always say, there’s a reason the windshield is a lot bigger than the rearview mirror. ;)

WD: I don’t have Slim’s skills, but how about this:

Roses are red,
Peonies are pink,
Root for the Dawgs,
Cause your gators stink! ;)

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:38 pm

Disco, hahaaa. I’ll admit my well built squirrel (JRT) is so self entitled. My fault, but she’s my leisure dog. She’s obedient, but so self entitled.

My big dogs are so obedient, not self entitled, and everything a big dog should be. It’s funny at check-up/vacs., because here’s these massive guard dogs I own completely under control. I still have to take one dog at a time. Then I come in with this 15lb terrier whom is a terror. Everytime I reflect, it just cracks me up.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
2:38 pm

Heeeey, BF! Clothes want to wear him. LOLOL

HST: TMIMITW I believe is short for The Most Interesting Man In the World

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
2:40 pm

HST – I agree with you about how a man treats animals says a lot about his character. My ex who recently passed away was such a gentle, good hearted man, and he took in just about every animal he found! He grew up doing that. When he died, I had to help find homes for 2 dogs, 3 cats, a rat, 3 snakes, 5 turtles, a tortoise, and a bird!!! He was a bit of a hoarder, but he LOVED all of his animals!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 14th, 2012
2:41 pm

Hey Light, I’m running late but I got my drinks and it’s not beer.

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:43 pm

ITL, SMDH.

Bluz, agreed, it does show a lot about one’s character.

BF, whatyoudrinkinon?

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
2:43 pm

Hey ITL! I didn’t think I was gonna make it in today! After unloading all my aunt’s crap last night, I had to call in late to work. Didn’t get finished until midnight and I’m hurting all over!!!

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
2:44 pm

BF – I could use some hard liquor right now, but not sure what I have a taste for! :-)

disco

August 14th, 2012
2:44 pm

HST – I’m always the one tirading about folks and their dogs. just this past Sunday morning I go outside in shorts and a tank top to take out the trash. as I’m headed back in a neighbor opens the door and two nice sized dogs come charging at me. she calls them and one heads back and the other follows me. now this dog is walking around me/rubbing all up on my legs (just dying for affection but I don’t pet dogs and I don’t talk to dogs) and she’s calling and the dog is ignoring and I’m hoping the daggone thing doesn’t decide to jump up on me. not that I’m afraid but I should not have to be accosted by someone’s dog. it’s not cute. chick finally comes and gets the dog and I had to go inside and shower because I couldn’t sit around the house smelling like (or imagining I smell like) dog. eww.

Poppa Grande

August 14th, 2012
2:45 pm

Yes, the Most Interesting Man In the World is short. I didn’t know about the divorced part. However, he claims to be 5′9″. He is about 1 full foot shorter than me. He is a 73 year old dude. He was cool during our interaction, though.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 14th, 2012
2:47 pm

HST I’ll have a whiskey sour with a vodka and tonic on the side and keep ‘em running. Thank you sir.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
2:48 pm

@BF: I’m having a vodka lemonade. Yum and yum. ;)

@Bluz: Epsom salts. I swear by them.

@HST: Why are you “SMDH”?

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:48 pm

Disco, that’s a proper assessment. People always question my dogs discipline. I say who’s gonna love them like I do? Do you have orthopedic beds for them? I say if a dog doesn’t recall it’s the owner’s fault and shortcomings. That owner was wrong, and as a proper dog keeper, I’d be mortified if my dog acted like that. My dogs don’t leave my yard, because they wouldn’t want to disappoint me, disobey me, or leave home. It is a two way street for my respect to be given to my dogs as well.

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
2:51 pm

ITL – yeah…I’m thinking I’ll soak in a nice hot bath when I get home from work! I think I have some epsom salt at home, but if not, I know I have some Dead Sea salt…I’m sure that will work nice also! I’m just thankful that I have some pain pills!!! If I didn’t, I’d be laid up in bed all day!

disco

August 14th, 2012
2:51 pm

bartender – I’ll have another. just vodka and midori this time. hold the pineapple juice. it’s diluting the liquor. by the way – are drinks on the house? am i running a tab? do i need to smile and sit next to some old lonely looking dude? let me know before i drink too much.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 14th, 2012
2:51 pm

Hey what’s up Big Poppa? You knwo the man too huh.

disco if you had the most interesting man on your arm, you wouldn’t have had to take that trash out and get dog/bum rushed.

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:51 pm

BF, I’m cleaning my crystal now for ya. Here ya go…

ITL, for not getting the acronym that was being used for most of the day spelled out.

I also use Epsom salts as well, I feel they help me recover more quickly from a serious work-out.

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:52 pm

TMIMITW, would have spoken to the dog before he left his yard, and told him to behave.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 14th, 2012
2:54 pm

Bluz sweet what ever you drink is my command.

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:54 pm

PG, you’ve met TMIMITW? I’ve read some of his accomplishments, and how they found him. I wanna have that swagger when I’m pushing 73…

disco

August 14th, 2012
2:56 pm

BF – how right you are. I don’t think I need THE most interesting man. I’m not greedy. I can get by with a moderately interesting man. and, btw, does the most interesting man do mundane house chores? is he not too busy being interesting?

where did everyone else go? a virtual AA meeting?

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:56 pm

Disco, the drinks are always on the house, no cheap basterds here…

HST

August 14th, 2012
2:57 pm

Disco, TMIMITW has elves that clean up secretly behind him.

disco

August 14th, 2012
2:58 pm

well in that case barkeep, leave the bottle, go serve that guy at the end of the bar and try not to notice me sliding the bottle into my oversized purse.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 14th, 2012
2:59 pm

LOL……@disco

I’m outta here y’all enjoy yourselves. Tomorrow is Friday. (well for me that is)

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
3:00 pm

I guess I’ll stick with my usual Captain Morgan and Diet Coke!

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:01 pm

Miss Disco, here’s a bottle for your leisure – here’s a drink for now.

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:02 pm

Arrrrggghhh, rum fer you miss – enjoy!

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
3:03 pm

a virtual AA meeting

….not me, disco. Those meetings are for quitters!

@Bluz: was drinking those on Saturday. With lime. :)

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:03 pm

Bluz, what do you do for work?

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
3:03 pm

Thanks a bunch!!!

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
3:04 pm

Night, BF! Lucky wolf. :)

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
3:06 pm

Hmmm…I don’t know why my post got eaten by the blog monster…

I’ve worked at a credit union for 14 years. You name it, I do it here. Customer service, loans, etc.

disco

August 14th, 2012
3:06 pm

HST – are you always this nice are our you still feeling all euphoric and whatnot?

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:08 pm

Nice. Do you do small business loans? I’m thinking of setting up a Blog Bar.

I’ve been with Delta Credit Union since the 90’s.

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:10 pm

Euphoric and whatnot is a proper assessment of my demeanor, but I am truly a nice guy – I pride myself in being a Southern Gentleman.

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:11 pm

…current demeanor…

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
3:11 pm

LOL HST! We actually had to set up a company and join forces with other credit unions to get our business loans up and running! We’re kind of small, but been around for 60 years!

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
3:14 pm

I can’t lie…that head got my mind like white powder on a table chopped into small lines, Gone…

I can’t lie…that puddy takes the cake, like momma would make when the universe was in line and all was well. When that puddy cake rise this diyk swells….

I can’t lie…I love the love you show me, the way you kiss me the way you hold me….and because your love transcends it will surely out grow me…

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
3:14 pm

I bank at credit unions. The customer service is SO MUCH BETTER! In my humble opinion, anyway…

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:16 pm

Slim, explain those statements…

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
3:16 pm

Dayum, Slim!! :) That was wonderful.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
3:17 pm

@HST: It’s poetry open mic night. Shhhhh….. now get me another drink. ;)

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:18 pm

ITL, it is. The only place I like better than Delta C.U. is JP Chase & Morgan. Those guys replaced my Centurion card with no annual fee, I have zero complaints, and they give me nice gifts. Unlike AMEX who charged me, made me spend 250K a year, and scrutinized where I spent my money.

disco

August 14th, 2012
3:19 pm

ITL – drinks are free. don’t come up in here talking to the bartender crazy. if he shuts it down it’s going to be me and you. now don’t get me wrong – we cool but don’t be messing up the rotation.

speaking of drinks – I need a real one. I’m getting closer and closer to telling somebody about themselves. I hate being in situations where you have to bite your tongue and hold stuff in. I’m a let it all out kind of girl.

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
3:20 pm

Since working at a credit union for so long, I would never work or bank at a bank! Credit unions look at people as people and not just money…

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:20 pm

Well then, one of my favorite rally sayings is “Shhhhh just let it happen.” MOAR POEMS!

Here ya go ITL, SSSSSSLLLLLLLLLLIIIIIIIDDDDDDDDDDEEEEEE……………

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:22 pm

Shet Disco, we’re here, let it go…

SSSSSSSSSLLLLLLLLLLLIIIIIIIIIDDDDDDDDEEEEEE………..

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
3:24 pm

HST – I didn’t think they need explaining….you can try the poetry 101 room down the hall. lol

ITL – Thanks chica, that was funny by the way.

I think i’ll go for a henny on the rocks

disco

August 14th, 2012
3:24 pm

just making sure man. I know you are all Pollyanna right now and all that but I don’t want anything coming between me and an open bar.

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:31 pm

Ahhh, nice reference and use with Pollyanna.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
3:32 pm

LOL@disco. Like I always say, the only thing I like better than likka is FREE likka. You know I might kid with HST, but I’m not about to derail our gravy train. LOLOL :lol:

@Slim: Girl, take a bow. :)

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:33 pm

WTF happened to everybody?

disco

August 14th, 2012
3:38 pm

see? y’all got me drinking imaginary drinks but sitting at my desk with real life hiccups. how that happen?

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
3:41 pm

I had to meet a client and grab some food. I’m back. Bartender! Hit me again!

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
3:45 pm

I’m popping in and out…

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
3:46 pm

disco – There is a thin line between blogsville and reality. ;-)

Slim now taking a cute little curtsey

SlimUno

August 14th, 2012
3:46 pm

I’m popping in and out

And so does Magnum Man lol

Poppa Grande

August 14th, 2012
3:47 pm

BF & HST

I met him by accident. I was in NYC for some business, and he happened to be in the same building.

I admit that I’d like to be that cool at 73 and not needing a cup for my teeth or an adult diaper for my booty. :grin:

I love the commercials, though. They keep me entertained.

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:50 pm

Coincidentally, I was just advising a good buddy about getting married. He showed me the ring last night – he stopped by after the liquor store – it was certainly nice. I by pushed him to try harder, and he did, the setting was off the rails. Medium stone, but the setting… Anyhoo, I asked when just now, and he said by the the of the week.

Reposado CC?

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:52 pm

PG, cool.

SU @ 1536 hahaaa!

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
3:55 pm

LOL Slim! That’s the truth! Sure can’t wait for him to get back home!!!

HST

August 14th, 2012
3:57 pm

Alright I’m throwing drinks for all, and I’m out.

I going to do what I know I shouldn’t – ride my 4-wheeler buzzed on my own property. I will be wearing a helmet, and toting a shotgun (there’s actually a gun holster on the bike). It’s the “Merican” way…

This day is almost done.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
4:12 pm

@HST: Well praise the Lord and pass the ammunition! :)

@disco: Did you try holding your breath?

@Slim: womp womp womp…..

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
4:12 pm

HST~ Yes, sir!

disco

August 14th, 2012
4:16 pm

ITL – I immediately held my breath. the hiccups are gone. still that first one literally bounced me up in my seat. can’t be sitting here like a jack in the box. I talk about people too much to be the “special” one.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
4:30 pm

Made me think about, “You’re in a SPECIAL class”

disco

August 14th, 2012
4:33 pm

ITL – just last night I talked to one of my cousins and she said last year one of her daughters was in a remedial math class. she said she used to tease her daughter and call her slow and that her daughter took much offense to it. had the nerve to say she wasn’t slow and all of her friends were in their too. my cousin just went on to say that her daughter had a bunch of slow A friends. I was cracking up.

Bluzgirl

August 14th, 2012
4:35 pm

Well…since things have slowed down to a crawl, I guess I’m gonna log off. Have a good night!

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
4:51 pm

@disco: smh. I’m not condoning teasing a kid, but “I’m not slow…all my friends are in there, too.” Um, okay.

Into the Light

August 14th, 2012
4:57 pm

Night, Bluz!

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
5:08 pm

Sadly, if she thinks her slow friends are smarter than she is, she might need some help…

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 14th, 2012
5:15 pm

Evening folks

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
5:16 pm

Hey Single. What up?

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 14th, 2012
5:18 pm

comon this thing called life, living and enjoying every minute

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 14th, 2012
5:19 pm

Disco, you should be ashamed of yourself laughing at the chillun

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
5:26 pm

I’ll be better suited to that when I get out of this office with the virtual drinks and can go home and have some real ones! LOL!

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 14th, 2012
5:29 pm

it’s been so long since I had a drink, it’s been a about a month, can’t wait to get to Ja and have a few

Comon Cents

August 14th, 2012
5:51 pm

It hasn’t been that long for me. (Last night, in fact) but with the day I have had, I need one (or two or three. :lol: )

Single and Happy (still can't believe I'm the only one that didn't know what a CT was, I really need to get out more)

August 14th, 2012
6:01 pm

I only drink on vacations, don’t know why, I have pantry full of liquor (LOL)

Eboni

August 14th, 2012
11:22 pm

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