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Judging the book

Single people can find themselves scrutinizing each other for every little thing. The problem starts when we find random things to judge each other about. Sometimes we have to find out right away, exactly what the flaws are.

We think that is a way to improve our dating odds, but it can have the opposite effect. Women notice how men have too many female friends. Instead of thinking this as a positive thing, we assume he has slept with all of them. Men notice that a woman has a great career. Instead of thinking she is ambitious and capable, they assume she has no idea how to put someone else first.

Judging a book by it’s cover – we do it all the time, I don’t know if we even know when we do it. Do you think you have a problem judging people too harshly?

Have you ever felt that someone judged you and made assumptions about you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

454 comments Add your comment

czBrat ♀

August 9th, 2012
4:42 pm

comon, i’m supposed to be heading to the high straight from work. REALLY trying to stay motivated cuz intown roads are sh!t when it rains.

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
4:42 pm

@Comon: Never been to Mexico Lindo, but we go to Cinco’s on Akers Mill for lunch or after work occasionally. Their shrimp enchiladas are YUM-O.

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
4:43 pm

ITl~ Have you ever eaten at Howard’s on Concord?

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
4:43 pm

Fat Matt’s is the first BBQ I was introduced to. Also, can’t beat live blues every night of the week! I’m also friends with the owner and we both serve on the board of a non-profit. He’s super sweet!!!

Jake...SPJTWB

August 9th, 2012
4:43 pm

BBQ…Bluz, since you in Norcross, you should grab some Dreamland…they old school too, first thing they give you is a saucer of the famous sauce and 2 slices of Sunbeam White Bread…love’em.

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
4:45 pm

OMG….DREAMLAND is what my manager would always have catered in for us….yuuuummmmmy You don’t need no sauce for that.

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
4:45 pm

@Comon: Funny you should ask. Yes, but I always get the name wrong and call it Herman’s or Harold’s. Luckily, my coworkers know what I mean. Their Reubens are off the hook!

SlimUno

August 9th, 2012
4:46 pm

Jake – I haven’t had any Sunbeam bread in a damn minute…I used to eat it by itself sometimes, roll it into a ball and eat it that way. lol

I wouldn’t mind some good gumbo, no oysters or mussels though yuck!

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
4:46 pm

I still need to see Joyful Noise, since part of it was filmed there.

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
4:47 pm

I went to Dreamland once and wasn’t impressed. Maybe I should give it another chance…

disco

August 9th, 2012
4:48 pm

okay y’all. here’s a crazy off topic. certainly don’t mean to offend but it’s on my mind. I’ve always said there is often just as much drama in the church as out. I’m listening (overhearing) to a person talk about a church function she is hosting. I’ve heard this chick admit to putting foreign objects into the food of her own family members (because they made her mad) and I’ve heard this chick call her own grandmother out of name. anyway, my point is what church does she go to? the holiness church of evil, trifling, ignorant, no good nasty tricks.

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
4:48 pm

ITL…I want to see that movie, even thought I’ve heard it was really bad. I worked the Dolly Parton concert last year at Verizon Wireless Amp and several cast members were there.

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
4:49 pm

Dreamland on Alpharetta Highway? I have eaten at that one but it was just mediocre. JR Loghouse on Peachtree Industrial in Norcross is the ISH! Great bbq and they also do an awesome country breakfast that they serve all day.

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
4:49 pm

LOL disco! I’ll bet you never eat anything she may fix. That’s pretty bad to admit to putting stuff in food you fix…

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
4:49 pm

I don’t know what you guys are talking about (lol).

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
4:50 pm

Their Reubens are off the hook!

LOLOLOL! That is what I was going to recommend! :lol:

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
4:51 pm

Hmmm…now to decide what I want for dinner. I’m drooling over here! Can’t afford to go out and not much to choose from at home.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 9th, 2012
4:52 pm

Bluz…not sure what was happenin that day, but Dreamland good as hellz, I bought some sauce and everything last time I went….

Slim-that Sunbeam is the best ain’t it

Well, thanks guys, I am going to Dreamland tonight to get my fix..

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
4:52 pm

Jake…I’ll check it out again. I think it was shortly after they opened. I’m bad about not giving a restaurant a second chance…BUT…I’ll go just because you said it’s delish!

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
4:53 pm

disco – That’s awful but not surprising. You should ask her what church she attends and if they know she’s doing that sort of thing.

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
4:54 pm

Well…the skies have cleared for a moment. I’m gonna head out of here. Have a good night, ya’ll!

disco

August 9th, 2012
4:54 pm

bluz – I don’t do the workplace potluck period. I also don’t use the communal refrigerators. I know folks are nasty. still I was taken aback that old girl had no shame in her game when sharing. she got her ex-hubs and her son. I was just like really. destroy some property if you have to but don’t mess over people’s food. a friend of mine told me she put visine in a guys water bottle in his fridge. she thought it was cute. I’m like girl, that’s attempted murder. she’s thinking she showed him something. ignorant I tell you.

oh sorry. I forgot y’all are all up in the food conversations. my bad.

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
4:54 pm

Bluzy – Give it another go. I’ve ALWAYS had a good experience. I’ve been there a couple of times outside of my manager having catered in.

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
4:54 pm

disco~ She attends the church of Rev Dr. Dewey Hatem and his lovely wife Andhow… Can the church say “amen?”

disco

August 9th, 2012
4:57 pm

C – I don’t eff with her. if we ain’t talking work, we ain’t talking. this is the same trick who cut her toenails at her desk that I told y’all about. nasty, just nasty.

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
4:58 pm

disco – Gotcha gotcha gotcha…lololol I ain’t surprised.

For Real

August 9th, 2012
4:58 pm

Celisea and ITL: We can all meet up after work I work….. I mean I conduct some business in the same area as y’all. Just let me know when.

For Real now collecting his 25% coupon to Chow Baby.

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
5:00 pm

For Real – All Imma say is, bring your game face and more than 4 $2 gas cards. I’m only coming as backup support

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
5:00 pm

Oh lawd. Not the toenail chick. She probably saves the trimmings for food-doctoring.

Yeah, bluz, I heard it was bad, too. But I’ll get it at the Redbox. :)

@CC: Those Reubens are serious. Plus, it’s a one-stop shop. You can play the lottery and have lunch. :)

@For Real: You buying, I’m flying. ;)

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
5:00 pm

Good Lord it’s 5:00…I’m outta here :) :)

Jake...SPJTWB

August 9th, 2012
5:01 pm

Peace yall, headed to Dreamland…..”Ain’t Nothing Like ‘Em Nowhere!”

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
5:01 pm

Oh lawd. Not the toenail chick. She probably saves the trimmings for food-doctoring.

Or potluck days…lolololol

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
5:02 pm

Just got off the phone with my mama. Wish I was going to her house for dinner. They’re having pinto beans, fried okra, porkchops, and cornbread. :)

disco

August 9th, 2012
5:03 pm

dang ITL. I wish I was going to your momma’s house too. I’d even stop off at one of the spots y’all mentioned and buy dessert.

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
5:04 pm

LOL@disco. And we’d better be quick, too, because my daddy will eat up those pork chops before we get there. :)

czBrat ♀

August 9th, 2012
5:11 pm

funny, was looking up at the sign for dreamland the other day and thought “nah. i don’t think so!”. best bbq = Sam’s BBQ ONE on lower roswell road.

ciao!

For Real

August 9th, 2012
5:12 pm

ITL you want me to brang you a plate? The pork chops and cornbread is gone but we still got okra and beans.

i'm swiss

August 9th, 2012
5:13 pm

ITL / kimmie — I’m probably dating myself, but do you remember Compadre’s in Athens? It’s long gone, but man I used to love me some verde burrito from there…

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
5:14 pm

I’ll take it, For Real. And make sure you get me some onion to cut up in those beans.

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
5:15 pm

verde burrito from there…

Sounds like a green burrito..is it full of that mushy stuff called quaclomony (I have no idea how to speall it).

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
5:15 pm

Never been there, Swiss. :(

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
5:16 pm

Leggs: Do you mean guacamole????

i'm swiss

August 9th, 2012
5:17 pm

Leggs — Nah, it’s a green pepper sauce. But if you’re into guacamole, I make some kick-ass homemade guac.

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
5:17 pm

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
5:18 pm

Yep, that’s what I mean, ITL. Not into quac…

czBrat ♀

August 9th, 2012
5:18 pm

swiss, need to have you and s/o square off on a guac throw-down. how’s the little one coming along? still baking?

i'm swiss

August 9th, 2012
5:19 pm

Did you ever go to Harry Bissett’s before it became NONA? Harry’s was one of my favorites, too, but haven’t been since the change. Wondering if it’s still good…?

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
5:20 pm

@Swiss: I love guac. Seriously love it.

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
5:21 pm

LOL@Leggs. Guac, with a “G”.

i'm swiss

August 9th, 2012
5:22 pm

Brat — I’ll take that challenge. Of course, the biggest secret to good guac is getting the right avocados…

Little one is still baking in the oven, yes. She’ll be fully baked in late December. :lol: