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Judging the book

Single people can find themselves scrutinizing each other for every little thing. The problem starts when we find random things to judge each other about. Sometimes we have to find out right away, exactly what the flaws are.

We think that is a way to improve our dating odds, but it can have the opposite effect. Women notice how men have too many female friends. Instead of thinking this as a positive thing, we assume he has slept with all of them. Men notice that a woman has a great career. Instead of thinking she is ambitious and capable, they assume she has no idea how to put someone else first.

Judging a book by it’s cover – we do it all the time, I don’t know if we even know when we do it. Do you think you have a problem judging people too harshly?

Have you ever felt that someone judged you and made assumptions about you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
3:39 pm

kimmie~ I feel you on the commute. I commute from Cobb to Clairmont Rd every day and it is a long A drive. However, it is the only 45 mins (each way) I get to myself each day so I have learned to appreciate and maximize the time. (I feel like I should whip out my grandma voice here, but…) I have taken to listening to books in the car while I commute.

Maccy Do Ro

August 9th, 2012
3:39 pm

I get judged the wrong way all the time and love it, that’s just one less person to care about or help. With every action there is a reaction, and I think there is nothing wrong punishing those who assume, frankly I don’t care who a person is, knows, or in some unfortunate cases blows, you disrespect me, I will return the favor no exceptions. Don’t butt kiss or brown nose either, that’s also a punishable offense. I treat all people on one flat rate which is fair. If people want special treatment, they have to be born that way or have something unfortunate happen to make it that way such as blindness, deaf, mental illness, deformed, down syndrome stuff like that. Everyone else who has able bodies and minds should stop whining about better treatment. So yeah, if you want to judge someone, you better get it right or face consequences, because people like me will turn their back on you quick on a false judge.

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
3:40 pm

Comon ~ perhaps I’m going blind, reading comprehension way off but I don’t see anything.

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
3:40 pm

@CC: I already know. :) We’ve been there and it was good. I like Bay Breeze a little better, though. I don’t know why….just feels different. Not crazy about the Cherokee Cattle Company, though, which is also owned by that family.

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
3:40 pm

Nevermind, let it rest.

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
3:40 pm

ITL – No, I did’t know that. We use the Cami Cakes on P’tree. Good to know.

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
3:41 pm

Willie D – why should she buy the cow when she’s getting the beef for free?

Or buy the whole pig just to get a little pork. ;)

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
3:42 pm

Ya’ll are making me hungry again…

kimmie

August 9th, 2012
3:42 pm

disco – Little Azio’s salad pizza is really a thin pizza crust with parm cheese melted on it. They pile this yummy green salad on top of it that has chunks of real mozzarella cheese, walnuts & dried cherries on it with a champagne dressing. You can eat the pizza crust like flatbread really. I’ve had a BLT pizza at other places that is similiar.

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
3:43 pm

Not crazy about the Cherokee Cattle Company, though, which is also owned by that family.

We like the food there but the atmosphere sucks. The pork chops from tere are yummy but I can get the same ones at the Marietta Diner and have better atmosphere.

Maybe I am off on the Bay Breeze thing, but the night we went, it wasn’t that great. **shrugs** Maybe I will give it another go.

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
3:43 pm

@C: Yep. It’s right on that corner next to the Shoppes. Sometimes we make a run to Jimmy John’s for lunch and swing through Cami Cakes. ;) You know there’s a Piece of Cake over here, too, right?? Next to the Kroger shopping center at Cobb Pkwy and Log Cabin?????

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
3:43 pm

We have one client that just luuuuuvs (said in Missawiggins voice from the CB Show) The Cherokee Cattle Company. It’s a drive up there from downtown. I will say though, a slice of cake alone is worth it. It’s about as big as my head.

kimmie

August 9th, 2012
3:44 pm

CC – Me too about the commute. I enjoy the morning shows, music, and have listened to books too. I don’t mind the mornings, but I cannot stand that 5 pm traffic going home!!

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
3:44 pm

Dang. My little ham sammich is gone baby gone. I’m getting hungry again. :(

disco

August 9th, 2012
3:45 pm

CC – there you go. okay. why should she say the vows when she’s already got the ring? single/happy, that was for you since you called me out on my gold digger-ish ways.

dag. y’all are dropping all kind of restaurant tips. if I was in that neck of the woods I’d be taking notes.

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
3:45 pm

ITL – Nooo, didn’t know that either. Well I’ll be a monkey’s uncle…lol I definitely didn’t know Piece of Cake is there as well. It’s usually the one closest to town that we frequent.

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
3:46 pm

Speaking of Piece of Cake and Cami Cakes, etc, ave you tried Miss Mamie’s Cupcakes on the Square in Marietta? They have a pistachio cupcake that is slap yo momma good!

czBrat

August 9th, 2012
3:46 pm

you sounding like a dude
if by that you mean i’m enjoying having my cake and eating it too, i’ll take that as a compliment.
just don’t make a habit of it. i quite luv being a girl.

not sure how old yous kids are, but i think it’s a great idea to take them to a super nice eatery in the teen years. let them experience the finer things so they don’t act like goobers when those opportunities present later in life.

i took my daughter to ruth’s chris when she was around 14. took my son to season’s 52 when he was 16.

notice how i did that one-by-one so i wouldn’t be out of $300+ in a single shot. :lol:

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
3:47 pm

I will say though, a slice of cake alone is worth it. It’s about as big as my head.

Now you know why I was afraid to go to Marietta Diner last night while I was in such a sugar craze. They have an L-shaped case FULL of all those same cakes, pies, and cheesecakes.

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
3:48 pm

ITL – When we do the CCC with this one particular client, they’ll order about 3 slices and pass around the table because the pieces are so big. But you know me, I’m ordering one to go!! lol

Willie Dynamite

August 9th, 2012
3:49 pm

Cel – see, I knew it. Dayum you alright with me. Lol

Disco – umm just saying Dudes get a bad rap for that.

Kimmie – that pizza sounds delish. Where is this place again?

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
3:49 pm

not sure how old yous kids are, but i think it’s a great idea to take them to a super nice eatery in the teen years. let them experience the finer things so they don’t act like goobers when those opportunities present later in life.

AMEN! I absolutely hate going to a restaurant and someone’s little darling is running around the place and screaming like a heathen. Ten they act like they don’t hear them. Ohhhh… That really grinds my gears.

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
3:50 pm

@CC: I haven’t been to Ms. Mamie’s (they were closed when I was there last Friday night for Art Walk, so we went to Sarah Jean’s for ice cream). I heard they won on Cupcake Wars, though. i need to see that episode.
For restaurants on the square, I love Willie Rae’s and Taqueria Tsunami. For breakfast, I love Sugar Cakes.

Have you been to Chicken and the Egg on Whitlock? My BFF and my neighbor LOVE it.

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
3:50 pm

WillieeeeeeeeeeeeeD – :) :)

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
3:51 pm

Bay Breeze, Bay Breeze. I’ve been trying to remember the name for the longest. Thank you.

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
3:52 pm

@C: When we go to Marietta Diner, I always get a slice of Suicide by Chocolate to go. But I have one bite before I leave. :oops:

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
3:54 pm

On the square, I like Hemingways and McKrackens. ( I have spent many a night in my young years in those dives) I like Willie Rae’s too. You have to go back for Miss Maime’s. Trust me; it is worth the trip. I have not been to Chicken and the Egg on Whitlock. Sounds like an adventure for me and the hubs…

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
3:54 pm

ITL – I REAALLLY try not to do desserts but sometimes, I can’t help it. Especially if I feel I didn’t get enough during the meal…lol Nothing wrong with a bite to hold you until you can break all the way into it…lol

czBrat

August 9th, 2012
3:54 pm

@ disco, comon, thanx ladies.

not that i don’t luv the hell outta my man, but i’m sooo content coming into the age of living on my own for the very first time that i struggle terribly (at times) with the thought of taking on a whole new fam…. AND ex-wives (just ugh!).
it’s an issue i (we) are slowly dealing with.

kimmie

August 9th, 2012
3:55 pm

CC – My daughter won this essay contest at a summer camp she attended earlier in the summer. The winners got to attend a little tea party at Miss Maimies and THE Miss Maimie came out and talked to them and told them about her experience on Cupcake Wars, which as you can see in the window they WON! The lemon-coconut cupcake was my favorite.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 9th, 2012
3:55 pm

So ya’ll ain’t speaking to ole Romie Rome today…lol

Willie Dynamite

August 9th, 2012
3:56 pm

Brat – sound like you got dude frying you bacon bucket nekkid. Hahaha.

Re: kiddies and food- my Son calls himself a foodie, he says he gets better than restaurant quality at the house. He won’t order bbq, Steak and some seafood when we go out. He’s turning into a pretty good cook.

kimmie

August 9th, 2012
3:57 pm

Willie – It’s Little Azio on Atlanta Road, in the cute little shopping area down the street from the big Home Depot and Publix near Cumberland. J Christopher and South City Kitchen are in the same complex.

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
3:58 pm

@CC: I like Hemingways and McCrackens for drinks/hanging out after dinner. I will be going to Miss Mamie’s. We’re celebrating my mom’s birthday on Saturday; maybe I’ll surprise her with cupcakes. :)

@kimmie: lemon coconut you say?? Yum. Love those flavors together.

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
3:59 pm

All this talk of food makes me want a snack. That half sandwich and 5 chips are gone.

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
3:59 pm

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
4:00 pm

I have yet to go to McCrackens, even though I know several people who have played there. Hard for me to get out to Marietta, even though there’s a lot to do. If gas ever comes down, I’ll prolly go out there more often!

SlimUno

August 9th, 2012
4:00 pm

Cel – I think that’s exactly why those little shot desserts were thought of…even when you’re busting out of your pants after a good meal, sometimes you still craze a lil summin sweet ;-)

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
4:00 pm

What’s up Jake?!?!

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
4:01 pm

Slim – You’re so right. Sometimes you can’t move from feeling too full it feels like and still, tryna get a lil something sweet :)

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
4:01 pm

@kimmie~ Cool that your kid won the essay contest! (Even cooler she got to go to Miss Maime’s) Writing is becoming a lost art form these days. You know, there is even talk that they are going to stop teaching cursive in school?

SlimUno

August 9th, 2012
4:02 pm

meant crave not craze lol

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
4:02 pm

I’m a sugar-a-holic…I could eat something sweet after every meal. I have to watch myself. I don’t normally order dessert, though, because it’s usually too expensive.

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
4:03 pm

I know it’s an old one but I LOVE to get the icecream and hot brownie…mmm mmm mmm

SlimUno

August 9th, 2012
4:04 pm

O/T: So the beau and I are exchanging a few texts and every now and then we get real gutter with it…STFUB and all kinda stuff for fun. So I took it a bit further and threw a naughty angle in there. This fool says Why are you h0rny at 3:53 in the afternoon LMAO. I couldn’t help but laugh lol

Celisea

August 9th, 2012
4:04 pm

So I’m not the only one that love sweets huh? I see ITL and Bluzy are right up there with me. Look at me, I don’t feel so bad now. Even though I am still working on curbing my sweet intake.

czBrat

August 9th, 2012
4:04 pm

comon, great point! and i agree wholeheartedly.
specifically, i’ve tried to expose my kids to “high society” people, places, events and practices just so no one can come along some day with promises of better living and get them to do any ol’ thing for it. or make them feel any less than.

willie, he will if i say so ask nicely. :grin:

kimmie, that is just too cool!

kimmie

August 9th, 2012
4:05 pm

CC – Yeah, I’ve heard that about the cursive writing! Our kids are getting slowly handicapped by computers! Little Miss is required to write out thank you notes by hand. Her penmanship is pretty nice, but her brothers is awful. That usually means you are going to be smart though!LOL!!

disco

August 9th, 2012
4:06 pm

C – I just treated my self to a twix. it was regular, wish it had been peanut butter but beggars can’t be chooosers.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 9th, 2012
4:07 pm

Ain’t nothing going on, just work, work,work….speaking of deserts…I had an oldie-but -goodie Raspberry Cream Cheesecake from the Factory this weekend….its was DEEEEEElicious!!!