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Judging the book

Single people can find themselves scrutinizing each other for every little thing. The problem starts when we find random things to judge each other about. Sometimes we have to find out right away, exactly what the flaws are.

We think that is a way to improve our dating odds, but it can have the opposite effect. Women notice how men have too many female friends. Instead of thinking this as a positive thing, we assume he has slept with all of them. Men notice that a woman has a great career. Instead of thinking she is ambitious and capable, they assume she has no idea how to put someone else first.

Judging a book by it’s cover – we do it all the time, I don’t know if we even know when we do it. Do you think you have a problem judging people too harshly?

Have you ever felt that someone judged you and made assumptions about you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
1:17 pm

Slim: Not the last time I saw him. Is your cousin the same Kevin Kinney who is the lead singer of the band drivin’ and cryin’?

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
1:18 pm

Drivin’ n Cryin’ were in Marietta last Sat at the 120 Tavern…I wish I had gone, but didn’t have the funds at the time…

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
1:19 pm

@Bluz: I didn’t know that. I’ve seen them a million times (conservative guess) but I always enjoy their shows. Peacemaker is the song stuck in my head….

And I still cannot get used to Sidelines being the 120 Tavern now. I still slip and call it Sidelines.

SlimUno

August 9th, 2012
1:22 pm

ITL – I’m going to go with no lol That would’ve been funny though

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
1:22 pm

Me too!!! I like it since they changed it to the 120 Tavern, though. I haven’t been in a while (it’s a bit of a trek for me). I’ve worked at a couple of benefits there.

I want to get back to Darwin’s on a Thursday night for their blues jam sometime soon. You ever go there anymore?

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
1:24 pm

If a good topic doesn’t come up soon, I’m gonna start talking! LOL!!!

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
1:30 pm

@Slim: It would have been a strange co-inkydink. Especially since I used to work with his sister-in-law. :eek:

@Bluz: Not too much, but I live less than 5 miles from there. I’d meet you!

i'm swiss

August 9th, 2012
1:30 pm

“I’m goin’ straight to hell
Just like my mama sa-aaaaid.
I’m goin’ staaaaaaaaaaaaaight to hell…”

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
1:31 pm

Heeeeey, Swiss. I was missing you earlier during Dawg Talk. :) AND…can I just tell you I saw the cutest UGA cheerleader doll last night? I’m thinking SuisseMochette Noelle needs one….. :)

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
1:34 pm

Sing it, Swissy! Now you’ve got that song stuck in my head instead of Peacemaker. ;)

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
1:34 pm

ITL – I’ll keep you posted. I plan to be able to get up and jam in a couple of months! I need to just go and watch the players and take my bass with me to try to emulate them.

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
1:36 pm

Dan ~ you sure dropping “karate expert” a lot today. Does this expert comes with a belt or just an expert on observations??? :wink:

“I did what I would’ve wanted someone to do for me; tried to earn the designation by doing what I was supposed to do (period).” EXACTLY!!!!

i'm swiss

August 9th, 2012
1:37 pm

Howdy, ITL! Yes, I’m restricted on how much UGA stuff I can buy for the little one, but if it’s a gift…. :)

BTW, I now have Drivin’ n’ Cryin’ stuck in my head.

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
1:41 pm

Gifts don’t count against the total UGA allowable, because you have no control over what your crazy blog pals buy….right!?!?!? :)

You’re welcome. You’ll be Scarred, but Smarter. LOLOL. I crack myself up with my puns.

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
1:42 pm

Do it. Bluz! I’ll make a poster to show support. :)

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
1:45 pm

You guys know how hard it is for me to hold back today so that I don’t dominate any discussions? LOL!

Thanks ITL!

Willie Dynamite

August 9th, 2012
1:46 pm

ITL – I’m here you know me. I pop in and out randomly. Whatchu got for me today?

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
1:46 pm

Off to lunch…ya’ll have about 20-30 minutes to come up with interesting topics! LOl

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
1:48 pm

Hey, Bluz. What if I make a poster that says, “Welcome to the House of Bluz!”???? ;)

Hey, WD. Just making sure you were still out there. I didn’t know if you were hanging up your racquet after your upset loss yesterday to C and me. :)

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
1:49 pm

Off to lunch…ya’ll have about 20-30 minutes to come up with interesting topics! LOl

:shock: Dayum, Gina! Look at Bluz gettin all bossy.

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
1:49 pm

Grew up just west of the tracks…

Good Times!

Sorry I had to dip out and catch up with a drug dealer for a minute. LOL!

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
1:51 pm

Uh oh, CC. Now it’s stuck in your head, too! :)

SlimUno

August 9th, 2012
1:51 pm

Bluz – You have something you’re busting loose to tell? That may hold us over for the next few hours lol

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
1:51 pm

If a good topic doesn’t come up soon, I’m gonna start talking! LOL!!!

Too funny….okay peeps, pipe up (lol)!

Willie Dynamite

August 9th, 2012
1:53 pm

ITL – what upset loss? Last I heard a chick swirl talking about frying bacon bucket nekkid is NOT a loss. Lol

czBrat

August 9th, 2012
1:57 pm

hey good people! what have i missed in blogsville? weddings? babies? promotions? what??

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
1:58 pm

ITL~ As soon as I read Drivin~N~Cryin. I used to go see them all the time, but I haven’t been lately. They were still a nobody band when I used to go. In fact, they played my junior dance which was held at the Blue Ridge School. (They were our brother school) and I got my first kiss to Honeysuckle Blue. :lol:

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
2:01 pm

LOL@WD. Mmmm hmmmm. You know we put you on the bench with your quilt – don’t front. ;)

@CC: I remember wearing out the Mystery Road cassette. Yep, cassette. :eek:

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
2:02 pm

czB ~ the most that’s going on now is fellow blogger Bluz having a self-identity crisis. Right now she says she wants only a FWB relationship with this guy she’s slept with twice, but her feelings are getting in the way and she won’t admit it. She’s trying to play it cool, but she’s failing like Forest Gumps’ dissertation on the Machinations of NASA! – Don’t know why I thought that, but I did!

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
2:02 pm

ITL~ Don’t forget his skillet. I saw him over there with his lip poked out…

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
2:02 pm

Hey CZ!! Long time, no read. :)

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
2:03 pm

@CC: Nah, C and I stole his skillet to fry our bacon in. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
2:03 pm

Damn, Leggs, not like Gump’s dissertation. :lol:

“NASA got space shuttles, space walkers, space rovers…” lolol!

czBrat

August 9th, 2012
2:06 pm

HiYa, light! yup. it’s been a while. how are ya?

she wants only a FWB relationship with this guy she’s slept with twice, but her feelings are getting in the way
she’s such a chick!
:lol:

Willie Dynamite

August 9th, 2012
2:06 pm

ITL – bench, shiiiiiiiiiiiid I had a great view in a recliner with a smoking jacket on drinking some scotch while admiring my handiwork. And next time I like my bacon a tad bit crispier. Hahaha

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
2:07 pm

Don’t forget Space Cadets! Remember the astronaunt that drove to kill her rival wearing a diaper!!!!

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
2:09 pm

@czB ~ stick around and you may have a bit more to add to “she’s such a chick!”

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
2:10 pm

Hey cz! I’m good. Just trying to hold it together and live the dream, you know?

@WD: You made me nervous staring at me while it was cooking, so that was not my best effort. I think I might’ve forgotten to salt and pepper your tomatoes, too. That smoking jacket just makes a girl feel some kinda way.
DISCLAIMER: some kinda way, but not any sort of way that is disrespectful to the real-life Mrs. Dynamite.

Comon Cents

August 9th, 2012
2:11 pm

Here’s something you can kick around:

My son (8th grade) is playing football this fall. At his school, extra curricular activities are an additional fee. Last year, it was $250 per sport. This year, they sent home a note saying it was increased to $550 per sport. I had previously discussed with his father that he needed to begin narrowing down his choices as opposed to going out for a sport every season simply because it is available. I told my son that he would have to pick one sport to play this year as opposed to the 3 (Football, Wrestling, & Soccer) he played last year. Both he and his father think I am being unfair to make him choose even though I will solely be the parent paying the expense. I feel as though he is moving into high school next year and it is time to begin narrowing down the sport he will concentrate on. The increase in fee just pushed my decision forward. (Footnote: I did also let both of them know that whatever sport he chose to focus on, I am willing to find extra activities he can do around that sport in the off seasons) Opinions?

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
2:11 pm

Leggs…I’m ready to admit that I may want more! Pretty sure he does too. Been texting almost non stop since last night…

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
2:11 pm

@WD: Wait….I just went back and re-read your post. Did you call me a bench? :lol: :lol:

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
2:12 pm

FINALLY!!!! How does it feel to confess, Bluz? :)

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
2:13 pm

CC – No way should it be that much money for each sport!!! That’s ri-di-cu-lous!!! I don’t think you are being unreasonable at all. Father needs to pay for one sport if he wants him to play more than one…

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
2:13 pm

ITL – feels much better to confess!!!

czBrat

August 9th, 2012
2:14 pm

it’s an olympic year, so go’on and live yo dream, girl. whatever it may be. :smile:

bluz, sweetie, whatchu up to? i’m guessing you’ve moved beyond dr. brit?

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
2:15 pm

cz – Dr. Brit is a bit of a puddy tat in my opinion. Haven’t texted at all since he said he was afraid he was being too flirty. Dropped him and haven’t looked back!

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
2:15 pm

Why you the only one footing the bill. I know, stay out of your kool-aid. The $300 increase would influence my decision as well. It’s so easy how someone not paying for it can chime in saying you’re being unfair.

Bluzgirl

August 9th, 2012
2:16 pm

Glad to see you back, czB!

Into the Light

August 9th, 2012
2:16 pm

My initial reaction would be that it might be too early to decide (developmentally) which sport is the best fit for him. Those fees are a bit much, though.

OFF TOPIC: How about some a-hole just dusted the hallway in front of my office. That stink drifted straight to me. Bluz, I hope that bail offer is still good, bc I might need it. CC, I might need a lawyer, too.

Leggs

August 9th, 2012
2:17 pm

Pretty sure he does too. Been texting almost non stop since last night…

No, Bluz, unless he has said so in those many texts, you’re not sure of anything. One thing you can be sure of is him keeping his pinky toe in the door. Never say what another wants until you hear them say it themselves.