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Right personality for marriage?

I was having brunch with my brunch chicas this weekend when the topic of marriage came up. I jokingly commented that having a husband that lived in the house across the street or next door sounds perfect!

I think a lot of single people who have not been married before have this fear (unhealthy?) of what life would be like living with someone else. Especially when you actually love living alone, in your space, doing secret single person behavior things all alone.

I wonder if it takes a certain type of personality to adapt to marriage and make those adjustments to living with a mate? Maybe some people find it easier than others.

Do you think some people just have the ideal personality to be married?
How can you know if you are that type? How can you tell if you have what it takes to be someone’s spouse?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

654 comments Add your comment

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:57 am

Maybe not across the street, but separate bedrooms would be great (LOL). But how can a single person that’s never been married answer this? You don’t know what you don’t know.

Bell with Wisdom

August 8th, 2012
7:30 am

My Beau would need a man cave and his own bathroom on the other side of the house….real talk.

Lily

August 8th, 2012
7:41 am

Do you qualify as marriage material or the subject matter expert if you aren’t married? Guess I’ll leave this to the pros and Exiled.

oddmanout

August 8th, 2012
7:43 am

Good Morning!!

Marriage. My Greatest Foe.
I do fear marriage because I have seen and heard so many of therm end in disaster. I don’t think personality has a lot to do with it, however commitment and compromise does. But that is just me.

Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
8:05 am

Diva,? you luv living alone..then don’t talk marriage…its as simple as that..

Not that I have even an iota of belief that there are many women out there who prefer to live with cats and dogs than a man with a warm stick.

Many women resort to living with pets out of failure and loneliness!

And the failed to marry woman always resorts to denigrating the idea of marriage,dissuading the young and bouncy thinking marriage or falsely pumping up her independence as a reason for men not gravitating to them blah blah blah hogwash!

But the unhappy contortion on your face on calm days betrays you! Angry,frustrated,failure and lonely. And negative! Negative on men!

Talk men and she is always scowling! :lol:

Coz her kitty hasn’t had a dick shuffle to make her relax and smile. :lol:

Good morning. :lol:

Lily

August 8th, 2012
8:08 am

And there you have it! I knew you’d come through :)

Big Al

August 8th, 2012
8:08 am

50% of all marriages end in divorce. The other 50% end in death. I don’t like divorce or death, so I’ll just stay single.

Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
8:08 am

Hope I made you proud Lily!

Lily

August 8th, 2012
8:11 am

As always!

Good day!

ThirdWheel

August 8th, 2012
8:54 am

I am wife material but, the men out there are not hubsand material. I have lived with a man and I have to say that if I decide to do it again he will have his own bathroom. Men are more nastier than woman!!! Yuck!! Also if you snore or scratch your butt in your sleep you can go ahead and get your own room too…. YUCK!!!!

disco

August 8th, 2012
8:58 am

good morning. joke or no joke I can see the appeal in the separate living arrangements. I’ve joked that a duplex would be ideal. we’re in the same house but each have separate apartments. I suppose a home with a split floorplan would work too.

ex – I know a lot of folks are into pets. I’m not the one. I’m not really a nurturer so a pet wouldn’t have much of a chance in my care. I don’t even have plants.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
9:00 am

Morning!

More and more I’m finding myself, “not having anything on topic.” lololol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
9:09 am

Yea ThirdWheel if YOU snore or scratch your own butt (LOL)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
9:11 am

I was watching TV land the other day and the Dick Van Dyke show was on, I was looking at the twin beds, thinking, dang that would be nice (LOL)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
9:11 am

Mike P

August 8th, 2012
9:11 am

Yes having a marriage personality is essential.

Women: the more feminine, submissive, and pleasant her personality, the more likely “real” men will see her marriage worthy, but most importantly, she will see herself as being “ready” for marriage.

Men: assuming we want to get married at all: we either become ready, or make our way to be ready for marriage, but only when we see a marriage worthy woman in our midst.

Co-sign on Mellooo’s 8:05 am post.

morning

Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
9:15 am

Thirdwheel?

U need a Mandingo eye wash!

Problem is not the men problem is the men U see!

See,folks can’t define the problem… so they go about looking at the wrong places.

@Disco so u won’t look for a pet,Good!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
9:16 am

Mike P, how do you “become ready or make your way to be ready”?

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
9:16 am

I hope to be wife material to the right husband. I enjoy living alone, but it was nice when I lived with a man for almost 2 years. It all depends. Won’t know about all of this until I’m there!

ex – I’m an animal lover and I have cats because I love them, not out of failure and lonliness…

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
9:17 am

Disco I’m with you on the pets, if it doesn’t have the potential of getting out getting a job one day, don’t need it in my house (LOL)

Mike P

August 8th, 2012
9:21 am

@ThirdWheel: you may see yourself as wifey material, but do the men in your circle agree? maybe you are choosing the wrong types of men.

This isn’t directed to you specifically, it’s just I personally know alot of women who claim that they want to get married or are ready for marriage, but their attitudes, their behaviors, actions, lifestyles, desires , and their choice in men directly conflicts with what they claim they or want in life. smh.

Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
9:26 am

Bluz!

U are lonely that’s why u have/ ‘luv’ pets….no sooner had u thrown a dude out and u go and get urself another dude ‘friend’

If u don’t get married u going to breed them,I can tell u that!
:lol:

disco

August 8th, 2012
9:26 am

S/H – you crazy.

as for the whole marriage material and compatibility issue, my thoughts are that I like my life as it is. any man that enters my life needs to fit into it – as it is. if I have to make too many changes and adjustments then he’s not a good fit as far as I’m concerned.

Mike P – you know every woman thinks she’s a good woman. almost every man thinks he’s a good man. I say almost because you do run into men that will take you they aren’t worth a damn. (I just watched juice last night. still got tupac/bishop on the brain. “I ain’t isht. I ain’t never gonna be isht.”

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
9:32 am

While I think that there are cartain people who are not suited to marriage, there is nothing better than waking up consistently next to the one you love. When I look at my hubby, I often think to myself “Wow! And he’s all mine!” I like knowing that he is legally bound to me (maybe a side effect of my career?) Shacking just wouldn’t be the same. I also think that even though 50% of marriages end in divorce, many more dating relationships end in breakups because it is much easier to throw in the towel when you are not legally bound to that person.

ThirdWheel

August 8th, 2012
9:32 am

@Mike P Yes, a lot of the men I hang around just as friends tell me I am a good woman and that I will make a wonderful wife one day. My ex begged me to marry him everyday after we broke up and has told me a million times that I will make someone a happy hubsand. I just tend to pick men who are not mature and not ready for the same thing that I am looking for. I have come to the conclusion that maybe I am better off alone since I seem to keep picking duds. I don’t need a men as desperately as some of my friends do. I find that behavior rather sad…..

@Single and Happy you sound like my dad…. If it can’t work then it can’t eat… LOL

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
9:33 am

Ex – I’ve had pets all of my life. Nothing to do with lonliness. I have volunteered at animal shelters for many years.

And…it has been 6 months since I kicked ex out…

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
9:33 am

I don’t know exactly about the personalty part.

However, if you are with the right person, things work out. It may take time for the two of you to figure it out, so patience will be needed.

As for me & mine, we have our own lives and figure things out from there. There are times where the two of us really need to be around each other a lot and there are times that she does her thing and I do mine. We just take the approach that we both live our lives and we are taking the other along for the ride.

So, it is what works for the two of you.

Mike P

August 8th, 2012
9:38 am

@Single and Happy: its depends on the individual man. each man is different and have his own set of issues he has to address before he’ll be ready to move in that direction towards marrying the girl of his interest; mainly its a mindset change, sometimes its financial, or getting a stable dwelling place suitable for raising a family. Think about it, what since would it make for a man to pursue a woman, propose to her, and then marry her if he himself isn’t ready?

Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
9:41 am

Common!

U argued like the Prosecutor u are,good job!

I almost forgot that single folks break up too,jeeving and jiving as they see fit with no accountability to nobody.

You trashed the divorce excuse coz I tell u,there is an lonely and unhappy single woman right now fronting with that divorce hogwash. :lol:

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
9:43 am

This isn’t directed to you specifically, it’s just I personally know alot of women who claim that they want to get married or are ready for marriage, but their attitudes, their behaviors, actions, lifestyles, desires , and their choice in men directly conflicts with what they claim they or want in life. smh.

The problem with most women is that they are more concerned about the wedding than the marriage. Little girls grow up playing with “bridal Barbie” and dreaming of finding their “Ken” while little boys grow up playing with GI Joe and not tinking about weddings or marriage. When two ideals are that far apart, the relationship is doomed to fail. Most women (in their first marriage) have no idea what it takes to actually be a wife. And most men have no idea what being a husband means. Unless there is a very quick learning curve, the marriage will fail.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
9:45 am

“I do fear marriage because I have seen and heard so many of therm end in disaster.” – This here is a major problem on how people look at marriage/divorce. A marriage is what you’re willing to put into it. It is a partnership and should be treated as a emotional business arrangement. If you were in business, you would do everything to make sure it didn’t fail. Same premise with a marriage. And, if there were to be a demise to the relationship, it doesn’t have to be a disaster. Again, it’s how YOU decide to handle it. It can either be done like little kids in the sandbox always fighting, or it can be handled with an adult attitude leaving all vindictiveness and spitefulness out of the picture. It can be done, if you want it that way.

Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
9:45 am

Bluz…u volunteer?

Dont u know volunteering is one of the
MIA blog’s favorite. single females therapies for loneliness and finding company? :lol:

(is my medicine too strong this morning?) :lol:

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
9:45 am

Nice to read you Poppa G.

Good morning!

disco

August 8th, 2012
9:47 am

Ex – fyi, there are lonely married people too. I’m sure you’ve heard that alone doesn’t mean lonely BUT if I absolutely have to be lonely I’d rather be lonely alone than lonely with someone. that’s gotta suck.

Mike P

August 8th, 2012
9:49 am

@ThirdWheel: picking duds don’t mean you should live the rest of your life alone, it just mean that you need to choose better; choose high quality men who can recognize your worth and stop being so picky with the men in your life. everybody has flaws.

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
9:50 am

Hi Leggs :grin:

It is nice to read and be read.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
9:57 am

disco~ I agree 100%. There are many married couples living lives of quiet desperation. They are lonely and unhappy and bitter. Some of that is the reason for the bad rap that marriage gets. Better to move on to what is for you than to remain in any relationship that is not healthy- married or otherwise.

Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
10:00 am

Hey Poppa!

@Disco…I have heard the phrase ‘ being alone don’t mean I’m lonely’ being expounded by a loner..much like urself.

I question their impartiality or partiality on that.

No single unmarried woman will admit anything in ya face :lol:

except to another sister she knows.

Church! :lol:

ThirdWheel

August 8th, 2012
10:02 am

@MikeP You are right!
@CC You are right about the marriage. I look at my parents and they are both living in He$$. But my dad says it cheaper to keep her and his mother did the same thing. You just deal with it. He tells me I should stay with my ex and deal with it but, I said no way!! I’m not trying to be unhappy just to say that I am married. Bump that!

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
10:03 am

Poppa G ~ your statement reminded me of what a co-worker said last week. He’s going through Chemo and when I saw him last week, I said “it’s good to see you.” He said “It’s good to be seen.”

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
10:04 am

Hey Mel :oops: I mean Exiled!

I trust that things are going well for ya!

I Just GOTTA Ask

August 8th, 2012
10:05 am

Did Mike P get married or something?

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
10:07 am

Leggs

I understand that statement. Life has its way of humbling us from time to time. As you live and learn, it is truly good to be seen and heard. :smile:

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
10:08 am

Ex!~ Being alone doesn’t always mean you’re lonely. In fact, I would submit to you that until you are able to be alone and not be lonely you won’t ever have a realtionship that works. I always tell the hubs “I don’t need you, but I do want you”. In other words, do I need him to make my life work? No. But he enriches my life. That is definitely a key to a healthy relationship. You have to enrich each other rather than needing each other.

Into the Light - Bye Bye Shady, I Got No Time for You

August 8th, 2012
10:11 am

Good morning, all!

Nothing to add on topic. Just happy to be here and reveling in the difference a day can make. :)

disco

August 8th, 2012
10:12 am

ex – fine. I’ll be today’s poster child for unmarried women. I’m not lonely (but I argue that everyone is lonely some time). I don’t have, have never had and likely never will have a pet. I volunteer on occasion though I don’t volunteer because I’m bored or lonely. I volunteer because sometimes it’s just the right thing to do. I volunteer because I have the time, the expertise, the desire to help others and I know that you get out what you put in. I’ve needed help before and before I leave here I’ll likely need help again. what else you got in your arsenal against the unmarried woman?

Into the Light - Bye Bye Shady, I Got No Time for You

August 8th, 2012
10:12 am

You have to enrich each other rather than needing each other

Worth repeating

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
10:13 am

Ex – Most of my volunteer work has been while I was boo’d up. I also volunteer for a bipolar research fund. I enjoy volunteering and I meet lots of new people…

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
10:14 am

Good Morning, ITL!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:14 am

Are we done with the diatribe on woman and their woes??? Seriously?? Bluzy, y’all better stop taking advice from folks behind a screen. Heck yeah it’s a perfect world (for some), on a blog.

lolalee

August 8th, 2012
10:16 am

Better to move on to what is for you than to remain in any relationship that is not healthy- married or otherwise.

Comon ~ well that’s part of the problem that causes a high divorce rate — people move on too quickly and easily becuase they aren’t happy. Mostly I think that’s because they think everything is going to be a honeymoon forever. Or they have the attitude (like somebody said above!) of ‘you have to fit into MY life’, instead of ‘let’s build OUR life together.’

Of course, it matters what “healthy” means in the relationship. Bored, bitter, unhappy… not a reason to walk away. Abused, dangerous… a reason to walk away.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
10:16 am

disco~ No matter what you say, some people will believe you are lonely rather than being alone because you are not willing to settle. To them, give them your a$$ to kiss. ou are going about it te right way, and when you finally do settle down, it will be with the person of your choosing rhather than settling for something less than your expectations. As my grandmother used to say “Marry in haste and repent in leisure”

Into the Light - Bye Bye Shady, I Got No Time for You

August 8th, 2012
10:16 am

LOL! Bluz said “boo’d up”….the blog vernacular kinda rubs off on you, doesn’t it? :lol:

Morning, CC! :)

Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
10:18 am

Common..

I’m alone in the house slot of times while Queen and kids are up and about. I like the peacefulness smetines

But alone ur entire life and not be lonely?

I challenge u Common..at some point a sister will get a pet

Believe that.

Into the Light - Bye Bye Shady, I Got No Time for You

August 8th, 2012
10:19 am

Anybody else hear that oinking? Is someone playing barnyard noises??? Oh, no, wait….it’s just our resident chauvenist pig. :lol:

Blog love ya, Ex!! ;)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:20 am

Comon Cents – No matter what you say, some people will believe you are lonely rather than being alone because you are not willing to settle. To them, give them your a$$ to kiss.

Now, THIS I can agree with. It ain’tcha damn business what I’m doing…lololol And you assume because I haven’t said? Um, okay

disco

August 8th, 2012
10:20 am

a lot of folks have commented on how quickly and how easily folks seem to be willing to leave a marriage. I agree that maybe they don’t put as much work into as they can or should but I also believe that people are more likely to get married on a whim than to get divorced on a whim. it’s been my experience that folks contemplate divorce for a long time before they actually get to the point of filing for it.

CC – I know. thing is I’m the only expert on me.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
10:23 am

Yes indeed, Poppa G. Yes indeed!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:23 am

Mmeello – You have a really warped mind and attitude against women overall. I love you to death (blogly) but I don’t take a lot of what you say to heart. You seem jaded against women. I don’t know if it’s cultural but you really need to catch up with the times.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
10:24 am

ITL – Good morning! I tried to submit something to you on Draw Something again and it wouldn’t let me. Try me using my email address…

disco

August 8th, 2012
10:25 am

C – he’s just lonely and he comes on the blog trying to fill the void in his life. lol.

Into the Light - Bye Bye Shady, I Got No Time for You

August 8th, 2012
10:25 am

@C: I knew I wasn’t the only one that heard that oinking (my 10:19 and your 10:23). :lol: :lol:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:25 am

disco – LOL…I was thinking he can’t play like them other dudes and because of such, he beats up on women.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
10:25 am

Comon at your 9:43, that’s sounds like my philosophy when it comes to men having midlife crises (which single men don’t have by the way) The women are saying the men need to grow up, my argument is the women never grew up, most of them had the life they always dreamed about, the grew up playing house and weddings, and that lived that life. Most men grew up playing with cars, having dream cars only to put that aside when they got married and had kids. So when the kids get old and out the house that’s what they go back too.

Into the Light - Bye Bye Shady, I Got No Time for You

August 8th, 2012
10:26 am

@disco: Maybe he should get a pet. :lol:

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
10:26 am

Bored, bitter, unhappy… not a reason to walk away. Abused, dangerous… a reason to walk away.

Bred bitter and unhappy are reasons to walk away if one is not willing to put in the effort to change those things. People always say a marriage is 50/50. It’s not. It’s 100/100. At the point at which we are not willing or able to each give 100%, the relationship will suffer. You can only suffer in silence for so long before the relationship becomes stagnant and unhealthy. And stangnant+unhealthy = dangerous/abusive. I have to love me one hunnert before I can love anyone else one hunnert and if I allow myself to stay in an unhealthy (aka abusive) relationship, I am not loving me.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:26 am

ITL – Notice he’s absent unless it’s freaky freak or an opportunity to trash and rag on women.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
10:26 am

ITL – Yes…I have never ever used the term “Boo’d Up” in real life! LOL!

Cel – Obviously, I don’t always take advice from people behind a screen. :-)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:29 am

Bluzy – Cause you know, most are degreed experts in blogsville…lol Notice how all the scenarios are rightly played out with if you do this you’ll get that or because you’re this, that’s not going to happen. Or, BECOME THE SLUT YOU WERE MEANT TO BE AND SEE IF YOU WON’T BREED CATS….lolol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
10:29 am

Disco @your 9:26, you mean you can’t teach and old cat any new trick either (LOL) I love when a woman tells me I’m old and set in my ways, (hell like they aren’t) LOL After people get past a certain age and are used to living and doing things a certain way, there is no changing, there may be some compromise, but not much changing.

disco

August 8th, 2012
10:30 am

ITL – or volunteer. lol.

Into the Light - Bye Bye Shady, I Got No Time for You

August 8th, 2012
10:30 am

Bluz: Sending it in just a minute. :)

C- I know, right? But you know he tries to come across all mean, but I bet you Queen has him wrapped around her little finger. ;)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
10:31 am

Exile, I’ve live alone since I left my parents house, don’t believe in shacking, and traveled alone, but I’ve never been lonely.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:31 am

ITL – He betnot sniff anywhere but around Queen. We already knows he’s bark is WAAAAY worst than his bite. Yet he promotes getting laid more than any man I’ve seen blogly (well, maybe not)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
10:32 am

I challenge u Common..at some point a sister will get a pet

Challenge taken. My sister in law is in her late 40’s. Never been married. No children. No pets. However, I will tell you she has one of the most enriched lives I have ever seen. She has a very good job, travels at will, nice house, and nice cars. She has dated but she finds that men these days don’t live up to the standards of men like her father and she refuses to settle. She is currently dating a guy who may be her soul mate. He seems to be a great guy. But I would tell you that what attracted him to her is that her life was full without him. They enrich each other. I believe in togetherness, but you have to also be separate. Like guitar strings; we are separate, but together we can make beautiful music. (Poetic enough for you this morning?)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:33 am

we already know his….is what I meant.

I guess I’m wondering if it’s cultural. Meaning, I don’t get degrading and betting up on sisters…your sisters I don’t get taking EVERY opportunity to trash. I don’t.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
10:33 am

Cel…I think I’ve learned what to listen to and what NOT to listen to! LOL

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:34 am

Bluzy – Good girl!! :) :)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
10:36 am

“at some point a sister will get a pet” In the neighborhood I used to live in there were several single women when I was a child and majority of them didn’t have pets. No cat ladies there (LOL)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
10:36 am

I did the marriage once a upon time and enjoyed it, it wasn’t for forever but that’s life. I love living alone and I would never say never to it again. I don’t see where it has anything to do with my personality and I certainly don’t feel lonely. I do realize if I were to get on the road to exclusivity I would need to make a few changes in my lifestyle.

Good Morning ATL:

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
10:36 am

CC – I like that analogy!

One of my closest friends didn’t find her soul mate until in her 40’s…that gives me hope! I can say that I thought my ex was my soul mate and that showed me that I have a lot to learn!!! I will wait until I know it is right because I plan to only marry one time!

disco

August 8th, 2012
10:38 am

lawd y’all done exiled exiled again? lol. come on back ex. I know you aren’t scared of the comments of a bunch of lonely, bitter, unhappy women.

single and happy – you probably grew up around women who had a hard enough time trying to make sure their kids ate. women like that aren’t checking for any daggone pets. lol.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
10:39 am

Heeeeey, BF!

@C: I know, right? He talks the talk, but I know who makes him toe the line. Shoot, Queen rules that roost!

@disco: Or volunteer with pets! :lol:

@Bluz: Girl, you are gonna crack up when you see my pitiful drawing. It’s sad. :(

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:40 am

ITL – LOLOLOL

disco – Smile….lol

Robert

August 8th, 2012
10:43 am

“How can you tell if you have what it takes to be someone’s spouse?”

Robert’s Rules of Dating – Top 10

Men & Women -
1. Maturity. Ready to make the right choices. Act like an adult not like a child.
2. Confidence – Not too jealous or protective. Get rid of all cell phones and other gadgets.
3. Committment – Understands that love is not a “four letter word”.
4. Respect – Each others space and time.
5. Compromise – Rather than fight. Be flexable.
6. Dependable – Can be counted on to do the little things as well as the big things.
7. Trustworthy – Tells the truth-the-whole truth-and nothing but the truth – all the time.
8. Responsible – Goes to work and provides for the family. Pays the bills.
9. Personal Appearance – Live a healthly lifestyle. Eat the right foods. Diet and excersize.
10 Passion & Desire – Find quality time everyday (hugs, kisses, etc.). Never forget to “love”.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
10:43 am

Disco, the ones I’m thinking about kids were grown and gone, and you know in those days they didn’t come back, so it wasn’t that.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
10:44 am

ITL – don’t feel bad…I’ve done some pitiful drawings myself!!!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:44 am

I am caracking up….all that comes to mind is what James said to Florida

“women ain’t good for nothing but two things….the kitchen and the bedroom”

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
10:44 am

Morning All,
O boy, I think I’ll co sign Poppa G’s post this morning. I will say that per the topic there is a right personality for Marriage. The biggest personality I see I see is folks are downright selfish. I dont/wont knock a person for it because I too was selfish for most of my life. I will also admit the times I’ve had Marital problems are when I was being selfish. Being selfish is counter to compromise. Without compromise there is no Marriage. Just a small snippet and we haven’t even gotten into Love, compatibility, trust etc etc.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
10:45 am

Robert’s Rules of Dating – Top 10

Dang, guess I’ll never get married (LOL)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
10:46 am

“The kitchen and the bedroom, Florida, the kitchen and the bedroom!”

Lawd, I can still see him standing there in those corduroys, nostrils flaring, big juicy lips just ripe for…
(never mind….y’all go on without me for a few….)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:48 am

ITL – “Don’t say it James, don’t say it!”

disco

August 8th, 2012
10:48 am

celisea – and that’s only if the woman can actually cook. let’s face it. there are a lot of non-cooking women out there. non-cooking as in can’t and non-cooking as in won’t.

ITL – you can go there. makes me feel not so bad about my “ugly” crushes. I swear the other day I was watching get rich or die trying and I was so caught up in what I would do to 50 cent that I could hardly watch the movie.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:50 am

disco – I’m mostly seeing “won’t”…lol That would be me. I’ve done my share of cooking. I’ll cook on occasion and for “special” events but as a whole, nuh uh. I’m done in that department.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
10:50 am

LOL@C.

J: “women ain’t good for nothing but two things”
F: “Don’t say it James, don’t say it!”
J: “The kitchen and the bedroom, Florida, the kitchen and the bedroom!”

Shoot, Flo can have the kitchen, I’ll handle the bedroom. :oops:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:51 am

ITL – You MUST be equipped with both to be that “whole” complete woman…lol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
10:52 am

Cel, so it goes Him: what we having for dinner, You: I don’t know but what ever you stop and get bring me some too (LOL)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
10:52 am

Morning lady’s I don’t fall for the lonely stuff, too many things going on in my world. Living alone I have the satisfaction of friends coming over and doing get togethers, nobody is sexing each other just good ole damn times. When a nice lady emerges my friends know how to back off and let us be. Still she knows what type of life I have and is included along with the friends. I get whooped up by them a lot because I change women too often.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
10:53 am

Don’t get me wrong – I love to cook. But it’s just not as much fun cooking for one as it is cooking for my boo (when I’m boo’d up….:lol: BLUZ!)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:55 am

I guess my thing is and will likely always be, I don’t have it much for men that pounce on women and all that they’re not, hand out lists, yada yada yada but will NEVER skip on an opportunity for ass. I see Robert’s little wholistic list but in peeking in, I saw him hop on the FWB issue. Yeah, you let your hair down didn’t you…lolololol

If women are soooo bad, please, please by all means, skip on ass until you’ve found one that’s just the perfect one for you. Otherwise, you are marring and tainting the next dude’s woman.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
10:56 am

I get whooped up by them a lot because I change women too often.

:shock: Who are you, and what have you done with my BBB???

That’s twice now the wool has slipped a little and I’ve seen your wolf ears poking out, BF. :lol:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:56 am

Single and Happy – See, that’s where you’re wrong and didn’t read in between the lines…lol I will cook for him. But seeing I’m not shacking or cohabitating, that’s on occasion. To feed myself and kid, I’m not doing a lot of cooking.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
10:57 am

I do not like to cook, but will if I have to. I’ve been blessed to have men who like to cook! I called my mom laughing because I realized that I now have 7 boxes of cereal in my house…that’s how you can tell that I’m single! LOL

disco

August 8th, 2012
10:57 am

C – skip the booty? what you talking about willis?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
10:58 am

Cel, what’s in between the lines (LOL)

disco – I’m mostly seeing “won’t”…lol That would be me. I’ve done my share of cooking. I’ll cook on occasion and for “special” events but as a whole, nuh uh. I’m DONE in that department.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
10:59 am

disco – Dudes listing and handing out the dos and donts. They don’t see enough flaws though to turn down a good romp…lol Dont accept, partake, engage, indulge in ass until the candidate meet all requirements.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
11:00 am

Cel, all I saw we him stopping by Applebees to pick up the order you called in (LOL)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:00 am

Stamps: Soooo, do YOU cook?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:00 am

Single and Happy – I’ll cook on occasion and for “special” events. I like being tightlipped.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:00 am

Single and Happy – Yet again, wrong..I don’t do Applebees…at all anymore.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
11:01 am

Cel Disco, you don’t turn down good puddy (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:02 am

Single and Happy – That works though…lol Call in an order and ask him to grab it on his way over.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:02 am

Bluzy – I like cereal for a snack :)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
11:03 am

ITL yes I can cook, have to eat (LOL) I learned how to cook in high school, we had a class like home ec for guys called bachelor apartment living (LOL) that’s why I’m still single, I got schooled early (LOL)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:04 am

Bachelor Apartment Living? Were Wally Cleaver and Eddy Haskell in your class??? :lol: :lol:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:04 am

Blackfoote – I like your 10:52…except where your fangs peeked out a bit….lol

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
11:05 am

Cooking dont/wont is a compatibility issue. Most women that don’t will cook when they have a SO. Some women won’t. If that’s the case and you want home cooked meals then you better choose someone that will. I love to cook and Lord knows I didn’t choose my Wife for her cooking. Hahaha

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:05 am

ITL – LOLOLOLOLOLOL

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
11:05 am

ITL, oh I see you work at the punch line (LOL) they were 2 years ahead of me (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:05 am

WillieD – Hey there. I saw you cutting up yesterday…lol

disco

August 8th, 2012
11:07 am

S/H – I won’t front. I have ordered take out plenty of times for old boy to pick up. can’t just be cooking all willy nilly for just anybody. there’s some hungry A men out there. lol.

I’m curious. ladies – (and guys too I suppose) – what is your “gotcha” meal? I joke that my chicken and dumplings with cornbread will have you snoring in less than 30 minutes. it’s always funny to watch folks get their grub on and then go to nodding. a time or two a guy has missed the game because he fell asleep. waking up asking me why I didn’t wake him up. lol.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:07 am

Single and Happy – Thing is, I can cook. Not like my mama, but pretty decent.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:08 am

disco – My gotcha meal is the typical, fried chicken, collards, potato salad and cornborn (on top of the stove).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:09 am

Light

My lady friends are used to me. They know I have the wolf tendecy and will treat a lady nice and with respect.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
11:09 am

“…at some point a sister will get a pet” – I know this for sure, if I didn’t have a child and lived alone, no pet would keep me company. Never been a pet person. So, in that regard, I won’t be one of the stats for Stanley Q’s thesis on single women and cats!

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
11:10 am

Cel – I keep cereal around for my Ambien eating or when I just don’t feel like cooking anything.

When I do cook a real meal, it always tastes good. I guess I just don’t like to cook for myself and then I get lucky and find men who want to cook for me!

disco

August 8th, 2012
11:10 am

a Jamaican friend makes rice and peas. folks can’t get enough. when my son was younger he used to offer to do chores (i.e. wash her car) in exchange for her cooking rice and peas.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:10 am

Oh, and I grill really well :) :) From firing it up to cleaning the grill when done.

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
11:11 am

Morning Gang! Hey Pops, what’s shakin? Ready for dem twins?LOL!!

I do agree there are certain people that seem to take to marriage more easily than others. I think it’s a combo of things. Some meet their soul mate early and marry early, so even if the marriage ends, they have gotten used to the lifestyle. Others, like me, married later. It did take some getting used to, living with another person, which I had not done since leaving my parents home after college. I never had any roommates after college and never shacked with a dude.

What made my transition easier was 2 things – choosing the right man and having a compromising attitude with that man and the situation. In getting to know him I saw that he was someone I could see myself living with without going thru alot of changes. He had great personal hygiene habits and while somewhat of a packrat, kept his home fairly neat considering he had young kids. He’s not clingy so he doesn’t need to be all on top of me all the time. We love to spend time with each other, yet we both have our own interests. Like CC said, which I love, we ENRICH our already full lives.

If my husband had been any other way, clingy and always keeping tabs on me, didn’t have his own interests/hobbies or friends, poor personal hygiene/nasty – we would not be married today, you can take that to the bank.

Pets – never been an animal lover at all. Now THAT was something I had to get used to cause he has 2 cats. They are cute and low maintenance so that helps!LOL!! We have fish too – he takes care of the aquarium and he cleans up the litter box. All good for me!LOL!

Those that feel the need to quote divorce stats all the time as an excuse for not wanting to commit to marriage – bull! What do other folks failures have to do with you?

I was never one that dreamed about weddings. Maybe that has to do with how I was brought up. But I hate to hear people put down women that are excited about their wedding and think that’s all they care about. The wedding is one day. If a woman really is all about the wedding and not the actual marriage, the man should have seen the shallowness when they dated. They both are still to blame for the failure should they divorce.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
11:11 am

Disco, I feel you on those hungry a** men, was over one of my friends house and she was cooking dinner for us like she was cooking for an army I asked her who else was coming to dinner, she said all the men she knew could eat, so she assumed I did too (LOL)

My gotcha would be any kind of beef with REAL mash potatoes, nothing out of a box.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:12 am

Couldn’t help it, C….it was just right there, you know? :lol:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:12 am

ITL – Yep…lol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
11:13 am

Cel I once dated a girl who had collards and rolls, WTH (LOL)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:14 am

LOL……..@Cely I have to be truthful. Once a bad wolf, turn over new leaf now a good wolf.

i'm swiss

August 8th, 2012
11:15 am

“Hey Pops, what’s shakin? Ready for dem twins?”

Wait… Is kimmie about to flash her titTAYs to PG? Or is PG actually having twins? Either way, congrats, PG!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:15 am

Single and Happy – My face twitched…lol Collards can only be had with cornbread. Ewwww…a roll?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:15 am

Blackfoote – Good wolf is oxymoronic…lol But I hear ya.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
11:16 am

For the guys, how many of you have dated a women who couldn’t cook, but had them good bedroom skills. So you didn’t tell her?

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
11:16 am

Black – when they back you in the corner don’t growl. Sheep don’t have fangs. Welcome back again. Hahaha

Cel – I saw you dipped out so somebody had to cut up a lil bit.

Disco – I have a few goto meals. Depends on the lady and her likes. A good seafood pasta with a homemade (no jar stuff) Alfredo usually sealed the deal.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
11:16 am

My gotcha meal would be oxtails and rice. I throw so collard/kale/mustard greens on the side with iron skillet cornbread and fresh made sweet tea.

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
11:17 am

Even though I love to cook and can throw down, it’s never “gotten” me a man. I guess dudes don’t care about that as much as they did in the past, at least those I came across. My husband appreciates my cooking, but it would not have been a dealbreaker. I’ve seen dudes claim they want a woman that cooks marry chicks that can’t boil water.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:18 am

WillieD – Just the right one for getting things riled up…lol It’s all good though. You alright with me.

Blackfoote – You might want to get your sheepwear repaired before claiming sheepdom…lololol

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:19 am

WD

Cosign that 11:05 a.m.

My wife is an excellent cook, but I do the majority of the daily meals.

Even though she can throw down, I did not marry Mrs. PG for her CULINARY skills.

I guess for some people that cooking is a deal breaker.

I was a bachelor for many years and I had to eat. I needed to eat healthy b/c of my job. Therefore, eating out alot was really an option. My grandma taught me how to cook, iron, etc. My mom taught me how to sew. My dad & I worked on automobiles and yardwork and gardening. I had life skills and the people who raised me made sure that I wasn’t dependent on any female. They all wanted me to stand on my own two. That is what parents/elders are supposed to do. They did a great job. I didn’t like it all the time. I remember pouting a time or two because I wanted to hang with my boys and go scoping for Tooties. (I was a huge Kim Fields fan growing up. I wanted a girl like Tootie.)

Yeah, I am old as dirt….so what?! :grin:

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
11:19 am

Swiss – I’m talking babies and you know it!!LOL!!!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:19 am

Blackfoote – I think your ears and fangs a peeking out a bit.

disco

August 8th, 2012
11:19 am

S/H – a couple of times I have been called out by guys because I didn’t put enough food on their plates.

C – in a bind (translation: cornbread shortage) I’ve eaten greens with white bread. it’s been a very, very long time though. I was just sitting here shaking my head thinking to myself how much I love some good cornbread made in a cast iron pan.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:20 am

I love it when men can cook. I mean can REALLY cook.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:20 am

disco – I will eat greens alone before eating with sandwich bread. If I can’t have cornbread with them, then just greens will do.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:21 am

WolfBF: Learn something new everyday. :)

Stamps: Yeah, I got jokes. Might still be a little mojito running through the blood stream today. :)

Heeeeey, Swiss. Heeeey, Kimmie. 24 more days! Season tickets arrived last week. SWEET!

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:21 am

@Bluz: Holy shadoozle! I can’t believe you guessed that. I was looking at it thinking, she’ll never believe this was supposed to be a kangaroo! :lol:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:22 am

I heard cast iron skillets are the best for frying chicken and making cornbread. I have a set given to me by my nephew that’s not even been tempered yet…lol The set is still in the box.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
11:22 am

Just won CCA for a co-worker. I snatched her from the hallway asking if she wanted concert tix. She won (from my phone)…I’m cracking up because I have a majic telephone. She’s over here dancing at my desk.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:24 am

C: An iron skillet is a must for really good cornbread. I always put a little bacon grease (or oil, if I don’t have bacon grease) in, get it good and piping hot, and then add the cornbread batter. Makes a beautiful, crisy crust every time. ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:24 am

As far as cooking goes I like cooking, I like restaurant cooking without all the fancy trappings. A nice bone-in rib eye and a potatoe will get the juices flowing. I cook a good linguini, alfredo sauce with shrimp and king crab legs. One of my favorite meals to do, then there is the grill 24/7/365.

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:26 am

Hey Suisse

Unfortunately, we lost the twins. :sad: One kicked the other, umbilical cords got twisted, and things happened. Truth be told, Mrs. PG is lucky to have made it through the emergency procedure because of her severe blood loss.

Hey, we are still making it okay, though. We take it day by day. I think that we will probably adopt, but right now it is a bit too soon.

How are you and Mrs. Suisse doing? You have any Roger Federers or Rogerica Federers :lol: You swiss folks know how to ski and play tennis. Seeing the Mrs. Suisse is from the Caribbean, I predict a lot of tennis courts in your future. :grin:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:26 am

ITL – Did you temper before using? I’ve always heard before using, in order for them to cook well, to place in the oven as high as you can and “burn” the skillets. After that they’re good to go? Did you do that?

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:26 am

BF: What time is dinner? ;)

disco

August 8th, 2012
11:26 am

C – I’m sure I eat all kinds of things that don’t match. if it’s how you grew up eating it’s what you are used to. one lady I know says her husband loves when she cooks fish and spaghetti. I was like “fish and spaghetti”??? that’s a combo I’ve never had but apparently it’s their thing. in bringing it up in conversation I’ve come across others who eat it.

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:27 am

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
11:28 am

So sorry Poppa! Sending my prayers to you both.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:29 am

disco – True. I’m so weird, there are a ton of things I can’t eat together. One being Salmon Croquettes with eggs. I CANNOT. If I have Salmon croquettes it must be with grits….whether that’s breakfast or dinner. If breakfast, I cannot eat with eggs.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:30 am

LOL…….@WillieD you know those wolf skills never diminish.

Cely I’ll retrack the fangs if you cook me some those ox tails and greens. :)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:30 am

@C: I didn’t do that, but mine is a hand-me-down from my mama so it was already good to go. I’ve never heard of the tempering, but I do know that it needs to be “seasoned”.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:31 am

Off to lunch….back later.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:33 am

Blackfoote – You buy and I’ll do the cooking…lol If I cook though, can we have your fangs pulled? I’m kidding. That’s a part of your manhood I guess.

ITL – Okay, cool. I bet they were already.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
11:34 am

So very sorry to hear about the twins, Poppa G!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:35 am

Poppa G

What’s up man sorry to hear about the twins. I lost a set of my own and can relate well. Have the NFL made things right with you yet?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:38 am

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:38 am

Thanks, Kimmie and Leggs :smile:

Life is what happens while your making plans. We have nephews, nieces, and Godchildren. They will have do.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
11:38 am

ITL – Don’t ask me how I got it…took a minute, but then it popped in my head!

Poppa…I’m so sorry to hear that. I don’t know you, but you will be in my prayers…

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:39 am

They will have to do.

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:39 am

Thanks Bluzgirl. :smile:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:42 am

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:45 am

BF..

Thanks man. Mrs. PG & I are listed on the injury report as day to day. (I guess everyone is day to day) So, we are making it. Thanks!

As for the NFL, they haven’t messed with my pension so I am good. I can’t touch it yet, though. I have no real concussion issues. I guess that there are a few advantages to sucking enough to make the practice squad, but never making a game. It wasn’t by choice though. :lol: I wanted to get into the game. I guess I should change my screen name to Rudy… :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:47 am

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:49 am

I’m practicing again, have to show Leggs I’m doing my home work…..LOL

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
11:49 am

PG~ IDK you, but I empathise with your loss. I had 9 failed pregnancies before I got my 2nd child. It is a heartbreaking thing to go through, but my sweet girl is worth every moment. Godspeed.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:49 am

Single and Happy – Cel Disco, you don’t turn down good puddy (LOL)

Just saw this…Yep. I’ll turn down “good” puddy as long as I’m breathing. I have one good one of my own :mrgreen:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:51 am

LOL……..@Poppa G, Rudy huh depends on which Rudy you talking about. Now the Rudy on Fat Albert was sharp as a tac and cool.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:51 am

Single and Happy – I’m being a snot…lolololol

disco

August 8th, 2012
11:51 am

CC – nine? god bless y’all too.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:52 am

LOL…….@C

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:52 am

Thanks Comon :smile:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:52 am

Blackfoote – It’s sort of an “inside” joke with him…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:54 am

Good grief Comon glad you stayed motivated and healthy. Yep that is a large lump to swallow, but you have to get passed it.

Robert

August 8th, 2012
11:54 am

Watchout!!!!…Cooking is one of my favorite “traps” I use to lure women. I love going to the grocery store with her to buy the food and watch her reactions. Real cooks know how to season food to bring out the natural flavors which is also healthy and good for you. My favorite meal to cook for a first time woman visitor to my kitchen is “seafood” (fish, shrimp, lump crab meat, oysters, mussels, squid, etc.) . I start the meal with a shrimp salad appertizer and a cup of homemade creme-of-crab soup made with lump crab meat. The main course is a seafood platter (fish, crab cakes, oysters) broiled or fried depending on my mood. I always steam my fresh vegatables to bring out the flavor. My crab cakes contain no bread fillings and are my Mother’s original recipe from Maryland. Eveyrbody I have invited to my house for dinner always give me an A+ for my cooking skills. I also cook fresh vegetables (collard greens, green beans, etc.). Can anybody tell me where to find good seafood in ATL?

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:56 am

BF…

I was thinking about the movie about Rudy and Notre Dame with the dude who was later in The Lord of the Rings. I mentioned it because I never got to play in a regular season game and we all want to play. No one goes out there to be a practice squad player.

But yeah, Rudy from Fat Albert was pretty quick. He was one of my faves on that cartoon.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
11:59 am

Yes indeed, BF. I need to see some tone definition in those arms…keep up the work!!!!

BF ~ I think PoppaG is talking about the runt of a player Rudy who I believe only played the last game of the season. He was loved by the entire team, but he was a runt of the litter (so to speak). Poppa G is no runt (too tall..lol).

disco

August 8th, 2012
12:01 pm

robert – it sounds like you got really excited just talking about cooking in your post. not mad at you bruh.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
12:03 pm

Robert

Have you heard of Inland Sea Food, they import fresh blue crab and all fin and shell fish you can name to the ATl. You can order on line at inland sea food.com.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:03 pm

Sounds like most of the men can really cook.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
12:03 pm

Yes, 9 is rough. I had 5 miscarriages and 4 ectopic pregnancies in 5 years. It was very rough. But, I guess if you bang your head against the same wall long enough, eventually it will fall down. Or, God has a sense of humor. My daughter was conceived AFTER my last ectopic. They had taken my tube on the left and clip tied and burned the one on the right. 1 year later, I got pregnant with baby girl and she went full term. Named for her grandmother and born on her grandfather’s 60th bday. Guess she was meant to be here.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:04 pm

Atlanta Fish Market

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:06 pm

I hate when I eat breakfast late. That means, I’ll be hungry for lunch even later.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
12:07 pm

Pops – Sorry to hear about your loss. Glad to hear the Mrs is good. How about you? Are you okay? We men ten to by nature make sure those we love are taken care of and supported 100% selflessly. If you ever need to just unwind and talk I may be a relative stranger but I’m here for you if needed.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
12:08 pm

Rudy is one of my favorite movies!!!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
12:09 pm

That’s the movie where the the phrase “win one for the Gipper” come from starring Ronald Reagon?

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
12:15 pm

Cel – my grandma practically raised me at her hip. She made sure I knew how to cook, iron, wash clothes etc. She would always tell me “boy these pissy tail gals aint good for nothing nowadays, you better learn how to do this for yourself”. When I left for college everybody wanted to give me advice and money. My grandma gave me a quilt (don’t laugh) and a cast iron skillet. I still have both.

oddmanout

August 8th, 2012
12:16 pm

Holy Crap!! These conversations get some interesting comments!! I need to stay tuned regularly

i'm swiss

August 8th, 2012
12:16 pm

PG — Man, I’m so sorry to hear that. Our thoughts are with you & the Mrs.

So far so good for Mrs. Swiss & the little Swiss Mocha-ette. I’m definitely planning on turning her into the next Serena (tennis-wise, anyway). :)

disco

August 8th, 2012
12:17 pm

willie D – now I haven’t heard “pissy tailed” in a very long time.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
12:18 pm

BF~ Negative, ghostrider. That is the one with Sean Astin about the kid that went out for the Notre Dame football team even though he was small for his size. Win one for te Gipper comes from the movie “Knute Rockne, All American” in which Ronald Regan played the lead role and also later used as his slogan in the Presidental campaign.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:18 pm

Willied – I think that’s endearing. Grannies ALWAYS know some thangs. She won’t lead or steer you wrong. A quilt and a cast iron skillet from granny probably carries more value than money.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:19 pm

WillieD – Grandma knows about fast tailed or pissy tailed gals…lololol

disco

August 8th, 2012
12:26 pm

C – that’s because some of the grandma’s used to be them. lol. that’s not a jab at anyone’s grandma. I know I used to love to spend time with my grandmother’s older sister. growing up she was like a God to us. she was the only person who could “check” grandma and I, for one, loved to witness it. I used to love it when she’d tell my grandma to hush up. I also loved to hear stories of grandma doing something “ungrandma-like”.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
12:26 pm

My wife and kids tease me about that quilt. They call me linus (like Charlie brown) cause I won’t let anyone touch it. Only time I use it when me and Wifey lay out on a pallet in front of the fireplace.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
12:29 pm

WD~ Making pallets in front of the fireplace?!? How many kids you got? LOL! Cause them pallets in front of the fireplace under the quilt are baby-making nights. IJS…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
12:31 pm

Thanks Comon I have my movies crossed.

WillieD I used to stop in my tracks everytime I heard Bill Withers sing Grandma Hands. I call both mine mama and for reasons unknown they know which one I’m referring to.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:32 pm

disco – I thought the same thing. Grandma speaks what she knows (not your granny WillieD), just saying. Words of wisdom comes from within and experience.

WillieD – Awwww, I think that’s sweet. Look at you, them fangs gonna melt if you don’t cut it out….lol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
12:32 pm

All this talk about food, I had to go eat,

Cel you will cook and got good puddy, hmmmmm (LOL)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
12:34 pm

When they’re in the same room.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:36 pm

WillieD – That’s how my mom was/is to my nephews. She didn’t use pissy tailed, her favorite was strumpet. Brother, did she use strumpet. Especially when both nephews grew old enough to wanna dabble a bit in tail….lol

Single and Happy – I’m a woman of dimensions.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:37 pm

Actually, there were 3 nephews she raised. One is 20 and still lives with her/his mom. Boy is she all up in his koolaid. He’s got a really cute gf and we have to make her “get out of the way” so to speak…sometimes. The little girl is really sweet, nice and “understanding” of granny.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
12:37 pm

S&H is about to be Booed up and Happy if C keeps going at this rate… :lol:

disco

August 8th, 2012
12:38 pm

C – my grandmother got in her share of lecturing. she’d always be talking about how “young folks these days just shack up and have babies. they act like marriage is going out of style”. to this day we joke whenever someone gets married that they are “styling”.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
12:38 pm

Fangs, what fangs? I don’t have those anymore. I still do howl at the moon on occasion cause I can’t help it.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
12:39 pm

C~ Sooooo, your nephew is not dating anyone from this blog is what you’re saying. LMAO!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:42 pm

disco – I have to say my mom rather than grandma because she passed before I was born. The stories though from my mama and her “young folks” stuff is funny. The “big” stuff from way back when would be (just one), when she removed her “girdle” in the back seat of a boys car and he dropped off at the house….lol That was “fast” for those times. Or when she was sneaking off from Spelman and went to NY and how about ran into pops (hers) while up there.

Yeah, they got stories for days and there are reasons why.

Comon Cents – Trrrrust me, Celisea is steering and there will be no boos, hookups..nothing. I happying chatting folks up and that’s all :) Ya dig? LOLOLOLOL

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:43 pm

WillieD – Defanged is the first step to change and recovering…lolololol Howling is still aloud. It’s apart of those “tendencies.”

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:45 pm

Comon Cents – Trrrrust me, Celisea is not slow. Sometimes it’s just easier to go with the tide. Not saying something sometimes is the best strategy :) :) :) Don’t mean recognition ain’t happening…from all sides

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
12:46 pm

Making the cross at comon cents : back, back I say (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:47 pm

People can change a lot of things…the chair you use, the computer you share, the device on which you text, the meal you eat, the clothes you wear, the mate you sleep with…..but WHO you are is not so easy to hide. It will peek through each and EVERY single time. :) :) :)

Chinese proverb (okay not really)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:50 pm

Single and Happy – Honey no cross needed. Just a simple “ain’t happening” will suffice :)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:51 pm

And if I may…LMAO :) :) :)

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
12:53 pm

I hate it when I’m so busy at work in the morning and then it all just stops and time seems to stand still!!! Random thought, I know!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:54 pm

Bluzy – That ain’t random…that’s for real…lol I hate when it’s slow. Makes the day drag.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
12:57 pm

Hope the blog will keep me going today! :-)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
12:57 pm

One day you will believe!!!

abc

August 8th, 2012
12:58 pm

On topic, the purpose of marriage is to be a family, even if you don’t have kids. If you’d rather preserve your time alone, i.e., actually prefer a single lifestyle, then it’s self-evident that you are not marriage material.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:58 pm

Single and Happy – LOLOLOL, okiedokie :mrgreen:

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
1:05 pm

Back from lunch and catching up.

@WD: a pallet….man, I used to love to have “spend the night” company and mama would make us a pallet in the living room. :)

LOVE that granny wisdom. When we were talking the other day about sayings out mom/grandmoms use, I thought about my granny’s famous, “If you don’t listen, you have to feel” comment. She’s right, too. I could take her good advice, or let my hard-headed self learn the hard way.

Into the Light - Ignorant Folks will Believe what Ignorant Folks will Believe

August 8th, 2012
1:08 pm

young folks these days just shack up and have babies

Reminds me of a friend’s grandma who referred to it as “stacking up” instead of shacking up. “Baby, I rented the carriage house to that young couple even though they’re not married….they’re just stacking up!” said in a whisper, of course, so as not to offend our delicate southern sensibilities. ;)

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
1:08 pm

Its funny as I look back. My Dad, grandad, uncles were all either true blue pimps or players. My moms was hard knocks with me and my bro probably cause she hated seeing my dad in us. My grandma was practical and loving. Honestly I have all that in me and time to time they all either come out or are just under the surface. As much as I try to change irt my son is prolly more like my Dad. The force is strong in that kid. He’s either gon be Luke or Darth no in between.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 8th, 2012
1:12 pm

Hey C & MIA!!!!!!! What is poppin’?!? :-)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:12 pm

Shacking ain’t what it’s cracked up to be. I will NEVER do that again. Have your own spot and go on home now…lol

WillieD – Funny how genes and stuff jumps around with offsprings. My kid has her dad running through her veins.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:12 pm

Heeeeeey Lady(bug), where you been??

Into the Light - If You're Crazy and You Know it Clap Your Hands

August 8th, 2012
1:14 pm

Hey, Lady!!

I was just asking about you the other day. I’ve missed you! :)

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:16 pm

O/T…Yay! Magnum is going to make sure he goes to Tipitina’s in New Orleans to get me the t-shirt I’ve requested! Makes me smile!

Into the Light - Crazies, Crazies Everywhere and Not a Drop to Drink

August 8th, 2012
1:17 pm

I’ve never been to NOLO. :(

Robert

August 8th, 2012
1:17 pm

“women ain’t good for nothing but two things….the kitchen and the bedroom”

In 2000 during my divorce proceedings from my 1st wife she told the judge – ” he ain’t good for nothing but two things….the kitchen and the bedroom”. My attorney rested my case based on her testimony. The judge who was a female told her to think about what she was doing. A good Man is hard to find.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:17 pm

Bluzy – If he brings it back, he’s your bf!!!

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 8th, 2012
1:19 pm

Waving @ ITL!!!!!! All is well I gotta catch up with MIA!!!! ;)

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 8th, 2012
1:19 pm

C playing all summer long~! what a great summer!~!

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
1:20 pm

Willie – Concerning your grandmama seeing to it you knew how to take care of yourself like iron, cook, etc – that was my mother all the way with my brothers! She used to tell them all the time they may not meet anyone that would do things she did to keep up a home so they better know how to take care of themselves. With me it was a given she was going to teach me those things, but she made a special point of it with them. I remember seeing Michael Jordan on 60 Minutes when he was just hitting the scene. They showed him in his apartment vacuuming and asked him why he was doing that. He said he didn’t get any dates in high school and figured he may end up single, so his mom made sure she taught him homemaking skills!

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:20 pm

Cel – I may shack up again, but it will be after we’ve been together a LONG time!!! Lesson learned from having ex move in about a month after we got together…

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
1:20 pm

O/T…Yay! Magnum is going to make sure he goes to Tipitina’s in New Orleans to get me the t-shirt I’ve requested! Makes me smile!

Way way way past fwb stage (LOL)

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:22 pm

I love, love, love New Orleans. I’m going to try to make a trip out there by the end of the year…my previous ex (the one who passed away) is from there and his sister wants me to come visit.

Cel…I did tell him that I would give him money for it if he gets it. Now…if he doesn’t let me give him the money, then that means something, right? :-)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:22 pm

Lady – Good for you :)

Bluzy – I can’t do that. IMO and just for me, something goes missing.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:22 pm

He’s also supposed to bring me back some red beans…told him if he remembers to get them, then I’ll try out the recipe I have for him…

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:23 pm

Bluzy – CHILE…WHAT ARE WE GONNA DO WITH YOU??? You offer too much too soon. It’s a t-shirt. HE CAN SPRING FOR THAT. If you always offer, you’ll never feel what it feels like to have a mind think thoughts of you and do thoughtful things for you. It’s a feeling like none other.

Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
1:23 pm

Lol

Chauvinist. Pig! :lol:

Yea that’s me ITL :lol:

What else I miss?

Hope there aren’t other landmines in for me today

Reading back….

Into the Light - Don't Let Your Mouth Overload Your A$$

August 8th, 2012
1:23 pm

Bluz and Magnum, sittin’ in a tree….. K-I-S-S-I-N-G….. :)

@Lady – Yeah, you do! :) Welcome back.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
1:23 pm

Poppa G-he brought you to it, and will see you on the other side, as he did Comon.

On topic, Marriage is for those willing to give of themselves continually, sacrifice is consistent, and your effort isn’t always appreceiated…the reward for that is somebody willing to go through the same dayum thing for you.

I see ya’ll ran Ex off…..The Substitute PIG is here, get in there and make me a sammich woman, just like you are supposed to.

As for the Cooking, I do it WELL, go to dishes, the Cajun from Decatur, Crawfish Etouffee, Jambalaya, Gumbo, etc….

Celisea…I read something bout cleaning a grill after cooking, dont mess with the flavor, just put you rack on while the Charcoal is high flame and let the fire do the rest….Scrape off & GO!!!

Robert

August 8th, 2012
1:24 pm

@Blackfoote – Thank you for in the info. I will look it up and check it out. I have been craving for a bushell of some fresh blue crabs.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:25 pm

Jake – Really? I use an onion while the fire is high…to clean before using. Okay…cool

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:25 pm

Of course a double pronged with the long neck…not an eating fork

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:26 pm

Bluzy – See my 1:23

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:27 pm

Cel – Well…I wanted to make sure I got it! I had texted him yesterday asking if he makes it to Tip’s and he brings me back a t-shirt, then I would give him the money for it. He said he would do that.

Uh oh Jake…I love a man who can cook some good NOLA food!!! Crawfish Etoufee is my absolute favorite!

Into the Light - Don't Let Your Mouth Overload Your A$$

August 8th, 2012
1:27 pm

@Robert: Hush, man. You’re gonna have me driving to the beach tonight. :)

One of my BFF’s parents live on an island and their neighbor owns a shrimp boat. Nothing like eating shrimp that was caught just hours earlier. Or crabs, either, although I’m not crazy about checking crab traps.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
1:29 pm

Cel – I may shack up again, but it will be after we’ve been together a LONG time!!! Lesson learned from having ex move in about a month after we got together…

Lesson not learned!! Should put a ring on it!!

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:29 pm

I’m getting hungry for some seafood!!!! Mmmmmmmm

Into the Light - Don't Let Your Mouth Overload Your A$$

August 8th, 2012
1:29 pm

I always clean the grill right after I use it, while the meat is resting and it’s still hot. Prolly ’cause that’s the way my daddy does it…..

@Bluz: I said NOLO. Good grief. NOLA! :)

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
1:29 pm

Did any of you hear the Bert Show this morning? This dude that said he lived his life STRICTLY BY THE BIBLE is looking for a completely submissive woman that will do the same, follow that BIBLE and do what he, the MAN tells her to do at all times, like the BIBLE says!

I’m EMPHASIZING certain words, like Bert said he did in his email!LOL!! Dude called on the show too. They basically told him there was probably some woman out there that would sign up for that, but he’s going to have a hard time finding her. Bert and others explained they wanted a marriage that was more of a partnership.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:30 pm

ITL…I knew what you meant!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:31 pm

Bluzy – Well…I wanted to make sure I got it!

That’s the problem. You are beating men to the punch because you fear it (not just the tshirt) won’t happen. You gotta risk it if you want to know if you’re in their thoughts/mind/heart. You cannot place yourself there. It’s not the same if you initiate/induce all the time. That’s what we’ve been saying. Don’t be afraid if it don’t happen. In that case you’ll know it wasn’t meant to be. But if you’re afraid it don’t or won’t and do things yourself, all by yourself to make sure then you won’t ever know. Too, once you feel the feeling of a man voluntarily doing something or just being thoughtful, you will abandon (hopefully), this thing you do to make sure things happen.

Into the Light - Ignorant Folks will Believe what Ignorant Folks will Believe

August 8th, 2012
1:31 pm

@Bluz: How the heck did you guess “sunburn”???? LOL

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
1:33 pm

Lesson not learned!! Should put a ring on it!!

Single – Dang, I was thinking the same thing!

Bluz – Girl, if you’ve been with someone a LONG time, why settle for shacking? Set you sights higher, girl! And Cel is right, least dude could do is spring for a doggone t-shirt!

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
1:34 pm

Bluzy…I does what I does, reeled the Mrs. in with the Jambalaya, she still talks about watching me chop those Onions, had the homeade mixtapes in rotation, and great conversation while it simmered away….Gotcha !!!!!

Yes Really Cel

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
1:36 pm

BF~ Negative, ghostrider. That is the one with Sean Astin about the kid that went out for the Notre Dame football team even though he was small for his size.

Thanks Comon. Just got back and read BF’s post thinking “man, you went too far back in time.”

Bluz, Celisea is right. It’s a tee-shirt. He can spring for it. If he doesn’t take your money after you offer it means one of two things. He paid for the tee-shirt, or he stole it. Doesn’t mean he’s falling for you.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:38 pm

Cel – I get ya. I guess I’m still trying to just keep it as FWB, so I don’t expect him to pay for it. We’ll see if he even gets it for me!

ITL – I have no clue how I guessed that one!!! I guess the red skin you drew! LOL

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
1:39 pm

Kimmie believe it or not, those women aren’t as hard to find as some think. You just have to know the right church to look in.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
1:40 pm

Robert you’re welcome man, they have some good stuff for you.

Bluz Cely is right let Magnum step to you with adornment and gifts. Don’t let him know you are giddy just yet make him earn it. Good guys don’t mind earning your trust and love.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:40 pm

kimmie – I’ve only shacked up with one man. I just don’t know what it will take to do it again.

Ok…so maybe I shouldn’t have said I’d give him the money for it when he gets back, but oh well! I just want one badly because the old one I have is all ratty looking and I don’t wear it anymore. We’ll see what happens…

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:41 pm

Gotta run to lunch…be back in about 30…

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:41 pm

Kimmie – I’ve been trying to keep muzzled with Bluzy but that one I couldn’t help it…lol

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
1:42 pm

Lady – wassup? Good to read you. Stop disappearing on us like that.

Jake – you ole playa you. Let me guess you chopped an onion and talked about something sentimental to at the same time. Wiped away a tear then when she said awwwww you……….hahaha

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
1:47 pm

Leggs I was that far off?

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
1:47 pm

Ya’ll giving Bluz bad advice…she trying to keep it FWB, if she wants to pay him back, that’s fine, she is setting the parameters she wants, he shouldn’t take it necessarily, but if he does, that’s cool, they just bumping uglies (he mighta got some strange down there, not saying he did, but it wouldn’t matter), they’re not a couple, not exclusive, any of that…do what you does Bluzy!!!

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
1:47 pm

Single – As I was listening to the show, I was thinking just that! (Dang you & I shole are thinking alike today!LOL!) The younger me would have gone off like some of those women that were calling in, but the wiser me knows it’s not so farfetched at all. In fact, I have heard of much more unusual qualifications for a spouse!

Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
1:47 pm

No Jake I never run

Iam clocking

U know I carry my guns always!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
1:49 pm

I must have missed Lady, hey there sweetheart you’ve been gone too long.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
1:50 pm

WD-good one, man, I don’t know any other way, “Smooth doesn’t go out of style”…..

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
1:53 pm

@Willie D: Sooooo, no jokes today? No cutting up? Where’s the happy-go-lucky Willie from yesterday? ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
1:54 pm

Jake I see over there stirring up the crawfish delight. Doing it with class and style too my bud.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
1:57 pm

“I guess I’m still trying to just keep it as FWB, so I don’t expect him to pay for it.” – I’m curious Bluz. How are you trying to keep it as FWB if you ask in the next sentence “if he doesn’t take the money it means something, right?” Your thoughts are competing with each other. On one shoulder rests “a spark of reality” on the other shoulder rests “wishful thinking.” You’re gonna have to kill one off!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
2:02 pm

Jake, is it really bad advice, FWB don’t text, talk, email every day. they don’t talk about trying special recipes unless it just happens to happen that way IE: I was trying out a new recipe, and they just happen to call and come by. With FWB shacking doesn’t even come into play, Bluz is getting in to deep to early

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:02 pm

You’re gonna have to kill one off!

And hope your head doesn’t get hit in the crossfire. :(

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
2:03 pm

Leggs – That’s just it, she’s not cut out for the FWB stuff. It would be easier just to admit that & then act accordingly.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 8th, 2012
2:03 pm

Awwww Willie Dynamite thanks Bruh!!! @BF you’re so kind!!! all is well!!! ;-) Good to read everyone!!!!!! ;)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:04 pm

ITL – THERE’S PIECE OF CAKE IN THE KITCHEN!!! I’m heading for a slice :) :) :mrgreen:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:06 pm

Good Leggs coach her up, give some of that advice that made you so irresistable.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
2:07 pm

ITL – still early, figured I’d comment on topic and contribute constructively b4 I start cutting up. Its cumming. What you got?

Jake – true dat. Keep it up man, I’m taking notes. I got about 2-3 pages from you so far, thanks.

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
2:08 pm

Actually the dudes are right, if she is trying to keep it at FWB then all bets are off and the advice is bad. I just know from reading her these few months FWB is not what she’s cut out for or wants no matter what she says. To thine ownself be true. I know I was never cut out for such, but I don’t knock those that are. Either we’re all in or we’re not. I either catch feelings or I remain alone until I find someone on the same page. This “oh I don’t want anything serious” from Bluz is bunk!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:09 pm

Sorry Cely I beat y’all to it.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
2:09 pm

Kimmie I may have to find me one of those women (LOL)

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:09 pm

Ok, Ok…I admit that I wouldn’t mind more than FWB, but am trying hard to just enjoy whatever it is at this moment. We have texted everyday since he’s been gone, but nothing major. All friendly. He has said he wants to cook for me to show me his culinary skills…I just figured that I would make him a special recipe if he brings me back the main ingredient.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:12 pm

Blackfoote – But is it “Piece of Cake” cake? I have a huge slice…lol I went and got lunch and saw that and put my lunch aside. I’m eating the cake :evil:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
2:13 pm

Umm bluz, just what do you call major??

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:14 pm

That’s why I’ve committed to stop talking or advising. IJS…she wants more but is afraid to hold out for more and better so she settles for the droppings or crumbs handed. What else can we say or advise??

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:14 pm

BUT…I don’t want anything serious…just want to date and have fun…that’s how I feel at this moment.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:15 pm

Dang blog monster ate my post!!

@C: Gurl, go get a slice. You’ve got me wondering if I can sneak down to Piece of Cake and back without anybody missing me. :roll: Their salted caramel cupcakes make me weak!

@WD: I’on know… I went all out on the Wally Cleaver/Eddy Haskell this morning and haven’t recovered.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:16 pm

S&H…I don’t know…nothing about missing you or I can’t wait to see you…just normal, everyday stuff…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:16 pm

:grin: …….@Cely

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:16 pm

ITL – I’m feeling like Jimmy Swaggart and his confession righ about now…

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:17 pm

Now ya’ll have me craving some cake!!!

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
2:17 pm

WD

Thanks! I am making it day by day. I really never had a problem with seeking medical help I’ve done my meeting with Dr. Jennifer Melfi, and I paid her a fistful of money for her to diagnose me as human… :wink: Seriously, though, thanks!

Suisse

Thanks! :grin:
Good for the two of you!

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:18 pm

Bluz, Bluz, Bluz….. I know I promised a kinder, gentler ITL so I’m not gonna run in with guns blazing. But sweetie, Celisea and Kimmie have given you the truest of truths today. In a nutshell:
1. Know yourself
2. Value yourself

(blog hug)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:19 pm

@C: Cami Cakes or Piece of Cake???? Which do you think?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:20 pm

ITL/Blackfoote – That piece was so dern big, I had to eat half and put the other half slice away. That was too big

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:20 pm

Piece of Cake…hands down

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
2:21 pm

Bluz~ Did you call/text everyday (all friendly like) before he hit it? If not, then you are hoping for more than you say.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:21 pm

That’s how my Light in the darknes spread the love. Kimmie, Cely, and Leggs gave her the scoop. When Magnums returns she’ll snap out of it.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:22 pm

Thanks ITL…I think the problem is that I DO know myself and that’s why I’m trying my hardest to do something a little different.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
2:23 pm

Have to go with C, Piece of Cake. Absolutely.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:23 pm

CC – No, we didn’t communicate every day before. Just every few days or so…IDK if it’s because he’s out of town or what. I’m gonna hold off and not text him again, though…

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:23 pm

Dang. And why did my coworker just come by and talk about Pinkberry??? I’m stuck in dessert craving he11. :(

Awwww, thanks, BF.

Good call, C. It’s closer than Cami Cakes.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:24 pm

If the D wasn’t sooooo good, then maybe I wouldn’t be feeling the way I do. LOL! I want some more!!!! (of D, that is).

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:25 pm

I’ve never had Pinkberry…

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:26 pm

I think the problem is that I DO know myself and that’s why I’m trying my hardest to do something a little different.

I’m not sure how to take that, Bluz. At the end of the day, people are who they are. You might stop leaving dirty glasses in the sink to please an SO, but you can’t quit being someone who wants and needs more than a physical relationship if you’re not made that way. You can try, but you will make yourself miserable.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:27 pm

Bluzy – Some of us can admit. I don’t knock other folks, but I’m definitely one that can’t get down and roll out the next day…as if nothing. I can’t. I catch feelings and easily.

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
2:29 pm

Thanks, Jake, How is it goin’?

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:30 pm

This afternoon’s conversation is not good. I don’t see good things happening tonight at Marietta Diner. I hope y’all don’t see me on the news.

“Hi, this is Hedda Headley standing by in Marietta where a local woman just crashed through the dessert case at Marietta Diner. Not with her car, with her bare hands, John and Monica. Witnesses say she was so crazed she literally lifted the glass from the case and began devouring every dessert in the case. At last report, she was being treated at Wellstar Kennestone and is reported to be in a diabetic coma, but in stable condition. Hedda Headley live in Marietta.”

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:30 pm

I think it all has depended on the guy. I’ve been able to knock boots before without having feelings develop. But…I do wear my heart on my sleeve and can fall fast and hard. It is hard to stop myself, but since I’m still freshly hurt from the ex, I’m trying to just go with it. If more happens, cool…if not, no problem…

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
2:30 pm

I’m not sure how to take that, Bluz. At the end of the day, people are who they are. You might stop leaving dirty glasses in the sink to please an SO, but you can’t quit being someone who wants and needs more than a physical relationship if you’re not made that way. You can try, but you will make yourself miserable.

Agree! Agree! Agree! Besides wich fact, if you know you want more than just d!ck, why would you settle for just d!ck? hat would make you a whore not being true to yourself.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
2:30 pm

ITL – C’mon chick, you got more than that. I’m counting on you. Its after 2 and we need the shenanigans to start.

Cel – 2 questions. 1- what kinda cake is it? 2 – did you use a spoon, fork or fingers?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:31 pm

ITL – You are a nut!! I LOL’d on that one :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:31 pm

Comon I can tell those DUI cases don’t hold you from taking the long lunch hours. (hours plural)………LOL sometimes I go home just for the h of it, I carry on like some of my executive co-workers. One big factor though I’m not one but they don’t have to know it.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
2:31 pm

Pinkberry is AWESOME, btw. Get the Mango with the fresh mangoes on top. Mmmmm…heavenly.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:32 pm

WillieD – Let’s see….It’s white chocolate w/nuts and I’m definitely spooning

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
2:32 pm

I like Piece of Cake because they have small cupcakes and large cupcakes. They have sell wedges of cake for $5. They give you a choice.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:33 pm

If more happens, cool…if not, no problem…

Liar liar pants on fire!!!! Sorry, Bluz, but refer to Kimmie’s post once more: To thine ownself be true. Girl, you can’t put a square peg in a round hole. YOU AIN’T MADE THAT WAY!!! Why is it so obvious to all of us, and not to you?????

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:33 pm

ITL…I’ll come bail you out! LOL

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:35 pm

@C: For real, though. I’m a sugar-craving mess right now!

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:35 pm

Maybe because I really want to be able to handle this kind of relationship?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:35 pm

We did Piece of Cake cupcakes during Christmas and how about I ate two with no problems. If folks weren’t in the room, it would have been three :oops:

There’s a cake from Piece of Cake brought in once or twice a month…at least.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:36 pm

LOL@Bluz: If I send you a Draw Something of the po po, you’ll know they caught the kid. :(

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:36 pm

ITL – I’m willing a slice over to you. I know it’s not the real thing but I’m hoping it will curb the craving

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:37 pm

LOL ITL! If I see that, then I’ll head straight to the Marietta Diner!

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:38 pm

Maybe because I really want to be able to handle this kind of relationship?

Why???? If it’s not you, why would you want it to be you? Do you think there is something wrong with not being a “hit it and quit it” kind of girl? No judgment against those who can do it, but there is nothing wrong with wanting more and waiting for more.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:38 pm

Hedda Headley while you’re there I’ll have that chewy brownie bar and a Oreo cheese cake.

disco

August 8th, 2012
2:39 pm

dang. y’all are on page 7. I’m on page 5. see ya in a bit.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:39 pm

Why is it the fat chick is checking out my slice? Yeah, I took a big piece. It’s just sitting there and in there for all to have at it. No one is eating it because everyone is so salad and weight crazed/conscious. No point in letting it to go waste. I can guarantee what’s left in there will be there tomorrow….

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:40 pm

Dang Leggs I need a microfying glass to see these things.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:42 pm

You got it, BF! I love the Suicide by Chocolate cake. All the desserts there are CRAZY. I’ve never seen cakes so tall anywhere but in Greek restaurants/diners.

@C: Ummmmm, didn’t work, but thanks anyway. And tell that chick to get her own slice and quit staring at yours. I HATE it when people come by my office, leaning over my desk to see what I’ve got. Dang germy-a$$ mouth breathers.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:42 pm

The whole Oreo cheese cake and I’m good.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:43 pm

ITL – Sorry boo boo. I was trying to help. :(

i'm swiss

August 8th, 2012
2:43 pm

“The whole Oreo cheese cake and I’m good.”

That’s my favorite move, too!

i'm swiss

August 8th, 2012
2:44 pm

Oh wait… what are we talking about?

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:44 pm

Hush, BF. I’ll bring you whatever you want, but we have got to change the subject. Bluz can’t be coming to bail me out….she needs to save it for t-shirt money. :lol: :lol: I kid, Bluz, I kid……

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
2:44 pm

Light – Loved your news report!LOL!!!

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
2:45 pm

White choc dang, spooning dang. 0 for 2. Hahaha

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:45 pm

I appreciate it, C, but I think it’s gonna take the real thing to cure this craving. :( Darn sweet tooth.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:45 pm

LOL……..@Swiss

Like a man that understands.

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
2:45 pm

Enter your comments here

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:46 pm

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:46 pm

ITL…I think I’m afraid to get too attached after what happened the last time. A girl has needs and he gives me what I need physically. I want it to stay at that…even if I don’t think I can handle that.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:46 pm

Thanks, Kimmie. ;)

@WD: And what exactly, sir, is wrong with white chocolate??? Hmmmm????

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:47 pm

ITL – For what it’s worth, I would share my slice with you if I could :)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
2:47 pm

Have any of you ever had sweet potato cake? My gigi used to make it, and t might be the best stuff EVER. (Right up there with red velvet for me)

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
2:47 pm

ITL–
- I HATE it when people come by my office, leaning over my desk to see what I’ve got. Dang germy-a$$ mouth breathers.-

If you do like I do and kick people in the shin when they do that, they will stop! It is amazin’ what a little shock value will get ya. :evil:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:47 pm

ITL – 0 for 2 in blogly means winning :mrgreen: Ain’t their right WillieD

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:48 pm

Light I had to step outside because of that 2:44, how Elvis would say it “don’t be cruel”…………..LOL

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
2:49 pm

ITL…I think I’m afraid to get too attached after what happened the last time. A girl has needs and he gives me what I need physically. I want it to stay at that…even if I don’t think I can handle that

****Capitan Obvious alert**** Then why do you not just take time and let yourself heal from the last relationship before you pop into someting that will cause you to have feelings for someone who may/may not be right for you which will cause you more hurt in the long term than the temporary pleasure you get from the D?

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:50 pm

@C: For what it’s worth, I’d be at your office, fork in hand if I could. :)

@PG: Thanks, man! I’ll try that next time. ;)

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
2:52 pm

ITL

No problem! I am a little Sheldon Cooper-like when it comes to food. :lol:

disco

August 8th, 2012
2:52 pm

bluz – I was trying to be quiet but I can’t. even if you are just a cut buddy or fwb or jumpoff or whatever – the man still pays be it a tshirt or whatever. life lesson – coochie ain’t free!!! it may sound gold digger-ish but it’s real. grown men know it’s real. okay. I’m back to catching up.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
2:53 pm

ITL – just a preference but ummm Whit choc doesn’t seem to melt like fudge or milk chocolate. The white choc tends to be shaved and is more decorative that you take straight to the head (no pun intended smile). Whereas fudge or milk choc has that smooth melting quality that you literally have to lick the wrapper or spoon/fork (gladly) a few times to get it all. IJS
I’m trying, your turn now. Whatchu got.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
2:54 pm

BF ~ you are kind.

“if she is trying to keep it at FWB then all bets are off and the advice is bad.” Possibly. It sounds like she’s trying to convince herself knowing full well she wants more with this guy (if it’s at all possible). It’s like a person telling themselves something so when it doesn’t pan out the way they secretly harbor it to turn out, no disappointment. Doesn’t matter, because the fooler still got fooled.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:54 pm

Well…hopefully, he will just give me the shirt when he gets back…

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
2:54 pm

Hurts so good!
Come on baby, make it hurt so good!
Sometimes love don’t feel like it should so make it
Hurt so good!!

Sorry, couldn’t help but think of that song reading Bluz say she wants the D even if she can’t handle just the D!

CC- I’ve made sweet potato pound cake and sweet potato cheesecake before. Both were rather tasty if I say so myself, actually better than my sweet potato pie.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:55 pm

ITL…I think I’m afraid to get too attached after what happened the last time. A girl has needs and he gives me what I need physically. I want it to stay at that…even if I don’t think I can handle that.

Bluz, did I miss an obituary in the paper? Somebody die and leave you the crown for queen of the martyrs??? Yes, people have needs; no, you don’t sacrifice yourself and your emotional well-being to satisfy those needs. You better be looking out for number one. (psssst – number one is YOU, just in case you didn’t know)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:57 pm

disco – We done (yes, we done), tried to get her to “see” this. And you’re right…it’s not being a gold digger. But if you give it all away, repeatedly and over the years, there will be nothing left in the end. And I don’t mean in terms of material stuff or cootie so much. But if you aren’t cut from the cloth of FWB and you continously go there, you’ll end up nothing but an empty shell later in life. W

Bluzy – We (or I’m not) talking so much in the material sense but if you give yourself away time and time again, no standards, no requirements, you’re gonna come up empty every single time. You have to know that if you live by standards most times it’s gonna be a bust or you have to try at it time and time again until the right one comes. Why? Cause most dudes (ain’t looking for that) aren’t ready until they’re ready. Let them find some other chick to experiment and play with. You can’t be a toy for every man that blows your way. You’ll find to, that you’ll leave peacefully and with peace of mind if you set a standard and keep with it.

cba

August 8th, 2012
2:57 pm

CC, my mama made sweet potato cake….almost as good as her carrot cake, german chocolate…..

PG, very very sorry to hear about your lost. One of my good friends lost her twins during pregnancy, now she has four healthy kids. Anything is possible with His blessing. Good luck to you and your wife.

Eat the cake Cely-Mae, eat the damn cake…..couldn’t resist :lol:

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:57 pm

Doesn’t matter, because the fooler still got fooled.

Preach it, Sistah Leggs. :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:57 pm

:mrgreen: You aint nothing but a hound dog. I changed for the better.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:58 pm

live peacefully not leave

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
2:59 pm

cba…Thank you :smile:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:59 pm

cba – LOLOLOL…glady :)

ITL/WillieD – Well dern, I thought 0-2 was me winning. I guess not

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
3:01 pm

Enjoy the day and have a great night!

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:02 pm

And co-signing C, too.

@WD: Oh puh-leeze. Just because your iceberg mouth ain’t warm enough to melt white chocolate, don’t discount it for everyone. Like any chocolate, it has to be correctly tempered and when it is…it is a creamy, sweet, delectable delight. Deuce – your serve.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:03 pm

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
3:03 pm

Cel – keep at it you got 1 more chance. 1 for 3 and you a hall of famer in baseball.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:04 pm

I thought I was caught up now I see page 8.

“A girl has needs and he gives me what I need physically. I want it to stay at that…even if I don’t think I can handle that.” – This has got to be the biggest piece of poppy cock I’ve read in a long time.

One thing I’ve learned in life is never put myself in a position that I can’t handle or do not know how to get out of. I don’t believe in playing with temptation just because it’s in front of me!

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
3:04 pm

Preach blog sisters – you all are dropping some gems on Bluzy!

Lord knows I know about that empty feeling – learned it early after my first heartbreak! That’s when I knew I was not cut out for the free & easy, snatch & grab type of lifestyle. Once you admit it to yourself, it is truly liberating. In fact, you will really be Free At Last. Not saying you will never be hurt again, but you will have peace of mind and self-worth.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:05 pm

WD – What ITL said at 3:02…now that places me back at 0-2 my favor :)

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:06 pm

kimmie ~ I love that song. I sang it on the blog last week (I think)..lol

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:07 pm

Kimmie and ladies – I don’t even front. Again, not knocking any other woman and her style, I’ve NEVER played that sort of game because I know I can’t handle it. Not only do I catch feelings easily but I have a problem with giving myself to a man that’s also passing it around to a few others. Noooo can do. I got a temper too??? Heck naw, I don’t even attempt to go there….lol

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:07 pm

ITL – liar liar pants on fire? today has been full of blasts from the past.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:08 pm

Part of me is scared because I do kind of like him and I started the physical relationship without even thinking about it. I’ve tried to break the mold of my past. My last two serious relationships started out as sex first and then developed quickly. I really didn’t want to do that again. I think I’m trying to tell myself that sex is all I want (besides just a friendship) so that I’ll believe it. Kind of like if you’re feeling down and you pretend smile all day…eventually, you may have a real smile.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:09 pm

Seriously???? It’s just wasted words fallen to the ground. Okay, I’m done for real. I’m just gonna love Bluzy, mistakes and all.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:09 pm

(shrugs) @disco: I wanted to add the “hang ‘em high, hang ‘em low, hang ‘em on the stereo” but I thought “naaaah, too much.” :lol:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:09 pm

Someone said this to me yesterday…

tell tell go to jail….I forgot about that…lol We said that as kids

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:09 pm

I encourage chicks to “man up” for the team. every time a “gazelle-type” chick lets a man get over that same man gets gassed up and tries that same game on the next chick. he shares strategy tips with his boys. ultimately, and given enough time, that raggedy game makes its way to me and I’m not trying to hear that mess.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:10 pm

tell tell go to jail, hang your britches on a nail

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:11 pm

C/ITL – I remember saying “tell, tell, go to jail. hang your draws on a rusty nail”.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:11 pm

Okay, so let’s review. What did Einstein say the definition of insanity is??? To do the same thing over and over and expect a different result? Okay, that’s the ITL paraphrase but you get the gist.

Bluz Mobley, you is kind. You is smart. You is important.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:14 pm

ITL – You are a retard….lolololol I’m guaranteed a laugh everytime you blog.

disco – I was shocked…it was a dude that said it to me…lol Hadn’t heard it in years.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
3:15 pm

ITL – touche` but 86 the name calling, chick lol. Sometimes iceberg with a slow melt is divine so I see your point. With that being said wc mixed with a bit of dark can be quite the visual. As I’m sure you can attest.
Return volley, we can play on the baseline or at the net. Your choice.

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:16 pm

bluz – what ITL really wants to know is did you ride the short bus? were your classes in the basement?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:17 pm

did you have a helment, was the bus yellow

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:17 pm

Ok…next topic? :-)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:18 pm

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:19 pm

If I really were to fill you all in on things I went through in the past, you might understand why I am the way I am with men. I’m working on it…

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:20 pm

Cel, now you have to be politically correct, it’s mentally challenged!!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:20 pm

Bluzy – No excuses. None of us are squeaky clean but again, like ITL said, if you want different results, then you have to do differently

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:21 pm

Single and Happy – Right, I forgot…lol

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:21 pm

Celisea ~ I thought you were going a different route (lolol)?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:22 pm

And no, I’m not making light of the mentally challenged.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:22 pm

Leggs – Chile….it’s hard too. I had to see her running into that wall with no helmet or anything.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:23 pm

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:23 pm

Bluz ~ your past helps mold you, but it doesn’t have to define you. Stop using that as a crux. We all have issues in our past with one simple pivot we all could be different individuals! It’s your call, own up to it and have it work for you, not against you!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:23 pm

Legss – Now, I’m officially done :mrgreen:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:24 pm

I just honestly wonder what she’s seeing that we don’t see or what she don’t get that some of us get???

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:25 pm

Bluz you have to stop living life like a Nascar driver (going fast but getting nowhere)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:25 pm

@Bluz: I wasn’t making fun of you or making light of anything you’ve been through. I’m just saying if what you’re doing is not working, then back up and punt. :)

And the Bluz Mobley mantra is for you to say everyday. I don’t know if you read/saw The Help, but I think a daily affirmation could be good for you.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
3:27 pm

ITl~ You are a trip. She done brought the Help out.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:27 pm

ITL, don’t back up and punt, leave the field until you come up with some new plays, cause dem aint working at all

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:28 pm

LOL@CC. Yup. I’mma sit Bluz Mobley down next to old Auntie ITL and make her repeat that mantra every day until she internalizes it and knows it’s true.

(blog hugs and love to you, Bluz. For real!)

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:29 pm

lol. bluz you funny.

ITL – but isn’t the bottom line of the help mantra that old girl is fat and ugly and so she’s trying to give her something else to hold onto.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:31 pm

LOL…I’ll remember that mantra!

I’m not letting my past define me anymore (hence the therapy), but it can still be hard to break cycles. I’m working on it, though. As long as I can keep the feelings at bay, then I think I’ll be ok. I like him, but don’t see myself falling for him anytime soon.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:31 pm

@disco: Did we see the same movie/read the same book? Mae Mobley is a toddler.

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:32 pm

bluz – child please. I swear sometimes it’s like you try to tell us what you think we want to hear. newsflash!!! us blog people, we ain’t nobody. no point in trying to placate us.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:34 pm

disco…I think I’m trying to work things out in my head…

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:34 pm

Bluz anytime soon????? (too late)

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:34 pm

ITL – I know. the mother didn’t pay her much attention because she was chubby and homely (fat/ugly) or rather chubbier and homelier than the children of her peers hence the extra encouragement to boost her self esteem.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
3:34 pm

Bluz~ Maybe you need a hobby. Something to take your mind off the D. Maybe, you should get a pet…

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:35 pm

@WD: re: “the slow melt” and “wc mixed with a bit of dark can be quite the visual. As I’m sure you can attest.”
That last sentence almost reads like an accusation, but there’s no shame in my game. I love a wc/dark chocolate swirl. Or a wc/caramel swirl. Or straight wc. See, as long as you have quality ingredients, the color of the chocolate is not the most important element. ;)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:35 pm

We need a topic change. My neck is hurting from reading about Bluzy’s issues….lololol

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:36 pm

See, as long as you have quality ingredients, the color of the chocolate is not the most important element

I’d say that places the score at 0 – 3, my favor :)

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:36 pm

CC – That’s part of the reason I’m trying to learn bass…another hobby!

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
3:36 pm

I’m not letting my past define me anymore (hence the therapy), but it can still be hard to break cycles. I’m working on it, though. As long as I can keep the feelings at bay, then I think I’ll be ok. I like him, but don’t see myself falling for him anytime soon.

It’s still a cycle if you start out the relationship (or jumpoff or whatevea) the same way the last two relationships started.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:37 pm

spooning white chocolate with quality “ingredients”

WINNING!!!

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:38 pm

@disco: Hmmm, that’s not the way it came across in the book to me. It was more that the mother was so self-absorbed in trying to put on airs and keep up with the other “ladies” that she didn’t have time for anyone or anything. But maybe you saw an angle that I missed (or maybe just didn’t want to see).

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:38 pm

Why do I get the feeling Comon Cents is holding off from realling digging into Bluzy? LOL

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:38 pm

“I like him, but don’t see myself falling for him anytime soon.”

I am now convinced you like words. I love words, but you use them to psyche yourself up and out. Who are you feeling. That sentence above is a boldfaced lie. We all know it. If you want to use words to your benefit, use the right ones, even if they hurt!

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:38 pm

Cel…notice I mentioned a topic change much earlier? :-)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:39 pm

Uh oh. Y’all look out….C’s making a run for the medal podium. :lol:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:39 pm

Bluzy – Toss something out there. I’ll go with you.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:39 pm

Bluz it’s really hard to break the cycle if you’re not trying too.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:39 pm

CC…that’s why I had such mixed feelings when I let that happen…

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:40 pm

ITL – Stand back now….

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:40 pm

Ok…so did anyone see poor Gabby on the balance beam last night? My heart fell when she fell…

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:40 pm

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:40 pm

I see WillieD has quietly retreated to the loser’s corner/bench

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:42 pm

Single and Happy – Are you a jail baiter??

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:42 pm

Bluz it’s really hard to break the cycle if you’re not trying too.

There you go…13 simple words.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:43 pm

@C: Make sure you wave to me when you’re on the podium. I’ll be the one crying and smiling and all proud that my Twink is getting the gold. ;)

AND NOBODY BET NOT SAY NUTHIN’ ‘BOUT HER HAIR. JUST DON’T.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:43 pm

I can’t pull up that article from work…what’s the jist of the story?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:43 pm

I’m about to dig into my other half (of cake slice)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:44 pm

ITL – AND NOBODY BET NOT SAY NUTHIN’ ‘BOUT HER HAIR. JUST DON’T

You are one funny person….lol Shole betnot.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:44 pm

I see WillieD has quietly retreated to the loser’s corner/bench

C – He’s in the locker room with his quilt. :)

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:45 pm

A 54 year old married man has a 16 year old girlfriend yet the congregation doesn’t see anything wrong with the age, just that infidelity is a sin!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:45 pm

Cel, no I at least wait till their old enough to be out of college

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:46 pm

ITL – Okay, I LOL’d on that. Reckon he got his skillet in there with him?

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:46 pm

Gotta go to a quick meeting…back in a bit.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:48 pm

Single and Happy – For your age, ummm THAT’S JAIL BAITING, ROBBING THE CRADDLE, STRANGER DANGER, CHESTER CHESTER…IJS Not accusing you though, my friend.

Honestly, what do you have in common or talk about with someone 25 or 30 years your junior? Seriously. Not being funny. Ohhhh, talking is not required

We still cool though right :mrgreen:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:49 pm

“the bedroom and the kitchen…..”

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:50 pm

C – I dated a guy 20 years older than me. every now and again he’d be like “do you remember such and such”. I’d be like “no. I was four”.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:50 pm

Cel, what’s going on in the kitchen?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:51 pm

disco – Dang…you made me LOL while someone was talking to a client…bad disco, bad girl That was a good one.

S/H – The same thing going on in the bedroom…skills

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
3:54 pm

Got my vest on cause what I smell is some more folks who need some Good Dcik like Bluz said she getting…..they fuggin, they both enjoyed it, they been texting a bit, sounds like a normal azz progression to me….here, call this number 1-800-cockfest

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:55 pm

Disco, I aint that bad.

Cel age is the least of our cultural differences, we haven’t made it to the kitchen yet. But I’ve found when dating younger women that if you treat them like a woman and not like a child, it isn’t that hard to over come those hurdles.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
3:55 pm

Ok blog monster didn’t like my posts. ITL/Cel I aint gone. I like this kinda party.

Bluz – I’m not a psychologist but I do play one occasionally on the blog. What you have is known as d-yck-tam-ized-ati-tis. Good news is it is treatable with advice from those who have been there done that. Side effects are; limp walk, ri-di-cule, sore puddy, psychiatric help, bad credit and if left untreated cats.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:57 pm

Cultural differences?

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:58 pm

C – I am a bad girl. we even had the discussion about worms. what a laugh that was.

S/H – you sure the appeal isn’t that younger women (generally) put up with more mess than older women? I won’t front. I admit that often the attraction with older men is that they are more “generous” than their younger counterparts. LOL. sorry. guess I just jumped right into the stereotypes. nothing wrong with a young buck or an old head.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:58 pm

Ut oh, somebody bout to bring it

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:58 pm

Cel she’s from Jamaica, hell I had to find someone that likes short men (rotflmao)

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:58 pm

Wow! 54 – 16…he could be her grandfather!!!

I’ve always dated older men. I have an older soul and get along with people older than me. One ex was 21 years older than me (he was one year younger than my dad)! There were some generation gaps, but for the most part, we got along very well.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:59 pm

Cel, I mean lives in Jamaica

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:59 pm

S/H – Mmmm hmmm, I’m listening. Keep talking

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
4:00 pm

WD…I have to say that that was funny!!! LOL

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:00 pm

S/H – You can tell me.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:00 pm

Disco, what you say Gold digger, since we got to pay to play, what difference does the age make (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:01 pm

disco – I’ve heard the worm story and honetly that just grosses me out. I’m gonna retire mine pretty early. I can’t be hanging with no old cat and I can’t get played by a young cat

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
4:01 pm

The same thing going on in the bedroom…skills

Oh snap!!!

:lol:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:02 pm

Cel aint but one worm here :-D

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
4:02 pm

Jake ~ guess you missed the part where we all slapped her on the back for going after that Big Ego she’s been creaming over! We gave her that. Her flip flopping on what she wants out of this new relationship is what most is talking about. Curtain #1 has been opened. What’s now behind curtain #2??

disco

August 8th, 2012
4:02 pm

S/H – age might make a difference in how much it costs to play. LOL.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:05 pm

Single and Happy – Yeah, I bet

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:06 pm

Disco, well if i’m going to buy a car, I want a new car, not an old used up one (rotflmao) it might have cheaper payments, but every time I want to go somewhere it’s broke down (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:06 pm

disco – I’m agreeing. I for one am not digging into her. I say if you can’t roll with the FWB situation, cool. You’re much bigger than me and I can admit…lol But if you can’t and you’re saying you can, well…..

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:07 pm

S/H – Ummmm, if you didn’t just roll off the assembly yourself, I’m not getting that analogy. You might have entered pluckersville yourself…lol

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
4:08 pm

Leggs…same thing that’s behind curtain 1, azz, elbows, and sweat

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:08 pm

Cel you get it, to old pluckers aint going to get anywhere (LOL)

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
4:08 pm

Yall got me cracking up!!LOL!!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:11 pm

Cel I never intended for it to get to a relationship, nor last this long, must be some that Jamaican voodoo, or something in the air down there Mon

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
4:11 pm

Worms??? Do I even want to know?

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
4:12 pm

Jake~ Azz, elbows and sweat are great, but what are we supposed to do the other 15 hours in the day?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:12 pm

ITL, you never heard of big worm??

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:13 pm

S/H – Chile do you. But I can guarantee, if you’ve reached “wormy” age or near it, yous buying young tail…in one form or another. I ain’t knocking it. Just want you to know that’s what’s going on. Don’t want you to think it was solely on merits alone

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
4:15 pm

ITL (and Cel since this has turned into mixed doubles) LOL – I’m all up for learning how to temper and savor white choc. I am in the boat with the appetizer and entree. Teach me about the dessert and we’ll see about breaking out the quilt and cast iron. Not to turn this into 50 shades cause I’m no masochist BUT having Becky frying Bacon bucket nekkid in the morn is kinda sexy.
Your turn. Hahaha

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
4:16 pm

to old pluckers aint going to get anywhere

Single – That’s why I’ve always liked men close to my own age. I never went for a difference more or less than 5 years. I be damned if he’s sitting up all brand new while I’m propped on bricks or vice-versa!LOL!! We’ll be 2 old pluckers together!

That reminds me of Raqi. She was talking about her grandparents on the blog one day. She passed by them sitting on the front porch, holding hands. She said “hey whatchall doin?” They replied “having sex”.

:lol:

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
4:17 pm

Jake ~ if a Mandingo isn’t behind #2, time to go home!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:19 pm

WillieD – BUT having Becky frying Bacon bucket nekkid in the morn is kinda sexy

and dangerous…bacon grease ain’t no joke….lol

disco

August 8th, 2012
4:19 pm

S/H – and that could work for you and against you. you might have a young girl who hasn’t figured out her worth yet (translation: bargain booty) OR you could have a young girl who knows her worth and is weighing it against your desire to be with her and not someone your own age. she might charge a premium.

by the way – even though I come off gold digger-ish that’s not really the case. I admit though that I’m always irked to no end when a woman is screwing a guy (and sometimes more than one guy) but she’s coming up short. recently a friend asked if she could borrow gas money until payday. it wasn’t a big deal but in my mind I’m like that MF that’s screwing you should keep you in gas money. another chick was married and had a dude on the side but her money never added up. I could tell tales for days on women who aren’t making it do what it do. they better ask somebody. I’m the friend that will remind them that you should not be broke AND screwing. I just wasn’t raised that way. lol.

DreamsMaterialize

August 8th, 2012
4:20 pm

10 pages?!? What you all up to in here? What’s the topic right about now? How are the ladies doing? Nod to the fellas.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:24 pm

That’s why I’ve always liked men close to my own age. I never went for a difference more or less than 5 years. I be damned if he’s sitting up all brand new while I’m propped on bricks or vice-versa!LOL!! We’ll be 2 old pluckers together!

Exactly. If not, you could end up like Demi for example. Now she’s gotta want Ashton hang out with the cute and younger chick. I get it all the time, dudes think it’s cute that you don’t look your age. Naaah, not falling for that. Go on to the sandbox with your age group.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
4:25 pm

and dangerous…bacon grease ain’t no joke….lol

@C: You ain’t nevah lied. I burnt my finger the other day, but that peppercorn bacon on a buttermilk biscuit with a big slice of fresh tomato eased a lot of the pain. :)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
4:27 pm

@disco~ My momma always said love is just someting to tide you over until you get some money. Love will go out the window if you living in a cardboard box and have no idea where your next meal is coming from.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
4:28 pm

Go on to the sandbox with your age group.

LMAO! :lol: Smelling like similac and pampers up in here…

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
4:29 pm

Leggs, not sure Curtain 2 been pulled yet, but I bet its azz and Elbows back there!!

So Disco…it ain’t adding up huh….here we go!!!

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Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:31 pm

ITL – I see you’re on old fashioned cooking/eating gal. Love the biscuits and bacon. I’ll take a pass on the tomatoe though…lol

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
4:31 pm

Celisea – Plus, God only gave me one daddy. He & moms cut the apron strings quite awhile ago. I never, ever liked nobody other than my parents or my boss telling me what to do! A dude I’m dating might not have meant any harm or may even been trying to help me, but I would never have it. Can’t have nobody trying to be my daddy!

disco – You ain’t never lied. Ain’t jack free!

DreamsMaterialize

August 8th, 2012
4:32 pm

irked to no end when a woman is screwing a guy (and sometimes more than one guy) but she’s coming up short.
disco If she’s screwing, that sounds like an even trade. If you give me a chocolate chip cookie, and I give you an oatmeal raisin cookie in return, we’re even. Now if you ask me to pay you a dollar on top of that, then you’re getting over. A cookie for a cookie! lol

disco

August 8th, 2012
4:36 pm

dreams – that’s that new math. lol. even with the jokes I believe that the men will represent and say that a man that a do-right type of man will want to make sure your needs are met. he won’t have his chick riding around on E or sitting in the dark trying to scrape up light bill money. if a chick is sleeping with a guy who knows she’s in need and he can’t or won’t do anything to assist that chick better hurry up and see the light and move on to the next one. I will not be swayed from this stance. it’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
4:36 pm

DM- A cookie for a cookie! lol

“an even swap ain’t no swindle”-theme of the week I believe

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:37 pm

Disco you’re not a gold digger, you just have gold diggerish ways (LOL)

DM well said (LOL)

Cel my girl did try to threaten me one time by tell me that the men in Ja took care of their women, so I told her sounds to me like she need to go find her a Ja man then (LOL) haven’t heard that one again

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:38 pm

Kimmie – In every sense of the word. An old cat can fool himself if he likes. Don’t get me wrong, I ain’t knocking nobody hustle but don’t try and sell it to me on merit alone. If you sold it to someone else and she bought it, the price was much higher than the .15 cents I see on the sign at the lemonade stand.

I agree too with dicso. Again, not knocking anybody’s hustle but don’t EVER call me and ask me for jack if you’re laying up with a dude. And I mean it. Imma ask you outright, you giving up ass and you’re without?? IJS Ain’t nothing free

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:39 pm

S/H – So you did sell it to her for .15 cents? Oh, okay then. She needs to get Americanized…lololol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:40 pm

Kimmie aint trying to be nobodies daddy, not even to my own GROWN kids, those days are done. I have co-worker married to a younger girl and the talks the her like she’s his daughter, WTH

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:41 pm

S/H – You said you ain’t seen her in eight months? Well, okay and ummm and sure thing and righteo then. Eight months? You ain’t taking care of her? Ummm, okay then. She’s twiddling her thumbs waiting.

Orrrrr, call the set up for what it is. Seasonal booty call/FWB/FB? lol Bet those island dudes get the heads up, don’t show up when my American boo comes over.

DreamsMaterialize

August 8th, 2012
4:42 pm

he won’t have his chick riding around on E or sitting in the dark trying to scrape up light bill money.
disco Maybe she shouldn’t be dating if she’s broke. Isn’t that what the blog women say about men all the time? If she’s really in dire straits like that, then she needs to handle that before she goes out there playing grown up games. I, for one, am not dating women with those types of financial issues (I know some dudes are). Have your sh$t together. Come to the table with something (other than a$$). lol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:42 pm

Naw cel, like with any woman, it cost a little more than 15 cents

Disco, it all depends on why the car is on E, or the lights is off. every problem she has is not my problem, and i’m not going to make it mine?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:43 pm

Cel don’t know if she’s twiddling her thumbs, but I know I sho aint (LOL)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:44 pm

Cel don’t have to worry about them showing up, they don’t have AC so we have to go to some resort, hell I’m on vacation (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:45 pm

even swap ain’t no swindle…it’s all good then S/H…that’s all I’m saying.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:46 pm

S/H – they don’t have AC so we have to go to some resort, hell I’m on vacation

Payment tendered in the form of luxury…yeah, there you have it. It might not be currency but it’s payment…lolololol

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:47 pm

And I bet you’re paying…even swap ain’t no swindle. I ain’t mad at you because that’s how it should flow. Just saying don’t be acting like you’re plucker is still shining and pulling on showmanship alone.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:47 pm

Yeah…BAM!!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:48 pm

Comon why you living in a card board box? Why can’t you leave and get your own place with out him or the love?

disco

August 8th, 2012
4:48 pm

dreams – S/H – those are just example problems (though old girl just borrowed gas money about a week or two ago). I’ve seen countless variations though. all I’m saying is they shouldn’t be in a position to come to me, another friend, their parents or whoever when some man is laying up with them. I’m not putting the responsibility on men to step up. it’s all on the woman which is why I say these chicks better learn. I’m not judging a single solitary man who can get it without having to do a daggone thing. my grandmother made it clear when she said we should never lay with a man who couldn’t or wouldn’t do anything for you. me, myself, personally – I’m not big on asking but I’m always paying very close attention to what a man is offering me or not offering me.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:49 pm

Cel, I love to vacation, and never stay at Motel 6 and I do it with her, and without her. I would be going even if she wasn’t there.

DreamsMaterialize

August 8th, 2012
4:50 pm

It might not be currency but it’s payment…lolololol
Hey Celly Cel. You’re right. Everything has a cost, some way somehow, whether it’s your fwb, gf, or wife. Thing is, women pay too…often in emotional currency. How have you been?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:50 pm

S/H – That ain’t the point. You bragged about a new model and blah blah blah…just saying re-read my 4:47

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:51 pm

Cel as in my answer to anyone that says she just wants me for my money, Lets see I’m 50, she’ll soon be 29, Duhhhhhh

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:52 pm

Dreams – I’m good

S/H – Not quite where I was going with the even swap/new model/still got it/still can pull/seeing “your” girl every eight months but okay

disco

August 8th, 2012
4:53 pm

S/H – she’s 29? did you not know that 30 is around the age of the female version of the mid-life crisis? she’s probably seeing her life flashing before her eyes. she probably looks in the mirror and sees miss jane pittman looking back at her. in her mind, she’s resigned to dating in her lane. LOL.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
4:53 pm

Good night good blog folks!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:54 pm

What happened to ITL?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:54 pm

Disco, these days when dealing with women, and a lot of them have kids, some don’t ask their baby daddy for child support, some or still taking care of their grown a kids. Don’t ask me for gas money or tell me about your lights getting turned off until you take care of that business. And don’t tell me about me coming over your house and eating your food, cause i have my own house and my own food.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
4:54 pm

If I were giving a cookie for a cookie, then cool. But if I’m bringing dinner with all the trimmings and all he giving is a cookie? We got issues. This goes back to the crux of the matter. A man who sleeps around is a stud, but a woman who does the same is a ho. Therefore, it’s not cookies to cookies.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:56 pm

Cel that new model thing was a joke, hell I wish I did have an old plucker (LOL)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
4:56 pm

C- She had a meeting. Said she’d be right back.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:57 pm

Comon Cents, you can’t turn a ho into a housewife, and the first time i come home and find her cooking, she got to go!! (LOL)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
4:58 pm

I’m here, Cel. Had to put a fire out for somebody with a short fuse. :)

Stamps, call it what it is. You’re just going to get your groove back….

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:58 pm

oh and comon, I’m not a stud, I’m a ho too, I don’t believe in those double standards

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:59 pm

yea that is where Stella went, why can’t I (LOL)

disco

August 8th, 2012
5:00 pm

CC – I said earlier that that’s that “new math”.

S/H – remember whodini’s “I’m a hoe”

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:01 pm

I’m not going to ask a man (trust me) for anything…but I won’t deal with a dude that I CAN’T ask.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:01 pm

Disco, I don’t think I’ve heard that one I was 4 (Lmao)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:02 pm

CC – Thanks
ITL – I see ya
S/H – Do ya thang…I ain’t knocking nobody’s hustle. You gotta cross the seas to feel young again, gon head and get it done…lol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:03 pm

Cel I am young :-D

disco

August 8th, 2012
5:04 pm

S/H – that would have been funny if 1) you hadn’t put your age on front street and 2) if you weren’t older than I am. lol. shoot, you are right about the age that you might have had the leather pants and the little leather beanie hat that they used to wear. I could just see you know talking about “one love, one love, you lucky just to have just one love”.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:05 pm

I’m catching up, but I like what Dreams said about bringing more to the table.

I’m on a dating hiatus right now (so to speak) because I feel like I’m not bringing what I want to attract in return. Until I’m there, I’d rather do without.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:06 pm

S/H – We all are young…lol Ain’t that how it goes, you’re as young as you feel (b/n/r)?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:07 pm

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:07 pm

The thing about it, it doesn’t matter what age range you date in, it’s going to cost you.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:08 pm

Disco, that’s my jam (LOL)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
5:08 pm

S/H- Call yourself what you will, society will still not demonize you nearly as much as they will demonize a woman for the exact same offenses. The same holds true for the preacher story. I’d the minister was a female and it was a 16 yo boy, most of society wouldn’t bat an eye. Sad, but true.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:08 pm

S/H – Now THAT’S how think…lol

S/H – Got any more pics? I want to see one with you void of your tan :)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:08 pm

you’re as young as you feel

Mmmhmmm. Stamps added “ing on” to the end of that. :lol:

And a side eye to WD for trying to pull C and me into an unsavory discussion of dessert. You ain’t that slick with your serve, Bjorn…. I saw the whole thing. ;)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:10 pm

ITL – I tried to serve a quick save and diverted to Bacon grease. He was getting all fancy smancy on us…lol

S/H – You see my post? I need one 3 shades lighter.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:12 pm

Yeah….they don’t call him Fancy Pants Dynamite Mullet for nothin’. Ain’t that right, Willie??? ;)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
5:12 pm

ITL-Can you teach Bluzy that? Lol!

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:12 pm

I can’t believe we made 12 pages. When’s the last time we did that?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:13 pm

Cel I’ll have to see

Comon, that’s part of America’s problem most worry about what society thinks, and everyone thinks their opinion matters. I have a saying that if the first 4 words out of your mouth when giving your opinion refer to the first person, it negates every thing after that, because it’s not you.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
5:14 pm

“And don’t tell me about me coming over your house and eating your food, cause i have my own house and my own food.”

Then eat before you get to my house…it’s that simple!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:14 pm

ITL – LOL

S/H – Okay…let Cely know, k?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:15 pm

Touche Leggs…lol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:15 pm

Cel, my 3 shades lighter is snicker chocolate, but I wasn’t 3 shades darker in the one I sent you, I don’ have any of those.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:19 pm

Cel I guess it’s noticeable, because the last few times my co-workers can tell

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:19 pm

@CC: When she gets tired enough of banging her head against the wall, she’ll try something new. :)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:20 pm

Leggs I do eat before I go there (LOL)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:20 pm

Wait…I missed something somewhere….What’s this about Snickers and your co-workers being able to tell when you’ve been eating one?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:22 pm

Cel, Leggs, eating before go there, and telling them to come over your house doesn’t stop you from hearing it, cause then they start talking about gas money! Dang can a brotha get a break??

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:23 pm

ITL, my skin color is the same as a snicker, and when I get darker, my co-workers start asking me where I went when I was off because they notice my tan

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
5:26 pm

Single- would that we lived in a world where opinions didn’t matter. But unfortunately, we don’t.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:27 pm

@Stamps: Gotcha! Good thing disco doesn’t work with your co-workers. She’d tell them it’s none of their blankety blank business. LOLOL :lol: Ain’t that right, disco?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:27 pm

comon most of the time they don’t matter unless you let them matter, to some they do, and to some of us they really don’t.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:29 pm

You know what they say about opinions? They’re like a-holes: everyone’s got one and a lot of them stink. IJS….. :)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:29 pm

So, three shades lighter is snicker’s chocolate??? Then are you burnt three shades darker???

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:29 pm

ITL on my co-workers no I don’t have a problem telling them it aint none of their business. everybody that really knows me knows that (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:30 pm

S/H – I’m the color of a snickers I suppose…lol Three shades darker would be blue right? LOLOLOL

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:32 pm

Cel evidently I was, or at least that’s what I was told, those times it was very noticeable, and I have been sunburned to the point my skin peeled , but never the painful kind.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:32 pm

Cel, naw purple (LOL)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:34 pm

@Stamps: Just don’t wear an “eggplant” shirt. LOL

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
5:39 pm

S&H/ITL~ It is find to live in a world where opinions don’t matter, but let’s be real. Opinions are why Herman Cain is out of the Presidential race. Opinions are why Casey Anthony’s life sucks right now. (No, I am not exonerating what she did, but she WAS acquitted and that doesn’t matter to anyone). So, yes, opinions are important even though we would like for them not to be…

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:39 pm

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
5:40 pm

On the other note~ my hubby says I am the color of caramel.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:40 pm

S/H – I thought purple but I was trying to be nice and go with blue…lol

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:41 pm

ITL – LOLOL..that’s disco’s man

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:42 pm

Are we talking color now? Shoot, I’ve been missing my weekends at the pool – I look like Casper’s stunt double. :lol:

Who was it the other day saying they told a guy his color matched his shirt and he responded that his shirt was “eggplant”???

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:43 pm

@C: Yup. That’s it – it was disco. I should’ve known if I was laughing that hard it had to be you or disco.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:43 pm

ITL – That was disco.

I’m Chocolatte, with smooth skin :)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:44 pm

Alright, I need to get out of here….

12 pages….woo hoo

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:44 pm

And I’m a vanilla frappe. ;)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:44 pm

comon I can’t speak for them all I can speak for is me, and I notice when I use to let peoples opinion matter, my life sucked, when I stop caring what others think of me, things got a whole lot better. If you live your life by other people standards, will you ever be happy? I’m probably one of the few people in this country that can be on any jury, because I don’t form an opinion by what the media reports. (I wasn’t there, and I don’t know all the facts) You got to love this country, you guilty until proven innocent (you just got away with it, everybody know’s your guilty)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:45 pm

chocolatte and vanilla frappe :)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:45 pm

a vanilla frappe with a few cinnamon sprinkles (freckles, you know). :lol:

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:45 pm

@C: We’ve gone from Twinks to Starbucks! LOLOL

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:45 pm

S/H – What time are you leaving?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:46 pm

chocolate, caramel, vanilla!! (I’m gone start drooling again) LOL

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:46 pm

ITL – Okay, that’s cause we’re smoooooove (not smooth) like that :)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:46 pm

Into the Light - Smoooooove and In the Groooove

August 8th, 2012
5:48 pm

Stamps: First thing I’mma buy with my green stamps is a bib for you. Wait, on second thought, I’ll give you one of baby Rella’s hand me downs. :)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:49 pm

yall started this, I haven’t drooled in 2 days lmao

Into the Light - Smoooooove and In the Groooove

August 8th, 2012
5:49 pm

man, you better get to that vending machine and get a snickers to tide you over. :)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
5:50 pm

S&H~ But you see the point I am making. Even though Casey Anthony was acquitted, she can’t get a job, people want to kill her, she is a social pariah. Herman Cain denies that he had an affair, but he is still not going to be support by the GOP because the public has formed an opinion. While I am like you and I really could give a rat’s ass what someone thinks of me, when it comes to certain areas, yes, your personal life DOES matter.

O/T~ I have to laugh my ass off at the people who are so dark they could go to funerals naked and want to dress in all black. WTF is that? You already dark! I want to walk by them and be like “Hey! Lighten up!” :lol:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:50 pm

Hey I found out I am the only one who didn’t know what a CT is (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:50 pm

I ain’t tryna start nothign but everytime I hear “drooling” it sounds vaguely familiar. Did we have another blogger that drooled a lot? I mean I know it’s only with puddy and CT and stuff. Seriously, it sounds like a word commonly tossed around.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
5:51 pm

ITL~ Who is baby Rella?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:51 pm

CC – That sounded like an opportunity for a racist remark. Back off…that wasn’t funny.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:52 pm

ITL a snicker won’t satisfy this hunger (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:52 pm

And like the saying goes…THE BLACKER THE BERRY THE SWEETER THE JUICE. That’s why I just move on past some folks…mmm hmmm

I could say kiss my ass with that but that wouldn’t be nice

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:54 pm

S/H – Drooling late afternoon shows bi-polar behavior from the stella persona displayed during daytime hours. Too, it’s reeks of ho-ishness

Into the Light - Smoooooove and In the Groooove

August 8th, 2012
5:55 pm

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:55 pm

Comon I have a friend who wore a white suit once, and everybody swore when he was in the sun he ws changing colors (LOL)

Cel, that depends on what you ass looks like.

Did I miss something?

Into the Light - Smoooooove and In the Groooove

August 8th, 2012
5:56 pm

Stamps, I got two words for you: Horn Dawg. :)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
5:56 pm

C~ not racist at all. I just don’t understand why people do not dress for their skin/body type. If you are really really dark, wearing all black is not a good fashion choice. I didn’t say I don’t like a smooth skinned dark brother, because I definitely do. However, they need to “lighten up” their color choice because all black is not flattering to their skin tone. I cannot wear yellows and mustard colors. They make me looked washed out and bland. It is what it is.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:56 pm

Cel, I admitted I’m a ho about 2 or 3 pages ago (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:58 pm

CC – Opinions are like assholes, everybody’s got one. People can wear what they want. I wear all black because my money bought it.

No, none of that it is what it is BS…you took a crack chick/dude/thug…whatever you are.

Into the Light - Smoooooove and In the Groooove

August 8th, 2012
5:58 pm

@CC: Baby Rella is my blog baby with For Real. Cel is her auntie/keeping the baby daddy in line TT. :lol: Aint’ that right, Twink?

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
5:58 pm

ITL said she was Casper’s twin right now. I would bet that kelly green isn’t her color choice at the moment. I could be wrong, but usually when people of the caucasian persausion are very pale, green makes them look ill.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:59 pm

Somebody always hanging around, looking for an opportunity. BITE ME!!!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:59 pm

Wow Cel, we agree on something :-) about the opinions that is.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
6:00 pm

ITL – Yep

CC – IF yo MONEY/ASS/SHENANIGANS bought it, it’s yours. You can do whatever the heck you please with it.

All blacks looks good wrapped around my nice….

Bye

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
6:01 pm

CC – Opinions are like assholes, everybody’s got one. People can wear what they want. I wear all black because my money bought it.

No, none of that it is what it is BS…you took a crack chick/dude/thug…whatever you are

I did not take a crack. You said you were the color of Snickers. That’s a far cry from the Miles Davis black I am talking about. If you took it personally, then so be it.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
6:01 pm

All BLACK looks good wrapped around my nice….tatas? Nope not what I was gonna say…lololol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:01 pm

Comon, do you really put that much thought into what color you wear?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
6:02 pm

CC – Miles Davis didn’t make himself. Nothing shameful about whatever your color is.

Into the Light - Smoooooove and In the Groooove

August 8th, 2012
6:02 pm

Actually, I love Kelly green. I’ve got Scots-Irish heritage, so it’s flattering. Lime green on the other hand, not so much.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:02 pm

cel, can I see, can I see

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
6:04 pm

Mmmm hmmm, that’s why I don’t play or dabble too much with certain folks. Like my mama said, play with a puppy and it will lick you in the mouth

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
6:04 pm

C~ And if you were my friend outside of “blogworld” and you wore something that wasn’t flattering, I would tell you that. I would hope you would do the same. That IS what friendship is about right? Nothing irritates me more than seeing a group of women and someone is wearing something that does not suit them and their friends are either too treacherous or too chicken sh!t to let them know. If you are truly someone’s friend then you tell them if something is not flattering and I don’t give a damn whose money bought it.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:04 pm

If you like it, I love it!!!

Into the Light - Smoooooove and In the Groooove

August 8th, 2012
6:04 pm

Stamps: Here’s your bib. :lol:

C: Repeat after me….wooo saaaaa…..woooo saaaaa…..don’t get upset – it’s almost time to go home! :)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
6:05 pm

Miles Davis didn’t make himself. Nothing shameful about whatever your color is.

Never said there was anything shameful in it.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
6:05 pm

Don’t go there. You took a racist crack…plain and simple

Into the Light - Smoooooove and In the Groooove

August 8th, 2012
6:06 pm

@CC: I would hope you would tell me in a kind way. You could hurt someone’s feelings if you’re not careful with those kind of comments.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
6:06 pm

And as we ALWAYS know, it’s easy to hide, change names, pretend, swap up behind the screen….that’s about equal as being racist….coward

Now…bye!!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:06 pm

Comon, I wouldn’t tell them nor would I talk about them, it’s theirs and if they like it, who am I to judge?? but that goes back to others opinion of me doesn’t matter, nor does mine of them.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
6:08 pm

Comon, do you really put that much thought into what color you wear?

Sure do. I have to stand in front of a courtroom full of people and sway them to my client’s best interests. Again, back to the opinion thing, it does matter what that group of people thinks about me. And, yes, whether they admit it or not, people make judgements about how competent you are as an attorney based on wardrobe, overall attractiveness, articulation and dictation, etc.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:09 pm

Comon okay point taken

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
6:11 pm

Stamps: I’m with you. About the only way I would give negative feedback is if he or she asked. And even then, I’d try to do it in a kind way.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
6:11 pm

Don’t go there.You took a racist crack…plain and simple

Believe what you choose to believe. It wasn’t a racist crack, nor did I mean it to be. But that goes back to that people gonna believe what they want to believe. I haven’t changed up anything. I don’t have to. I stand by EXACTLY what I said. It’s my opinion and I am entitled to it. My son is dark. I love him more than air. But I also make sure that he picks colors that are flattering to his skin tone. I’m his mother. That’s part of my job. And yes, ITL, I am careful with how I say it to someone. It would never be my intent to hurt anyone. But like I said, it is what it is.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
6:14 pm

ITL~ So you would let a girlfriend go out to the bar/club/restaurant with you in an outfit that clearly did not show her in her best light and not say a word?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:14 pm

ITL I don’t even give it then, I let them know they have to wear what makes them happy and not worry about what others think,

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:16 pm

Comon describe something that you think wouldn’t be int the best light?

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
6:16 pm

@CC: Probably not, unless it was inappropriate and I thought she would feel out of place or embarassed around others.

@Stamps: I agree (mostly).

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
6:16 pm

Black men HAVE NO PROBLEM WHATSOEVER WITH BLACK WOMEN. So, really that’s the only opinion…if any…that matters :mrgreen:

Gotta run for real this time :) :)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
6:17 pm

Night, C! I wish you’d stay. :(

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
6:18 pm

ITL – I’m meeting someone at 7 :) :)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
6:19 pm

http://www.stylishcurves.net/2011/05/stylish-curves-of-day-yolanda.html

The picture in the teal blue tights does not show that chick in her best light.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
6:19 pm

Okay, chocolatte. Get your smooooove grooooove on. LOL :)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:21 pm

what was wrong with it?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:23 pm

but I guess being a man, I wouldn’t get,

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
6:23 pm

Yeah, I think she’s cute. She’s obviously confident and happy in her own skin, so I say go for it. It’s not like she’s being inappropriate.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
6:24 pm

Skirt too short, jacket too tight. It makes her look larger than she is. The other outfits are great on her. Flattering to the figure, etc.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:24 pm

ITL, when someone has confidence, there is usually nothing that can embarrass them, they don’t care what others think.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
6:24 pm

Okay, that’s all the fun I can take. Off to meet a friend and then on to the dessert case. Y’all look for me on the news! :lol: :lol:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:26 pm

Comon and you have a right to your opinion, but she looks like the type of person who wouldn’t care

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
6:32 pm

Well, I did not mean to offend Celisea, and I’m sorry she took it that way. But, I hope you all have a good night and I will catch up with you soon. Looks like I will really have to earn that vest, huh?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
6:33 pm

Vest?? oh your blog vest

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
6:38 pm