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Right personality for marriage?

I was having brunch with my brunch chicas this weekend when the topic of marriage came up. I jokingly commented that having a husband that lived in the house across the street or next door sounds perfect!

I think a lot of single people who have not been married before have this fear (unhealthy?) of what life would be like living with someone else. Especially when you actually love living alone, in your space, doing secret single person behavior things all alone.

I wonder if it takes a certain type of personality to adapt to marriage and make those adjustments to living with a mate? Maybe some people find it easier than others.

Do you think some people just have the ideal personality to be married?
How can you know if you are that type? How can you tell if you have what it takes to be someone’s spouse?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

654 comments Add your comment

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:17 pm

Ok…next topic? :-)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:18 pm

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:19 pm

If I really were to fill you all in on things I went through in the past, you might understand why I am the way I am with men. I’m working on it…

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:20 pm

Cel, now you have to be politically correct, it’s mentally challenged!!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:20 pm

Bluzy – No excuses. None of us are squeaky clean but again, like ITL said, if you want different results, then you have to do differently

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:21 pm

Single and Happy – Right, I forgot…lol

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:21 pm

Celisea ~ I thought you were going a different route (lolol)?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:22 pm

And no, I’m not making light of the mentally challenged.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:22 pm

Leggs – Chile….it’s hard too. I had to see her running into that wall with no helmet or anything.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:23 pm

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:23 pm

Bluz ~ your past helps mold you, but it doesn’t have to define you. Stop using that as a crux. We all have issues in our past with one simple pivot we all could be different individuals! It’s your call, own up to it and have it work for you, not against you!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:23 pm

Legss – Now, I’m officially done :mrgreen:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:24 pm

I just honestly wonder what she’s seeing that we don’t see or what she don’t get that some of us get???

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:25 pm

Bluz you have to stop living life like a Nascar driver (going fast but getting nowhere)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:25 pm

@Bluz: I wasn’t making fun of you or making light of anything you’ve been through. I’m just saying if what you’re doing is not working, then back up and punt. :)

And the Bluz Mobley mantra is for you to say everyday. I don’t know if you read/saw The Help, but I think a daily affirmation could be good for you.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
3:27 pm

ITl~ You are a trip. She done brought the Help out.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:27 pm

ITL, don’t back up and punt, leave the field until you come up with some new plays, cause dem aint working at all

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:28 pm

LOL@CC. Yup. I’mma sit Bluz Mobley down next to old Auntie ITL and make her repeat that mantra every day until she internalizes it and knows it’s true.

(blog hugs and love to you, Bluz. For real!)

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:29 pm

lol. bluz you funny.

ITL – but isn’t the bottom line of the help mantra that old girl is fat and ugly and so she’s trying to give her something else to hold onto.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:31 pm

LOL…I’ll remember that mantra!

I’m not letting my past define me anymore (hence the therapy), but it can still be hard to break cycles. I’m working on it, though. As long as I can keep the feelings at bay, then I think I’ll be ok. I like him, but don’t see myself falling for him anytime soon.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:31 pm

@disco: Did we see the same movie/read the same book? Mae Mobley is a toddler.

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:32 pm

bluz – child please. I swear sometimes it’s like you try to tell us what you think we want to hear. newsflash!!! us blog people, we ain’t nobody. no point in trying to placate us.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:34 pm

disco…I think I’m trying to work things out in my head…

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:34 pm

Bluz anytime soon????? (too late)

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:34 pm

ITL – I know. the mother didn’t pay her much attention because she was chubby and homely (fat/ugly) or rather chubbier and homelier than the children of her peers hence the extra encouragement to boost her self esteem.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
3:34 pm

Bluz~ Maybe you need a hobby. Something to take your mind off the D. Maybe, you should get a pet…

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:35 pm

@WD: re: “the slow melt” and “wc mixed with a bit of dark can be quite the visual. As I’m sure you can attest.”
That last sentence almost reads like an accusation, but there’s no shame in my game. I love a wc/dark chocolate swirl. Or a wc/caramel swirl. Or straight wc. See, as long as you have quality ingredients, the color of the chocolate is not the most important element. ;)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:35 pm

We need a topic change. My neck is hurting from reading about Bluzy’s issues….lololol

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:36 pm

See, as long as you have quality ingredients, the color of the chocolate is not the most important element

I’d say that places the score at 0 – 3, my favor :)

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:36 pm

CC – That’s part of the reason I’m trying to learn bass…another hobby!

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
3:36 pm

I’m not letting my past define me anymore (hence the therapy), but it can still be hard to break cycles. I’m working on it, though. As long as I can keep the feelings at bay, then I think I’ll be ok. I like him, but don’t see myself falling for him anytime soon.

It’s still a cycle if you start out the relationship (or jumpoff or whatevea) the same way the last two relationships started.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:37 pm

spooning white chocolate with quality “ingredients”

WINNING!!!

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:38 pm

@disco: Hmmm, that’s not the way it came across in the book to me. It was more that the mother was so self-absorbed in trying to put on airs and keep up with the other “ladies” that she didn’t have time for anyone or anything. But maybe you saw an angle that I missed (or maybe just didn’t want to see).

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:38 pm

Why do I get the feeling Comon Cents is holding off from realling digging into Bluzy? LOL

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:38 pm

“I like him, but don’t see myself falling for him anytime soon.”

I am now convinced you like words. I love words, but you use them to psyche yourself up and out. Who are you feeling. That sentence above is a boldfaced lie. We all know it. If you want to use words to your benefit, use the right ones, even if they hurt!

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:38 pm

Cel…notice I mentioned a topic change much earlier? :-)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:39 pm

Uh oh. Y’all look out….C’s making a run for the medal podium. :lol:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:39 pm

Bluzy – Toss something out there. I’ll go with you.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:39 pm

Bluz it’s really hard to break the cycle if you’re not trying too.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:39 pm

CC…that’s why I had such mixed feelings when I let that happen…

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:40 pm

ITL – Stand back now….

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:40 pm

Ok…so did anyone see poor Gabby on the balance beam last night? My heart fell when she fell…

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:40 pm

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:40 pm

I see WillieD has quietly retreated to the loser’s corner/bench

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:42 pm

Single and Happy – Are you a jail baiter??

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:42 pm

Bluz it’s really hard to break the cycle if you’re not trying too.

There you go…13 simple words.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:43 pm

@C: Make sure you wave to me when you’re on the podium. I’ll be the one crying and smiling and all proud that my Twink is getting the gold. ;)

AND NOBODY BET NOT SAY NUTHIN’ ‘BOUT HER HAIR. JUST DON’T.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:43 pm

I can’t pull up that article from work…what’s the jist of the story?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:43 pm

I’m about to dig into my other half (of cake slice)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:44 pm

ITL – AND NOBODY BET NOT SAY NUTHIN’ ‘BOUT HER HAIR. JUST DON’T

You are one funny person….lol Shole betnot.