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Right personality for marriage?

I was having brunch with my brunch chicas this weekend when the topic of marriage came up. I jokingly commented that having a husband that lived in the house across the street or next door sounds perfect!

I think a lot of single people who have not been married before have this fear (unhealthy?) of what life would be like living with someone else. Especially when you actually love living alone, in your space, doing secret single person behavior things all alone.

I wonder if it takes a certain type of personality to adapt to marriage and make those adjustments to living with a mate? Maybe some people find it easier than others.

Do you think some people just have the ideal personality to be married?
How can you know if you are that type? How can you tell if you have what it takes to be someone’s spouse?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
2:45 pm

White choc dang, spooning dang. 0 for 2. Hahaha

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:45 pm

I appreciate it, C, but I think it’s gonna take the real thing to cure this craving. :( Darn sweet tooth.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:45 pm

LOL……..@Swiss

Like a man that understands.

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
2:45 pm

Enter your comments here

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:46 pm

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:46 pm

ITL…I think I’m afraid to get too attached after what happened the last time. A girl has needs and he gives me what I need physically. I want it to stay at that…even if I don’t think I can handle that.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:46 pm

Thanks, Kimmie. ;)

@WD: And what exactly, sir, is wrong with white chocolate??? Hmmmm????

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:47 pm

ITL – For what it’s worth, I would share my slice with you if I could :)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
2:47 pm

Have any of you ever had sweet potato cake? My gigi used to make it, and t might be the best stuff EVER. (Right up there with red velvet for me)

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
2:47 pm

ITL–
- I HATE it when people come by my office, leaning over my desk to see what I’ve got. Dang germy-a$$ mouth breathers.-

If you do like I do and kick people in the shin when they do that, they will stop! It is amazin’ what a little shock value will get ya. :evil:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:47 pm

ITL – 0 for 2 in blogly means winning :mrgreen: Ain’t their right WillieD

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:48 pm

Light I had to step outside because of that 2:44, how Elvis would say it “don’t be cruel”…………..LOL

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
2:49 pm

ITL…I think I’m afraid to get too attached after what happened the last time. A girl has needs and he gives me what I need physically. I want it to stay at that…even if I don’t think I can handle that

****Capitan Obvious alert**** Then why do you not just take time and let yourself heal from the last relationship before you pop into someting that will cause you to have feelings for someone who may/may not be right for you which will cause you more hurt in the long term than the temporary pleasure you get from the D?

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:50 pm

@C: For what it’s worth, I’d be at your office, fork in hand if I could. :)

@PG: Thanks, man! I’ll try that next time. ;)

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
2:52 pm

ITL

No problem! I am a little Sheldon Cooper-like when it comes to food. :lol:

disco

August 8th, 2012
2:52 pm

bluz – I was trying to be quiet but I can’t. even if you are just a cut buddy or fwb or jumpoff or whatever – the man still pays be it a tshirt or whatever. life lesson – coochie ain’t free!!! it may sound gold digger-ish but it’s real. grown men know it’s real. okay. I’m back to catching up.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
2:53 pm

ITL – just a preference but ummm Whit choc doesn’t seem to melt like fudge or milk chocolate. The white choc tends to be shaved and is more decorative that you take straight to the head (no pun intended smile). Whereas fudge or milk choc has that smooth melting quality that you literally have to lick the wrapper or spoon/fork (gladly) a few times to get it all. IJS
I’m trying, your turn now. Whatchu got.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
2:54 pm

BF ~ you are kind.

“if she is trying to keep it at FWB then all bets are off and the advice is bad.” Possibly. It sounds like she’s trying to convince herself knowing full well she wants more with this guy (if it’s at all possible). It’s like a person telling themselves something so when it doesn’t pan out the way they secretly harbor it to turn out, no disappointment. Doesn’t matter, because the fooler still got fooled.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:54 pm

Well…hopefully, he will just give me the shirt when he gets back…

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
2:54 pm

Hurts so good!
Come on baby, make it hurt so good!
Sometimes love don’t feel like it should so make it
Hurt so good!!

Sorry, couldn’t help but think of that song reading Bluz say she wants the D even if she can’t handle just the D!

CC- I’ve made sweet potato pound cake and sweet potato cheesecake before. Both were rather tasty if I say so myself, actually better than my sweet potato pie.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:55 pm

ITL…I think I’m afraid to get too attached after what happened the last time. A girl has needs and he gives me what I need physically. I want it to stay at that…even if I don’t think I can handle that.

Bluz, did I miss an obituary in the paper? Somebody die and leave you the crown for queen of the martyrs??? Yes, people have needs; no, you don’t sacrifice yourself and your emotional well-being to satisfy those needs. You better be looking out for number one. (psssst – number one is YOU, just in case you didn’t know)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:57 pm

disco – We done (yes, we done), tried to get her to “see” this. And you’re right…it’s not being a gold digger. But if you give it all away, repeatedly and over the years, there will be nothing left in the end. And I don’t mean in terms of material stuff or cootie so much. But if you aren’t cut from the cloth of FWB and you continously go there, you’ll end up nothing but an empty shell later in life. W

Bluzy – We (or I’m not) talking so much in the material sense but if you give yourself away time and time again, no standards, no requirements, you’re gonna come up empty every single time. You have to know that if you live by standards most times it’s gonna be a bust or you have to try at it time and time again until the right one comes. Why? Cause most dudes (ain’t looking for that) aren’t ready until they’re ready. Let them find some other chick to experiment and play with. You can’t be a toy for every man that blows your way. You’ll find to, that you’ll leave peacefully and with peace of mind if you set a standard and keep with it.

cba

August 8th, 2012
2:57 pm

CC, my mama made sweet potato cake….almost as good as her carrot cake, german chocolate…..

PG, very very sorry to hear about your lost. One of my good friends lost her twins during pregnancy, now she has four healthy kids. Anything is possible with His blessing. Good luck to you and your wife.

Eat the cake Cely-Mae, eat the damn cake…..couldn’t resist :lol:

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:57 pm

Doesn’t matter, because the fooler still got fooled.

Preach it, Sistah Leggs. :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:57 pm

:mrgreen: You aint nothing but a hound dog. I changed for the better.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:58 pm

live peacefully not leave

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
2:59 pm

cba…Thank you :smile:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:59 pm

cba – LOLOLOL…glady :)

ITL/WillieD – Well dern, I thought 0-2 was me winning. I guess not

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
3:01 pm

Enjoy the day and have a great night!

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:02 pm

And co-signing C, too.

@WD: Oh puh-leeze. Just because your iceberg mouth ain’t warm enough to melt white chocolate, don’t discount it for everyone. Like any chocolate, it has to be correctly tempered and when it is…it is a creamy, sweet, delectable delight. Deuce – your serve.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:03 pm

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
3:03 pm

Cel – keep at it you got 1 more chance. 1 for 3 and you a hall of famer in baseball.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:04 pm

I thought I was caught up now I see page 8.

“A girl has needs and he gives me what I need physically. I want it to stay at that…even if I don’t think I can handle that.” – This has got to be the biggest piece of poppy cock I’ve read in a long time.

One thing I’ve learned in life is never put myself in a position that I can’t handle or do not know how to get out of. I don’t believe in playing with temptation just because it’s in front of me!

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
3:04 pm

Preach blog sisters – you all are dropping some gems on Bluzy!

Lord knows I know about that empty feeling – learned it early after my first heartbreak! That’s when I knew I was not cut out for the free & easy, snatch & grab type of lifestyle. Once you admit it to yourself, it is truly liberating. In fact, you will really be Free At Last. Not saying you will never be hurt again, but you will have peace of mind and self-worth.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:05 pm

WD – What ITL said at 3:02…now that places me back at 0-2 my favor :)

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:06 pm

kimmie ~ I love that song. I sang it on the blog last week (I think)..lol

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:07 pm

Kimmie and ladies – I don’t even front. Again, not knocking any other woman and her style, I’ve NEVER played that sort of game because I know I can’t handle it. Not only do I catch feelings easily but I have a problem with giving myself to a man that’s also passing it around to a few others. Noooo can do. I got a temper too??? Heck naw, I don’t even attempt to go there….lol

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:07 pm

ITL – liar liar pants on fire? today has been full of blasts from the past.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:08 pm

Part of me is scared because I do kind of like him and I started the physical relationship without even thinking about it. I’ve tried to break the mold of my past. My last two serious relationships started out as sex first and then developed quickly. I really didn’t want to do that again. I think I’m trying to tell myself that sex is all I want (besides just a friendship) so that I’ll believe it. Kind of like if you’re feeling down and you pretend smile all day…eventually, you may have a real smile.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:09 pm

Seriously???? It’s just wasted words fallen to the ground. Okay, I’m done for real. I’m just gonna love Bluzy, mistakes and all.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:09 pm

(shrugs) @disco: I wanted to add the “hang ‘em high, hang ‘em low, hang ‘em on the stereo” but I thought “naaaah, too much.” :lol:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:09 pm

Someone said this to me yesterday…

tell tell go to jail….I forgot about that…lol We said that as kids

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:09 pm

I encourage chicks to “man up” for the team. every time a “gazelle-type” chick lets a man get over that same man gets gassed up and tries that same game on the next chick. he shares strategy tips with his boys. ultimately, and given enough time, that raggedy game makes its way to me and I’m not trying to hear that mess.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:10 pm

tell tell go to jail, hang your britches on a nail

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:11 pm

C/ITL – I remember saying “tell, tell, go to jail. hang your draws on a rusty nail”.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:11 pm

Okay, so let’s review. What did Einstein say the definition of insanity is??? To do the same thing over and over and expect a different result? Okay, that’s the ITL paraphrase but you get the gist.

Bluz Mobley, you is kind. You is smart. You is important.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:14 pm

ITL – You are a retard….lolololol I’m guaranteed a laugh everytime you blog.

disco – I was shocked…it was a dude that said it to me…lol Hadn’t heard it in years.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
3:15 pm

ITL – touche` but 86 the name calling, chick lol. Sometimes iceberg with a slow melt is divine so I see your point. With that being said wc mixed with a bit of dark can be quite the visual. As I’m sure you can attest.
Return volley, we can play on the baseline or at the net. Your choice.

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:16 pm

bluz – what ITL really wants to know is did you ride the short bus? were your classes in the basement?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:17 pm

did you have a helment, was the bus yellow