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Right personality for marriage?

I was having brunch with my brunch chicas this weekend when the topic of marriage came up. I jokingly commented that having a husband that lived in the house across the street or next door sounds perfect!

I think a lot of single people who have not been married before have this fear (unhealthy?) of what life would be like living with someone else. Especially when you actually love living alone, in your space, doing secret single person behavior things all alone.

I wonder if it takes a certain type of personality to adapt to marriage and make those adjustments to living with a mate? Maybe some people find it easier than others.

Do you think some people just have the ideal personality to be married?
How can you know if you are that type? How can you tell if you have what it takes to be someone’s spouse?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
1:23 pm

Lol

Chauvinist. Pig! :lol:

Yea that’s me ITL :lol:

What else I miss?

Hope there aren’t other landmines in for me today

Reading back….

Into the Light - Don't Let Your Mouth Overload Your A$$

August 8th, 2012
1:23 pm

Bluz and Magnum, sittin’ in a tree….. K-I-S-S-I-N-G….. :)

@Lady – Yeah, you do! :) Welcome back.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
1:23 pm

Poppa G-he brought you to it, and will see you on the other side, as he did Comon.

On topic, Marriage is for those willing to give of themselves continually, sacrifice is consistent, and your effort isn’t always appreceiated…the reward for that is somebody willing to go through the same dayum thing for you.

I see ya’ll ran Ex off…..The Substitute PIG is here, get in there and make me a sammich woman, just like you are supposed to.

As for the Cooking, I do it WELL, go to dishes, the Cajun from Decatur, Crawfish Etouffee, Jambalaya, Gumbo, etc….

Celisea…I read something bout cleaning a grill after cooking, dont mess with the flavor, just put you rack on while the Charcoal is high flame and let the fire do the rest….Scrape off & GO!!!

Robert

August 8th, 2012
1:24 pm

@Blackfoote – Thank you for in the info. I will look it up and check it out. I have been craving for a bushell of some fresh blue crabs.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:25 pm

Jake – Really? I use an onion while the fire is high…to clean before using. Okay…cool

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:25 pm

Of course a double pronged with the long neck…not an eating fork

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:26 pm

Bluzy – See my 1:23

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:27 pm

Cel – Well…I wanted to make sure I got it! I had texted him yesterday asking if he makes it to Tip’s and he brings me back a t-shirt, then I would give him the money for it. He said he would do that.

Uh oh Jake…I love a man who can cook some good NOLA food!!! Crawfish Etoufee is my absolute favorite!

Into the Light - Don't Let Your Mouth Overload Your A$$

August 8th, 2012
1:27 pm

@Robert: Hush, man. You’re gonna have me driving to the beach tonight. :)

One of my BFF’s parents live on an island and their neighbor owns a shrimp boat. Nothing like eating shrimp that was caught just hours earlier. Or crabs, either, although I’m not crazy about checking crab traps.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
1:29 pm

Cel – I may shack up again, but it will be after we’ve been together a LONG time!!! Lesson learned from having ex move in about a month after we got together…

Lesson not learned!! Should put a ring on it!!

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:29 pm

I’m getting hungry for some seafood!!!! Mmmmmmmm

Into the Light - Don't Let Your Mouth Overload Your A$$

August 8th, 2012
1:29 pm

I always clean the grill right after I use it, while the meat is resting and it’s still hot. Prolly ’cause that’s the way my daddy does it…..

@Bluz: I said NOLO. Good grief. NOLA! :)

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
1:29 pm

Did any of you hear the Bert Show this morning? This dude that said he lived his life STRICTLY BY THE BIBLE is looking for a completely submissive woman that will do the same, follow that BIBLE and do what he, the MAN tells her to do at all times, like the BIBLE says!

I’m EMPHASIZING certain words, like Bert said he did in his email!LOL!! Dude called on the show too. They basically told him there was probably some woman out there that would sign up for that, but he’s going to have a hard time finding her. Bert and others explained they wanted a marriage that was more of a partnership.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:30 pm

ITL…I knew what you meant!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:31 pm

Bluzy – Well…I wanted to make sure I got it!

That’s the problem. You are beating men to the punch because you fear it (not just the tshirt) won’t happen. You gotta risk it if you want to know if you’re in their thoughts/mind/heart. You cannot place yourself there. It’s not the same if you initiate/induce all the time. That’s what we’ve been saying. Don’t be afraid if it don’t happen. In that case you’ll know it wasn’t meant to be. But if you’re afraid it don’t or won’t and do things yourself, all by yourself to make sure then you won’t ever know. Too, once you feel the feeling of a man voluntarily doing something or just being thoughtful, you will abandon (hopefully), this thing you do to make sure things happen.

Into the Light - Ignorant Folks will Believe what Ignorant Folks will Believe

August 8th, 2012
1:31 pm

@Bluz: How the heck did you guess “sunburn”???? LOL

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
1:33 pm

Lesson not learned!! Should put a ring on it!!

Single – Dang, I was thinking the same thing!

Bluz – Girl, if you’ve been with someone a LONG time, why settle for shacking? Set you sights higher, girl! And Cel is right, least dude could do is spring for a doggone t-shirt!

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
1:34 pm

Bluzy…I does what I does, reeled the Mrs. in with the Jambalaya, she still talks about watching me chop those Onions, had the homeade mixtapes in rotation, and great conversation while it simmered away….Gotcha !!!!!

Yes Really Cel

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
1:36 pm

BF~ Negative, ghostrider. That is the one with Sean Astin about the kid that went out for the Notre Dame football team even though he was small for his size.

Thanks Comon. Just got back and read BF’s post thinking “man, you went too far back in time.”

Bluz, Celisea is right. It’s a tee-shirt. He can spring for it. If he doesn’t take your money after you offer it means one of two things. He paid for the tee-shirt, or he stole it. Doesn’t mean he’s falling for you.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:38 pm

Cel – I get ya. I guess I’m still trying to just keep it as FWB, so I don’t expect him to pay for it. We’ll see if he even gets it for me!

ITL – I have no clue how I guessed that one!!! I guess the red skin you drew! LOL

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
1:39 pm

Kimmie believe it or not, those women aren’t as hard to find as some think. You just have to know the right church to look in.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
1:40 pm

Robert you’re welcome man, they have some good stuff for you.

Bluz Cely is right let Magnum step to you with adornment and gifts. Don’t let him know you are giddy just yet make him earn it. Good guys don’t mind earning your trust and love.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:40 pm

kimmie – I’ve only shacked up with one man. I just don’t know what it will take to do it again.

Ok…so maybe I shouldn’t have said I’d give him the money for it when he gets back, but oh well! I just want one badly because the old one I have is all ratty looking and I don’t wear it anymore. We’ll see what happens…

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
1:41 pm

Gotta run to lunch…be back in about 30…

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
1:41 pm

Kimmie – I’ve been trying to keep muzzled with Bluzy but that one I couldn’t help it…lol

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
1:42 pm

Lady – wassup? Good to read you. Stop disappearing on us like that.

Jake – you ole playa you. Let me guess you chopped an onion and talked about something sentimental to at the same time. Wiped away a tear then when she said awwwww you……….hahaha

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
1:47 pm

Leggs I was that far off?

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
1:47 pm

Ya’ll giving Bluz bad advice…she trying to keep it FWB, if she wants to pay him back, that’s fine, she is setting the parameters she wants, he shouldn’t take it necessarily, but if he does, that’s cool, they just bumping uglies (he mighta got some strange down there, not saying he did, but it wouldn’t matter), they’re not a couple, not exclusive, any of that…do what you does Bluzy!!!

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
1:47 pm

Single – As I was listening to the show, I was thinking just that! (Dang you & I shole are thinking alike today!LOL!) The younger me would have gone off like some of those women that were calling in, but the wiser me knows it’s not so farfetched at all. In fact, I have heard of much more unusual qualifications for a spouse!

Exiled!

August 8th, 2012
1:47 pm

No Jake I never run

Iam clocking

U know I carry my guns always!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
1:49 pm

I must have missed Lady, hey there sweetheart you’ve been gone too long.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
1:50 pm

WD-good one, man, I don’t know any other way, “Smooth doesn’t go out of style”…..

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
1:53 pm

@Willie D: Sooooo, no jokes today? No cutting up? Where’s the happy-go-lucky Willie from yesterday? ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
1:54 pm

Jake I see over there stirring up the crawfish delight. Doing it with class and style too my bud.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
1:57 pm

“I guess I’m still trying to just keep it as FWB, so I don’t expect him to pay for it.” – I’m curious Bluz. How are you trying to keep it as FWB if you ask in the next sentence “if he doesn’t take the money it means something, right?” Your thoughts are competing with each other. On one shoulder rests “a spark of reality” on the other shoulder rests “wishful thinking.” You’re gonna have to kill one off!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
2:02 pm

Jake, is it really bad advice, FWB don’t text, talk, email every day. they don’t talk about trying special recipes unless it just happens to happen that way IE: I was trying out a new recipe, and they just happen to call and come by. With FWB shacking doesn’t even come into play, Bluz is getting in to deep to early

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
2:02 pm

You’re gonna have to kill one off!

And hope your head doesn’t get hit in the crossfire. :(

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
2:03 pm

Leggs – That’s just it, she’s not cut out for the FWB stuff. It would be easier just to admit that & then act accordingly.

Lady~cool beans :-)

August 8th, 2012
2:03 pm

Awwww Willie Dynamite thanks Bruh!!! @BF you’re so kind!!! all is well!!! ;-) Good to read everyone!!!!!! ;)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:04 pm

ITL – THERE’S PIECE OF CAKE IN THE KITCHEN!!! I’m heading for a slice :) :) :mrgreen:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:06 pm

Good Leggs coach her up, give some of that advice that made you so irresistable.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
2:07 pm

ITL – still early, figured I’d comment on topic and contribute constructively b4 I start cutting up. Its cumming. What you got?

Jake – true dat. Keep it up man, I’m taking notes. I got about 2-3 pages from you so far, thanks.

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
2:08 pm

Actually the dudes are right, if she is trying to keep it at FWB then all bets are off and the advice is bad. I just know from reading her these few months FWB is not what she’s cut out for or wants no matter what she says. To thine ownself be true. I know I was never cut out for such, but I don’t knock those that are. Either we’re all in or we’re not. I either catch feelings or I remain alone until I find someone on the same page. This “oh I don’t want anything serious” from Bluz is bunk!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
2:09 pm

Sorry Cely I beat y’all to it.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
2:09 pm

Kimmie I may have to find me one of those women (LOL)

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:09 pm

Ok, Ok…I admit that I wouldn’t mind more than FWB, but am trying hard to just enjoy whatever it is at this moment. We have texted everyday since he’s been gone, but nothing major. All friendly. He has said he wants to cook for me to show me his culinary skills…I just figured that I would make him a special recipe if he brings me back the main ingredient.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:12 pm

Blackfoote – But is it “Piece of Cake” cake? I have a huge slice…lol I went and got lunch and saw that and put my lunch aside. I’m eating the cake :evil:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
2:13 pm

Umm bluz, just what do you call major??

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
2:14 pm

That’s why I’ve committed to stop talking or advising. IJS…she wants more but is afraid to hold out for more and better so she settles for the droppings or crumbs handed. What else can we say or advise??

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
2:14 pm

BUT…I don’t want anything serious…just want to date and have fun…that’s how I feel at this moment.