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Right personality for marriage?

I was having brunch with my brunch chicas this weekend when the topic of marriage came up. I jokingly commented that having a husband that lived in the house across the street or next door sounds perfect!

I think a lot of single people who have not been married before have this fear (unhealthy?) of what life would be like living with someone else. Especially when you actually love living alone, in your space, doing secret single person behavior things all alone.

I wonder if it takes a certain type of personality to adapt to marriage and make those adjustments to living with a mate? Maybe some people find it easier than others.

Do you think some people just have the ideal personality to be married?
How can you know if you are that type? How can you tell if you have what it takes to be someone’s spouse?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:22 am

I heard cast iron skillets are the best for frying chicken and making cornbread. I have a set given to me by my nephew that’s not even been tempered yet…lol The set is still in the box.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
11:22 am

Just won CCA for a co-worker. I snatched her from the hallway asking if she wanted concert tix. She won (from my phone)…I’m cracking up because I have a majic telephone. She’s over here dancing at my desk.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:24 am

C: An iron skillet is a must for really good cornbread. I always put a little bacon grease (or oil, if I don’t have bacon grease) in, get it good and piping hot, and then add the cornbread batter. Makes a beautiful, crisy crust every time. ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:24 am

As far as cooking goes I like cooking, I like restaurant cooking without all the fancy trappings. A nice bone-in rib eye and a potatoe will get the juices flowing. I cook a good linguini, alfredo sauce with shrimp and king crab legs. One of my favorite meals to do, then there is the grill 24/7/365.

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:26 am

Hey Suisse

Unfortunately, we lost the twins. :sad: One kicked the other, umbilical cords got twisted, and things happened. Truth be told, Mrs. PG is lucky to have made it through the emergency procedure because of her severe blood loss.

Hey, we are still making it okay, though. We take it day by day. I think that we will probably adopt, but right now it is a bit too soon.

How are you and Mrs. Suisse doing? You have any Roger Federers or Rogerica Federers :lol: You swiss folks know how to ski and play tennis. Seeing the Mrs. Suisse is from the Caribbean, I predict a lot of tennis courts in your future. :grin:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:26 am

ITL – Did you temper before using? I’ve always heard before using, in order for them to cook well, to place in the oven as high as you can and “burn” the skillets. After that they’re good to go? Did you do that?

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:26 am

BF: What time is dinner? ;)

disco

August 8th, 2012
11:26 am

C – I’m sure I eat all kinds of things that don’t match. if it’s how you grew up eating it’s what you are used to. one lady I know says her husband loves when she cooks fish and spaghetti. I was like “fish and spaghetti”??? that’s a combo I’ve never had but apparently it’s their thing. in bringing it up in conversation I’ve come across others who eat it.

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:27 am

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
11:28 am

So sorry Poppa! Sending my prayers to you both.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:29 am

disco – True. I’m so weird, there are a ton of things I can’t eat together. One being Salmon Croquettes with eggs. I CANNOT. If I have Salmon croquettes it must be with grits….whether that’s breakfast or dinner. If breakfast, I cannot eat with eggs.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:30 am

LOL…….@WillieD you know those wolf skills never diminish.

Cely I’ll retrack the fangs if you cook me some those ox tails and greens. :)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:30 am

@C: I didn’t do that, but mine is a hand-me-down from my mama so it was already good to go. I’ve never heard of the tempering, but I do know that it needs to be “seasoned”.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
11:31 am

Off to lunch….back later.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:33 am

Blackfoote – You buy and I’ll do the cooking…lol If I cook though, can we have your fangs pulled? I’m kidding. That’s a part of your manhood I guess.

ITL – Okay, cool. I bet they were already.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
11:34 am

So very sorry to hear about the twins, Poppa G!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:35 am

Poppa G

What’s up man sorry to hear about the twins. I lost a set of my own and can relate well. Have the NFL made things right with you yet?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:38 am

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:38 am

Thanks, Kimmie and Leggs :smile:

Life is what happens while your making plans. We have nephews, nieces, and Godchildren. They will have do.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
11:38 am

ITL – Don’t ask me how I got it…took a minute, but then it popped in my head!

Poppa…I’m so sorry to hear that. I don’t know you, but you will be in my prayers…

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:39 am

They will have to do.

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:39 am

Thanks Bluzgirl. :smile:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:42 am

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:45 am

BF..

Thanks man. Mrs. PG & I are listed on the injury report as day to day. (I guess everyone is day to day) So, we are making it. Thanks!

As for the NFL, they haven’t messed with my pension so I am good. I can’t touch it yet, though. I have no real concussion issues. I guess that there are a few advantages to sucking enough to make the practice squad, but never making a game. It wasn’t by choice though. :lol: I wanted to get into the game. I guess I should change my screen name to Rudy… :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:47 am

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:49 am

I’m practicing again, have to show Leggs I’m doing my home work…..LOL

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
11:49 am

PG~ IDK you, but I empathise with your loss. I had 9 failed pregnancies before I got my 2nd child. It is a heartbreaking thing to go through, but my sweet girl is worth every moment. Godspeed.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:49 am

Single and Happy – Cel Disco, you don’t turn down good puddy (LOL)

Just saw this…Yep. I’ll turn down “good” puddy as long as I’m breathing. I have one good one of my own :mrgreen:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:51 am

LOL……..@Poppa G, Rudy huh depends on which Rudy you talking about. Now the Rudy on Fat Albert was sharp as a tac and cool.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:51 am

Single and Happy – I’m being a snot…lolololol

disco

August 8th, 2012
11:51 am

CC – nine? god bless y’all too.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:52 am

LOL…….@C

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:52 am

Thanks Comon :smile:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
11:52 am

Blackfoote – It’s sort of an “inside” joke with him…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
11:54 am

Good grief Comon glad you stayed motivated and healthy. Yep that is a large lump to swallow, but you have to get passed it.

Robert

August 8th, 2012
11:54 am

Watchout!!!!…Cooking is one of my favorite “traps” I use to lure women. I love going to the grocery store with her to buy the food and watch her reactions. Real cooks know how to season food to bring out the natural flavors which is also healthy and good for you. My favorite meal to cook for a first time woman visitor to my kitchen is “seafood” (fish, shrimp, lump crab meat, oysters, mussels, squid, etc.) . I start the meal with a shrimp salad appertizer and a cup of homemade creme-of-crab soup made with lump crab meat. The main course is a seafood platter (fish, crab cakes, oysters) broiled or fried depending on my mood. I always steam my fresh vegatables to bring out the flavor. My crab cakes contain no bread fillings and are my Mother’s original recipe from Maryland. Eveyrbody I have invited to my house for dinner always give me an A+ for my cooking skills. I also cook fresh vegetables (collard greens, green beans, etc.). Can anybody tell me where to find good seafood in ATL?

Poppa Grande

August 8th, 2012
11:56 am

BF…

I was thinking about the movie about Rudy and Notre Dame with the dude who was later in The Lord of the Rings. I mentioned it because I never got to play in a regular season game and we all want to play. No one goes out there to be a practice squad player.

But yeah, Rudy from Fat Albert was pretty quick. He was one of my faves on that cartoon.

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
11:59 am

Yes indeed, BF. I need to see some tone definition in those arms…keep up the work!!!!

BF ~ I think PoppaG is talking about the runt of a player Rudy who I believe only played the last game of the season. He was loved by the entire team, but he was a runt of the litter (so to speak). Poppa G is no runt (too tall..lol).

disco

August 8th, 2012
12:01 pm

robert – it sounds like you got really excited just talking about cooking in your post. not mad at you bruh.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
12:03 pm

Robert

Have you heard of Inland Sea Food, they import fresh blue crab and all fin and shell fish you can name to the ATl. You can order on line at inland sea food.com.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:03 pm

Sounds like most of the men can really cook.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
12:03 pm

Yes, 9 is rough. I had 5 miscarriages and 4 ectopic pregnancies in 5 years. It was very rough. But, I guess if you bang your head against the same wall long enough, eventually it will fall down. Or, God has a sense of humor. My daughter was conceived AFTER my last ectopic. They had taken my tube on the left and clip tied and burned the one on the right. 1 year later, I got pregnant with baby girl and she went full term. Named for her grandmother and born on her grandfather’s 60th bday. Guess she was meant to be here.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:04 pm

Atlanta Fish Market

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
12:06 pm

I hate when I eat breakfast late. That means, I’ll be hungry for lunch even later.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
12:07 pm

Pops – Sorry to hear about your loss. Glad to hear the Mrs is good. How about you? Are you okay? We men ten to by nature make sure those we love are taken care of and supported 100% selflessly. If you ever need to just unwind and talk I may be a relative stranger but I’m here for you if needed.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
12:08 pm

Rudy is one of my favorite movies!!!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 8th, 2012
12:09 pm

That’s the movie where the the phrase “win one for the Gipper” come from starring Ronald Reagon?

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
12:15 pm

Cel – my grandma practically raised me at her hip. She made sure I knew how to cook, iron, wash clothes etc. She would always tell me “boy these pissy tail gals aint good for nothing nowadays, you better learn how to do this for yourself”. When I left for college everybody wanted to give me advice and money. My grandma gave me a quilt (don’t laugh) and a cast iron skillet. I still have both.

oddmanout

August 8th, 2012
12:16 pm

Holy Crap!! These conversations get some interesting comments!! I need to stay tuned regularly

i'm swiss

August 8th, 2012
12:16 pm

PG — Man, I’m so sorry to hear that. Our thoughts are with you & the Mrs.

So far so good for Mrs. Swiss & the little Swiss Mocha-ette. I’m definitely planning on turning her into the next Serena (tennis-wise, anyway). :)