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Right personality for marriage?

I was having brunch with my brunch chicas this weekend when the topic of marriage came up. I jokingly commented that having a husband that lived in the house across the street or next door sounds perfect!

I think a lot of single people who have not been married before have this fear (unhealthy?) of what life would be like living with someone else. Especially when you actually love living alone, in your space, doing secret single person behavior things all alone.

I wonder if it takes a certain type of personality to adapt to marriage and make those adjustments to living with a mate? Maybe some people find it easier than others.

Do you think some people just have the ideal personality to be married?
How can you know if you are that type? How can you tell if you have what it takes to be someone’s spouse?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
4:29 pm

Leggs, not sure Curtain 2 been pulled yet, but I bet its azz and Elbows back there!!

So Disco…it ain’t adding up huh….here we go!!!

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Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:31 pm

ITL – I see you’re on old fashioned cooking/eating gal. Love the biscuits and bacon. I’ll take a pass on the tomatoe though…lol

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
4:31 pm

Celisea – Plus, God only gave me one daddy. He & moms cut the apron strings quite awhile ago. I never, ever liked nobody other than my parents or my boss telling me what to do! A dude I’m dating might not have meant any harm or may even been trying to help me, but I would never have it. Can’t have nobody trying to be my daddy!

disco – You ain’t never lied. Ain’t jack free!

DreamsMaterialize

August 8th, 2012
4:32 pm

irked to no end when a woman is screwing a guy (and sometimes more than one guy) but she’s coming up short.
disco If she’s screwing, that sounds like an even trade. If you give me a chocolate chip cookie, and I give you an oatmeal raisin cookie in return, we’re even. Now if you ask me to pay you a dollar on top of that, then you’re getting over. A cookie for a cookie! lol

disco

August 8th, 2012
4:36 pm

dreams – that’s that new math. lol. even with the jokes I believe that the men will represent and say that a man that a do-right type of man will want to make sure your needs are met. he won’t have his chick riding around on E or sitting in the dark trying to scrape up light bill money. if a chick is sleeping with a guy who knows she’s in need and he can’t or won’t do anything to assist that chick better hurry up and see the light and move on to the next one. I will not be swayed from this stance. it’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
4:36 pm

DM- A cookie for a cookie! lol

“an even swap ain’t no swindle”-theme of the week I believe

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:37 pm

Disco you’re not a gold digger, you just have gold diggerish ways (LOL)

DM well said (LOL)

Cel my girl did try to threaten me one time by tell me that the men in Ja took care of their women, so I told her sounds to me like she need to go find her a Ja man then (LOL) haven’t heard that one again

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:38 pm

Kimmie – In every sense of the word. An old cat can fool himself if he likes. Don’t get me wrong, I ain’t knocking nobody hustle but don’t try and sell it to me on merit alone. If you sold it to someone else and she bought it, the price was much higher than the .15 cents I see on the sign at the lemonade stand.

I agree too with dicso. Again, not knocking anybody’s hustle but don’t EVER call me and ask me for jack if you’re laying up with a dude. And I mean it. Imma ask you outright, you giving up ass and you’re without?? IJS Ain’t nothing free

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:39 pm

S/H – So you did sell it to her for .15 cents? Oh, okay then. She needs to get Americanized…lololol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:40 pm

Kimmie aint trying to be nobodies daddy, not even to my own GROWN kids, those days are done. I have co-worker married to a younger girl and the talks the her like she’s his daughter, WTH

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:41 pm

S/H – You said you ain’t seen her in eight months? Well, okay and ummm and sure thing and righteo then. Eight months? You ain’t taking care of her? Ummm, okay then. She’s twiddling her thumbs waiting.

Orrrrr, call the set up for what it is. Seasonal booty call/FWB/FB? lol Bet those island dudes get the heads up, don’t show up when my American boo comes over.

DreamsMaterialize

August 8th, 2012
4:42 pm

he won’t have his chick riding around on E or sitting in the dark trying to scrape up light bill money.
disco Maybe she shouldn’t be dating if she’s broke. Isn’t that what the blog women say about men all the time? If she’s really in dire straits like that, then she needs to handle that before she goes out there playing grown up games. I, for one, am not dating women with those types of financial issues (I know some dudes are). Have your sh$t together. Come to the table with something (other than a$$). lol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:42 pm

Naw cel, like with any woman, it cost a little more than 15 cents

Disco, it all depends on why the car is on E, or the lights is off. every problem she has is not my problem, and i’m not going to make it mine?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:43 pm

Cel don’t know if she’s twiddling her thumbs, but I know I sho aint (LOL)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:44 pm

Cel don’t have to worry about them showing up, they don’t have AC so we have to go to some resort, hell I’m on vacation (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:45 pm

even swap ain’t no swindle…it’s all good then S/H…that’s all I’m saying.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:46 pm

S/H – they don’t have AC so we have to go to some resort, hell I’m on vacation

Payment tendered in the form of luxury…yeah, there you have it. It might not be currency but it’s payment…lolololol

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:47 pm

And I bet you’re paying…even swap ain’t no swindle. I ain’t mad at you because that’s how it should flow. Just saying don’t be acting like you’re plucker is still shining and pulling on showmanship alone.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:47 pm

Yeah…BAM!!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:48 pm

Comon why you living in a card board box? Why can’t you leave and get your own place with out him or the love?

disco

August 8th, 2012
4:48 pm

dreams – S/H – those are just example problems (though old girl just borrowed gas money about a week or two ago). I’ve seen countless variations though. all I’m saying is they shouldn’t be in a position to come to me, another friend, their parents or whoever when some man is laying up with them. I’m not putting the responsibility on men to step up. it’s all on the woman which is why I say these chicks better learn. I’m not judging a single solitary man who can get it without having to do a daggone thing. my grandmother made it clear when she said we should never lay with a man who couldn’t or wouldn’t do anything for you. me, myself, personally – I’m not big on asking but I’m always paying very close attention to what a man is offering me or not offering me.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:49 pm

Cel, I love to vacation, and never stay at Motel 6 and I do it with her, and without her. I would be going even if she wasn’t there.

DreamsMaterialize

August 8th, 2012
4:50 pm

It might not be currency but it’s payment…lolololol
Hey Celly Cel. You’re right. Everything has a cost, some way somehow, whether it’s your fwb, gf, or wife. Thing is, women pay too…often in emotional currency. How have you been?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:50 pm

S/H – That ain’t the point. You bragged about a new model and blah blah blah…just saying re-read my 4:47

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:51 pm

Cel as in my answer to anyone that says she just wants me for my money, Lets see I’m 50, she’ll soon be 29, Duhhhhhh

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:52 pm

Dreams – I’m good

S/H – Not quite where I was going with the even swap/new model/still got it/still can pull/seeing “your” girl every eight months but okay

disco

August 8th, 2012
4:53 pm

S/H – she’s 29? did you not know that 30 is around the age of the female version of the mid-life crisis? she’s probably seeing her life flashing before her eyes. she probably looks in the mirror and sees miss jane pittman looking back at her. in her mind, she’s resigned to dating in her lane. LOL.

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
4:53 pm

Good night good blog folks!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:54 pm

What happened to ITL?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:54 pm

Disco, these days when dealing with women, and a lot of them have kids, some don’t ask their baby daddy for child support, some or still taking care of their grown a kids. Don’t ask me for gas money or tell me about your lights getting turned off until you take care of that business. And don’t tell me about me coming over your house and eating your food, cause i have my own house and my own food.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
4:54 pm

If I were giving a cookie for a cookie, then cool. But if I’m bringing dinner with all the trimmings and all he giving is a cookie? We got issues. This goes back to the crux of the matter. A man who sleeps around is a stud, but a woman who does the same is a ho. Therefore, it’s not cookies to cookies.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:56 pm

Cel that new model thing was a joke, hell I wish I did have an old plucker (LOL)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
4:56 pm

C- She had a meeting. Said she’d be right back.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:57 pm

Comon Cents, you can’t turn a ho into a housewife, and the first time i come home and find her cooking, she got to go!! (LOL)

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
4:58 pm

I’m here, Cel. Had to put a fire out for somebody with a short fuse. :)

Stamps, call it what it is. You’re just going to get your groove back….

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:58 pm

oh and comon, I’m not a stud, I’m a ho too, I don’t believe in those double standards

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:59 pm

yea that is where Stella went, why can’t I (LOL)

disco

August 8th, 2012
5:00 pm

CC – I said earlier that that’s that “new math”.

S/H – remember whodini’s “I’m a hoe”

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:01 pm

I’m not going to ask a man (trust me) for anything…but I won’t deal with a dude that I CAN’T ask.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:01 pm

Disco, I don’t think I’ve heard that one I was 4 (Lmao)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:02 pm

CC – Thanks
ITL – I see ya
S/H – Do ya thang…I ain’t knocking nobody’s hustle. You gotta cross the seas to feel young again, gon head and get it done…lol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:03 pm

Cel I am young :-D

disco

August 8th, 2012
5:04 pm

S/H – that would have been funny if 1) you hadn’t put your age on front street and 2) if you weren’t older than I am. lol. shoot, you are right about the age that you might have had the leather pants and the little leather beanie hat that they used to wear. I could just see you know talking about “one love, one love, you lucky just to have just one love”.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
5:05 pm

I’m catching up, but I like what Dreams said about bringing more to the table.

I’m on a dating hiatus right now (so to speak) because I feel like I’m not bringing what I want to attract in return. Until I’m there, I’d rather do without.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:06 pm

S/H – We all are young…lol Ain’t that how it goes, you’re as young as you feel (b/n/r)?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:07 pm

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:07 pm

The thing about it, it doesn’t matter what age range you date in, it’s going to cost you.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
5:08 pm

Disco, that’s my jam (LOL)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
5:08 pm

S/H- Call yourself what you will, society will still not demonize you nearly as much as they will demonize a woman for the exact same offenses. The same holds true for the preacher story. I’d the minister was a female and it was a 16 yo boy, most of society wouldn’t bat an eye. Sad, but true.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
5:08 pm

S/H – Now THAT’S how think…lol

S/H – Got any more pics? I want to see one with you void of your tan :)